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Ladies!!! AND Men!!!
May 19 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
I much prefer honest and open interactions. Transparency is important to me, mostly because that's who I am, but also because I value people and I'm mindful of their experiences too. I'm not into games.....unless both parties have consented!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
What exactly do you mean by that? You mean not letting people you are dating know that they are not the only one? I just have issues when someone, well men, make out that the woman is special to them and imply that they have feelings when in fact they are seeing other women. :-/
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RHP User
13 years ago
its dishonest and deceptive to 'play' anyone, male or female... what does it mean? 'used' comes to mind.
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RHP User
13 years ago
are you talking about "play" as in dress up or play with emotional intent? Is the person "playing" if they are seeing two people and they both know? Is "play" an excuse for bad behaviour? I would think "play" with some one is if you have intent to make the other person to bond to you and have no real intent to reciprocate. And no I don't approve of "play" in that context. Mike
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RHP User
13 years ago
In a Christmas recital when I was five. I think I was pretty good at it too.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Are we talking about being a player or playing head games? This topic came up while having a conversation with a FWB a few days ago. We both agreed I never play games like that and neither does he. I'm not into head fucks.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is it a cynical person with a total disregard for the feelings of others? Or is it a person who just enjoys sex with lots of different people? If the later, then what is wrong with that? But I think ''to be played'' means to be tricked or fooled...that is not ok.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have a few men on the go at once because I can. Sure I am into them though I am not going to form any kind of emotional attachment to them. They are just fucks. I also have a few on back up with emails and the like for when one drops out of the game lol . Which one did recently because he wanted more. (Like exclusive...ewww) Does this make me a "Player" ??They do all know my lifestyle by the way. I always make it clear from the beginning I am just in it for the intimacy...I can't say just sex as that is not true. ..and then there is the randoms now and again. You know make contact one day and fuck the next. Then forget there name..... you know it's alzheimers..RIGHT! I still remember the Texan from last night though hehehe. ~An American FIFO ~ can only happen in Karratha lol .
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RHP User
13 years ago
but you all new that right Oh I miss the grammar police.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit'but you all new that right Oh I miss the grammar police. Couldn't help myself lol. . I read your post with interest...How do they cope with your lifestyle? I find that when I try to find a new FB they can't handle the fact that I already have one and have had him for about a year and a half now! Why is it ok for men to have a few on the go but not for women to do the same? You are very lucky to have guys accept that they are not the only one...send them to Melbourne!! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
If they know your life style that isn't deceiving them. Men do it all the time and I reckon women can do it too. Most of us aren't we? If you are not exclusive you are still talking to others and probably seeing others. Yep! It's the new lifestyle. Love it. Funny, I was talking to a vanilla friend who has some weird ideas. I told her all men are players unless they tell you otherwise you assume that they see others or are on the look out for others. All is fair when you are not exclusive right? She then asked me am I a player. I was shocked but I guess in a way she is right. Although I tell my regular lover everything because otherwise I feel like I am being unfaithful. Bloody hilarious considering the circumstances. Mind you he always wants to come along on my dates when I am meeting cute men.... To steal them from me no doubt. He calls me cockbait. LMAO!
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RHP User
13 years ago
In the "old days" we called it casual dating right? People would say that they were casual dating a few men but there wasn't this stigma attached to it was there? That's a question by the way... Did people think badly of this? Or is saying you are dating someone some how difference to having a fuck buddy or a friends with benefits?
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RHP User
13 years ago
No idea - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
you know what you want and you don't play head games. Being a player is open to interpretation. Some may call me a player as I do become quite close to my "friends", we develop a mateship and chat about our rooting adventures when we are together. One of my "friends" I have known for 2 years - he was my first dirty boy I met after my marriage split - the one who nurtured me fo a while with tenderness and fucking amazing sex lol. I had never really heard much about squirting till I met him....We will be friends for years to come and no one will take that away from me. I don't tell my "friends" everything as I have no need to feel unfaithful. It is their choice to hook up with me and they know the terms of agreement. Guess that may make me selfish as well...hmmm The old days Meeks....yeah it was called casual dating though in the old days, I don't think you had sex with every one you met. Or even pondered the idea you are going to fuck them regardless lol .... I know I didn't. how times have changed lol.... Or is it just the Nawty Forties lol Funloving..I think it is OK for woman to have a few on the go these days just as men do. I have never been chastised for such behaviour by men, infact many commend me that I can just fuck and remain unattached......ALTHOUGH I have by woman!!!! Yes woman from RHP have called me a slut etc behind my back... So remember ladies do not gossip and if you have an issue that I may cut your grass...get over it. You ladies do not own the men on RHP and I do share or at least hand them back to the sand pit.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That's right I don't tell my friends everything. Only my special friends get to hear more. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
That's right I don't tell my friends everything. Only my special friends get to hear more. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
"Inspirit" what I can hear you questioning your self.Are you happy with what you do or you think it is "bad"When you are ok with what you do, because as you said, you are open and honest to all the men you encounter, then that's fine.But when you are uneasy about it, then maybe you have to change it.I like honesty then you know what to expect, I don't like the player's. However there will always be players on both sides and sometimes we just fall in the trap.
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sweetgem
13 years ago
In your case :-) since you have already made yourself clear about what you want and the men still agreed, then it means that they understand and can accept your decision/choice. If any of them starts stirring anything up, then you know it's time to say goodbye to the man :-) The word "play" has negative meaning to me, but that only applies when one is not being honest and upfront with their lover(s) about what he/she wants, in which case their lovers are being played. But not in your case :-) Lucky you that you have some NSA lovers :-) I am still hunting for one and it looks like it's not gonna happen any time soon lol- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I posted asking what a player was in the WA forums years ago. Since then I've formed my own opinion which may not agree with the general consensus.I consider a player to be someone who plays people, 'fishing' to reel them in any way they can. Putting out bait to suit the circumstances, throwing the catch back in when they're done with it. They don't really want a meal out of that fish, just the satisfaction of the catch. I can't see any problem with people having one or many playmates as long as the playmate/s are all playing the same game on equal ground.Very simplistic and only my opinion.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit'I have a few men on the go at once because I can. Sure I am into them though I am not going to form any kind of emotional attachment to them. They are just fucks. I also have a few on back up with emails and the like for when one drops out of the game lol . Which one did recently because he wanted more. (Like exclusive...ewww) Does this make me a "Player" ??They do all know my lifestyle by the way. I always make it clear from the beginning I am just in it for the intimacy...I can't say just sex as that is not true. ..and then there is the randoms now and again. You know make contact one day and fuck the next. Then forget there name..... you know it's alzheimers..RIGHT! I still remember the Texan from last night though hehehe. ~An American FIFO ~ can only happen in Karratha lol . I think its only fair I get your thow aways. but I am exactly the same as you, and I make it very very clear that its just sex for me,but sex in a nice intimate raunchy rock the bed, speaking in tongues kinda way. though I do let the good ones do sleepovers with me and a girlfriend. well I lie, sleep overs for a couple of hours so the neigbours dont see, but some of those tradie cars that come and go, they must think the renovations are never going to end... mmmy usa, on rhp, fifo..mmmmm Its game fishing aint it? catch and release but to do it in a way that hurts people is not on...I never tell a lie to get into a guys pants and I never believe a lie to get into mine
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am happy with my life style though I do discard the randoms like a piece of meat. ( I know I know it is not nice and all you men may strike me down and you ladies who love to stick up for men... come eat me :P ) Such as last night for arguement sake. I did play to his whistles so I could get a fuck out of him. You know one for the belt hehehe I guess I am questioning the random scene. Am I a player. Looks like it??
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RHP User
13 years ago
I do like catch and release, it's kinda a hobby of mine, I do like to make meal of them though. When I was in Perth last the fishing was quite good. They were this ------------------------------- big lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nothing wrong with the catch and release method by any means as long as all involved are in on the method, I'm sure you get what I mean LOL. Bet you got a lot of fishing 'tails' to tell about!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't think what you are describing is playing men.... For me, the definition of playing is when you mislead someone.....sounds to me like you are pretty upfront about what you are looking for. I'd be suprised if the guys involved thought they were in the "36 easy monthly installments" line! Personally i think the difference between playing and not is in the transparency.If you are having open and honest communication about your intentions, that's not playing.......regardless of how many men might be involved.
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RHP User
13 years ago
if i was seeing someone....casually, whatever....and I discovered she was 'playing the field', and hadn't been decent enough to share this with me, i'd walk away. simple respect is needed in these situations, and the adult thing to do is to share information like this.... not allowing someone the option of 'choice', is a pretty selfish attitude to have.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Playing the attraction game, and playing with people's minds and emotions are two very different things. We all live to play with others... the game of attraction, seduction, sexuality.... and we expect others to know how to play along too... .... but nobody likes to feel that they've been part of some Machiavellian puppetry... or "played". The difference is simply a case of defining boundaries, and outlining and managing expectations... and having empathy to see the other persons side of what is happening. DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Must be honest and open and in return you will receive the samw
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