Just a theory on singles and swinging

There is always going to be a dispute on single men in the swinging scene. Especially with the number of single men going to swingers clubs far out weighing the number of single women and at times, couples. But some couples do want a single guy to join them rather than another couple, in just the same way that couples want single women to join them. I personally have been going to swingers clubs for about 5 years, as a couple and a single male. Am I only classed as a swinger when I’m in a relationship? If so, why? I believe a a single male must follow certain rules while at a swingers club, for example, not ask every woman he sees to have sex with him or go to a room. Just because you’ve paid to get in dosen’t mean you’re garanteed sex. Instead, talk to people and be respectful. Not to pick up but rather to get yourself known as a decent person. As a single guy, you will generally have to put in the effort as you would in any other circumstance (in some cases more) and learn to not take rejection to heart. I’d have to say the same principle applies to this site, you might be the nicest guy in the world, but the woman or couple you’re trying to meet has probably been inundated with crass messages from hundreads of single guys who don’t read profiles properly. I believe that single males do have something to give to swinging scene, and it’s up to the people running the clubs and private parties to maintain the quality and limit quantity of them. Gossy.