Kids or no kids?

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Personally no, I don't think it's "bad" if someone has kids.  And if they think it's "unsexy", then maybe they just need more time to appreciate what you a doing for your kids (being there for them etc).  I guess too, if you are after someone who is real and true to themselves, then I believe it's important to put that out there straight away for you attract the right kind of person who will mirror you.   If you are proud Dad, why not say so.  Well done, you should be very proud of yourself!

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I think you're doing the right thing, not to mention the honest thing too. Telling people you don't have kids and then having them find out later is probably not the right way to go anyhow - this isn't the movies where the person suddenly finds you adorable for having kids when you didn't tell them everything in the first place...I think if a woman can't handle the fact that you're a single Dad and you're taking the initiative and have responsibilities - then personally mate, she aint worth the effort. If the person is really worth it, they'll understand and be able to accept your situation for what it is. I mean it isn't like you're asking them to take care of your kids or become their new mother straight off is it?MG*ps. Having zero such action is pretty much the norm for most guys on here from what it seems. Chin up, keep at it, something is bound to crack - I know that is what I'm hoping for..

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hey Gilead We come across the same issues as well, but i recon you should continue replying the way you have, either you will come across people who wont give you a second look because of them (which are people you really dont want to know anyway) or the genuine people who will try and meet around your schedule better.     PS- there is nothing wrong with a single dad if anything i recon its sexy and more reliable

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  If its something more than a casual hook up you really need to be honest about your situation, if the other person can't deal with the fact there are children involved and that they come first they are maybe not the right person for you. The majority of people our age have children so they understand where you are coming from. Just my thoughts anyway :) PS. Damn shame you're not in NSW....I love fishing :)

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  honesty is the best policy, you will find there are a lot of people on here with kids. if someone thinks its an issue that is their problem

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  just be patient you are a guy so you MIGHT get some action off rhp so to speak..   Me and my wife have 2 kids and we had the same worry but it hasn't seemed to bother any1.. i would mention your kids just be yourself.   Scott

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I dont mention first up that I am a single parent....but I dont hide it either.I figure....Im not gonna tell a person all my personal details straight up....but if things progress....then for sure I will tell them. There are definitely some people that have a bias against single parents....yet there are so many of us!!I think if someone looks like a promising prospect..then tell themIf someone is just a maybe...then dont worry about it unless they ask.Just my opinion....BJxxx

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  As someone who has majority care of two children as well, I do tend to tell people straight up becuase they are and will always be my number one priority.  I want a prospective lover to know this and be accepting of the situation rather than think that when/if I need to cancel arrangements at the last minute I am just another loser guy!  I also think that if I share this upfront and the other person can be honest enough to say, "i get it and it is cool" or "sorry, but I am too selfish and don't want anyone with kids" then it makes life so much easier for everyone.....at least you know where you stand!Lastly, being an over 40 year old guy as well, I admit that the odds are stacked against me finding that many people interested in partnering with me.....so, I will keep taking the honest approach and anyone who decides not to be interested for that reason....well, that is their loss......I know what i have to offer and am not interested in someone that is too shallow to take the chance........or make assumptions........And that, dear friends, is the word according to me!

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hey,thanks you lot.I almost feel ashamed for posing the question.My girls,whom I couldnt be any more proud,as I tell them every day,have stuck by me no matter what and Ill always stick by them no matter what!At the moment I feel as if Ive let them down thinking that way,we,re a package,But Ill get over it when I give them lots of hugs when they get back from thier scout camp Sunday.Thanks for the good avice.It confirmed what I was already thinking.thats always a good thing.Keep playin and have fun thats what its all about ,I think?   (P.S. ElleDee,I take time a month out of every yr to go fishing all over this wonderful country of ours,you just never know I might end up in Glenbrook one and just maybe Ill be able to show u some very special fishing knots Ive learnt over the years.thanks)   Cheers.

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