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Kinky vs sweet
June 24 2019
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RHP User
6 years ago
The most interesting men know how to mix those two traits seamlessly.
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RHP User
6 years ago
In think it is Earth Queen. Just the same as a man might desire a kind, caring woman outside the bedroom but when he gets her alone...
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Obi1kenietzsche
6 years ago
Absolutely both attributes can be psychologically inherent in a man (or also, as GetMePlease said, a woman). Indeed, they SHOULD be mutually inclusive if it is genuine interaction and exploration you seek. Discuss your desire(s) with your other, and you may just be surprised! By the way, I think you are off to a really good start if he is sweet, kind and caring in the first place, as those are essential qualities you should expect (and indeed require) to enable you to trust him to be “dominant” with you in any form of “submission”, be it simply word play, role play, or otherwise. Have fun EQ! 😊 xx Obi1
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Hotlipsplus0ne
6 years ago
Quoting 'Free_spirit_72'Most if not all men need encouragement in the games side of sex My partner expresses her need to be dominated openly and while it is not in my nature I luv the interaction and result it gives. I say share your desires if you care for the relationship. He will enjoy you even more!The most interesting men know how to mix those two traits seamlessly.
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
😍 That’s good to hear x
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aussian43
6 years ago
It is possible to have both in the same person. Maybe he has that side but keeps it under control for fear of freaking you out. Best option is to talk it over with him. In my case I am a dominant type, but I can't do the verbal abuse aspect. Tried a few times but it sounded too forced. More than happy to talk with my lady and try new things to get her going. Been doing things I would never Have considered a few years back!
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MrNatural77
6 years ago
I agree that the best ones have the right balance of sweet and kinky. He might need you to guide him in this. For example, whilst going down on your pussy, allow him to penetrate your backdoor with a finger. Or during spooning sex he pulls your hair, and your head pulls back with this, allowing him to devour your neck with kisses as he grinds into you. Good luck and hope you find the right balance with him.
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
I would say I’m a gentle caring sort of lover that’s my go to and the most natural Side of me ,but wow when Mrs b or another lady puts up the green light that says turn it up green light GREEN LIGHT,your good to go , a whole nother side of the excited man turns up ,and more than happy to deliver ,although my slapping ass skills need work as it’s a dead stop red light with Mrs b Mr b
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RHP User
6 years ago
Taken seriously,appreciated and shown that fact ,basically your the 'prize' the hot fun delicious reward to be enjoyed /shared...devoured even....in a nutshell I find this statement quite suitable .....You will always be treated by us using great old fashioned manners and complete total respect ....except if your behind tge closed door in our bedroom.....x
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Sawadee
6 years ago
... i would want to know whats going on inside your mind and if there was anything you like that i dont know. Like some other posters above, lm usually careful not to press the wrong buttons even though i still naturally direct my lady into diferent positions anyway. But if i knew , and there was something exciting to be had , id definately join forces ... You can only enhance your sexual pleasure by getting it out there and living the dream..
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Supernova
6 years ago
If you truly believe that "sweet, kind men" can't fuck, or have no bedroom-game, then it appears you've been seemingly brainwashed from the porn industry...or simply lack proper experience with a broad range of different men. Plenty of "sweet caring men" can dominate in the bedroom, my advice is that you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover. Not all "kind men" are weak in bed, and not all "tatted-up bad boys" are truly hardcore. Surely we've learnt this by now lol
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RHP User
6 years ago
Personally I think it is possible mix the two... The issue I see is that the intensity changes with our moods and that’s where someone’s emotional intelligence will come to play....
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
I understand where you are coming from. I worded my post badly. I didn't mean it in that way. It's not about being good or bad in bed in general. It's about my specific like. The certain specific dynamic that I like I've only come across in a couple of men I have been with and was there from the very beginning. I've never have to ask for it as such. Both those relationships were just about sex and nothing else and it existed from the very start. It just came naturally. I'm not even sure if I had to ask a man to do it and he did it to oblige me that it would then be a turn on? The turn on is being directed in a specific way so .....IDK I'm not that experienced when it comes to this, hence my post. Theres more to it than what I've talked about. I guess it just feel insecure about asking for what I want when it's a bit more degrading for want of a better word. I know that some men would feel conflicted to do it as has been stated above by another poster. Even I feel a bit conflicted asking for it. I'm this liberated person asking for something I would never accept in an un-sexual context. I don't watch porn thats related to my like. Usually too fake.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Kinky Kinky is who you are you can’t change that the sooner you tell him the better if someone want to be with you they will accept you the way you are no matter what 😊✌️
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
I have a lover who is very sweet, gentle, considerate etc outside the bedroom, where I wear the pants. However get him in the bedroom and he is full on dominate and wears the pants. I love how we have the two mix. It just works. Ms Foxy
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Sawadee
6 years ago
Understand completely... Sticking your neck out when your unsure is bound to hold you back unless of course you dont care' but thats not what im reading .. Kinks are kinks for a reason and that sometimes means stepping away from the safety of what both you and your lover are comfortable with . Personally , id rather know what my lovers kinks are so we can experiment . Unless something really odd , ld dont think any kink would put me off . Everyone has secret desires and having someone to share that with is a really nice thing ...
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RHP User
6 years ago
Can echo most of this, yes the 2 can definitely co-exist. What kink you seek is almost a specialty though, one where boundaries and comfort levels really need defining and refining as you go. If you aren’t cautious there is real possibility of causing long term trauma. As someone who frequently does kink play, consensual verbal abuse during play is one of only a few things I will not do myself out of concern of the risk of actually hurting someone. Good communication is critical, be thorough, be safe.
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
Elrick Good point. But tonight I found out he’s not keen on BJ’s because he thinks they make women seem demeaned. So I think I’ll be keeping the kink to myself now 😆
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Samnite
6 years ago
Yes I definitely think it is possible to have a mix of both. However, finding a good mix that you want depends on numerous factors. These factors include; your moods, each person's kinks and experiences, each person's personality, what each of you want from that particular play session, the connection between each person, your emotional intelligence, the respect you have for each other just to name a few things. Sometimes things just click with a relative stranger and sometimes it takes time to get to know each other. Never the less, the key is communication. It is important that you ask for what you want and talk about it. Sometimes it simply amazes me that we allow each other to physically touch us in the most intimate way and to exchange various bodily fluids and yet we become embarrassed to ask for and to discuss what we truly desire kink wise.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
I liked your post because I totally agree. Especially this, "It is important that you ask for what you want and talk about it." 👍👏 Ms Foxy
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Sometimes, the man might have insecurities as well as the person asking. Not just about the kink specificially, but the whole relationship. Often he values it quite highly but underneath can be very scared of doing anything to upset you or the balance of the relationship, even if you have freely and openly asked for something new. The man might be used to having situations where a wonderful relationship with a lovely partner can all disappear seemingly overnight from perhaps something out of his control, or just any one tiny thing said or done wrong on his part, that he will not risk something out of what he knows to be safe and secure. Yes, one is of course not supposed to feel insecure, and it is not always the other person's role to keep trying to overcome that, but the doubts about taking part in a new kink or exploring a new part of each other, can be mainly a risk aversion strategy. This can be true even if he was perfectly fine with the actual kink itself. In this case, sometimes, the dynamic of a different way of talking to each other could be bought out by a type of role play, where you imagine yourself (and/or dress) as new characters and thus the play becomes literally acting, and the man might be able to attribute more abusive or dominant words to his character and not to himself, if that makes sense? At least, it can be a way to see if it starts to come more natural or not, and that the original persons, including you, are seperate and ultimately unharmed. Not sure, just my take and a suggestion and I'm certainly inexperienced in something like this.
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
Well said CT and Sam I want to comment more but replying on app sucks balls. Wish it was more user friendly .
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wildcrazyloving
6 years ago
The protector and the nurturer combination sounds instinctual.
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