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Just a question for you all???

August 27 2007

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i have a frnd who thinks that these sites are a joke and full of weirdos and sickos just trying to take advantage of the lonley so i sat and thort about it for a bit and could see where he is comming from and understand his point of veiw being a person who uses the internet very litle but hears a lot of horror storys on the TV about ppl who have used these sort of sites for the wrong thing (i sure you know what i mean) anyway ive explained it to him this way and i think it sort of sums it up for many ppl INTERNET Vs PUB/SOCIAL OUTINGS PUB/S.O 1 you have to dress up = time taker 2 if you have children = $$ baby sitter / on a time limit 3 travel = $$ taxi / cant drink coz driving 4 drinks = $$ to much $$ and you may be broke for the rest of the week 5 pick up = $$ buy drinks for the sex to be (if you have any luck 6 the sex to be = who said your actualy going to get any 7 the following day = hung over may have a drink driving charge and was the sex realy worth it if you got any and you only wanted a root so why are they hanging around??? INTERNET 1 dont have to go anywere 2 who cares if ya smelly ill shower b4 i go to bed 3 dont need a baby sitter 4 $$ internet connection $30 mth big deal 5 $$ site registration $30-$50 yr big deal 6 sit in the comfort of own home dont have to entertain any1 7 can talk as you please to whom ever you please how you please 8 no beating around the bush you want a root ask all they can say is no and it hasnt cost you a nite of geting them drunk and empting ya bank account 9 dont have to try and remember a name in the morning you did all the hard chasing in the comfort of your lounge and you got to know them on line already. but i guess the best thing about it all is over the net you form a sort of kinship first you know abit bout each other and may become real good mates out of it all but in a bar the person you may end up with for a 1 nite stand may be a total freak and well who knows what they may or may not do? what are your thorts ?? starrxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    I agree with this pro's and cons.. but also.. here's is ther reality of the internet option that your friend may be thinking of.. and you would find them here... 1) They are NOT what they say they are.. 2) Since no one see's their face, therefore have the courage to be an asshole 3) The difference between mental interface via chatting/mail and reality social interaction via parties and meets.. is huge.. in most cases.. 4) 99.9% of the world failed to realized the "thin blue line" aspect of internet interaction. Just because you are behind safe screen of yer monitor.. doesnt mean you will not suffer the psychological harrassment of one dickhead/bitch. 5) as with above (referring point 1 and point 4), not many pple realise that sitting behind the screen, one can be anything they desired to be.. and boost their own self ego by being incredible amazing in any apsect of life.. etc etc etc.. need i say more. thats the con.. the pro's.. well internet is great for me. Being deaf.. it is very hard to interact in social places.. Chatting is most ideal to get to know everyone as they are to me. I suppose, if you have a solid strong mind, then you are qualified to access the internet... Spartanis

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    That's b-e-autiful Starr. You hit the nail on the head and smashed the timber in the process. I hear these things from time to time too and some things I reckon you just have to let people experience for themselves. It's exhausting explaining everything to people who do everything according to convention. :/

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    ... what kind of relationship the individual is after. Here people are very honest about what they are after and this infact is classified as an adult site. But as we all know everyone have their own choice. It is hard to make a long term relationship here. The reason why I am saying that is coz a relationships based on sex is a selfish one. Mostly all relationships breaks when "selfishness" comes into the picture. Couple of friends I got from here were married and they joined as couples but after a while marriage ended. There are good number of intelligent people in here at the same time there are heaps of people who are "I dont care" types. These are the ones which I reckon your friend mentioned as weirdos and sickos. They will take advantage of lonely human beings. It is sad but lonely ones got a thing called brain on their head, use it for a minute before they get into the trap. If you want longterm from online sites, take your time to know the person , just chat for weeks let him/her type it, dont have to give even your mobile until you know he/she is someone special. About 90- 95 % people turning up in nite clubs are for a fling, I am not the one who have done the research. This is the fact that I got from few of my friends who boast about the number of girls(who are drunk) they had picked up. It is very shocking to me but men who wants to prove themselves they are males do that. I choose to avoid clubs all the time. I dont even want to be a guy who saw how men pick up drunk girls. There are a very few decent pubs. People who wants something decent goes there.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    well starrdust im not to sure which is the better way to go, i hear ya on your views and do agree with most of it tho, the interaction between you and the computer is very lonely, you can talk all you like to someone on the net but then when you meet there is absolutely no attraction or chemistry between you, let alone fine out that the person looks nothing like the pic they sent you, so all the time you spent chatting over lonely nites at home was just that and your still lonely, to find that the decription of average size is actuall huge bitch so to speak, ive done the go to the pub spend a fortune and go home a lone and sober cause you spent all ya money on the lady that appealed to you, i havent had to chew my arm off in the morning tho lol, well yet so i dont know the answer to which is better but i think you have to have a go at both avenues. tho im still single to so starrdust if you wanna coffee sometime drop me a line well happy huntin ppl

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    People I know say that I might meet a real sicko on a site like this. Hell, that's life. I met a sicko in normal life. He's my ex-husband.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    Sincerety and honesty are things you can only see ,,not read.... Text can sometimes only show you who they would like to be and not who they really are!!! I`d rather spend the money!!!!!!!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    i just wish that everyone thought like you. i had brought up the subject with a few of my mates and they automatically thing that its dirty! good too hear people using their brains for a change haha

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  • twowithnolimits

    twowithnolimits

    18 years ago

    Very succint, love it... Wanna root? ;-)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    Yep, I know I am boring with my concern for those who are disadvantaged, however a few years back at a "disability with attitude" conference, participants with disabilities brought home to me the importance of the internet for social interaction. Many of the participants had severe physical disabilities and for them, sites like these can allow them to participate as sexual human beings. Sexual expression is a fundamental human need and if people can do that though RHP and other dating sites then that's f**king fantastic in my opinion. As for sicko's and weirdos, yep you meet them at the local pub, a club, at work, anywhere and everywhere. At least here we all know we are interested in sex and we assess the risk of meeting someone based on our previous interaction with them. Starr you are right when you say we form some sort of kinship with people. This kinship often does not involve sex at all. Go well, Wild Nature

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    What a lot don't seem to get is that the average male sees nothing of the sickos and deviates, we hear about them but they don't bother us. Nothing in it for them ;). For the average male to understand where comments like that are comming from he needs to have been around or have an above "average" understanding of what is going on around him ;).

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    Then there is that guy who got picked up at Perth airport trying to leave the state after allegedly holding a woman and her daughtrer hostage for however long... she apparantly met HIM on the internet... Ive had no problems with any guys Ive met from the net (sparty doesnt count :-P)... I even met MrBundy from the net... lol guess Ive been lucky... altho I had one guy a couple years ago tell me he wouldnt leave my house til he "got what he came for" *rolls eyes* so I just texted my mate with "SOS" and he came straight over... pulled in the driveway..didnt even KNOCK just threw the door open and walked over to the poor guy who didnt know what hit him after my mate picked him up off the couch by the shirt and asked him what he was doing with his mrs..CLASSIC.. oh oops and straying from the point.. what was the point? oh... pubs vs internet... Well Ive never taken a guy home from a pub.. sooo my opinions are biased hahahha "Hell, that's life. I met a sicko in normal life. He's my ex-husband." LOL.... wildthing70... I was going to write something similar but ya beat me to it... lol... i was gonna put tosser instead of sicko tho.... bundy x x

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    Aw shucks bundy, thanks!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    i dont take much time to read the forum section but i ten to agree with Star, Bundy et al. I have met some real no hopers over the years on the net of various sites BUT on the other hand i have met and or made some terrific friends from all over the world, csome i have met in their home countries and other i just chatter to. Bundy i have met and she is a real nice lady, star i have chatted to and well she tells it like it is, to those i not met yet i guesso ne day i may have the pleasure. I think we all need a place to relax chatter and if the coins fall the right wya well..... if not who cares, there is a option to chatter along with people and to enjoy... for the nutters cranks and sikos wee they will get theirs ,,,no one in on this site lets them get away with crap so in conclusion Happy chatting and what ever comes your way

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    Well i see it as the net that wins these days, cause you can pick the people you want to talk to, and when you feel comfortable with them then you can meet them, with the pub. It's more of a drama, it can take you or them longer to make a move as you may be with friends, and no one is sure if they are with that person. just my thoughts. OH and gr8 story Bundy ;-)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    Isn't a big part of our life about the people that journey with us- Doesn't a lot of the diversity, fun and laughter of life come from the people in it. Be it for a reason, a season or a lifetime. The way I see it we meet people all the time- at work, thru friends, at the pub or online. They are all merely forums for interaction. I think both are just as valid. There are weirdos everywhere- and they don't wear a sign on their shirts saying weirdo. Who knows- you may be sitting next to one now. Actually it makes me laugh when people say there's only weirdos online or youll never meet your partner in a pub. I say to them, Well, Im online and I go to pubs as do you and neither of us are weirdos ...... As for the deception of the internet- I have met plenty of people in "real" life who lie about who they are. I think we all live with an element of fantasy. To the person who said 95% of people go out looking for a one nighter or a fling. I disagree. I think a lot of people are out there looking for a partner and if they cant find someone they like enough to keep- well, they'll find someone to keep for the night. Star in answer to your posting, I think that the internet can be great for the reasons you mentioned- I also like the fact that its not all based on looks- you have to shock-horror talk and interact and hopefully be witty and smart and whether you mean to or not- reveal a lot about yourself. In some ways the internet is more honest. I have met a few of the most amazing people Ive ever met in my life through this site here- and thats saying a lot coz I've met some pretty cool people in my life. I do think however that recently the world is becoming a worrying place, people are getting worse and worse at real interaction. People are not getting out there and socialising and meeting others as much anymore. There is talk of people bound to their homes living their lives out in a virtual world which I think is very sad. So in conclusion, you can have random conversations with beautiful strangers anywhere and who is to say the pub is better than online or vice versa. You never know who you're going to meet anywhere, anytime. Meet as many as you can - You just might have a magic moment. That's my two cents Goldy xxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    18 years ago

    i agree !. 100% ya need a balance of both. I met the person i am seeing now through an internet friend oh wow mortzilla has spell check now i can work on the full stoppie things but yeah there s a balance and frankly the rtewards ant there in an iternet side of things its very instant i ve had moe sex of a standard dateing site then rhp but at the same time i ve never felt as comfotable with people then i have with rhp

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