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Just too special OR a slap in the face!
May 23 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
He is just not that into her. Time to move on an stop making a fool of herself.
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Meeka - that is the exact thing I told her! Thankyou
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nothing complicated there at all just like women, we do not fuck people we do not want to fuck but we say your just a friend so she is just a friend she needs to build a bridge
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RHP User
13 years ago
hard work ... and not the kind that will benifit your toil ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
hard work ... and not the kind that will benifit your toil ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
there is a theory,that some men still put women into two categories,maddonnas and whores....she may just be in his eyes a 'maddonna''....pathetic really, but there ya go.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It seems like a Madonna/Whore issue he can't get past, or there's something more to the situation. He may be embarrassed about something personal, or he's not ready to face. Was she dating a friend of his previously? Or is she a close family friend? I have several girlfriends I'm not sexually attracted to, I've known them for so long they're like sisters to me.Don't see it as a slap, but do see it as a sign to move on. Also, why is she continuing to ask him for sex if he's said no?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Time to move on because while she is focusing on why this guy isn't into her she might just be missing out on the guy that is.
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captainkaos
13 years ago
Time to move on I think. Most average guys get rejected weekly. We don't get self consious (well, I don't think that we do) we move on (Neeeext) He may not be that into you but As to whether she is too special is up for conjecture. Either way, build a bridge. ( I mean that is the nicest possible way. lol.)
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
She has had sex with him in the past n they have been friends for about 4yrs now..... He just knocks her back time n time again
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe the sex wasn't that great? Or maybe her subsequent behaviour has him thinking she would become a problem if he continues to sleep with her. I mean look at her behaviour now? The man is saying No. Move on already.
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wingman2014
13 years ago
It may be that he is trying to be polite in not rejecting her out right cos he's not that into her. Or Maybe he wants her at arms length just in case he's desperate at some future stage Either way its time for her to move on- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
This guy knows he does'nt stand a chance ' and tells her so.. By being up front, he shoots himself in the foot while at the same time making her feel insecure . I see 2 big losers here.. Him for being a thoughtless wanker, and her for taking his words to heart.. Tell her he's not worth the worry and get up and get on with the more important things in life.. Jay
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wants to be with you....he will find a way. End of Story. He's not into her. Tell your friend to move on and stop making a fool of herself.
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RHP User
13 years ago
He'll want her the moment she's over him, he's either scared or she don't rock his boat!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just read they've already done it....... Add there might be something about her that's a block for him.... Smell, size, innies outties, could be anything..... Think Eddie murphy "boomerang"
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RHP User
13 years ago
sounds like the problem is hers....if he says 'no' , its doesn't matter what reason he gives...no is no...how come 'no' only works for some, when its the woman who says it? to me...hats off to him for resisting her advances... well done for being a man about it too...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes let's pull this thing to pieces and work out what he REALLY means.Um, how bout she's a special friend and confidant and he doesn't want to spoil it with sex.I mean surely you girls understand "lets just be good friends" right ?Or coming from the other direction it is unthinkable ?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm confused... There is no prerequisite to have sex with anyone or to even offer a reason for why not. So he doesn't want to have sex with her, so what? If she wants to remain friends, maybe she should start respecting the fact that he is now saying no, whether they did it in the past is neither here nor there, their relationship is on a different grounding now, apparently friends. Though I'm not sure if I'd want to be friends with her if she kept pressuring me after I'd been honest with her and said NO! No means no, no reason needs to be given. Sounds like sexual harassment on her behalf.
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RHP User
13 years ago
my reading would also be he's not interested but is trying to not to be blunt about it
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RHP User
13 years ago
In a non-offensive way, either because he's a sweetheart or because he's chicken. Either way, by continuing her behaviour she's not gaining anyone's respect, including her own. Time to move on!
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RHP User
13 years ago
That is a slap in the face :(. I've dated all sorts, from nervous, shy, geeky, alpha, mans man, class clown and one thing they all have in common is they want to have sex with you, regardless... That's how simple men are ( I mean "simple" in the most respectful way gentlemen). If a guy wants you, nothing will keep him away - oh, unless he only likes men...
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RHP User
13 years ago
...so he doesn' what to have sex with her and she's all bent out of shape because he doesn't want to have sex with her? Easy fix! Have sex with some one else! Then tell him ALL about every little detail!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'karynb' Wants to be with you....he will find a way. End of Story. He's not into her. Tell your friend to move on and stop making a fool of herself. There is a word for a man who chases a woman who is disinterested.Chump.Not sure hat theres a similar word for women, but the point is the same....... There is no point chasing what doesnt want to be caught.She should open her arms to other genuine opportunities by saying NEXT!!!!!!DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ive been there and its become a decade long friendship. It was supposed to be sex. She was hot and I wanted a taste. I get the chance to have my way and takes an emergency call. Had to drive her to her home. All family was there and I see this whole other side to her besides just a hot exotic uni class mate I wanted to get my hands on and dick in. I saw her special qualities. Made me be honest with her the next day. We've become like brother and sister now. Still get jealous others tap that fine ass but I cant see myself going there anymore. So yes it can happen- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Cheeky,if they have had sex in the past then that is a different story,he is definitely not interested in her ....she needs to move on,not even see him as a friend ,sometimes we delude ourselves into over analysing..she needs to LISTEN to what he has said....I DON'T WANT YOU....and telling her about his sexual exploits, knowing that she is interested in him,not what a genuine friend would do....he is not her friend IMO.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is there more to this than meets the eye?? What are the background triggers here?? FOXY very interesting....
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RHP User
13 years ago
In my own eyes... FOXY
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captainkaos
13 years ago
Unfortunately I am not good at telling girls that I don't want to be their boyfriend anymore. Some girls are great friends with benefits, other girls are great gf's and other girls are just good friends. There has to be a reason that the guy feels the way that he does. I have a friend atm, we started having sex and she is starting to get a bit more serious and she is starting to become a stalker. I am not looking forward to the "sex is great but i don't want to be boyfriend/girlfriend" talk. I simply don't want to be with her long term. Just something about her personality.......She doesn't have the greatest sense of humour. lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I wouldn't worry what "HE" thinks, says or do...If I were in your shoes, I would be the "friend" she needs right now...Whatever choices she does with him over time she will learn....Someone will come along who is right for her...Foxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
Foxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
You need to be more assertive and talk to her as in "Talk to her"...It upset me when I her guys say "stalking me" etc etc..when in fact that is not the case. I have some male friends who use that "excuse" to get out of "The Talk"...you know afraid of how the woman will react..It's not that scary......FOXY
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RHP User
13 years ago
Can we bash this guy any more?? The hypocrisy fucken stinks- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Alternatively ... he just fucks her when he wants, uses her to get off and shows her no respect ! ( run for cover) He's probably just trying to be a nice guy in his own way. Time for your friend to take the hint and move on .......... plenty of more fish (penis) out there .
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
I agree with all of you.... He is great friends with her husband and they go away together, share girls together....
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
ramakin - i like your packed lunch too.....
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captainkaos
13 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox'You need to be more assertive and talk to her as in "Talk to her"...It upset me when I her guys say "stalking me" etc etc..when in fact that is not the case. I have some male friends who use that "excuse" to get out of "The Talk"...you know afraid of how the woman will react..It's not that scary......FOXY I am not using that excuse to get out of the talk but its the reason for the talk. I am not imagining it. She does make excuses to just turn up at my door step.......I know that I am exagerating an itty bitty bit but it does seem that she has no other friends. lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Jesus...the guys doing the right thing...if he doesn't want to have sex with the woman........for whatever reason he chooses....he doesn't have to! she's got a problem...she's hung up on this guy...or so enamoured of herself, that she sees it as an affront that a guys says 'no'.............she really sounds like a problem type...for the friend, and for the husband.... I'd be getting the fuck outta there if she was my wife, or they were my 'friends.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
she is NOT his friend...friends don't do this shit to each other.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You can't bring a horse to waterShe needs to try and let this goHe also sounds like he is unconsciously trying to get her to dislike him, by saying about the other trists he is havingNot fair...but.....it might be his get out card to make her dislike himI feel for her...hard if tey had that before and she still wants it...but things do die off
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sometimes it just is what it is & it sounds like she is just hoping that there is more to it than there really is because she doesn't like the answer he has given her. By the sound of it, it's not going to matter what you or anybody says to her, the poor girl is going to learn the hard way & hopefully she will have a good friend like yourself there for her when she does figure it out! xx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's possible he values the friendship more than just once off sex that will turn the friendship sour when it stops. Although I'm thinking he isn't into her and if she is acting needy he will back off completely. Obviously he isn't looking for a relationship and the way your friend is acting makes it sound like she would like more than just sex or she wouldn't be placing so much energy into this. Tell her to read the book 'He's Just Not That Into You' fantastic read and funny but has a lot of truths behind it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That she's making him feel a piece of meat by pursuing him so much??- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
It just maybe that he wants and respects her friendship, having a relationship or fwb may change that, maybe he doesn't want to lose her as a friend - if he gets into an fwb or relationship then a whole different scenario.Why should she be offended? Upset (I guess she is thinking "what is wrong with me?") there may be no hidden messages, women do overcomplicate things.
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Chelle63
13 years ago
Quoting 'Lysistrata12' there is a theory,that some men still put women into two categories,maddonnas and whores....she may just be in his eyes a 'maddonna''....pathetic really, but there ya go. If he sees her as a Madonna he would not be telling her about his other sexual exploits. Sounds like it is time to move on and find someone who is worthy of her attention instead of this idiot.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Chelle63' Sounds like it is time to move on and find someone who is worthy of her attention instead of this idiot. Now why are you assuming this guy is an idiot and not worthy of her?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Dur madonna is a whore ;) Not having sex is pretty hot sometimes. Some people like to tease, some people love being teased, some people like have their egos stroked, but that would of course only be men right? ;) Some people also have negative thought patterns and the more you ask them to do something so less likely they are to do it. Try telling him you're thinking of becoming a female catholic priest and he's not young enough for you anymore. Basically though, the guys a slut/player if he won't sleep with any woman that offers it to him :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
IF A FRIEND WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU WITH NO COSQUANCES , NOSTRINGS, AND YOU SAY NO I DONTWANT TO OUR FRIENDSHIP IS MORE IMPORTANT MABE HES THINKING WITH A IDEA OF WHAT HE GETS FROM HER FRIENDSHIP , OR HE DOESNT WANT TO HURT HER FEELING BY SPEAKING HIS THOUGHTS , BUT HES HURT HER FEELINGS ANYWAY BYE TALKING TO HER ABOUT OTHERS HES SCREWING SO MY QUESS IS HES USEING HER BY OTHER MEANS AND YEAH SLAP IN FACE
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot'Did anyone contemplate.... That she's making him feel a piece of meat by pursuing him so much??- Posted from rhpmobile If the situations were reversed SirLurk, the man would still be copping most of the flack on the thread. I really don't get it, it's as simple as no means no to me and there is no doubt in my mind that a woman would be strongly supported if some guy were harrassing her for sex. Meh, one thing I am certain of is that the forums are full of double standards on a regular basis... not that you are likely to get anyone to admit to that
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RHP User
13 years ago
Why thank you ma'am. I made it myself you know! Quoting 'Cheekyarses'ramakin - i like your packed lunch too.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' she is NOT his friend...friends don't do this shit to each other. Bingo ... he IS now the husband's friend as is pointed out later in the thread. They "share" other women and he doesn't want to lump his friends wife in with the objectified "other women" when they are out fishing and reminiscing ? .. avoiding the chance of any little Freudian slips or misunderstandings.There is no such thing as "too special" unless it refers to just such a situation where other more valued relationships stand to be affected.
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RHP User
13 years ago
What Jay_Me said!
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
apparently he is emotionally connected to her, and he thinks that he will fall in love with her if he has sex with her again....
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RHP User
13 years ago
That's another whole story... and far too complicated for me lol. Please 'scuse my rant the other night. Regardless of his motives, and there are mixed messages I'd be guessing to say what I think his intentions are. So simply, to me this is sounding like a mess waiting to happen, I don't know how close the ties are and maybe it's best left as a relationship not to keep up with overall...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'submissivegalgc' Time to move on because while she is focusing on why this guy isn't into her she might just be missing out on the guy that is. Hit the nail on the head we think!!
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