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Is plain old Vanilla sex less appealing these days?
November 16 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nothing wrong with vanilla. Be yourself and just go with it. No point "exploring" if you don't feel comfortable with it. Enjoy!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm with you. Though I think it's possible that as you get a bit more used to the scene and relax a little, you'll become interested in some things that right now you couldn't imagine. That seems to be par for the course. Ultimately though, you like what you like and the secret is to find others who like the same things. Good luck xxx
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
You're only being held back if you actually feel like you are missing out on something. If not then enjoy the ride, whatever ticket you buy.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You just have to find the right group of peoples to mix and match with and nothing will be boring or unappealling
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes. But thats just me. I like people who are more on the adventurous side of life.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Plain old (or young) vanilla is a nice challenge .
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RHP User
13 years ago
As mentioned, only do what is comfortable for you, if it doesn't feel right then don't regardless of what others say, if you bend to peer group pressure then you may regret it later rather than being your own person and making your own decisions not those of others.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Most people over their life will go through phases. Just live with what you are comfortable with but everyone likes a little spice from time to time.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Everyone's definition of "Vanilla" is different right?As mentioned, the more you let yourself go, and especially the more you read in these forums, the more you realise that there are no real Taboos out there, apart from the few VERY obvious ones!Everything else goes.You say you LOVE sex - then i think you will have no probsYes right now, you may consider yourself Vanilla, but believe me - If you really love sex, pretty soon, you are going to consider yourself Rum and Raisin, with chocolate sprinkles! You have only been on for about a month - just enjoy the ride.For the record - you dont have to be Bi to enjoy this ride! - You may never come around to the idea of "Licking Vagina" doesnt make you a prude, and certainly wont hold you back!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'brave__heart'I'm with you. Though I think it's possible that as you get a bit more used to the scene and relax a little, you'll become interested in some things that right now you couldn't imagine. That seems to be par for the course. Ultimately though, you like what you like and the secret is to find others who like the same things. Good luck xxx First step was joining and second was opening up in these forums, the rest will come 100% concur with brave_heart Sex is only s exceptional, when you are ALL in for the activity and that your play friends are also giving it there all, only do what you really want to do and just sit back and maybe watch the rest until maybe you might want to participate?
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RHP User
13 years ago
The only playmate that I've ever had that's been boring is when I've had sex all by myself. That old expression 'Talk to the hand' might be the punchline to the joke and makes lousy company over dinner let alone pillow talk. If you believe half the stuff your read here, I own a bridge that looks like a coat hanger and a concert hall that looks like a deck of cards. Make me an offer.
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RHP User
13 years ago
so im not bored with it yet
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am with you. I experimented plenty when younger and know instinctively what I do and dont like. I have managed to get to this age without ever feeling the need to kiss another woman and I can not see me doing that in this life time. I certainly do not want to lick another womans vagina...dont even get anything from looking at them. I have tried anal, never going to allow fisting and realy can not stand my arse being slapped or my hair pulled. If anyone wants to tie me up then they will be in for a hell of a fight. People do become desensitised to many things and sex is one of them. Many years ago, the old playboy mag was about as porno as it got. Now it is right here at our fingertips...so we all become a little blase about things. There is the expectation that we experiment all the more...after all those sweet young, completely airbrushed 20 year olds groaning into the camera cant all be wrong can they? You be true to yourself and if others find you boring? Plenty more out there...find someone who does not find you boring.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hmmm your writing style seems awefully familiar. I am sure that the right company is appreciated in the middle of the night.
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RHP User
13 years ago
and im only just now going to my first red hot pie event, i may be only 25 but i know i prefer "vanilla" sex to other sex. ill admmit to being curious about kissing a girl but i never want to go down on a girl i dont even like it when guys go down on me, but ive never had any complaints about me , one of my best real life friends is heavily into the bdsm "out there " style of sex , she and i always find each others sex stories intresting as we are into totally differnt things, she thinks my stye is too boring hahhaha so no i dont think not wanting to go down on a girl makes you a not fun playmate, some people like certain things and others dont, you do what you feel comftorbale with and go from there, no one can force you o do anythign unless of course u want to be forced but thats a whole differnt topic ,
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RHP User
13 years ago
you are still young...sexuality evolves with age too, i find...i am into things now, i never would have been at 29....i am fortunate, in that i have a husband, who is more than happy , to experiment with me...but i do know, that now i want to try out so many naughty, kinky, dirty things, that i never would have thought of only 5 years ago...you are who you are...and you like, what you like...there's nothing wrong with that...if later on, you find new, different things exciting...i am sure you'll go with it...
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allnight86
13 years ago
Its pretty unanimous, do whatever makes YOU happy!...but you are missing out - licking a nice vagina has definitely got to very up there - haha :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think your still stuck in being a teenager or a good prim wife and I think you worry about what your husband might think of you. I would try a little more and be more relaxed, dont say u dont like something unless you have tried it. You may be missing out on some great fun and sexually missing out also.I am not saying this to have a go at you, as I was married for a very long time and my ex was very vanilla. Anal sex is awesome and should be tried at a very slow pace at first. As for licking a vagina well I can say just playing with a woman's clit with your fingers it just as enjoyable and making a woman come is a very powerful experience.Good Luck in your sexual adventures and maybe finding someone to be a regular will help break down some of the barriers your feeling.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am a woman with simple needs, I like vanilla MS TR of the missionary
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ruling out a bit of comfortable face to face fucking for an all-kink diet seems to me like it'd be narrowing my options rather than expanding them, but while vanilla will always be one of my favourite flavours I couldn't live on it indefinitely.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Here I was thinking I'd instinctively know what to do because I'm a woman, but sheesh, I had NO idea. I felt like a clumsy school girl and got out of there real quick. As it happens, it doesn't appeal to me at all so I've had no inclination to learn more. Kissing a girl though - now that was yum! OP, you don't have to go full tilt straight away, but if you do want to explore perhaps - in the words of David Deida - start by leaning just a little beyond your edge. If you try something you don't like, then at least you know you don't like it :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Especially with cookie dough.
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RHP User
13 years ago
wrong with being only a little curious OP,perhaps your curiosity will increase maybe it won't.But if you do something that someone else wants you to do ,then eventually you will feel quite resentful.There are some things we don't need to try to know it just isn't for us. As for the boring bit,well some may find you so but I imagine many more will find you exciting,you are young and gorgeous,that is rarely boring to most people.Unless of course during sex you talk about the Kardashians,now that definitely is boringx R
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well there is no eloquent way to say this so I am just going to blurt it out. I had my first girl on girl experience last night and I enjoyed every minute of it. I really thought a vagina wouldn't taste very nice at all but it was fine really and it was a situation I was perfectly comfortable with. I honestly don't know how I made that transition so quickly, a week ago I had no desire to do it and then many Vodkas later I found myself naked on the couch with new found friends until the sun came up. Thank you for all the help and advice people. I will continue to be a little boring and Vanilla but I guess what I have learnt is that I don't need to feel intimidated by the whole bi-sexual/couple seeking woman thing - the intimate female region has proven to be another sexual playground for me after all.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'brave__heart' Here I was thinking I'd instinctively know what to do because I'm a woman, but sheesh, I had NO idea. I felt like a clumsy school girl and got out of there real quick. As it happens, it doesn't appeal to me at all so I've had no inclination to learn more. Kissing a girl though - now that was yum! OP, you don't have to go full tilt straight away, but if you do want to explore perhaps - in the words of David Deida - start by leaning just a little beyond your edge. If you try something you don't like, then at least you know you don't like it :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'allnight86' Its pretty unanimous, do whatever makes YOU happy!...but you are missing out - licking a nice vagina has definitely got to very up there - haha :)
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gcplayful
13 years ago
You only know what you like by finding out what you don't like.
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RHP User
13 years ago
See you cant say you dont like something just because you think you dont. Its a matter of being with the right people and feeling comfortable in the situation. A womans body is a wonderland just like a man. Both to be enjoyed in many erotic ways. Keep up the great work and I bet you blew your hubbys mind. Bet he will be thinking of you and that woman for many years to come and masturbating over it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ive been with girls who wouldnt go near my puddy but didnt mind me licking theirs and I can understand that. It actually took me years to enjoy sucking cock. Im still not a fan of anal. Its only an occasional treat for hubby no one else. You have your own likes and boundaries. I like to stretch mine sometimes but if I dont like it I dont do it again.
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RHP User
13 years ago
its a bit like walking before you run...you have to work up too it. the fact you are on here makes you anything but boring you are giving things ago and from what i have just read above have just tried another female...I am sure your bf is more than happy with your progress small steps and open communication and lots of fun can be had by all
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