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Is there an attraction to "Vanilla" guys?
July 23 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
Fact is there are a lot of guys here who are attractive, shredded, well hung, well paid and great fucks (not always kinky). If women can choose between them and guys who dont have those attributes, why would they choose the latter? If the shoe was on the other foot who would you choose?
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RHP User
8 years ago
"is there a general attraction for men who just like sensual foreplay, fairly vanilla sex, have an average body and aren't loaded with money to spoil and don't get into the whole BDSM scene?" is, in a word, yes. But what's with that pic of yours? Lol. Best to "reframe" as Sharonski suggests.
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
My thoughts are.Don't be put off.Some people on here are looking for specific kinks or exploring their sexuality in different ways.However I'm sure there's plenty of women on here looking for nice guys to have great sex with. As long as you are open to mutual pleasure and keeping an open mind there is no reason why you shouldn't meet someone.Attraction is based on many different things and personally, looks are one part of that. Yes I do need to have that zing when I see someone I like, but its equally important that they engage my mind through interesting messages and conversation.Thats a turn on that all the shredded abs in the world can't replace.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I get that. The candy colouring on this site is not lost on me. I am more after seeing if there are any lads or ladies out there who prefer the average? I'd like to see some discussion on it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are women who would be interested in what you describe. Personally, I'm not all that attracted to shredded bodies and much prefer a guy who is slim to average. I also don't care how much money a guy makes and I have no problem with vanilla sex, I rather like it...but I'm here to explore the non-vanilla world as well, and have worked out that a life of solely vanilla sex wouldn't work for me. I suppose it also depends on what you class as 'vanilla' because that is a very subjective term. Basically, because of the nature of this site you will find that the number of sexually adventurous women here is higher than in the wider population. Also, because of the very skewed ratio of men to women, the women can be more picky in what they ask for and expect. It sounds a bit callous but that's the reality. If you stick around it may be worth your while attending one of the meet and greets that happen in the capital cities once or twice a year. They are a good opportunity to meet other people face to face in a social setting, and it can lead to more than just socialising if you find someone you click with.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'vampavibe' But what's with that pic of yours? Lol. Haha, ever wondered what you'd look like as Brad Pitt? I can't say I dig it myself but it's a funny pic to have up.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Meet and greets sound like fun! And yes, what does "vanilla" actually mean? Is oral sex included? Anal play? Light spanking? Maybe another topic deals with this question?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Do any profiles actually say that? "My dick is bigly and my wallet is even biglier, come get me ladies" ?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Women come here to forefill their fantasy. Not sure that happens as much as they like...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Though I like my sex on the rougher side, I completely respect the sensuality of slow sex, of that intimacy. I think it's important that people have a repertoire of things they like ... then we're able to have an approach to different situations, different feelings etc ... I love slow sensual sex in the morning, generally as my boyfriend would term in 'lazy doggie' lol. He can kiss and nibble on my neck as he's fucking me slowly, no one has to really worry about morning breath and what a way to start the day ... Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
You're both driving me crazy with your sexy shots ... loving thenlingerie choices. Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's that fine lingerie you're both rockin! I'm lost for words :) Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I am into sensual passionate sex with a guy with a good body and preferably a big cock . Vanilla doesn't have to be boring ..... Just don't do anything you're not comfortable with , because if it doesn't satisfy you , you're not getting what you want 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
What Meander & Luck_Dragon said. I'm in the midst of a fairly new, long distance affair with someone who is Mr. Average and quite 'vanilla' in most respects, largely due to being in an LTR for a long time until a couple of years ago. But his personality (and willingness to explore to a degree) makes me melt. Just wish we could have real time sex more often *sigh*
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RHP User
8 years ago
To be completely fair, I do have two other, more regular lovers who are both kinky AF. So maybe I wouldn't be so satisfied with Mr. Vanilla if I didn't have any other outlet?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I suppose based on the answers here and your profile shot, the question to ask is, are you punching above your weight in terms of expectations?
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RHP User
8 years ago
We like to take the vanilla from you and send home chocolate. 😁 Meander.... sexy new pic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
For the good and glory of all us 'average' dads and making the world a better place.....can we please clone you? Lol 🤔 Not that I'm 100% vanilla...but just can't say no to a tub of Ben n Jerry's so the dad bod is kind of a permanent fixture 😂😂 To the OP...every guy on these sites that doesn't spend 3hrs a day 'makin gains' and doing cardio understands your question as it is a lolly shop for the ladies and as a general rule of thumb (not always) pretty buff people will only play with pretty buff people...and then so on down the list. Can't blame the ladies though...can you imagine if the rolls were reversed? 😨 I've was previously on here for years as a different profile (only just coming back) and loved getting to know the RHP folk. All the different types of personalities, kinks and quirks make these people totally addictive. My 2 cents is scroll past the kinksters if that's not your groove...avoid the profiles that are specificly searching for these gigantic penises you need to carry in a specially designed carry bag and look for like minded similar folk. 90% of the profiles on here will make you feel like shit if you take it too seriously...10% will make you feel right at home. Enjoy the ride RHF Chips 😋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Vanilla? I'd be happy to find an honest respectful man regardless of the flavor.. but vanilla? My fave - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
vanilla always has a place in my life. I hate sticking to one flavor much prefer variety. as for money, cock size and shredded bodies....none of these are important, its about the person.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Sharonski' I suppose based on the answers here and your profile shot, the question to ask is, are you punching above your weight in terms of expectations? I was just keen to see views of others Sharonski, I don't see myself punching any expectations... I've only been active a week or so and haven't had chance to get involved in anything yet. I think these forums are a great way to have some informative discussion however, cheers for your input!
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RHP User
8 years ago
To come across a profile which states a mans wallet is a factor in success here. Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hey bud i think youll be right, just persist ☺. Most people on here are just in fantasy land and want to be seen as pornstars also women on here do punch above their weight because they can more men then women. Also this is off season for meeting woman, from previous experience mid october on wards is good ✔ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
reading any other responses, not yet, I will after posting this, but yes there are many people who want vanilla, who are vanilla and very happy that way. Your question I would have answered very differently not so long ago, but after recently falling for a vanilla guy in RL, I can 100% say I couldn't give a crap, sexual stuff evolves with communication, but the connection with that person, wanting to be with them, hold them, touch them, kiss them, long to be in their presence again, I realised how unimportant or less of a priority my sexual wish/demand list was 😉 I'm not remotely vanilla, and don't wish to be so some merging of interests would need to happen for it to last but I realised a few things. One is I must remember not to shock people with my life, I forget that the two worlds may as well be a different universe to those not in it, so writing a note to self to stick on my fridge "Zip it!" 😄 On here, yes I chase dominant fit guys with tight bodies. My guy in RL, now my friend, is bloody drop dead gorgeous, tall and yummy face, looks very young. I honestly thought he was in his 20's. He enjoyed that compliment, or I did after the fact 😉 but did he tick the other boxes, no, has never experienced any of this, not dominant etc classic vanilla, and happy that way, although he is starting to get turned on by things I say, about my experiences, that curiosity was more shock I think initially. Sorry, rambling on, the second thing is that the physical and mental closeness will trump everything, the connection and what you feel for that person will trump everything. Harder on here though given the choice women have
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nothing wrong with a bit of vanilla.... vanilla ice-cream is my favourite. You can add what you like to it and change it up - if you choose. I'm only a size queen when it comes to height. I have no issue with the size of a guys penis or whether he is cut or uncut. As long as he has one that is just fine with me. Shredded, ripped or 'hot' bodies with sculpted six packs are all well and good. They're great to look at and fun to touch. However, I prefer trim, fit and generally athletic to full on 'ripped'. 'Dad bods 'as long as no major beer belly are fine as well. In my experience, the guys with the less 'shredded' bodies tend to be more attentive lovers. The 'slave to the gym' guys with bulging muscles seem to less focussed on the woman and more on themselves... It's my experience only peeps - KH
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
I wouldn't change it 👍 It's funny. Just be you who are and the law of attraction will do the rest. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wish we could clone your attitude to this, IMHO it's perfect, particularly the part about not taking it too seriously. x
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RHP User
8 years ago
I dont find your profile shot offensive, but it does obscure your face. That could be for a couple of reasons, which I won't speculate on. I agree these forums are a great place to discuss issues, but people tend to bring issues for discussion based on what they're encountering, while you say you're only looking to discuss, your OP does come across as slightly frustrated. Perhaps Im interpreting it incorrectly, but the implication seems to be that women your are interested in, are interested in another type of guy (large penis, shredded etc, to use your words). I suspect most people are happy to have great sex if the connection is there regardless of kink/valilla/in between preferences. But the connection will be based on attraction, and as Chippy above stated like tend to attract like (though not always) , I think it's important to be realistic about that. All the best on your journey here.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I would always question what "Dominant in bed" means, as I don't think is always synonymous with pain, or fetish. It's a broad term and certainly doesn't mean it negates sensual activity. For someone it could just mean directing them to slowly take their clothes off, get on the bed, hush their mouth and spread their legs. Could you do that? As to the shredded body, sure there are some who seek that, I have read enough profiles to know that isn't the majority, same as cock size and... well money I have yet to see referred to at all. Though, some do seem to enjoy the humble brag (without the humble) in the forums. Have fun and keep posting Know what you offer and present it well. The odds are difficult but not impossible. You seems to present well in text, and I like the profile pics. But I'm a sucker for obvious derp in photoshop.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Re the money side, me neither, that has never come into it. Also agree about dominance, nicely put 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
I check out female profiles quite a lot and have also never seen one mention that a guy needs to make a lot of money. Have seen a few say they want someone who is financially stable, but needing to make gobs of cash hasn't come up in any profiles I've looked at. The other things - ripped body, well hung, young, etc. yes those do come up quite often.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PepperRose' I would always question what "Dominant in bed" means, as I don't think is always synonymous with pain, or fetish. It's a broad term and certainly doesn't mean it negates sensual activity. For someone it could just mean directing them to slowly take their clothes off, get on the bed, hush their mouth and spread their legs. Could you do that? Sometimes I love a guy to be really dominant with me, I suppose it taps into something very primal when a guy takes charge and you feel that physical strength and raw desire. However, the key is finding a guy who can do that whilst maintaining respect for your boundaries, and who also understands the difference between being dominant and being a Dom in the BDSM sense (I have no problem with BDSM and am interested in some aspects of it myself, but I'm not looking for a Dom at all). I suspect that many women request 'dominance' in their profiles because if they're anything like me, they've found it very difficult to find a guy who is a) comfortable with being dominant and b) can respect boundaries and isn't a wannabe Dom who's been reading / watching too much 50 Shades of Gray and thinks that's what all women want.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Re women fulfilling expectation, I think you'll find most have well surpassed initial fantasies 😉 It's not a myth, we evolve quickly in this world, and for me, I couldn't even begin to answer this properly in a forum post. In short, could never have imagined the things I'd be doing, could never have imagined how comfortable I would be with my body and my sexuality, that opened up a whole new world and I doubt there would be many women on here who wouldn't say the same 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
Vanilla sex then yes. Not interested in huge bank balances but being able to support yourself is a must. I just want someone who is funny, sane, solvent and can hold a good conversation and obviously is good in bed Happy to experiment but only if the other wamts it too. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Not everyone is looking for the next fantasy on their bucket list. Having an open mind is much more important to me; by that I mean you are open to developing the "somewhat vanilla" to the best it can be. Lots of cash...I can't say I have seen that on female profiles, but I only browse a select range. I don't want a man with lots of cash, I am financially secure and financially independent. I do however prefer a man who is financially stable; after financially supporting my ex in some way for 14 years I have no desire to go through that shit again. No more gravy train for me thank you. Large penis...nope. Pass on that as well. More important that you know what to do with the one you have. Personal preference is for girth...I don't like a long cock bouncing off my cervix; the pain is not ever going to turn me on. Shredded body......again, nope. Does nothing for me at all. Toned, athletic, dad bod (prefer no significant beer belly) are my preferences. So in other words......average 😉 Dominant in bed.....you do realise for 1000s of years women for large part have been labelled as sluts or whores if they take the lead and show some initiative with regard to sex. Thats where the comment probably comes from; sexual oppression does that to you. 😔😕 I also agree with the posters who commented that it is unlikely to be linked with BDSM, rather a man who initiates play and to an extent dictates the play - positions etc. My advice....stop working from the viewpoint you are in deficit. Sell the features you do have, show some confidence in yourself. That will always attract women. Good luck xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'jayme2' Women come here to forefill their fantasy. Not sure that happens as much as they like... Nice generalisation there. If by fantasy it is specifically referring to sexual fantasies only, then you would be correct (in disagreeing with the generalisation). But the first definition I see by google of fantasy is "the faculty or activity of imagining... improbable things" etc. In which case we are all here for our fantasies. That is, our own interests and (perhaps unlikely) desires. In the adult world, I have sexual fantasies (among those that have been realised), however my more vanilla wish for a LTR is still a fantasy. There are plenty of comments from women who have much difficulty in finding just a respectful FWB, and so you could say it is a fantasy to have such a person in their lives. Yes they are actually here for those things, because those are the type of things they write here and in their profiles as seeking. And yes as such it obviously doesn't happen as much as they/we would like. More on the OP's point, whatever people are seeking in or out of bed, most of your life/awake time is spent doing what you could call regular, vanilla activities. Thus the role of a basic friendship and connection underlying everything else you and said partner might get up to, unless of course you ONLY have a kink/bdsm buddy and that is the ONLY time you spend together. For basically everyone, you don't have to doing outrageously kinky things all or most of the relevant time, it's just that variety is the spice of life, so to speak. And even if your core connection is based on romance and sensuality and love-making, at times other activities are appropriate. You also don't have to be fully into BDSM to enjoy the occasional spank, restraint play etc, which you can easily include in an otherwise more vanilla routine, and doesn't have to detract from any bond you may have (it is likely to enhance it, which is why most coupled swingers are here fyi).
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well said chippy I was on this site in my early 20s and now just returned it has changed a lot since then I used to find a genuine message got a genuine reply either a yes or a thanks but no thanks, women on here don't reply any more and call me old fashioned but I find it rude people do not reply to a genuine message. I don't just blame the women though men these days need a few lessons in humility and etiquette a dash of class seems to be lacking in men now a days Any ways goid luck I found in my early years really nice women from here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Being financially stable, being able to retain a job, is a basic want/need. Like the others, I see very little mention of requiring more wealth than this on this site. Even though there is a "sugar dating" option, further wealth would only be of interest anyway when someone wants something more ongoing - I have of course seen references to wanting the high life or ability to fly [read:be flown] places on a whim. However ironically or perhaps expectedly, I see much more reference or inferences towards desiring wealth on typical "vanilla" dating site profiles, although this is somewhat of the need for extra assurance of stability for a LTR and the lives of future/existing children etc. The most common expectation I see written, of wealth beyond the very basics above, is the expectation that someone does or should own their own home by a particular age.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'd love a nice decent honest REAL guy to have vanill sex with regularly !! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You can add any topping you like.. We are an average couple and only really want to meet another average couple, not wealthy models.. vanilla? Yes a little of that too, no kinks just sensual swapping fun.. i guess thats kinky to some though right? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Generalisation ? .. Not really , more a observation.. Besides ' my post was directed to the OP in reply to his question on where do vanilla guys stand on sites such as RHP. After 6 years of looking through smoke and mirrors it's hard not to come to some sort of conclusion.. Obviously, there are the exceptions as there is in RL.. What would you have the man believe ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Meander and Dragon I really love your lingere, it is so beautiful! I would have hot chips any night or day.... Chippy I think there is a difference between vanilla sex and boring sex being the effort and consideration put into it. There are lots of ways to spice it up and sex still be vanilla 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
I take offence to what you directed at the OP... The man asked a straight forward question then you weigh in with the punching above your weight quip.. He already said he was new here and trying to get a feel for the way things work. What would you think if someone had said that to you when you were a new.. ??? 👎 👎 👎
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Sawadee
8 years ago
You're entitled to your opinion as am I . My opinion is there is more talk than anything. If your're having a great time , good for you , but I don't agree that's happening with the majority as you say. In fact I'd go as far as saying the percentages would surprise. If I'm wrong , I'll say I'm wrong , but that would take some convincing which none of us have the time or incentive to pursue. Besides who really gives a fuck ? Ohh , except for the few who are about to weigh in because they can't accept a opinion other than that of their own..
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is a great base to which you can add other flavours at your whim.
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jualfun
8 years ago
Vanilla guys don't seem to be a problem,but some of the lovely ladies are,just speaking from experience 🤔
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RHP User
8 years ago
To add to what countrytouch was saying, I've seen 2 profiles of women in my state and similar age group who specify that they are used to and only want men who will treat them to the finer material things.I haven't looked at a broad range of age groups or states....but I'd presume there would be more out there on RHP. Considering the skewed male/female balance, it would seem a likely expectation for some few.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' I check out female profiles quite a lot and have also never seen one mention that a guy needs to make a lot of money. Have seen a few say they want someone who is financially stable, but needing to make gobs of cash hasn't come up in any profiles I've looked at. I've never seen it in outright terms, but I'd read plenty where I thought it was definitely there but said using coded language, or where I got the very strong impression that they were after more of a sugar daddy type situation even though not explicitly stated.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Short answer Yes. Vanilla men, average men are great, fantastic even. Kink is great but not a requirement. I am attracted to the whole person. Each man is unique. The hung part and shredded part, vanilla or kink are side dressings to the whole person. Someones bank balance matters? For sex? News to me.. I'm dominant all day. In the bedroom I like to not be in charge all of the time. Give a girl a break... Just my thoughts on the subject. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
As well as a few others 😋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you took offence at my comment then that's for you to consider why.... My intent wasn't to hurt. The comment was based on the fact many women in this thread say they are happy to meet a non shredded, non well hung, non dominant guy. So that being the case why is the OP having trouble finding women on RHP? He implies straight up in his post that women here seem to be seeking those attributes and more (money too apparently). So the question I feel is quite valid, albeit possibly uncomfortable to contemplate.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes, no problem re us both having our opinion. I'm cool with that. I just wonder what you base your opinion on. When I first joined the forum, I was very sceptical about many of the women and how much of the talk was bs. I now know that had no basis, with the exception of one or two, I'm confident they are all indeed having a great time. It might be hard for a man to understand, given what we (women) have on offer. We can tailor it however we like, and that's not a brag, it's just the way it is. Many of the women, and men for that matter, know each other, have met or interacted at various parties or other meets. Do you think they're ALL making it up and sticking to the same story? Your opinion is yours and I respect that but it would have more impact if it were based on something. The odd woman you interact with might not be into all the kinky stuff or not as sexually open? Does that mean all women get thrown into the same basket. These women are having their fun, as am I, and that is a fact 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
not as often as I'd like at this precise moment in time due to financial strain, when the priority is to put food on the table, sex unfortunately has to wait. If I see another can of tuna, I think I'll throw up lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
As I have said before (from the Narcissist thread) "Many studies have shown that women prefer men who are sensitive, confident and easy-going, and that very few women want to date demanding or aggressive man. In fact, nice personality affects impressions of a person’s physical attractiveness. Characteristics such as warmth, kindness, and basic decency are valued and having them makes us appear more physically attractive. Of course, sometimes we do find “bad” people attractive, but women who end up with them are repeating patterns of behaviour they’ve become used to in past relationships. The problem with the nice-guys-finish-last stereotype is that it may compromise the possibility of having meaningful relationships. In the end, the idea that women want to date "bad" or rich men... really just reinforces the misogynist’s idea of deceitful women. It allows some men to blame and hate women as a means of deflecting attention away from their own shortcomings."(Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thankyou all for your responses! I have been away for 3 days and arrived home to find this thread really take shape. It's great to read how you all feel about things and that there is a chance for a man or woman who likes their vanilla flavouring. As with my profile photos, I'm a private person... even my rarely used Facebook account doesn't show a photo of me. That being said, I'm happy to share my glorious visage with anyone who shows an interest, I've nothing to hide really. Further more, I never really thought about the whole fantasy fulfilling side of online dating... I wish you all the best in achieving your desires!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'jayme2' You're entitled to your opinion as am I . My opinion is there is more talk than anything. If your're having a great time , good for you , but I don't agree that's happening with the majority as you say. In fact I'd go as far as saying the percentages would surprise. If I'm wrong , I'll say I'm wrong , but that would take some convincing which none of us have the time or incentive to pursue. Besides who really gives a fuck ? Ohh , except for the few who are about to weigh in because they can't accept a opinion other than that of their own.. Clearly you give enough fucks to attempt to prejudice any responses before they are even written
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technologic
8 years ago
But I tend to be attracted to vanilla guys more. My partner is totally vanilla in appearance which had me fooled initially. Can't grow a beard, no beefcake, innocent face... But mentally & in the bedroom he's 'everything goes', almost. 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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playfulminx
8 years ago
I've enjoyed the company of both average and exceptionally good looking guys, and all types in between. I've had amazing sex with average guys and mediocre sex with those exceptionally good looking guys. As such, I don't not meet average guys but they do need a certain something to pique my interest, whether that be fantastic wit or having an interesting hobby or job. I think a lot of 'average' women have a preference for 'average' men and have regular sex. You have to remember that RHP for many women is a means to realise fantasies, be it sex with a shredded 25 year old or experimenting with being dominated. Many other women are very content to have 'vanilla' sex here too. Maybe you're not finding the right market for your skill set?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Trying to work out how to chat on hete . Sharanski u there. .
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Destiny2017
8 years ago
If I met a guy that looked like you, as in your Profile photo, and had the qualities that you described, I wouldn't mind at all. After all, I'm not into men who boast about their big dicks or ones that spend most of their time at the gym. I used to be on RHP before under a different Profile Name and I had heaps of public sexy lingerie photos. This time I've gone completely opposite and the one photo I have is of me in ordinary clothes; nothing "sexy" about it at all. I've found that the few men that I've shown my "ordinary" photo to decided that they didn't even want to me after that. LOL !!! I'm not upset about that just amused because it confirms that we are very "visual" creatures. Under my old Profile, I ended up meeting 56 men for coffee. Most, bar 2 or 3, wanted to become my FWB. In the end, I was attracted to only 2 and the attraction was mutual :). I'll never regret having met those 2 special men. So here I am again but under a different Profile Name but I'm being very "Private". However, in regard to being "choosy", unfortunately I'm still the same. LOL !!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Definitive yes, I love slow and sensual sex.... not saying that there isn't a time and a place to experiment and try new things. Also, a guy can be super sexy and attractive without shredded body and a massive cock. It's all about presentation, personality and attitude to life. K x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm fat, I don't get home much, and live too far away for most to consider.... But.... I make em laugh and forget about the shit that's going on in their life enough to smile and see that shit ain't all that bad.... AND..... They never really know if I'm kinky or vanilla... But.... They're attracted to me.....until they get to know me hahaha I'm no expert but stop trying to conform to EVERYONES standards as you'll only lose your own identity in the white wash of fake...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Vanilla sex with a real lover you have feelings for is totally amazing. Adding a bit of kink here and there is fun, I do enjoy experiementing. Just depends. Some people have real fetishes that they are compelled to explore or need to really get off. I come in many speeds and there isn't one particular thing that really turns me on more than the other. So I am very adaptable. Different lovers inspire different things in me, and its the feelings that I have for them that makes it hot rather than type of play we happen to be indulging in on the day. (Okay, maybe it is a combination of both. :P ) So, having some major hot chemistry with a hot guy or a dad bod are both good for me. It's all in the attitude and eyes. :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
You're all the way in QLD :( from what I read on your profile you seem interesting enough that I would actually chat to you, heck if you were in Perth I would drop you a message and we could catch up for a social and see where things lead :-P if you were up for a dirty mfm three-way of course :-P Honestly though I'm not sure what other women are after. I personally do not find shredded bodies attractive at all.. I think when some ladies say dominant in the bed they mean they want you to take control and be a bit rough, at least that's how I interpreted what you said. Re: "dominant in the bedroom" Mrs Spice xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Andrewayq' Trying to work out how to chat on hete . Sharanski u there. . O Oh dear...
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RHP User
8 years ago
we could catch up for a social and see where things lead :-P if you were up for a dirty mfm three-way of course :-P Haha, as much as my ego was stroked with you saying that...I think the mfm thing goes into the what has now been dubbed "Chocolate" side of things haha. Not quite vanilla. But I really do feel chuffed that I'm considered!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Mind, nope I like someone who keeps me on my toes so average mind won't do that. Body, well that is up to subjective interpretation isn't it I could see something amazing and others may not! Found that the biggest attraction is a connection based on whole person not just one characteristic, anyone can work on body no one is perfect! Oh and the mind if they really want to :) People change and grow like life and connections can grow together if the two want it to or not. Depends on how strong minds are as to where you go or not go if stubborn and don't grow :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
... vanilla to be the main dish and any explorations into kinks and fetishes, etc are the exotic side dishes or dessert. Vanilla is akin to comfort food and it often satisfies and evokes those feel-good endorphins. The rest are kinda like fanciful icing on the cake and are variations / deviations from the norm that make life exciting. As for really sensual lovemaking or the more passionate schtuff, I tend to reserve that for a real, intimate love relationship. I like my boundaries to be clear and I am not comfortable giving a guy who only wants to be FWB, boyfriend perks and privileges because I sure as hell won't be given girlfriend privileges. :P I dislike blurred lines in a way and like things to be clear cut. I'm not talking about mechanical sex, but rather, intimate acts like nuzzling the neck, kissing for a really long time, gazing into each other's eyes, etc. Love might grow eventually, but right at the start of a FWB arrangement, mimicking love gestures when there's no deep love unsettles me.
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RHP User
8 years ago
... are drool worthy eye candy and the stuff of hot fantasies, but they stress me up because I'm average with flaws here and there and I'd feel compelled to look like a bikini model, which ain't gonna happen in this century! :P Haha! All said, I've had men with ripped bods cross my path and if they aren't egotistic and narcissistic and they are happy with my body, then I'd happily ride the stallions, oh lucky me! =D As for money, better to date a generous pauper who'd give you the shirt off his back to keep you warm than a stingy and miserly millionaire who thinks you are only worth a box of discounted supermarket chocolates! Or, better to date a man who shares his only loaf of bread with his dog than a millionaire who only tosses meatless bones from his plate to the starving mutt. Love analogies! In any case, some of us ladies have good careers and are financially independant. I don't need a man to be my meal ticket or provide a roof over my head or *insert any other cliches*. But I am seeking a man who is superior in certain aspects and being saavy about finances adds to the appeal. I've had to bail out an ex before because he would make really impulsive and hasty financial decisions and then I had to dig into my pockets to keep us afloat. Never again. I'm not a gold digger, and I've given very rich men the "thanks, but no thanks" refusal if I don't see any attraction nor compatibility, so money won't buy my affection. I love the luxurious creature comforts in life, and I love beautiful, high-quality things, but I am not for sale. :P
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Wasn't ignoring you , just wandered off the subject for some reason or other.. But thank you for all the attention given my post was only 1 mans opinion based on the experience I was happy to share with the OP.. And NO, I'm not about to expand on my comment because of the possibility it could start World War 3... I've been around far too long to not know when to hold them , know when to fold them.. 😜 😝
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RHP User
8 years ago
I like the sex part but you say your average but you are hiding your face which suggests other issues! I am after above average if am going to meet a guy I prefer couples as I love the best of both worlds Abs are nice a larger than average cock is nice if I decide to go there Personality assured ess but not arrogance Re do your picture then we can chat
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RHP User
8 years ago
Dad bods/average are hot!! A man who isn't a constant fixture in a gym but instead lives life as he was intended to is sexy! There are definitely women who prefer a regular guys. I prefer a "normal" rugged man as opposed to a metrosexual one. As for size....bigger doesn't necessarily equate to better! Sex isn't a one question one answer type deal, there's dozens of things both can do to enhance a sexual experience. I think most people here are quite open minded regarding what they enjoy sexually, I personally do love the rougher side of play but that doesn't mean that I don't enjoy stimulating foreplay and sensual sex....sometimes it can be even more satisfying than rough sex! I think it all depends on the chemistry between two people, someone who's maybe only so far enjoyed "vanilla" sex may be so sexually charged by someone that they find themselves pushing their own boundaries. But as you stated before....what really does define "vanilla" sex anymore? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
"Vanilla in Manilla".....something I have used of late after having a 5 year hiatus from sex and when asked what I like 🙄🙄🙄..... Nothing wrong with Vanilla.... like previous posts state those particular kinks etc can be brought out over time with the right person or persons 😘Go at your own pace and remember "Variety is the Spice of Life, it makes the world 🌍 go round" 💋💋💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting you "hiding your face which suggests other issues" That's an odd comment from where you sit, have to say an odd comment anyway. So what other issues do you have? Fair question I'd say 😃 Many people don't show their face, most probably the smart one, but not always 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Plural, smart ones 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
I would take vanilla sex, kinky sex, any bloody sex right now sooooooo horny 😦
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RHP User
8 years ago
that post was not articulated well
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RHP User
8 years ago
Give me a real man that knows what he wants is normal, vulnerable, kind, loving, respectful, has a good work ethic. Don't care about size of his cock only that he wants to use it to pleasure me not two hundred other women. Yep all games I thought I once wanted to explore are just that games not reality. Reality is if your not happy with who you are its then you try and delude yourself you need more from outside of yourself. People seem to have this self serving behaviour that they should be rewarded all of the time, that they deserve an orgasm and the only way is to push boundaries. This just stands out to me that you are unhappy with something in your life. Yes in life we have a tendency to want to change and evolve and Learn. But what about changing to loving one another and uplifting and helping each other. Doing what is right for another even if it means taking the high road and not always getting the reward (orgasm/sex). So many blurred lines these days. Give me straight up and normal any day of the week. Doesn't mean I don't like amazing sex. But prefer it to be with someone who cares enough to be straight up and kind to me. Let a man be a man again and a woman a woman. Embrace normality and reality more than fantasy so happiness can creep back into life. Feed reality more than fantasy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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