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Is my fantasy too selfish?
November 05 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nah... I see it all the time at the swing clubs. ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do you mean it's too selfish for your husband because he won't be able to see the action from behind you?? Hmmm you may be right. I suggest you girls both suck on his cock and balls... Synchronised cock sucking is so much fun and your hubby will love tea bagging his balls in one mouth while the other mouth deep throats his knob. It's a win win really. LOL!! As long as your extra girl gets plenty of attention. Yeah?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Op, Firstly welcome to the forums If you and your partner want to take the fantasy into reality then go for it and hopefully you can find another woman to join you as it sounds pretty hot to me. ~wishing I was a fly on the wall so I could watch~ !!! lol.Is it selfish, I say hell no !! as after all, it is 'your' fantasy. If however its only yourself wanting it and your partner wasn't into it etc then you could start argue it being selfish but if everyone is on board then all good.Cheers, W.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Been there with gf's and it's great. Not selfish at all to satisfy your desires unless it's at the expense of someone else. I would however suggest that you put some pictures up though as it helps those single ladies out there decide if they are attracted and want to join you both. If your partner gets in on the action as well then all will be happy. Good luck.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh yeah...hubs would most definitely be taken care of too! And of cause there would be lots of special attention paid to the lady;) As far as swingers clubs go... Our 1 and only 'experience' so far, took place at one...& it wasn't a very good experience at all unfortunately:( That was over 12 mnths ago & We've not been to one since. But prior to that, we had been to a couple of the popular clubs, several times ...& EVERYTIME (apart from that once) the venues were almost dead..there were no more than a handful of other people there...NO fun was being had by anybody else, besides hubs & I. The 1 time there was a bit of a turn out, was a theme night (Dr's & Nurses) It was a good night, lots of nice, & beautiful people.. & clearly our 'newness' to the scene stood out, & we found ourselves in a situation that neither of us felt completely comfortable in.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Shell.... You're on here as a couple, inferring you swing, or wish to swing...... and you're asking if that's selfish? Hmm - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you for actually taking the time to reply & give your opinions & advice! Deeply appreciated<3 My husband is up for what ever I am comfortable with, my 'selfish' concern, comes down to ME... In my fantasy THATS how i come...being fucked & licked at the same time! I have NO problem myself, in eating a hot pussy while my husband slides his gorgeous cock in & out..to be honest, the thought of it drives me crazy..Id LOVE to try it!! I also think I may even be very open to her partner fucking me while she goes down, & me to her... Oh my gosh... Arrrr!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry, I'm obviously not being clear enough about what I mean by 'selfish'. (We are VERY new to this whole online thing, we only joined up last night, this is our 1st & only online profile!!) Ok what I mean is.. In my 'fantasy' I want to cum by cock AND tongue/mouth. Is it selfish of me to ask, or hope for that to happen??
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RHP User
12 years ago
*wefukugood* We will absolutely be posting some pic's up on our profile! Might actually get on to that right now.... <3
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unless... Your husband is not keen on the idea and you do it anyway. A healthy sexual relationship is like a healthy relationship. It's built on trust, honesty and respect. If you have those three things you're able to share a lot of fantasies with your partner openly- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nothing is selfish if it dont hurt anybody and everyone is happily on the same page . Go for it girl.. If you want it to happen sooner than later, get hubby and go to a swingers club, Im sure by some of the things some say, its quite a common occurrence..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'JoeNshellbell'In my 'fantasy' I want to cum by cock AND tongue/mouth. Is it selfish of me to ask, or hope for that to happen?? Your fantasy would only be selfish if it would potentially disappointed or hurt your husband. He's up for it you said, so have a blast!
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RHP User
12 years ago
But that's what it's all about... Everyone takes turns being the centre. It's not selfish, it's the way it works.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But does it have to be a girl or can it be a guy as well? We have done it with 2 guys same scenario :) Its HOT!
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RHP User
12 years ago
All sounds very normal to me...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Selfish in that you're fantasizing about you being the centre of attention. Interesting isn't it that we are conditioned to see it as selfish to want something all for ourselves. That we feel selfish when we are not making others happy all of the time. It's not selfish, it's self nurturing. Thinking about what you want is not selfish, it's healthy. Enjoy!! It's one of my fantasies too, I've done it and it was super spectacular.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71' Selfish in that you're fantasizing about you being the centre of attention. Interesting isn't it that we are conditioned to see it as selfish to want something all for ourselves. That we feel selfish when we are not making others happy all of the time. It's not selfish, it's self nurturing. Thinking about what you want is not selfish, it's healthy. Enjoy!! It's one of my fantasies too, I've done it and it was super spectacular. Very well said
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bicurious4cpls
12 years ago
Agreed with Docklands cpl.. mfm is fun too.. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yuuuummmm...........Welcome
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RHP User
12 years ago
You should have no problem at all fulfilling that fantasy ull probably get 100 messages full of volunteers now lolGood fantasy btw..
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RHP User
12 years ago
From what I gather it's incredibly hard to find a woman to join a couple... And I very much doubt they are going to get lots of messages from women about it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
it will happen
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you *Jay_Me*
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RHP User
12 years ago
*Araps* Thanks so much for taking the time to respond. x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good question!! In reality, no it doesn't HAVE to be another woman...just in my fantasy! hehe!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
*Awesome71* You are absolutely right. xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
*knots* Haha...thank you! xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
*goldcoastcple69* Thank you! You were right...we have received ALOT of interest!! (YAY!) Have been getting msg's all day from couples, & ladies.. (& single men too of cause! haha!) Has felt like Xmas morning, reading them all!!! xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
A HUGE THANK YOU to all of you who have messaged us! We will be upgrading our membership, & we WILL respond to each, and every gorgeous one of you! xxxxxxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
as long as you are willing to reciprocate, so that your third can also enjoy herself in the way in which she desires. I am a single women and have found that couples are very very interested in inviting you to fulfill their fantasies. It might be selfish on my part but if I come across that situation then I can't help thinking "what's in it for me?". Getting to know people outside the bedroom can be a very helpful indicator of what they are like with sex - are they thoughful, help you feel included in conversation, interested in your ideas, etc. When everyone is thinking of the other then things can go very well indeed.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Desire is Desire. You don't necessarily have to add a judgement value to it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As Meeka stated finding a girl by herself will be very difficult (but not impossible).An easier option by far would be another couple who would be interested in this scenario.Maybe the male half off the other couple could take some photos/film it for you.Sounds fun..hope it works out for you :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' From what I gather it's incredibly hard to find a woman to join a couple... And I very much doubt they are going to get lots of messages from women about it. This isn't aimed at you Meeka. Rather it's in answer to your reply but aimed at Joenshellbell. If your polite, respectful and considerate you will get that fantasy with another female and providing your pictures truly reflect you as you are today and your bodies are as hot as your photo's suggest I think you will have no trouble at all. Just don't go for it on a one night stand basis and make a new ongoing friend in the process if you can. Our experience with finding gf's is that the majority we have been with are not in it for one night stands and they also like to meet up for a coffee, go shopping, watch a movie with us, go out, or have dinner amongst other social things in between the play. Yep there are those that also like a one off but they aren't what we are looking for. Remember that the majority of genuine single or in open relationship women on this and other sites are people and not just a one night stand fulfill your fantasy peace of meat. And they arent going to try steal your man if you keep them as friends if you choose them wisely so don't be affraid to let a new friend into your lives instead of just a fuck. Work out your rules and boundaries between yourselves and also between those that you play with and it will all go well. We have been lucky and made some great new gf's in the past year that we have been together and as you can see from our pics I get that extra tongue when we fuck in a threesome and it's awesome. Be honest also and let them know if you intend on or are playing with other women. Honesty goes a long way. Don't tell them that they are your one and only if you intend on swinging with others as well. Beware the scammers as there are heaps of them. Men pretending to be women and couples, Women pretending to be couples is rampant on these sites.. If they won't swap contact details after the initial introduction then how are you supposed to organise a meet. The genuine ones will swap phone numbers as after all if your going to fuck then you will have to talk to each other face to face wont you. Have also found that the scammers try and get you to enter into steamy txt or chat and then use the old excuse of not wanting to swap contact details too soon as it's probably a man pretending to be a woman wanting to wank off or even a woman just wanting to masterbate to what you have to tell them. The last scammer we dealt with gave us her/his email address but kept stalling at giving a phone number. I wasn't going to give (most likely a male) him anything to wank over and he showed a lack of interest in chatting to Mr Wefuk. Suddenly had to go get a shower when I told him Mr was going to be online. Tease a little but give the horny stuff to those you can truly contact and arrange meets with. Get the contact number and then be norty all you want. If they want to meet you and be a new friend then they will give you thier number and if you are going to meet them and see them then they should not have any problems with waving hi on cam so you can see it's really a woman your chatting to. They don't have to play on cam. Good luck with it all. Oh and I have to add - We don't frequent swingers clubs to get lucky as it's not our thing as a couple. I might get Mr to take me one day just to have a look. He used to frequent them when he was single but met most of his fb's online. You don't have to go to clubs to get what you desire. You can find it at home online if you feel more comfortable with that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I only say that based on lots of couples comments on how difficult it has been to find a single female. I have no direct experience... Just didn't want them to get their hopes up. It may be easy it may be difficult. Depends on lots of factors. As a single female guest I can't see their profile photo so for all I know they are really hot. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'JoeNshellbell'*goldcoastcple69* Thank you! You were right...we have received ALOT of interest!! (YAY!) Have been getting msg's all day from couples, & ladies.. (& single men too of cause! haha!) Has felt like Xmas morning, reading them all!!! xxx Yeh shouldn't be hard for you guys youre both very good looking, that's a big advantage..There are plenty of single women on sites looking for couples and bi women. But they do look for young good looking couples to play with.. Good luck with your fantasy!! Its a good one Maybe you can come back afterwards and fill us in on all the details lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I only say that based on lots of couples comments on how difficult it has been to find a single female. I have no direct experience... Just didn't want them to get their hopes up. It may be easy it may be difficult. Depends on lots of factors. As a single female guest I can't see their profile photo so for all I know they are really hot. :) Yeh I knew that's what you were trying to say.. I read those threads as well..
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RHP User
12 years ago
It would be selfish if you keep it to yourself, fantasy to reality is where the fun begin's let him know . Your not selfish at all well not not in my book's- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'goldcoastcple69' Yeh shouldn't be hard for you guys youre both very good looking, that's a big advantage..There are plenty of single women on sites looking for couples and bi women. But they do look for young good looking couples to play with.. Age is irrelevant really and our experience is that they don't necessarily look for the young ones as we are mature age. It's a bit shallow just to pass someone over on looks because they are not as subtle and young as they used to be. I would rather fuck someone with a few extra pounds and a little older than me if they can bring me to orgasm over and over than a young barbie or ken doll gym junky who doesn't know how to please. A person with the body of a greek god might be nice to look at but if they can't go down on you like a champion and fuck you like a pro then they are not worth bothering with. There's a lot to be said for those with experience. I have a gf that s nearly 20 years younger than I am and I am your average lady and deffinately no model in the runway sense. We love sex and are confident that we can satisfy as the women we share play with are still in our lives as great social and play friends. Sexual attraction, big sexual appetite, mutual friendship and compatibility as people has a lot to do with it.Quoting 'Meeka100' I only say that based on lots of couples comments on how difficult it has been to find a single female. I have no direct experience... Just didn't want them to get their hopes up. It may be easy it may be difficult. Depends on lots of factors. As a single female guest I can't see their profile photo so for all I know they are really hot. :) Not on this site but on others - I have sat in the chat rooms and read a lot of what other couples say to single women and I suspect that those people message and txt in the same manner. Not many really know how to chat with respect and intelligence. Have found many to be crude and disrepectful or others to just spend hours talking about mundane stuff that must bore the hell out of some of the single women. Apart from when someone makes us cranky we are always respectful of others. So can see why many find it difficult to find single or in open relationship genuine women. Not saying that we are experts and we havn't had heaps of gf's compared to some, just quality ones. I just think that many people on these sites zero in on getting the fuck and as many as possible and they forget that it's a person they are chatting to that may genuinely want to connect and form an ongoing friendship. I say to the OP - Keep your hopes up and hang in there and it will happen. It might not happen as often as many think but if it works out well you will be happy with what you do find.
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RHP User
12 years ago
*jaybaby77* & *wefukugood* Firstly, yes, the photos are absolutely of us! Our profile pic, we took especially, & the others are just a few randoms off our phones (by random I mean little 'treat pic's' I've sent to my husband during the day...you know..just to make sure he isn't working too hard;) ) but they are all very recent. We are planning to take some better pic's over the wkend to post up!! I really should've been ALOT more clear when I posted my question originally. I should maybe also let ya'll know that that, was THE very 1st time I have EVER been open to ANYBODY (besides hub's) about any of my desires! I think it was an incredibly big, brave step to take, to post on a forum, for thousands of people to read & respond to... But I was so nervous while writing it, I didnt think to include some really important things... In NO WAY are we seeking out a female, wth the intention of using her just to full fill my/our own fantasies. And although one night stands work well & are the perfect arrangement for some.. We aren't after that, bcz it wouldn't work for us. We have joined RHP as a couple, in the hope of meeting another couple, where there is a mutual feeling of 'connection', not only on a sexual level, but also based on forming a genuine (& hopefully long lasting) friendship. If & when we find that special couple, everyone's feelings & needs will be equally as important, & passionately considered, during ALL 'lovin' shared together!! ...But in my fantasy, I have 2 people focusing on me..& my only focus is how good it feels for ME.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'JoeNshellbell' *jaybaby77* & *wefukugood* Firstly, yes, the photos are absolutely of us! Our profile pic, we took especially, & the others are just a few randoms off our phones (by random I mean little 'treat pic's' I've sent to my husband during the day...you know..just to make sure he isn't working too hard;) ) but they are all very recent. We are planning to take some better pic's over the wkend to post up!! I really should've been ALOT more clear when I posted my question originally. I should maybe also let ya'll know that that, was THE very 1st time I have EVER been open to ANYBODY (besides hub's) about any of my desires! I think it was an incredibly big, brave step to take, to post on a forum, for thousands of people to read & respond to... But I was so nervous while writing it, I didnt think to include some really important things... In NO WAY are we seeking out a female, wth the intention of using her just to full fill my/our own fantasies. And although one night stands work well & are the perfect arrangement for some.. We aren't after that, bcz it wouldn't work for us. We have joined RHP as a couple, in the hope of meeting another couple, where there is a mutual feeling of 'connection', not only on a sexual level, but also based on forming a genuine (& hopefully long lasting) friendship. If & when we find that special couple, everyone's feelings & needs will be equally as important, & passionately considered, during ALL 'lovin' shared together!! ...But in my fantasy, I have 2 people focusing on me..& my only focus is how good it feels for ME. All good. Have a great time when you find what you are looking for and never ever feel like your being selfish if you are not hurting anyone else.
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RHP User
12 years ago
if with permision you video it. you can both enjoy it over and over again in private LOL
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abcplus1
12 years ago
We have done this, and it was great, if everyone is into it, then it is not selfish at all.Taking turns at being the centre of attention is the best bit.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Do you mean it's too selfish for your husband because he won't be able to see the action from behind you?? Hmmm you may be right. I suggest you girls both suck on his cock and balls... Synchronised cock sucking is so much fun and your hubby will love tea bagging his balls in one mouth while the other mouth deep throats his knob. It's a win win really. LOL!! As long as your extra girl gets plenty of attention. Yeah? fuk the hubby... u go girl.. lolhe will be happy as he has his cock deep in you..she will be happy as she gets to suck on your juicy pussy..and ,, well damn u take it all and enjoy..then u all can swap spots lol..i too am new but have had that very position recommended to me by bi women...ps let me know how it goes :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think what you want is quite ok as far as being selfish goes. In FFM sometimes the man can be a little bit left out cos the girls often go pussy-tit-and kissing crazy for each other but most men don't care about that. If you actually want to be selfish, have an MMF and with 2 str8 men & you'll be the star attraction. And from my experience women absolutely love being with 2 men.If it feels good do it, if it doesn't, use more lube is my motto.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Who cares?????
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RHP User
12 years ago
Get into it!!!!!!!lol, it's all lovely x
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RHP User
12 years ago
We've done this exact thing to another couple at a swingers club and it was awesome. More than happy to do it again, and let others do it to us.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Been there done that (a few times) and it is as delightful as it sounds. Not selfish at all and believe me he won't mind one bit. Always polite to change position and let your sexy mistress take the reverse cowgirl position and return the favour. We are always hearing that its apparently difficult for couples to find single females to play with, but we have never had any trouble finding fun, attractive, NSA fun with single girls. My only hint is to maybe look outside of rhp, as I think the single girls on here must get a bit overwhelmed with attention from couples. Have fun ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sounds like you guys have one fully-loaded fantasy, that got compared with what really went down (excuse the pun). You guys sound genuine in wanting to achieve a fantasy in the future. We've done that. But that's the issue, fantasy is just thought about an unreal place, and nearly always it gets in the road of a good time. The problem is that we lose being here for a fantasy future. Luckily, as smarty-pants we can see that those thoughts are not more real than what is really real. We can think about it all we want, but until it happens, it's not real. We did it too. More than once. To get to our wild thing, we ignored what didn't feel right at the time, jumped in and paid the price in cardboard cut out experiences. We were cheap sluts to our dirty fantasies. We made it happen that way. We were the ones who were disconnected, and it only takes one side to be disconnected. This was because even though we were physically there, we were not really there, we were on the bench. We were the coach and the assistant coach offering strong opinions about how the game should be played. What we found out from all this was that we failed to accept where we were, we kept wanting it to be something else as we went. Tried to fit it to our ideal. Sometimes, not often, we trip up and catch ourselves off somewhere else again, trying to do fantasy. That's okay, we laugh, relax, get back to were our bodies are. If you ignore the absence of a connection, that's what you will get while you are fucking, an absent connection. It's easy enough to get swingers into bed, but you pay for what you get. In a room-full, nearly everyone picks up on this disconnected communication as you go, and it feels forced. We never imagined that we would have to break out the lawnmowers soon after we got to greener pastures. Maybe try easing back there guys, less thinking helped us. We have found it's better when we are rested, well fed and turn up to the game with a winning attitude of "I'm here right now, and I'm mowing your pretty grass". Our thoughts are really not that serious. Come on, how can you be serious when someone pulls their pants down.
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SEXUALLIASON
12 years ago
Selfish!!!!!! No fkn way that's mine and my partners ideal one as well. That's hot hearing someone else describe what we want.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
If we are talking fantasies, aren't they inherently selfish? A fantasy is all about exactly what you want. Sure, I know that an equally important part of all of my fantasies is that the other people involved have a huge desire to want to do it too, but it is still probably selfish of me to want them to feel that way... But that is what makes them so good when they are realised! Coincidentally, your fantasy is one of my biggest ones - the only difference is I am the one eating pussy...
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's your fantasy!!! The fantasy is what you want so it should be selfish. He is included at least lol. He will have a similar selfish fantasy and that is what this is all about, talk openly honestly and selfishly about the things that turn you on and would get you really riled up. A few of our recent fantasies will never come to life but we act and talk our way through it. That is usually enough to get both of us so worked up and ready to come. I act out his fantasies just as enthusiastically as mine (although lately I could write a novel of all my fantasies and different situations I imagine) My fantasy is almost the same although I want my man to be taking her doggy while she eats me.
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