It's not scary guys, you can click the button.

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  TarzanD8

  one year ago

  2. The real power of this comes from two sneaky little settings that are hidden behind that scary looking cog thing (My vain people know all about that button cause unless you click on yourself you won’t be able to find it). That cog is in two locations, one in your profile and two in your messages. If you click on it in your messages you can say "No" to the sizzle - only people you are looking for can slide into these DM's. In your profile you can go a step further, you can say "I hate that strange limp meat so much that I don’t even want it to look at me". Thats right, they can't message if they can't find you in the first place right? Interested? Well let’s jump in them. I'll give you a simple 5 step plan to create your own cloak of invisibility (to any unwanted glances). 1. Be vain - Click on your profile, it will be in the top right hand corner on PC and on app the same spot. (It’s a photo of you - hard to miss) 2. It’s not scary, click the gear - (Ok PC people you might have gone astray here due to bad instructions. click your Name, then click the Gear) 3. Lock it Down - Click on the Lock symbol - Privacy Settings - Two steps left you got this. 4. Put the cape on - Click on "Who can view my profile" - Nearly done, one step left. 5. Set the cape to on - Click on "Matching members only" - Bam you are now invisible! (Don't forget to click Done) But wait I hear you ask, I never changed my profile to say I didn't want to see men, how can I find that ohh Lord of the Cog. Well, I am glad you asked, While you are in the scary cog land let’s get that working as well. This part might be hard to find sometimes so let me get the torch out and guide you home the last few steps. PC users - Its easy, click on "Edit Profile" you know, the spot where you went in and typed out all of that awesome detail about what you are looking for and how you don't want men to message you? Yeah that spot. Then scroll on down to "Ideal partner details" click that bad boy and you are almost home. Theres a box here "My Ideal partner", if you look reallly closely, you will see that some how a cheeky little box must have been accidently ticked at some point saying you were interested in Men, let’s go and fix that now. Click that box, then click that silly "Men" thing until the green tick vanished just like you will to all the men when you click done. (and then click done otherwise maybe it won't work?) App users, look your settings for some reason doesn’t have the edit profile button, SHRUGEMOJI I don't know, log a support ticket or something the UIX is silly but hey it is what it is. You are going to need to click the little strange backwards arrow thing up in the top left (To the left to the left). Then You are going to have to tear your eyes away from that hunky (I can only speak from personal experience here) image in the middle of your screen, look for the little pencil that is obstructing that amazing view and click it. Bang, now you are there the fabled "Edit Profile" screen, look I spent way more time than I wanted to typing this up so just look at the section above, no more wit from me, hopefully you can work it out from here. No seriously it’s the same as the PC steps above, you got this. Thank you this has been a serious and sarcastic Tech tip with Tarzan, please enjoy your cloaks of invisibility and maybe I can keep my hairline intact a little longer.

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  NeoAndTrin

  one year ago

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  86Jasindy

  one year ago

  It must be so frustrating for you. The opposite end of single women that get harassed. I'm impressed by the time and effort you put into that post, did you do it with chat, or are they your thoughts in your words?

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  Apples_N_Oranges

  one year ago

  Not trying to be funny or sarcastic, just want to clarify something. Are you saying that you are annoyed because people haven’t changed their settings to block you? Our profile has - Looking for: Women, couples, FF couples. I am looking for: We are looking for a bi female for FFM and FMF. Couples with a bi female for soft swap, full swap, FF and a foursome dynamic where everyone is involved. We haven’t written anything about single guys in our profile as we assumed if they read the above, it would be obvious we are not interested in single guys. Every now and then we get a single guy contacting us and claiming to have a female FWB, so that indicates to us they understand what we are looking for/not looking for.

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  ArtsyLusttty

  one year ago

  Aww poor, poor, poor you with so much frustration. I say, what is wrong with stating "Single guys - not interested", regardless if seeking for guys listed in the profile or not". It is their personal choice of what they want write and seek for, not you. Get over it, mate. Artsy

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  Flirty2020

  one year ago

  @Tarzan So, reading between the lines, you are venting because you don’t like having your time wasted, when you read through someone’s profile and, at the very end, find the “No single guys “ disclaimer? And now you want to force others to put this disclaimer at the beginning of their profile wording and or make all sorts of changes to their profile settings simply to please you / and not waste your time by having you read through the entire profile wording? Comes across as entitled, arrogant & lazy in my opinion.

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  Blueflamingo

  one year ago

  I totally get where you are coming from and I can understand your frustration. I agree putting the sentence at the top of a looooong profile would make sense. But... from a different perspective and what I have experienced... I used to have only looking for men, because that is what I am looking for... then I went to some parties, met some amazing couples and some single women who became my friends, but because I didn't have them listed as 'looking for' they couldn't find my profile and friend me. So now I have looking for 'men, couples, women' When I get a message from a couple, I let them know I'm happy to meet at parties, but I am not currently interested in meeting couples outside of that. My profile is much shorter than this post 😅, so I would not see the need for me to add all this explanation above at the top of my profile as it is already pretty basic and open to interpretation. I do however respond to 90% of all messages I get and don't leave many hanging in the land of the unknown. Not sure if couples have listed looking for men for this same reason, but maybe some do 🤷🏼‍♀️

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  Couplefor4fun

  one year ago

  Ah but then you have those of us who are seeking single guys BUT only another bi single guy. If there is a way to filter that I would love to hear it. We don't intend to lead anyone on, but for pity's sake the description of what we are looking for is there to be read for a reason and it is very clear.

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  NeoAndTrin

  one year ago

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  RHP User

  11 months ago

  As someone with a locked profile I was nodding sagely as I read this And also a bit jelly … it takes skill to make dry instructions sound vaguely amusing 😊 I thought it was a funny post and the forums are a place to vent spleens … Anyway I think it would be great to follow this banger up with those classics “how not to read something triggering” or “how to ignore stuff you don’t agree with..” On another note … you do raise a good point because I’ve often wondered about those couple profiles that say “single men, we’ll find you” because they’re ostensibly looking for women and couples… but then there’s a gazillion validations from single dudes In fairness I’d wondered if it was some form of secret code for couples looking for dudes or something but maybe it’s just that they don’t understand what the cogs do???

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