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Knowing what you want Do you know?
August 02 2019
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
Great topic ITM2. I'm in a similar state of flux myself. Following😊
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Tommy777789
6 years ago
Sorry but this comment is about you. Nice photo in the bikini
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RHP User
6 years ago
For most part I'm pretty stable with work, family, friends and social life. I travel overseas solo and very independent after being divorced 8yrs. I'm used to being tbe 3rd wheel with friends that are couples. In no hurry to get into a relationship unless over a period of time I can see it would work for both. But tired of the same old messages from people who have no idea how to create a connection without using stories of how they want to do me. Great sexual connection comes from making a effort in getting to know each other. Im not a free sex chat line and men need to stop thinking like they are a dish that i want uber eats to deliver hot and fast.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Y_O_L_O_1' Sorry but this comment is about you. Nice photo in the bikini What do you mean? That sounded a little rude
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_silk' For most part I'm pretty stable with work, family, friends and social life. I travel overseas solo and very independent after being divorced 8yrs. I'm used to being tbe 3rd wheel with friends that are couples. In no hurry to get into a relationship unless over a period of time I can see it would work for both. But tired of the same old messages from people who have no idea how to create a connection without using stories of how they want to do me. Great sexual connection comes from making a effort in getting to know each other. Im not a free sex chat line and men need to stop thinking like they are a dish that i want uber eats to deliver hot and fast. That's kind of where I'm at. Divorced now for about 4 yrs I think? But also over trying to get decent conversation or any conversation out of some. I'm thinking maybe a poly arrangement might suit me better but that would take some time and luck to establish. I know for sure I don't want a proper relationship but would like more concentrated time with one person to develop deeper feelings without the picket fence. Either poly or a decent fwb or 2 lol I don't know. I'm not in a rush so will float along I guess and see what happens
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
I've become like you touch. Jaded from the minimalistic attempts to get into my pants. Certainly not after a relationship with male or female. But a FB or FWB arrangement would be ideal. I find most women want more and most men want less. Men just want to loosen their load, disappear for several months and then want another session like the last 1 was last week. Too hard to get a suitable connection going to make sex a bit more than a dick in a hole. So I've become impulsive. Ie, l shy away from planning too far in advance but when a suitable suitor stumbles into my message box l may suddenly go for it if my hormones are aligned in formation. Then l know what l want........
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think we become less patient and less tolerant of accepting people into our lives as we get older?...maybe after a failed long term marriage or relationship we prefer our own company more and don't have the energy to develop a relationship over the long-term like we did in our 20s, we find new avenues in life like travelling overseas solo without the drama of a partner more self fullfilling as we hit our mid 40s or maybe developing a new business of some type, new hobbies etc.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I'm 5 years into being single and for the most of it I'm loving my freedom and being me again after being in a very long relationship. However I too am over being thought of as just being a fun time in the bedroom. I clearly attract the wrong type as no one I know wants even a fwb. I just want someone to share everyday things, someone who is on the same page. Everyone around me is getting into a relationship and I love that that is making them happy. I don't want marriage or even to live together but only to connect with someone physically and emotionally. Enough of the pity party for one lol
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
Yes I know what I want. Not sure it will happen though
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Diamondcut12' I think we become less patient and less tolerant of accepting people into our lives as we get older?...maybe after a failed long term marriage or relationship we prefer our own company more and don't have the energy to develop a relationship over the long-term like we did in our 20s, we find new avenues in life like travelling overseas solo without the drama of a partner more self fullfilling as we hit our mid 40s or maybe developing a new business of some type, new hobbies etc. It's really interesting to hear from a male perspective. That's how I imagined many men would feel, and women too but not quite the same. Annie made a good point, women want more and men want less. An imbalance but that's why this lifestyle is so exciting because it opens up other possibilities which might suit both
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RHP User
6 years ago
Here here Mr Diamond. I just am not open to a relationship. Apparently women live longer anyway if they don't have a husband/ partner. Travelling and adventures and living outside of my comfort zone is what keeps me invigorated and vital.
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Mask_007
6 years ago
Hi I_touch, extremely nice post Gatissima... I am is the same situation, and possibly looking for someone to share but not be around 27/7. Just friends with extras. Someone to share time but not all the time.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Do you wanna share?
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Samnite
6 years ago
I think what I am looking for is outlined quite clearly in my profile. I am in a transition period in my life and trying to work on a few things to make my life better. However, as a man, I can say that I definitely do not want anonymous meaningless sex and I am very open to experimenting with the right person. I can also say that, as a man, I am not afraid of feelings and that just because feelings may develop does not mean that the relationship must necessarily head towards marriage or even develop beyond that FWB stage. It's all about communication and respect.
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RHP User
6 years ago
What I have now.I am fortunate in that I can please myself as to how I spend my time.I am no longer looking for someone to share my life with but if I tripped over someone I would be open to something..there are afterall many different permutations of relationships.I do know however that full on coupledom is not for me.Pity the man next door is not more attractive.:) Hugs Q
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RHP User
6 years ago
I have a new neighbour 😍 omg nuff said
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RHP User
6 years ago
People say I'm no good and crazy as a loon 'Cause I get stoned in the morning And get drunk in the afternoon Kinda like my old blue tick hound I like to lay around in the shade And I ain't got no money but I damn sure got it made'Cause I ain't asking nobody for nothin' If I cant get it on my own If you don't like the way I'm livin' You just leave this long-haired country boy alone.....this.
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
All I want is a woman I see as attractive and sexy that likes an adventurous sex life and wants a relationship or to be friends and have regular sex like we are in a relationship. And have fun. Seems impossible to find though 🤷♂️
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RHP User
6 years ago
Can totally relate to this.... I crave the connection and bond with a partner but I don't want the hassle. I really want to feel safe and secure with a man, knowing he's got my back no matter what... But can't seem to find someone like that around my age. I've always gravitated towards older men (ex was 16 yrs older) maybe an older young at heart man would be nice. We'll see what happens.... Happy being alone for now 😊
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curiousgirl35
6 years ago
I (f) am searching for connection. Id love a female fwb that is a bff, how awesome would that be!!? I think that is why its so hard on rhp as it seems to only be guys that chat or the chat stops not long after "whats your fantasies". Where are the Bi/curious women who want something more than just sex? Xxx
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
Yup ,we know what we want ,but whatever runs this universe can somewhat be an asshole and just likes to screw with us right place wrong time ,and when we are at the right timeouts the wrong place with the universe laughing haha not tonight fuckers and throws another curve ball 🤬😂🤬😂 Mr b
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Y_O_L_O_1' Sorry but this comment is about you. Nice photo in the bikini I have to agree with this ITM, 50 characters in to your question you made it about you.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Enough with the hate. For the record, I don't like you either. I find you boring, but I don't stalk you around the forum. Get over it mate. Every forum topic generates from our thoughts, experiences or reflections and you know it. You made this personal. Get a life
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RHP User
6 years ago
Weren't you the one who accused me of having multiple profiles? I have one. How many do you have? What's the matter petal, things a little slow?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Attacking the op on a very respectful topic, and clearly one that interests some people, is not acceptable. Any further personal attacks will be reported and removed. Play nice. No need to make personal attacks. If you don't like me, why waste your precious time talking to me? Speaks volumes about you and your pathetic lives
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RHP User
6 years ago
To everyone who has responded on the topic. I appreciate that and reading with interest 😘
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Add, beautiful lover/s and minus the neighbour, as mine is quite lovely and very pleasing on the eyes. The only thing I want now is to tick a few things on my fuckit list. I'm very happy so far, how everything is going. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Good question!!! I’d like companionship. Someone I feel safe with. Someone I can share and experience my fantasies with but can also hang out silently in parallel (non sexual) play. Not be in each other’s pockets constantly, but wanting to see and be with one another. Curious about one another and thinks deeply. Ideally, this person has fabulous values who’d make me want to be a better person. It is tricky to find...
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
Dont worry bout the haters I Touch ,it’s nice to have you back and have some input and new Topics around here , keeping the older ones ticking over ,whether we agree or not on all things any discussion is a good discussion if it helps someone’s light bulb flick to on , Mr b
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RHP User
6 years ago
We would love a couple we could explore many wonderful things with.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Great post ITM. For me Id love to find someone to have an open relationship (can see the eye rolls now). Someone to be madly in love with but also someone who loves adventurous sex who is free to have sex or any type of relationship with whomever she wants as well. We don't own each other and there is no petty jealousy or projecting of insecurities onto each other. Rather we enjoy and encourage the kaleidoscope of people that come onto and move out of our lives. Being a single guy who until recently lacked a lot of self confidence when it came to women and social settings I have a huge bucket list I want to tick things off. Kind of hppe to do that and find someone to be with. I think my chances are pretty slim to be honest.
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RHP User
6 years ago
For me, I feel a bit lost and I don’t know what I’m looking for to be honest. I’ve had previous relationships which ended on good terms and all, but they have put me off the stuff that comes along with them. I believe I’m a very independent person and I think my previous partners have found this off putting (?) I feel like I’m perhaps more sensitive and emotionally connected person ( if that makes sense ) then most men. I really do love ( and I think need ) the emotional connection to be there when I’m with someone. I think a lot of guys find sex as some sort of release and then they can go about their day but I think it’s far more enjoyable when there is a connection between two people
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hi 😁 My eyes weren't rolling. That's exactly what I would like, was hoping to find, but like you, think the chances are pretty slim for me too. I always thought (through my life) that men in general were always wanting more than a vanilla or traditional relationship could offer. But when I opened up about that to a guy I was seeing in RL, he backed off really fast and later said vanilla monogamous was all he wanted. Fair enough, it was all completely alien to him, but I'm surprised more men and women aren't turned on by it. I've posted similar comments to yours before and would still love that. The only thing is I don't think I could do the live together thing, not at this stage anyway. I agree we don't own other people and U couldn't work with having to get approval from my partner either. It would be more a report when I got home 😉
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
My response would be the same as in the topic: https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/What-do-you-want-in-your-relationship-59569 I've found some wonderful special connections that mean very much to me even though they are not my long term ideal which is a regular girlfriend which may lead to a live-in relationship. I realise a live-in partnership is not everyone's taste at any one moment in their life, although many things such as buying a house etc are a lot more challenging (if possible) while flying solo although you might have more personal freedom. As for the original comments on intimacy etc, I feel quite connected to someone after literally sleeping with them and/or spending long moments with them, so someone that can do overnighters is a must for me. Which then comes back to the fact I have a dog, which anecdotally is said to help you meet people, but in this case it just limits it to fellow dog lovers AND those who can host a dog as well as a human in their place as well as mine. I'm not putting him in a kennel every time I want to catch up... So I only have a few tick boxes, and while it is said that a man is attractive who "knows what he wants", it doesn't help if that want is unlikely to be found or to be very lucky, so now, I just try to make special connections as they come.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I touch, the main problem I see is society and all its insecurities has condition us to be with one person only. There is still reactions of digust when you bring it up with some people. Most you talk to can't seperate love and sex/lusr. I get it. Its only till recently that I couldn't either. Having done a huge amount of work on myself and figuring out what makes me tick I know I can exist in a relationship that is compketely open. Takes two to tango though.
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