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Is Free Love all that free?

October 30 2025

I think exploring intimacy with others can be a very special thing and doesn’t need to be restricted to one partner (else I wouldn’t be here) but I also think we have devalued the sexual experience too much. I read this today and thought it poignant.: Society sold people one of the most destructive lies of our era: “Sex doesn’t mean anything.” It’s portrayed as a game, an ego boost, entertainment, a hobby. But biologically, psychologically, and energetically, it’s nothing like that. During sex, your nervous system floods with oxytocin, dopamine, prolactin, and vasopressin—chemicals designed by nature to bond, link, and attach you to ONE person. Your DNA still thinks you’re in a tribe of 150 people, where sex equals family, protection, and safety. So while society tries to convince you that you’re being “free,” your biology and energy are silently tying knots. You Don’t Just Exchange Fluids — You Exchange Frequencies Sex is literally energetic alchemy. Your aura opens. Your subconscious defenses drop. Traumas, emotions, insecurities, and belief patterns transfer between two people. Their insecurities imprint on you. Their anxiety sits in your chest. Their depression clouds your thoughts. Their aggression becomes your irritability. That’s why you can wake up after being intimate with someone and feel heavy, confused, or not yourself. Their demons don’t leave when they leave your bed. Sex Creates Spiritual Soul-Ties When you’re intimate, your nervous systems synchronize. Your energy fields merge. Your subconscious records their voice, smell, touch, and emotional state. Break it off, and suddenly: You crave someone who was toxic. You miss someone who never respected you. You can’t stop thinking about a person you barely knew. It’s not that you’re “weak.” It’s that you bonded. When you create these brief connections with many partners, you tear pieces of yourself off and leave them behind. And you take pieces of others with you—pieces that don’t belong.. Over tim

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MrandMrsEss

7 months ago

Over time you start feeling: emotionally numb detached unsafe with intimacy undeserving of depth And you don’t know why. Your heart stops trusting because you’ve trained it to treat intimacy like a transaction, not a bond. If you’ll give your body away to anyone who asks, what does that say about how you truly value yourself? Your body is your temple, your frequency generator, your spiritual technology. But society has normalized: using people for dopamine avoiding emotional honesty suppressing commitment treating sex like a handshake That’s not freedom. That’s spiritual starvation. Society Teaches Shallowness on Purpose We live in a culture that: glorifies hookup apps promotes porn as education laughs at commitment mocks emotional depth Why? Because shallow, detached humans are easier to: market to manipulate addict control A population that never learns to bond properly is weak, anxious, and easy to redirect. When you sleep with someone, you download: their unresolved trauma their insecurities their past partners’ energy their generational wounds Some people carry the weight of 30 other people’s internal chaos without realizing why life feels so heavy. Your self-worth drops. Your intuition dulls. Your emotional immunity weakens. Every casual encounter chips away at: your ability to connect your emotional sensitivity your trust capacity You become numb… not because you’re strong, but because you’re protecting the last pieces of yourself. When you reclaim your intimacy: your energy strengthens your mind clears your confidence returns And you stop attracting: broken people temporary attention trauma-bonded chaos Because now you radiate something they can’t access. Sex is Powerful It’s supposed to bond souls. It’s supposed to create meaning. It’s supposed to deepen love. Not distract you from loneliness. When you honor your body and energy: You love differently. You choose differently. You attract differently. You become whole again. Your intimacy is a sacred currency. Stop giving it away like loose change.

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RHP User

7 months ago

Thanks for sharing this. Would you be able to provide a link to the original article? Thanks

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Apples_N_Oranges

7 months ago

100 % agree with what you have written/posted, just want to confirm - when you say ‘we’ have devalued the sexual experience to much, are you referring to society/everyone or are you referring to people in the lifestyle/swinging community?

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Ex007

7 months ago

It certainly isn't a fuck fest with everyone if you want to make it out alive and have your soul intact. Like all relationships be they partners or friendships you need to be mindful as to how much energy you're investing for your return. Time is the highest commodity we have, you can never get it back, so it's wise to be careful how you spend it. 🐈‍⬛

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Kinkraft

7 months ago

Love is free to the same degree that you understand the difference between 'what's good for the human animal' and 'what's good for the human soul'... (soul as a metaphor for your mind / consciousness / person / whatever you think the thing is) Of course... modern society twists this about with outdated traditions and misguided ideals. But really, our freedom is limited by what we think society will allow.

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Andrea_Sydney

7 months ago

I personally believe the reason that some people bond after a one night stand or crave a toxic person don’t lie in hormones/the sex itself, but rather in their psychology or traumatic past or being in an unfulfilling relationship and craving something else. My personal experience in the swinging scene is rather that most people don’t bond through sex. If they do, on the basis of sex only, it’s an illusion. An illusion of a bond. True bond is created through emotional sharing of minds. Just my opinion of course.

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TheVelvetKey

7 months ago

I completely agree with a lot of that…. for me, being truly intimate does involve sharing a hell of a lot more than just fluid. When you commit to taking the time to look and listen and feel effectively, then you get closer to sharing an empathic connection… and even if it’s casual non committed sexual play within the realm of this lifestyle

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TheVelvetKey

7 months ago

This it is very important to communicate thoroughly and ensure that respect and empathy for all involved is made a priority.

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Thor6

6 months ago

Society… some people… That is not sounding very authentic. Do you mean that YOU have devalued sex? Though we enjoy the lifestyle neither of us feels that way. To us it is always special. And if it doesn’t feel special we abort immediately. Its up to each individual how they relate to others. Its a choice. It doesn’t matter whether you are mono or polyamorous, as long as you are amorous = loving

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Serendipity69

6 months ago

Reading that we were just smiling and nodding our heads so much in there that is just so true and just really nails everything

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Serendipity69

6 months ago

We find the key is as approaching it as a couple that it's about sharing and expanding and meeting great people along the way

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Sensuality777

3 months ago

Depends on those involved as it could be either. But when your into another as much as they are back could potentially be the right match for magic. Also cant be taken for granted as needs nurturing. Like a well maintained carded for garden to a forgotten one left alone

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