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Is a Man more or less of a Man if he says no?...
September 27 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
In who's eyes Deb? In the woman he just denied or his own personal scale of Manhood? Or even in the eye's of others....True there are some males that will poke any thing and anybody as their need for variety/score/action, over- rides the consequences of their loose behaviour..If a man is to reason his amount of Manliness by this self~indulgent method, then a new consideration arises....Is this Man a reckless 'Yes' man? And correspondingly a Man with less control. All things being equal..What a Man, What a Man, What a Man...What a mighty good Man... (sing with me now)
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
I think it takes a strong man to say no to sex n they have my respect - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I will let you know when I find one that says NO
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RHP User
12 years ago
It probably says a bit about their integrity. But then should a man necessarily care what others think so much that it makes his decisions for him? I am not talking about insensitivity to others, but I think it's important for men and women to have the integrity to do what they believe they should, even in the face of opposition.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've said no plenty of times.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It shows that they are not the 'stereotype' that seems to exist in some peoples mind that men are just non thinking fucking machines (I mean, some are but.. meh, that kind of self indulgent, weakness leaves me cold). Kudos to the man who says 'no' and is able to have power over his libido. Like will power of any sort, it is applaudable in my estimation. .. and like anything that is slightly 'unobtainable' .. it makes them all the more desirable to the seeker. Control is power.. and power, is sexy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just as a woman can say "yes" or "no", so should a man be able to say "yes" or "no" and not be thought any more or less of as a man.As a man who has said no on a several occasions I never really thought about if it makes me less of a man... others opinion in that area don't count that much to me (only what I think of myself... hmmm self centered much?).My Man Card is an embedded feature... good luck at trying to take that away.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...that men will bonk anything on two legs is something I personally find offensive and insulting. I have said "no" before, for a number of different reasons, and will, in all likelyhood, continue to do so.CheersJAB
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Beachlover1999
12 years ago
I know lots of guys who wont just 'sleep with anything'!! I think most guys have more integrity than it might be assumed. The thoughts of sex maybe very frequent but essentially dont always act on every opportunity!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Increasingly over the last few years I've tried to be a gentleman and be honest about it. I live off my instinct and if I don't feel "it" or have some niggling reservations in my gut, I usually won't. Been caught in too many situations in the past I'd rather not have gotten into. Only my youth and it's treacherous, relentless erections belied my mind and got me through. But that'd be a whole new post - "the MERCY FUCK! - insensitive or compassionate?". I've been derided and put down on occasion for holding off. But so what!! I can take those slings and arrows!! LIKE A MAN!!I prefer to be honest and not make a fool out of anyone and bullshit. Good sex is all about chemistry. I'd rather good sex than sex for sex sake. Seven sexual sisters sweetly sang songs so softly, several snakes started slithering soundlessly, secreting semen soothingly.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Any guy who says no to sex with me is obviously gay or mentally impaired. But wait, neither of those make him less of a man. What was the question again?
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madotara69
12 years ago
But I am a one girl guy.We have an understanding.... It is OK to get up an appetite, though we come home for dinner.Who may join with us for dinner, is a different matter.Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am still in shock from my last encounter...time to go back to the nunnery me thinks
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's a matter of becoming more discerning with age...? Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
What happened? I am sure it isn't as bad as that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm with you Cheekys and Just! n I get ya Mado... cute lol, it counts! :-D. LOL at you two women. :-P xxx . I'm so sorry to hear that Freya, I'm going to say that sometimes the way the no is put across makes all the difference. Haha, and I really don't think the nunnery is ready for you! Hugs xXx
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RHP User
12 years ago
raises warriors from the dead,so do I,sometimes its much more comfortable for them to stay dead me thinks...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't mean to sound uncaring Freya, I hope my post doesn't come across that way. I thought about offering to smack him one for you but I didn't think that was the right thing to say, I think he's missing out on a special person. . Nice HP, I knew this topic would have lots of ways of looking at it. I can only see a little box after your xo on this browser. :-S
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have quite often said NO, or more to the point, not pursued sex. Often the choice is easy: do I want to remain friends with the woman or have sex with her. So can handle being friends after sex, some can't and I tend to value friendship more than anything else. Not saying that I don't bed my friends but it is a mutual choice made by both of us. Yes, Mooks big head often overrides Mooks little head!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think it makes a man less of a man if he says no.
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wingman2014
12 years ago
Im in trouble at the moment for saying No. Depends on you motives , lots of other factors to consider other than getting one away.- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
Sometimes I tell Tara I won't sex her.... that way She has to sex me.I feel much more of a man that way. Tara's favorite word is... Equilibrium.
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RHP User
12 years ago
and Mado Tara,that is why you are both SEX-E
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mmmm Freya, I think you're right that sometimes the past should stay in the past. You say it way better than me though. xxx . Lol Mooka, *bobs head in acknowledgement* hehe. :-D . Looks like we're all pretty much in agreement Meeka, I've read enough of the thread to think the way the no is said makes a difference though. . I'm loving that it's not so obvious, nice twist there Mado, now my processers are all in a knot, it's kind of a paradox...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks ms peachy.... It's a little envelope with a love heart on it... It occasionally contains measured little parcels of my soul... But usually it's just dross... 😎 Can you please go up another 3 font sizes ms peachy...? Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is a woman more or less of a woman if she says no? Oh, hang on.....that's not politically correct is it, we can't even suggest that a woman's femininity is linked to her willingness to "put out"........ I'm sorry but I find this topic banal and more than just a little insulting to men.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Still it's nice to kniow someone's reading it!... or at least trying to. :-D Really, sometimes it does come through very different to what I have posted (typos etc are all mine hehe). Shrinking my font seems to be the favourite... I am still working on my whole *web browser* etc issues, lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
been married to a man who said no on a regular basis,it did make me feel less than a woman...I try not to put myself in this position Peachy but sometimes it happens...do I think he is less than a man if a man says no...no never have, I always think it just says something about me...hence my nunnery comment...and unfortunately our past experiences do impact on how we process what is happening in the present
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RHP User
12 years ago
And I have to say even though I hated hearing it , his reasons for saying no were extremely honourable and made him more of a man in my eyes . I now admire and respect him even more :)) But I still want to f**ck his brains out ;pp- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with Meeka, it doesn't make men better if they say no. And I find it silly that we need to ask this question. K has it right, if this question was asked about women the responses would be very different. Having said that; if a man told me he'd never turn down a fuck, I most certainly would not be impressed. Sorry for not keeping it light, Peachy. StSinner, I do hope you post that topic!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I guess that is the basis of the question.. The fact that a lot of people say or make jokes about men and how they will fuck a hole in the ground if it would let them. And yes I often say that. Lol. It is a generalization based on the stereotypical male.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Of course there will be many points of view depending where they look from Tony and that is the crux of my question. I left it open as possible depending on everyone's different perception of the question. I don't believe the hype, and apparently nor do a lots of other RHPers no matter how they look at it. There've been lots of great points and I love the overall tone including the questioning of my OP. The fact is there are many factors and it's not simple at all hehe. 0:-D xx . Gavin, I believe you, I've had the pleasure of meeting the most amazing men (imo) who have followed their own morals and left me in high respect of them over the years. I am challenging the fallacy really I suppose. . Beautiful Aly, I hope all is well, you say it so well. Yummm... I like the way you think. . I thought to add something alng the lines of what you're saying after the thread had been posted Amicus, but women's stereotypes are so different from men's (We're not supposed to say yes), so I fugured I'd face the/your question when I came across it... I agree with you. Men are as complicated as women ;-) . To save going on and on... I agree with you too JAB, and you Beachlover, and that's a big yes for you too Wingman ;-) . And you StSinner, thank you for your post from your own experiences! amd your alliteration... so very sexxxsssy . Stereotypes are... just that aren't they Kaleidoscope, stereotypes. I don't think men and women are so easily labelled. :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77'been married to a man who said no on a regular basis,it did make me feel less than a woman... It made me feel quite awful when my ex turned me down for over a year. I did think he was less of a man, not for denying me, but denying he had a problem.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So brevity?... Yes, Yes, and Yes, I agree, I do.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'Freya77'been married to a man who said no on a regular basis,it did make me feel less than a woman... It made me feel quite awful when my ex turned me down for over a year. I did think he was less of a man, not for denying me, but denying he had a problem. And it is something along the lines that I'd written in my last post... before it disappeared. I never thought this topic could be simple. :-) . The whole idea of men and women and sex and yes and no and getting along in a way that works for everyone is a long shot really. Maybe I just take things too seriously though.
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madotara69
12 years ago
The tease can make a woman so so hot for it. Mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
people have mismatched libidos and it doesn't reveal itself in the first flush of a new relationship....sad but true for many x R
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RHP User
12 years ago
On who he is saying no to! If it is me then he is no man at all and I am about to give him his pedigree in one full foul mouthed rant!!!!!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I got a text from one tonight he said send my your most current picture I sent one from two weeks ago and one a couple of months ago, nothing sexual at all just my ugly mug he sent a text back said sorry I am just not feeling it I sent one back saying thank you. An honest man, so there are some out there and guys who say no actually there was one other dude that came out of a cave that knocked me back as well I can only hazard a guess my hair was to short for him to drag me back to the cave and my head is like a rock so no matter how many times you hit me over the head I never learn
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RHP User
12 years ago
At least 3 times! How dare they?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Interesting topic. I've never really thought that control over one's ego in any facet would be ever be thought of as less manly, though bending to opinions of others was. Having particular tastes (mainly personality based), I've politely declined sex before for a multitude of reasons. It's not to offend or demean anyone and shouldn't be thought of as a weakness.- Posted from rhpmobile
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Wedgey
12 years ago
I must admit there is a certain appeal to have a woman pleading to have sex with her... But who am I kidding... It isn't likely to get to the begging stage for me any time soon. I cave too easily. Madotara how does one swing a dinner invite? I can cook and wash up and everything! ( umm and can I bring a friend?)
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RHP User
12 years ago
And the idea that men will shag anyone and everyone really annoys me. Why you ask? Simple, I'm the mother of sons and I know neither of them behave this way. I also have male friends who are not the promiscuous, shag anyone type of guys. One of the things that becomes confusing is men who promote this stereotype and when I try to put forward evidence of men who don't fit the stereotype, they say stuff like "they must be gay". I want to say to them "c'mon guys, stop holding tight to a stereotype that is unrealistic as "women don't enjoy sex"!So, I don't think saying no makes anyone less of a person anymore than saying yes makes you less of a person.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I once heard a saying; 'a strong man has strength over many men, or women' 'a powerful man has power over himself' I may have said no yesterday but doesn't mean I wont say yes today...- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'dacougarbitch'At least 3 times! How dare they? that's all I can say, I put Vaseline on the door knobs now. that's always helped. I love that trapped rabbit look on their face, that look of total terror when their hand just cant get a grip on the door to get out. then they start to cry and say GOD NO, please don't, Ohhhh NOOOOOO the horror! Warning, say no before you come inside. and keep your car motor running
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wingman2014
12 years ago
Spat my espresso! You're the original Venus (fly trap)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have no moral compass, I feel the need to conquer as much pussy as possible. I can't say no I don't know why but if I do I cry myself in a corner.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And on my birthday, and after he was the first lover to see me after my boob job, scars and all and and and..oh never mind. I just think its a bad communicator. Something should have been said before he slept with me all the same. No questions in my mind why and quite frankly don't care, just move on. Im not sitting around wondering why, but learnt a lesson and thats a winner for me. Now ive reached this milestone I can start life, apparently it begins..No regretts...- Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
I had a partner once who used sex as a "control" method to hurt and make me feel less a desirable woman. He was a consumate lover although a bit twisted. He would get me to please him for hours giving oral (and I mean hours!!) then reciprocate and when I was on the brink of cumming he'd stop, get up and walk away. I be breathless and begging for him to finish me but he'd laugh and then wank himself to climax while I'd be left with that ache of fisatisfaction and hurt at why he would do that to me. I was young.....but I learnt quick enough that this was just another control method he'd use to " keep me in line" and doubting myself and my sense of self-worth. His "No"'s in that scenario were just another form of emotional abuse until I started to fight fire with fire and be more than happy to wank myself than touch him. ~ insert the defiant rat flipping the bird to the eagle about to swoop down on him and consume him ~ Satan eventually lost all control over me and life for me became a beautiful thing again. That is sn extreme example BUT trust me being told "No" is certainly not always a bad thing from either sex. I can't pinpoint them but yes I've been told "Sorry, not tonight" or "Not this time" maybe a half dozen times and you know what? That's ok too. Pity sex giving/receiving doesn't DO IT for me..... Does it make the man less in my eyes, tell the truth; I've never really thought about it in a negative light since Satan. (Shrugs shoulders) I think if any man says "No" it's for the same valid reasons we do as well. If the attraction, chemistry, feeling, vibe, lust, desire, wanting to isn't there it just simply isn't there. No point getting all bent outta shape over it. IF it happens to me in future I think, after the education I have gotten here; I will simply put it down to "he's just not that into me". Lol no harm, no foul. As for my ego taking a hit, ummm no I don't think so.......I KNOW I'm AWESOME!!! It's just the level that varies. NOW where's my purple hat and them fellas they reckon will fuck any hole? Yet to meet one of them things..... Indy Girl. PS Wings you weren't in trouble for saying "no" you were in trouble for acting on some random impulse driven by some fucked up notion of what you assumed might happen but isn't!!! xx. (Blowing kisses at you and jumping on my big girl's treadly heading out to sieze the day)....
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I'm thought less of for saying no, it simply proves it was the right thing to say in the first place. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have said no ony many occassions as my pants doesnt rule my head and that comes with experience- after all i love sex but not with just anyone, and because i say no doesnt mean your not sexy etc - i go for mentality combined with physical . Some only learn this after being the yes man for a while - Posted from rhpmobile
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tamworthguy46
12 years ago
No I don't think it makes you less of a man to say no to sex, if it for the right reasons, eg that your just not attracted to someone.....sympathy sex will more than likely not be that good anyway ! On the other side, if your saying no seeking some sort of control or payback, there are probably some other issues of a non sexual nature, that need to be addressed ? cheers tam
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tamworthguy46
12 years ago
No I don't think it makes you less of a man to say no to sex, if it for the right reasons, eg that your just not attracted to someone.....sympathy sex will more than likely not be that good anyway ! On the other side, if your saying no seeking some sort of control or payback, there are probably some other issues of a non sexual nature, that need to be addressed ? cheers tam
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RHP User
12 years ago
NO!What's that
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '50zkool' If I'm thought less of for saying no, it simply proves it was the right thing to say in the first place. - Posted from rhpmobile I really do wish they had a like button.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yep I have, I've said no (but of course politely) on email and I've walked into a home met someone who's pics where clearly waaaaaay out of date on here and said no then told them to sort their pics out cause they're deceiving people. Trust has to work both ways right?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mainly because I don't get propositioned in the first place ;p Actual Reply:I think this topic is a tricky one to discuss with women, I mean if you refuse you are effectively telling a woman you don't find her attractive. As sad as it is to say it, that rejection on physical appearance still seems to carry more weight when its done by the guy rather than the girl.The other thing I'd say based on some of the other discussion in this thread is that there is a significant difference between refusing during a relationship and refusing when wooing/courting/whatever. Having been the refused rather than the refuser during a relationship, it is definitely a bit more painful to be shot down when you have an emotional connection with the person.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Quoting 'Wouldilye4u'And on my birthday, and after he was the first lover to see me after my boob job, scars and all and and and..oh never mind. I just think its a bad communicator. Something should have been said before he slept with me all the same. No questions in my mind why and quite frankly don't care, just move on. Im not sitting around wondering why, but learnt a lesson and thats a winner for me. Now ive reached this milestone I can start life, apparently it begins..No regretts...- Posted from rhpmobile COME OVER ERE CHICK AND I'LL GIVE YA A HUG AND WE CAN GET SDRUMNK AND LAUGH OUR ARSES OFF OVER MEN PLAYING HARDER TO GET......PPFFFT!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are you referring to single guys, Married guys, Guys in a swinging couple ? I have often said No, to my partner, to other women. Contrary to popular belief, not all men are at the mercy of the penile god.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'emmyNman' Are you referring to single guys, Married guys, Guys in a swinging couple ? I have often said No, to my partner, to other women. Contrary to popular belief, not all men are at the mercy of the penile god. As a rule if I'm not into the woman, and I'm not referring to looks as I am not as shallow as that, I refer to their personality, how they conduct themselves and ability to intrigue me, the answer will be No thanks.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I said this a while ago, and was subsequently accused of making fun of people's sexuality.... I apologise for the negativity here, but I've always said there are more ways to enjoy the company of a woman without the orgasm. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
The power of the pussy.. is failing! :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
A man that has class will say NO and its normal,,,i respect man who has the balls to say NO.Good on you guys. You need to show your class..
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've said no before, my ex wanted to come stay with me, I knew she was keen for sex and she's great in bed. Saying no wasn't easy but I knew what would happen if I decided to have her over and I didn't need the issues that came with it, perhaps helping someone move on forcibly by saying no makes me less of a man, perhaps it makes me a better man by not taking advantage of her feelings she still had for me, there's always 2 sides of the story
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RHP User
12 years ago
Things have gone well over the dinner table / coffee table.When we ended up naked and starting getting serious, it just wasn't happening, for me , her, us.Sometimes we ended up just having a sleep together for the niceness of falling asleep next to someone and waking up next to someone.Other times we realised that it just wasn't happening, so we got dressed and said ta ta.Other times, we've paid the Entree Bill / Coffee Bill and left quickly.Contrary to popular opinion, especially given this site, men aren't ruled by their Lower Head all of the time.Currently, My Lower Head is going mad to join with a Lady's Lower Mouth.But, My Upper Head is going more crazy to join with that Lady's Upper Mouth first.Work In Progress ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Regardless of the situation or motive, whether you are male or female, everyone has the right to say "NO"....it's whether you choose to respect it or not
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Plain280
12 years ago
Met up once with someone and unfortunately our libido got in the way of chemistry and we both realised the spark was not there,so we had a chat and worked out we both did something on the spur of the moment that we were both uncomfortable with. As to saying no, yes quiet a few times, have been propositioned a few times by ladies who have had a few drinks or on illegal substances and politely turned them down. Have also said no to ladies that I am uncomfortable with or our combined situations are at risk so logic got in the way. Never been afraid to say no and had to endure 3 years of having to say no because of medical reasons, being honest about why is the best policy I say.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am surrounded by wonderful, beautiful, amazing sexy women.I have turned down sexual advances, and I will again in the future if those women do not appeal to what I seek in my life.I actually consider that makes me more of a Man.... because those options present, yet, I can refuse them. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
don't know why?....actually thought it was more to do with him than me?
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you believe the stereotype then it in a lot like the joke.....what is the definition of a man?......a vibrator with a wallet. Personally I would like to thing I am more than a warm dildo.
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RHP User
12 years ago
No not all man bang at will... For me I need to be able to have a connection of the mind long before the body parts! Laughter is as good as the act of sex.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Over and over again from the horses mouth. Not judging, however, I'd prefer a guy with a little class, who would rather be with an woman because he wanted to, not just because she's available and "up" for "it".
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RHP User
12 years ago
and would think more of a man that did... ...it speaks very highly in favour of the integrity of a man.
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tamworthguy46
12 years ago
I will always regret having sex with one girl many years ago......we were best friends, both of us single....ruined our friendship, stuffed if I know why.....but It did......Another mystery of life I suppose ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have not said no!! But pissed on a few legs bitten them on the heal and chased a few rude fucken moles down the street and outa my fucken yard and dont come back you slag! Harsh yes but i give what i recieve.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Those "moles" have chased you down the treet too then? WA women, get yourself a winner!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean72' Have not said no!! But pissed on a few legs bitten them on the heal and chased a few rude fucken moles down the street and outa my fucken yard and dont come back you slag! Harsh yes but i give what i recieve.- Posted from rhpmobile That makes me despair there will ever be a future where all people treat each other with respect! Big Ocean, can't you keep your vitriol to yourself? Sure you might have had a bad experience, who hasn't? But to spill it into the public arena sure makes you less of a man in my eyes.
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RHP User
12 years ago
NoNonNietBuNeNeeNeinNej DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
but that would be a NO - YEAH??? LoL
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Playful2looking
12 years ago
I say no for several reasons. The main one is if I feel the person is looking for more then sex. for example a serious relationship when I may not be. I don't like playing with peoples heads. I would rather not have sex if I feel that a person is a little fragile at that moment in their life journey. I never say no if all the cards are on the table and there is no hidden agenda. real man can say no because they are not ruled by their dick
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your eyes are shut like your ears you cant bear to accept the truth You think putting men down degrading men in a public arena is fine as long as it does not upset the pomp-ass arena, well i am ashamed of my actions, may i share with you my dear a glass of the finest urine applied gently to your leg, and to compliment the urine may i lay your leg on the finest silver tray , and the flavours like a dry urwine compliment your leg perfectly as we nibble gently, And may i take your hand and escort you my dear off my property of a commoner ? Never to see that pomp-fat-ass again!! And yes i have been mesmerised by the vitriol i have witnessed from many a so called fine lady so to abuse and vitriol in private must be ok then??? Fucken wake up!! No actually let her sleep for fucksake.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi I think a man is a man because of every decision he makes. If he makes a decision with integrity and honesty not just with others but with himself thats a man not how many sexual encounters he has.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean72' Your eyes are shut like your ears you cant bear to accept the truth You think putting men down degrading men in a public arena is fine as long as it does not upset the pomp-ass arena, well i am ashamed of my actions, may i share with you my dear a glass of the finest urine applied gently to your leg, and to compliment the urine may i lay your leg on the finest silver tray , and the flavours like a dry urwine compliment your leg perfectly as we nibble gently, And may i take your hand and escort you my dear off my property of a commoner ? Never to see that pomp-fat-ass again!! And yes i have been mesmerised by the vitriol i have witnessed from many a so called fine lady so to abuse and vitriol in private must be ok then??? Fucken wake up!! No actually let her sleep for fucksake.- Posted from rhpmobile You know absolutely nothing about me. I don't think its acceptable for women to abuse men and I am neither blind nor deaf to its happening and I have experienced verbal abuse and threats of violence from both women and men. What I have done with these experiences is use them to fuel my passion for building safer communities.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've waited for your post here. Anyone reading through your posts over time (which we can do in an instant nowadays) would know better than what has been said against you. Nice restraint. ;-x . Thank you to everyone who has posted, I have follwed along quietly and appreciated that there are many like me who know an urban legend when they hear one. That's not to say some men haven't got their self-esteem directly connected with their little head, it's a big, wide world with many people of all sorts.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'll admit I was a slut for along time, wouldn't matter who where or why. If I felt the need (which was often) I would. Mercy fucks, booty calls, dogging with strangers it didn't matter. When I met mrs h we held off on bedroom fun until we knew we had something good going mentally, not based on physical. By saying no to each other for a while we built a level of respect that we both still base our relationship on. I think I couldn't say no to the other girls as there was no chemistry anyway, just sex and that's all I needed. If mrs h and I jumped each other straight up then I'm sure we wouldn't be together today.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well, if you take a look at my profile, you will see that I am saying no to bonking right up front and I'm having a ball doing it. I'd like to think that after many years of trying to bonk everything that walks, I can comfortably look for different options to keep my juices flowing. Still nice to indulge in a bonk at home though.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I cant believe anyone would ask this question? if a guy says no thanks, how is it anything but that? hes not interested, tired, or just not horny :) guys are like girls, all different. don't judge , just have fun
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RHP User
12 years ago
A man should be able to do so too without being made to feel like a lesser man.To me it is about respecting ones wishes this mean either sex
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RHP User
12 years ago
Outside a relationship: to suggest manhood requires loose sexuality is plain silly. That's propagating a stereotype that can sometimes be ugly and uncaring. Within a relationship: I believe that being a man certainly means attentiveness to & satisfaction of your partner (and self) throughout the relationship - sharing physical and emotional in union. And being a woman means something similar, too! But saying no due to particular circumstances should be okay, on both sides. If you believe in equality, you should understand your partner and grant the rights and benefits that you have.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would suggest that maybe saying "no" has no relevance to the perception of a males manhood. Similarly if a woman was to say "yes", it doesn't make her a slut. Each person has a choice that needs to be considered before any encounter, and as others have said without expectation, judgement and most importantly pressure. Me thinks just comes down to respect. Cheers CC
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Not that I put the hard word on people very often, but I've only received one no in my life. At first I felt a little hurt (my own insecurities) but then I realised it wasn't about me at all....I respect this man greatly....and he is probably more desirable to me now.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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