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Is looking after yourself a bad thing??
April 30 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
You are not alone. We are out there!! It's called knowing what YOU want.We can not please everyone nor can everyone please, each and every one of us.Chin up OP, HUGSFOXY xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
What you've described in your OP is called living.....in my view anyway
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wow! We sound a bit similar but I don't get put down for it, usually I'm complimented for looking good and having a great attitude. Maybe you're hanging with the wrong people?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Some people are very negative about others because,they need to make themselves feel like they're in control or more powerful or to cover up their own insecurities.Sometimes it also can be that they've experienced a trauma of their own in the past and they don’t know how to deal with the pain so they'll hurt others as a defense mechanism before they themselves become hurt.People’s negative or criticizing comments often reveal just how unhappy and disillusioned and frustrated that person is with life." Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit"~Napoleon Hill~
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Thankyou awesome71 n nudierudie! I'm going to keep looking after myself n if ppl don't like it, well they can kiss both sides of my arse!! Lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Cheekyarses' Thankyou awesome71 n nudierudie! I'm going to keep looking after myself n if ppl don't like it, well they can kiss both sides of my arse!! Lol Live your life how you want and do whatever that makes you happy. If people don't like it then that is their issue to deal with and not yours.
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
I knew there was a reason that you n I get on Araps!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
CA haven't you asked a similar question before? If you have it sounds like you have a friend or few friends that are jealous of the fun you are having and are trying to spoil yours. Don't listen to them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Enter forthwith.... ....a processional of gym buffed guys with profiles containing bathroom selfie photos or mid-weights-session with a full pump on pics.lol DG
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
I think you are right meeka! But we only have one life - I don't want to get to the age of 80 n think - why didn't I do that!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Cheeky, are you sure we are not SistersI'm exactly the same and love the feeling of positivity & confidence when look after myself and am out and about living life.Although I'd rather people bite my arse than kiss it if they have issue with me and the way I present myselfKeep being your gorgeous fun filled self x
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RHP User
13 years ago
but i will say why the hell did I do that? there is a difference between looking after yourself inside and out emotional and physical to over doing the outside of it. especially for women you will get judged by other women if you dress younger. or wear to much make up etc its just our human nature to make assuptions from the visuals or women who dare to live a full sexual life, be careful who you confide in or they will round on you like a pack of dogs I should look after myself, the gym membership, well lets just say it worked for a while when I actuallly WENT there ohhhh slack one over here looking after your health is not a bad thing at all, most will not judge you for that dont stress the nay sayers its your life
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RHP User
13 years ago
The important thing to do is to do what makes you feel happy inside and out. Don't let anyone else tell you how you should live your life, how you should dress, what you eat/drink, and where you sleep (or who you should/shouldn't sleep with). Life is too short to worry about what other people think or say about you. Took me a long time to realise that and now I do as I see fit, even if others don't like it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Self-care is a very important part of maintaining your psychological health. Dressing nicely, getting your hair done, wearing make-up etc are all the little things we can do to give us a little boost. In my job, I care for other people, so I make sure that I take time out for myself when I am on my day off, and not just spend it running around doing errands or cleaning etc. Caring for myself allows me to care for others better. You should never let anyone else make you feel guilty for taking a little time out for yourself. They're probably just jealous.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If your doing the right thing by you, who gives a f*ck what others think?
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RHP User
13 years ago
damn selfish Cheeky,what are you thinking,how dare you believe that it's ok to be fit and gorgeous,intelligent too. Better yet,what about the national economy and supporting the fast food industry....oh yeah ...tsk tsk hide ya head in shame,. Seriously Cheeky,who are these people,why are you listening to them but they can only make you feel bad if you let them.Surround yourself with more likeminded people and let these particular naysayers go.
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RHP User
13 years ago
we just dont understand how people dont look after themselves.... we get ONE go at this, with ONE body. looking after it has to be the best investment any of us can make towards our future, doesnt it?? must admit tho that we are lax....getting on to 2 years since we saw the inside of a gym....really must fix that....and soon...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I will only surround myself with positive people. Shitty attitudes are boring. Sounds like it's time to cut those ties Cheeky.
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RHP User
13 years ago
The only thing some people can do to put then up is to bring others down
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RHP User
13 years ago
Cheeky, in my experience, I've noticed a real change in my outward attitude as a direct result of what I do with my 'outside'. I'm the same, I like to dress well, take time to do my hair, get my make-up 'just so', keep my hands and nails soft and lovely and go to the gym (to feel healthy and keep up with my boys).I go to Woolies and see some folk in tatty old shorts and thongs and looking like they just got up. And I judge. Probably wrongly but I think 'wow, where's your self respect?'. If I've made an effort, I feel better. And that makes a lot of other things seem better by default. I've never had a negative comment, but if I did, I think I'd probably laugh.Be who you want to be. It's your body, your life. Simple Note: Erm, that's not to say that I don't on occasion get into my PJs a leeeeetle earlier than is necessary and flop in front of the tele with giant pink fluffy socks and hair scragged back in a pony tail with a mug of tea and slice of tangy lemon loaf!
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Thankyou all - love my rhp friends! Paintme I love what you said....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I always look after myself. With the exception of exercise!!!! Cause u always look like crap at the end!! I have ways taken care since I was a young girl in presenting myself well for work - make up, hair, nicely groomed. I believe in looking after myself in a holistic way - I feel better for it and I think it comes across to others. A good nights sleep, some exercise, good good etc set me up for a good day!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
100% with Paintme. Cheeky, keep doing whatever pleases you. Their problem, not yours. That kind of negative energy is not welcome wherever I am any more. I just love how your have written about your attitude to life.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Be happy who you are.Be happy you can dress up and wear all this sexy clothes and you feel super when you look in the mirror.There is nothing more shitty then negativity.We positive people have to run through a midfield sometimes. You go to work and all you see in the morning is long faces and the saying Ohh my God when is it Friday, and it is only Monday.They moan and groan all day long.Being surrounded with this is not easy to stay positive but I refuse to let them win, so you shouldn't either.Be happy sexy and confident, dress up how you like and welcome your happiness, go out and show of.
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RHP User
13 years ago
OFTEN say "Cavey.. when ARE you going to grow up, and get serious about life" My response has become my all time favourite statement... NOT just to them.. but to so many people who, in their own subtle way, try to get you to act the way THEY want you to "The closest thing you will get to Flying Pigs around here is fckn Swine flu"
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RHP User
13 years ago
Positive people attract me, negative or arrogant ... uh uh... I have always looked after my health and well being all my life.. I exercise almost daily and have done so for years.. I dress the way I like to dress and I have enough fashion sense to wear clothes that fit well and present clean..OK' I know that sounds like Im blowing my own horn.. But Im confident enough to know if you look good ' you feel good. if you feel good, it reacts on those around you... You only ever get back what you give out...
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Inadditiontoo - thankyou! We are very alike xx
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Cavey n jay Thankyou - as it means alot to hear men talk like this! I like men who like confident women x
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RHP User
13 years ago
What a strange thread OP. Looking after your self is never a bad thing, no matter how you do it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...someone finds something negative to say....
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RHP User
13 years ago
How people dress is not indicitive of their personality. Just because I see some high powered suits in the city doesnt mean they arnt some sort of bargain hunters in the op shops. People are people. Sure there are going to be some very shallow, lets say fuckwits, but thats life and their way of thinking. Never be put off by saying hello to someone if you have a good feeling about them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Agree.. I find a smile then a hello goes a long way....
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