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Is it appropriate ?
December 22 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
The female in the test walked up to random guys and asked if they would have sex with her right now. She got a 100% yes from guys. The male in the video (who was young and good looking) did the same to random females. He got a 100% NOOO from the girls. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
10 years ago
I think it depends on the location and the clientele. I wouldn't for instance approach someone at work in this way or in Coles while doing the grocery shopping.... If I was at an Red Hot Pie meet and greet night I might be inclined to make me desire known and if I was at a swingers club then I definitely would be approaching any that interested me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I can see a guy flirting or smiling my way and I like him then yes I will ask for sex.
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RHP User
10 years ago
seems guys are more than willing to be straight out and ask a girl for a fuck. Why cant girls be any different if they see someone they like and want to get it on?
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's appropriate however not something I would do.... Which is to do with my personality rather than whether it's deemed " ladylike" or not. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
There are ways of saying things without using words....I think it's something like 80% of communication is non verbal xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
"Is it appropriate for a lady to bite the bullet and just walk up to a guy she fancies and ask for a fuck?" I think it's just as appropriate as a man asking a woman. In a swingers club it could be, in public not so much.
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RHP User
10 years ago
But the cougar thing makes it difficult. I hit a guy up one day and took him to the nude beach for some fun, drew a small crowd 😁 if I were hitting on my own age however, i'd be pretty confident of a yes, younger dudes, well smaller hit rate, not so many into older women, especially my age
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' I think it depends on the location and the clientele. I wouldn't for instance approach someone at work in this way or in Coles while doing the grocery shopping.... If I was at an Red Hot Pie meet and greet night I might be inclined to make me desire known and if I was at a swingers club then I definitely would be approaching any that interested me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Don't think it's very sexy though, what happened to the art of seduction?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Whilst the notion appeals to me, it sounds a little dangerous to... What if she chipped a tooth?....what if the bullet went off?... or she swallowed it?
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RHP User
10 years ago
To randomly walk up and put the hard word on someone....not in a bar though... Beer goggles make men agree to anything, coherent is so much sexier 😝 In a public place.... Like Coles....I'm thinking you could perhaps use the banana when words are hard to find... Start with ' the stare'.... 'The smile' ... Followed by ' the stroke '.... Then ask the question with ' the shrug' .... Sounds sexy... Just gotta pop to the shops 😉
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RHP User
10 years ago
Women make the first move all the time. We just let the guy think he did.😜
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MissBishere
10 years ago
I wonder if that 100% no was because the women didn't want to be thought badly of for putting out. and what did the woman look like that for 100% Yes? I don't think I would get 100% Yes I think those kind of budeos are always a bit set up.
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is little I find more flattering than being propositioned by a sexy woman. Sadly it doesn't happen much.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hahaha... I do believe that's check mate. You win the game. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its been appropriate since the late 80's from memory, perhaps earlier. Seriously its like asking when was it was ok for women to to get a job?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm getting images of women seductively looking at their bananas and then winking at a guy....as his boyfriend smacks his arse....lmfao Yup...that'd be something I'll pay to watch..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
What about on the "clothing optional" beaches. I was on one today and there were a lot of gorgeous people around, can one assume they are all into living out fantasies, or are the majority just avoiding tan lines? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'willowtree_2' Women make the first move all the time. We just let the guy think he did.😜 exactly :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd actually agree with that as I was watching a body language experiment video on YouTube....lol my resources are awesome eh? :p But what they did were had a room full of gals, and the men were kept separate in a different room so the body language of seemingly "normal interactions" were studied prior to the introduction of the men.... When they finally were integrated together, it changed somewhat, and one of the key points were that men don't ever make the first move.....it's a woman who invites him to make the first move ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
It all depends on the context and of course on the person on the receiving end . For example if it was said at a swingers club / party, it may be more acceptable , to some , than at the doctors rooms! The problem arises when certain people (and we have experienced this numerous times on here and in the chat rooms of these swingers sites ) send one a crass message along the line of "hot pix, wanna fuck?" Such an approach is not acceptable for us. We find it disrespectful. Our reaction would be to ask the other party if they ever walk up to women in the supermarket and say such things. And if No, then what makes them think that it is acceptable on here ? And do they believe that the woman on here are all sluts and as such can be spoken to in such a manner ? Or enjoy being spoken to in such a manner? If a stranger (male or female) approached us and said those things, we would not react favourably. If it is NOT acceptable for males to say these things to women , then why should it be acceptable for women to say such things to men ? Or is this all about what the men want and the double standards in this respect ? For example if a woman sleeps around, she is labeled as a slut, by the men, and seen in a negative light . If a man sleeps around, his peers see him as a stud , a positive attribute. Just our opinion. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
a guy at work was he married, as no jewellery can be worn in the processing plant. When he replied in the affirmative I commented "What a shame for me as I was looking for some company." He still talks to me and we verbally joke around and, as my question and comment aren't being gossiped about all over the plant, he hasn't talked about it to anyone.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I appreciate it may not be acceptable to you but I can flat out tell you I would love to be approached like that, i'm a down to business person and always horny, always aroused, so I long for that and if they were to my taste, action could be happening in the vegetable section with the bananas watching. I respect not everyone finds my behavior acceptable. But saying it's not acceptable for men to approach someone to ask if they want to fuck, therefore why should it be acceptable for women? And women are being treated like sluts because they ask to fuck? Shock, horror, here's the thing, that's what we're here for, sex, right? Or did I miss something in the brief?
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RHP User
10 years ago
North end of swannie is where you go for action, or not, depends on your own reason for wanting to be there, but that's where you'd find action. I went there not only wanting, but expecting to get action. I only ever left once without it. And I was lucky to meet a couple of hot guys who made it an amazing experience. The south end is more for regulars, families, where it wouldn't be acceptable by most. And I hit on people, including a couple, where no words were exchanged, just looks, and it was on, happy days. If you're looking for action, go to that end and lay near the dunes, blushing haha 👍😁 long as you're not shy about being watched, they sit right at your feet lol live porn. I love that, it turns me on being watched but didn't always ☺
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RHP User
10 years ago
That's because you half expect it's a good chance of happening anyway... I was talking in general , at a club , a pub , or the company Xmas party or maybe just out and around.. I agree with Freya about the unspoken communication.. Body language , eye contact , touch etc are still the most natural way of attraction, but these are also the forerunner to what might happen next... Do you take the chance and say what you might be thinking.. or say nothing just in case it backfires ... ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I know females who could easily say what's on their mind and some who dare not for the fear of being too forward... No biggy, I think most females would love to be that cheeky .. Wear your right out there badge with pride... It's up to the individual...
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
And then there are those, who think that if one attends a swingers club/party , one HAS to engage in sex. That because one is on a swingers site, all ones conversations, and interactions, have to be about sex. Thank GOD we all have different tastes, needs, desires AND opinions :) As if not, how boring life would be ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Exactly, yes what's good for one might not be for another and completely agree with the sense of entitlement at clubs, which is one of the reasons I don't go to them ☺ i'd just like guys not to be afraid to hit us up in, well say the vegetable section haha, they might just get lucky 😛😁
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RHP User
10 years ago
Women almost always make the first move, its not done with words, it not even done at a conscious level but as a guy you know if you have a chance or not. And boy don't ignore the move or they get rather grumpy, rejection does not sit well for someone used to getting what they want..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Exactly, yes what's good for one might not be for another and completely agree with the sense of entitlement at clubs, which is one of the reasons I don't go to them ☺ i'd just like guys not to be afraid to hit us up in, well say the vegetable section haha, they might just get lucky 😛😁 Do you know how many times your shins would get whacked by a steel trolley, or head hit with a handbag, or just ignored, before a man may accidentally come across someone like you in the vege section (and if I did, then I would probably be so shocked I would be speechless)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Dont go blowing our cover. Its a highly guarded secret that all women train with the CIA's Mind Control Program to get our men!! Psychological hypnosis using secret body language. MK-Ultra approved courses. Government funded too. Ssshhhh.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'willowtree_2' Dont go blowing our cover. Its a highly guarded secret that all women train with the CIA's Mind Control Program to get our men!! Psychological hypnosis using secret body language. MK-Ultra approved courses. Government funded too. Ssshhhh. WT. Happy for you to be blowing me under the covers. As for the C**ts in Arses (CIA) mind control, I believe it.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hahaha the plums blush 😁😂
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nothing series than a confident woman and making such a move is very confident.... but the chase is half the fun. ....so it can go both ways for me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You're right about one thing.. They get grumpy if they send signals and you don't respond... But in all fairness, sometimes the lady sending the subtle signals are read' but you might not feel the same attraction and that is mistaken for being unreceptive, so then it becomes a matter of the old duck and weave trick...
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RHP User
10 years ago
As a member of the RHP secret intelligence society , I must warn you that the society issued all male members with tiny mic's now hidden in our lapels. So next time you sneaky females try anything funny or place ones tongue in one's ear. Be warned , we all know who you are and what ur up to...
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Seachange73
10 years ago
I agree with you. It is all in the CONTEXT. There is a place and time for everything. I was raised in a more polite and conservative community and my behaviour (good or bad) will always reflect on my upbringing and also my family. It is to my advantage that I have moved away from home early in life (at 17) to pursue higher education, as well as working overseas to further my career prospects. This has also given me the opportunity to explore another world out there, be it sexually or in other fields. One thing is for sure, the set of moral values drilled down onto me by my parents has remained regardless where I live. And that includes having respect for people and their ideas. I will not be presumptuous, even judgmental, on them until I have observed their behaviour and actions with their peers long enough. My initial approach to people remains reserved, respecting their personal space. But it does not mean I will not flirt. Again, context is the key. At work, NEVER. In a social setting, i.e. bars, meet and greets, clubs, etc, I do flirt. But very subtlety. This has worked very well for me. And there is an element of seduction here which I love. Overt flirting or crass approaches is not for me. Big turn-off for me. I will leave that for other people. However, I do get a flirts and approaches from men (young and mature) at gyms, supermarkets or streets all the time. I do appreciate them and depending on my mood, their flirting style and their looks, I may respond accordingly.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think for most guys the idea seems sexy if the girl in question is already attractive to them. If not, then the challenge of avoiding an awkward 'no thanks' makes the idea offputting. I expect it's the same for girls, although I thoroughly agree with other posters, 'What about the art of seduction?'
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RHP User
10 years ago
By the time I have you in the vegie section, i've already seduced you, seduction is alive and well in my world, you just won't know i've spotted you long before you've spotted me. I always scan my terrain lol 😁
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think it would be easyer for a lady to walk up to a guy and hit him up the chances are he will not refuse no matter where he is I am some what of a shy guy and it dose not come easy for me in person to do that in public so just hit us up lady's when every and or where ever - Posted from rhpmobile
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blackbig
10 years ago
Being approached by an attractive lady, and asked direct to catch up for merely a good company +\- fun in bed is mesmerising sexy-:)). I wonder why some are scared to do so 😝 My personal opinion is ladies should do it more often, as most guys don't bite. A 'no' is nothing more than no. No other meaning attached to it-:) Do I like it? Yes,I like it. However will say no if found no attraction exist. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You can come up to me in the veggie aisle any time you like
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RHP User
10 years ago
I find this topic a little odd, really.Don't we all know this stuff?! Women do approach a man when they're curious, intrigued, interested.... they just don't always do it with their legs. But they will always do it with their eyes. I mean.... there are some inherently social and evolutionary factors at play here, but generally... We all know... women like a confident, bold man...... timid and unsure men won't approach, or make decisions, so people are conditioned to expect only the confident types to walk up to them (or lost tourists lol) We all know... living is about seizing the moment, although, not many people really do (confidence and boldness likely plays a factor there) We all know... that when a 'stranger', particularly a physically larger person like a man approaches us, they generally want something, so we are a little guarded until we determine what it is they want. So I see little point in endless pondering why a woman won't physically walk over to engage with you..... when you could have displayed your confidence and self assuredness and just gone and done it in the moment you saw her. HOW you approach..... well, thats the more important topic. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
So its ok for guys to ask a girl for a fuck but its not appropriate for a girl to ask a guy for a fuck. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I thinks it's totally fine for a lady to ask for some action..but as for both sex's it's all about "how" you ask.. you don't just blurt out "you wanna fuck!!" Very crude/rude and severely lacking any class... Just like anyone can get their "junk out" for a better word in profile pictures, i find it far more erotic and a turn on if a lady leaves a bit to the imagination.. So instead of walking up to a man/woman and saying "wanna FK"... How about walk past and give him a nice smile, maybe a cheeky wink as well...On the way back past if he smiles and has been watching you stop and have a chat..If you like what you hear then step in close grab his tie/belt or the shirt by the chest and pull him close and whisper in his ear..."you're mine tonight" then walk off back to your friends...This will arose even the most relaxed of men.. If he doesn't come up to you shortly after that then he's married/gay/super shy or unfortunately not on the same page.. :( For the shy ones he may need a bit more convincing, so when you see him looking at you flash him a smile as you jingle your house keys in your hands and make a slow move towards the exit...make sure he's watching you and give him another cheeky wink... If he doesn't follow after that, there's no hope for him I'm afraid!! lol! What's good for the goose, is good for the gander, Thats my Motto :) G xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '1fitcheerleader' So its ok for guys to ask a girl for a fuck but its not appropriate for a girl to ask a guy for a fuck. - Posted from rhpmobile No..both count's.. It's all about tact little lady (read my above post).. I don't know anyone who finds crude pickup's attractive..
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RHP User
10 years ago
For the record .. I see nothing wrong with a female asking a guy for a fuck if that's how she feels... A sexy lady I was once with sided up and whispered. " I can't wait to see you naked " hitting every nerve ending in my body , a instance turn on, and what followed was magic. But in saying that , this came after dinner, wine and great conversation in a steamy tropical atmosphere , so the mood was already set... Not exactly the same as asking for a fuck , but close enough... Asking a guy for a fuck is not only for confident females anyway, it's for any female if that's what they're feeling...
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RHP User
10 years ago
U right NightJasmine..sometimes is more exciting seduction the woman than just fuck her.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have tried this myself, it didn't go accordingly. In my experience, as politely and subtly as I have tried, most of the average males in the 20s are intimidated by a female who is that forward and knows exactly what she wants.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'giddyupp' Quoting '1fitcheerleader' So its ok for guys to ask a girl for a fuck but its not appropriate for a girl to ask a guy for a fuck. - Posted from rhpmobile No..both count's.. It's all about tact little lady (read my above post).. I don't know anyone who finds crude pickup's attractive.. "little lady" ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
My thoughts exactly. All due respect giddyupp but that comment didn't sit well with me either 👎
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RHP User
10 years ago
and timing.... I've had it happen a couple of times and only once have i accepted, although that was a good 3 weeks later. I was out on a lads night and had noticed a woman staring at me quite frequently. So naturally i would occasionally stare back and smile. While she was good looking, i was a little to caught up in my evening of ladness. Long story short, as she was leaving she whispered in my "you should be coming home with me and fucking me". A little shocked, i laughed it off. Bumped into her 3 weeks later at the same place, struck up a conversation and ended uo back at her place... by the end of it , she needed to clean her couch and bedding because they were soaked....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would say that "appropriate" and "protocol" are not the correct words to use anymore in this heightened age of "equality". If a woman likes a guy and knows she wants to fuck him, why shouldn't she be able to do it without feeling bad. The issue of it being "wrong" will only arise because we are still in transition of clearly defined roles morphing into the age of equality and there are no clearly marked lines of what to expect at this time. Some people are still more of the older tradition, others are more into the new age version. Neither are right or wrong, but from a personal point of view I prefer it when a woman approaches me first because, as even this site still proves, the moment a guy sends even an introductory message she instantly assumes he "just want's to fuck her" and quite often the message goes unanswered and lost in all the other messages from other guys. In my opinion, the main reason why women don't approach guys more often in such a way is because they are worried about what other women might think of them. And there is no better form of honesty than a woman who approaches a man she wants to "fuck" and directly asks him, rather than playing today's online game of skipping around the point to portray a certain image of themselves. But in this age of transition we really should see more women directly asking this question if that is what she wants, with the guy that she is asking. It doesn't make a woman a "slut" or "easy" for seeking what she wants with who she wants, but in todays age of online judging it probably isn't an easy thing to do for most women. Maybe in 100 years it will be the 'norm" but none of us will be around then so yeah..............swings and round-a-bouts ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'dissolvedgirl' "Is it appropriate for a lady to bite the bullet and just walk up to a guy she fancies and ask for a fuck?" I think it's just as appropriate as a man asking a woman. In a swingers club it could be, in public not so much. Ha ha ha, Freya, that's where it's easy to miscommunicate, especially when women are signalling in female, and guys are reading in (dumb lol) male.... Subtle as a brick is good for most men..
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't think it's so much what other women will think of them but fear of rejection and or wanting to be pursued..but you are right,this is changing and many women who are paid up members here want to be proactive and approach men xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' I don't think it's so much what other women will think of them but fear of rejection and or wanting to be pursued..but you are right,this is changing and many women who are paid up members here want to be proactive and approach men xxFreya Thanks for your feedback. But the "wanting to be pursued" is now a mute point due to "equality". I also understand that due to social conditioning that many women today still believe, and even hope for, the Princess fairy tale to come true and await their "knight in shining armour" to come and whisk them. away A quick look at female profiles on a site like POF and seeing every second profile make mention of the "knight" comment will only confirm this. It's great to see women starting to be more proactive in pursuing what they desire, but for every woman that does it, another woman still expects it to be "the mans job". This is where a lot of men I know shake their heads to the point of wanting to smash their head against the brick wall.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well I'm thinking as more men embrace their bisexuality the women of the world will have to lift their game ! The odds on here will start to work against them.Spoiled for Choice.
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