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Ladies: guys who dislike oral?

February 17 2011

Ok so I posted this topic in the men's forum, and now I'm opening it up to the females of RHP for their wisdom and advice.Truth be told, I don't enjoy oral sex. I can't quite tell whether I'm too sensitive, or not sensitive enough downstairs, but I know that I have never had an orgasm, or even come close (pun again), from oral sex.Don't get me wrong, the act is a beautiful thing, and a turn on to watch. But physically, it just feels awkward. The feeling of a tongue on the head of my penis is just...uncomfortable (not exactly accurate, but the closest description I can come to). It makes me squirm, but not in a good way. There is no pleasure from it, I just squirm or jolt. Seems like overly sensitive right?But at other times, if a girl doesn't strip the head of my penis with a rough tongue, and just focus' on sucking etc, I still don't particularly feel anything. Yes, I do feel a wet and warm mouth, yes I feel the difference when she gets it in her throat. But I don't experience some sort of euphoria or pleasure. Yes it feels slightly nicer than masturbation, but nowhere near as nice as sex...Some useful help was provided by Stalky, about the fact that uncut guys can be sensitive due to the lack of exposure of their penis to chaffing and the elements. I fit into this category, so I think perhaps the lack of exposure certainly has some influence on my sensitivity (not so much to the touch of say a hand, or even a mouth, but to the coarse surface of a tongue/taste buds). I guess I personally feel it is a predicament because sometimes it is very hard to participate and please others because of the sensitivity.The example I gave to the guys was: my first MMF 3-way. When I was not the one behind the female, I was usually in the position of receiving head, whether from girl or guy. This made it somewhat difficult, in that my sensitivity made me repeatedly stop in my efforts to please someone else, because I would jolt and squirm, and it was easy to tell I was not enjoying it. It was a good night, but I felt like I probably made it less enjoyable for our lady friend, and even my guy friend.I've essentially come to the conclusion that I should focus on being a 'giver' and derive as much pride and enjoyment from that as I can.So my question(s) to all you lovely female RHP'ers:How do you feel about a guy who doesn't like oral sex/have you had any experiences in this?Do you feel like it limits you in a way? (I had a female tell me that she couldn't use half her techniques because they all involved oral)If a guy doesn't like oral, what would you suggest are ways he can compensate to help increase enjoyment for the both of you?-K

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RHP User

15 years ago

it has to be said....if i couldnt suck it id kick you out and not invite you back thats too weird for me....i cant even get my head round it roxxy

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15 years ago

I have never come across this at all....ever....mostly you get guys sensitive AFTER they cum...and then they squirm and pull away lol! But, never while giving a guy oral...What a dilemma! My advice is maybe if she licks and teases the shaft of your cock and licks and sucks on your balls whilst using her hand around the head of your cock? < How do you go with tit fucking and her just teasing the head with her tongue? < All I have sorry. xFunlovingx

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RHP User

15 years ago

It could very well be that you have not received any decent head jobs! Or it just might not feel good for you everyone is different.. I personally never cum from oral I don't think I am sensitive enough down there don't get me wrong I still like to watch a guy do it but he must do it along with fingering otherwise I would be thinking to myself hurry up already ha ha so no I don't think ur weird it's just ur thing

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15 years ago

Quoting 'xFunlovingx' I have never come across this at all....ever....mostly you get guys sensitive AFTER they cum...and then they squirm and pull away lol! But, never while giving a guy oral...What a dilemma! My advice is maybe if she licks and teases the shaft of your cock and licks and sucks on your balls whilst using her hand around the head of your cock? < How do you go with tit fucking and her just teasing the head with her tongue? < All I have sorry. xFunlovingx No need to apologise xFunlovingx! Any opinion/advice is better than none!It's unfortunate that I don't even get to the cumming part before I get sensitive!To answer your last two Q's. I haven't really experienced tit-fucking. None of my partners have been particularly developed in that area, so it's still on the 'to do' list. And I'd assume that if I were doing that and she were using her tongue on the head...I would squirm.I guess as missopenminded says, maybe it's just my thing, not being able to stand oral. @TassieRose - awww I guess not all the boys get to have fun - K

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RHP User

15 years ago

Firstly is this the only thing you have that squirmy feeling from?. . . Does anything else make you feel 'ooky' eg: some people cant touch cotton balls, or sponges. Do you freak out if someone touches certain areas on your body, say back of your arms or ears or face? . . It sounds as though you need to desensitize to some degree. Its not that unusual a thing, many people have to go for therapy of some sort, to calm down certain areas. Unfortunately though it means you have to have that area touched over and over again. . . The most common form used for senstive peeps is "Brushing" lol not with a hair brush, but with hands constantly moving in a brushing motion. . . If its just your dick and a rough tongue, then Im stuffed if I know LMAO You dont seem to even enjoy if its not on your head with a tongue, hmmmm it really sounds like you have some sort of mental block thing going on there???? Ask yourself some hard, but honest questions on that one

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15 years ago

yeah im thinking the other girls are right so i guess you have to ask yourself some hard questions like dontgothere said...maybe then you will work out why this is happening or...maybe you are happy NOT getting head each to their own and if you can live without having head then thats up to you there are girls out there that dont like giving BJs...so just hunt one of them out yeah i still got nothing...sorry roxxy

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15 years ago

Quoting 'dontgothere' Firstly is this the only thing you have that squirmy feeling from?. This is pretty much the only thing I feel that squirmy from...the only other things even close would be when someone touches my sides without warning. I think that's a mix of the surprise, and the squirmy feeling. But that is all. It sounds as though you need to desensitize to some degree. Its not that unusual a thing, many people have to go for therapy of some sort, to calm down certain areas. Unfortunately though it means you have to have that area touched over and over again. The most common form used for senstive peeps is "Brushing" lol not with a hair brush, but with hands constantly moving in a brushing motion.Is it just me, and I'm not being facetious, or does the above basically sound like I have to wank alot to desensitize my penis? (in particular, the head) Ask yourself some hard, but honest questions on that one I like puns!

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RHP User

15 years ago

I have never met a man that I could not bring to orgasm during oral sex. I do understand the problem of not being circumsized and there is a special technique to be used when with a guy like this that leaves the foreskin over the head. Maybe you need to find a woman who knows how to do this well as it is a little different to normal. I have a friend in the same predicament as you but we have managed to overcome the problem for him. Failing all that...I must say it would be nice to lie back and enjoy for once with out the need for reciprocation.

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15 years ago

Quoting 'fionabee' I have never met a man that I could not bring to orgasm during oral sex. I do understand the problem of not being circumsized and there is a special technique to be used when with a guy like this that leaves the foreskin over the head. Maybe you need to find a woman who knows how to do this well as it is a little different to normal. I have a friend in the same predicament as you but we have managed to overcome the problem for him. Failing all that...I must say it would be nice to lie back and enjoy for once with out the need for reciprocation. Hopefully, without having to explain it all yourself, do you have any links to or recommendations on said special technique for overly sensitive males such as myself? I must admit it would be very useful for me when I meet a girl who wishes to sleep with me! Hopefully she wouldn't be adverse to taking advice/suggestions from me!And fionabee, I agree with your final statement. I do enjoy the few times I have been able to be a 'giver'. So I think, whether in compensation, or just out of a desire to, I might focus on being a complete giver. I'm sure when I meet a lady, she would appreciate a slow and lengthy ravishment! If it makes her happy, I don't mind getting less!

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15 years ago

so i have to say lbl that i sort of feel some sympathy but you know what,i dont mind a bj but its not really the be all end all.... hey if its a flash in the pan thing, a posh dinner, quick one round the back at a party thats fine.all in all though i prefer to be deep in it, but the preference (or lack there of) for bjs is mainly a head space thing (IMO) so if your sensitivity does not exist when your nuts guts then, i would say you need to look at how you view it in your own head space (not saying your nuts or anything) anyway its not gunna kill you (although there are some women out there that could suck you tonsils out with the bj) :)if they enjoy giving let them give and take it as a compliment :) get sum

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RHP User

15 years ago

Sorry mate it is something I developed when younger and the majority of men were not circumsized.

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15 years ago

I know it's not so rare.... and frankly I'm rarely satisfied standing around while someone gives me a blow job... to get off, I have to get into sensory overload... so at least my hands and maybe my mouth has to also be involved somehow before I get seriously turned on...... plus there's a skill in giving head to a guy with a foreskin.... I mean, the job can be approached quite differently to giving head to a cut guy.... and that's probably one of the obtacles you've faced so far.... a lack of knowledgeable expertise from the cocksucker.But a sensitive glans is no laughing matter.... I don't think you should go this way... but you can de-sensitise somewhat.... what you do ... this is going to sound a bit crass.. so hold on to your ears... what you do is... you pull your foreskin back down your shaft and sticky tape it there if you have to... then walk around all day so that your glans rubs on your clothes... it's going to fell like its burning... but hey... this technique has no doubt been performed by millions of teenagers the world over.As a point of interest, some guys have particularly sensitive nipples.... just saying that sensitivity is not uncommon, especially for younger guys.

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15 years ago

There is so much truth in the saying: "it's all in the technique". And so much untruth in the saying: "any head is good head"! It was quite rare for me to cum off a blow job...actually i could pretty much take it or leave it really. That all changed when i met my ex... We hooked up for the first time on the eve of my birthday, and I was lucky enough to wake up to THE BEST BLOW JOB OF MY LIFE the next morning (hard to beat a birthday present like that). I had gone from "gee the lamp could do with a dust" whilst getting head to "OMG OMG OMG im gonna do a back-flip and break the bloody lamp when this load lets fly"! It wasnt just one thing she did that was different, it was a whole combination of things that made up her technique...and it was all in that technique! Since then I have found that there are others with tremendous tongue-to-tockley techniques, and unlocked a hidden world of amazing blow jobs. Dont give up lip_biting_lover! Find yourself a friend that loves to give head (rule no.1 imo, he/she must love worshipping a throbbing cock, otherwise its always going to be half-arsed), talk about what works and doesnt work for you, combine that with stalkys desensitising advice and hopefully before you know it you will be getting world rocking head.

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RHP User

15 years ago

maybe your partner is not doing it right. if your partners are you age some (not all) may not be experiened or confident enough to give you oral that suits you. maybe you need more foreplay so that overall your body is able to cope with more intense sensations. maybe the threesome you described made you uncomfortable and you couldnt enjoy the experience. Not everyone is ready for everything at the same time. me, i love giving oral to a man but always spend a little time with foreplay as not everyone wants to rise to the occasion instantly :)

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RHP User

15 years ago

dealbreaker. I'll always try to change their mind tho ;)

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