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Ladies- how long before bareback is allowed?
February 22 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
Barebacking... man it's so much better. But you have to be a responsible fukr. I think it's perfectly acceptable to bareback with your #1zies and use condoms with everyone else... but go to the health clinic together and get tested first. :p.. By mathematical deduction... my answer is 2 weeks. Then there's the pregnancy question. I outed this problem 15 years ago with a vasectomy... so I made up a set of "with compliments" slips that say "the kids not mine!" Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think the responsible answer is NEVER ! Even if you get tested which I do every three months (none of the guys I'm with do!)... there is STILL a risk as testing does NOT pick up many STIs... herpes and genital warts to name two. I much prefer sex without a condom and yes I have missed the occasional one... which is VERY irresponsible of me and the guy ! I don't think I would trust anyone I'd met off rhp. I believe once we have been bitten by the taste for an assortment of lollies it will always be hard to stick to one hence I would never assume my partner is being faithful. It's not a length of time, it is about trust and communication and respect. I was sucked in once... I won't be sucked in again. xxx Miss Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
... i call it the taboo slide ... just one or two strokes... so naughty.... mmmmm. T.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Saturn, Thank you for pointing out that it's not about time it's about trust which I completely agree with. As a responsible person myself I know I'm ok but knowing how easy some people are to jump in the sack it's not safe to trust everyone is the same. And as we know condoms aren't 100% safe so we all need to get tested regularly if we're out having fun. So to ask again, what steps do yo normally take before moving past condoms? d
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RHP User
16 years ago
I hate the damn things...and to make matters worse...they taste awful, make me itchy and...I am a HUGE fan of creampie. Alternatively, I am also not a fan of sexually transmitted infections. Pregnancy is no longer an issue cos I traded my ovaries in for a nice pair of fluffy slippers. What to do, what to do?? Easy, first up, find a person you wish to shag...and they want to shag you....trip to the pathologist....results are in..both clean. Gettin warmer.... Next, you discuss the matter....yep, you are both certain you wish to shag...each other..and only each other...amen.... Ain't gunna happen so....it's back to latex allergies... f*&k it!!
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wannabyummymummy
16 years ago
I totally agree, hate the damn things and am yet to find one that feels like there isn't one (despite outrageous claims to such lol) but they are a necessary evil and as awkward and annoying as they seem definitely not as awkward as telling your husband/family that you have an STD and they may be at risk also, not a conversation i plan on having gotta say 'if it's not on it's not in' In fact i don't even engage in a chat with someone who's profile states anything other than 'always' in the safe sex category because if they have been unsafe elsewhere higher risk simple as that.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi nyc2syd,I would suggest after knowing someone and shagging them a couple of times, say within 2 weeks(?) if the decision was then made that you both would like to continue shagging each other and want to work your way to rubber free sex, then you would both go and get tested (together) and you would both get your results together (never trust ANYONE who says "Oh yeah, I don't have anything, I get tested all the time"). Then, after committing to not shagging anyone else without protection for 3 months, after that 3 months is up get tested again, then you're all ready to become fluid bonded.So, the time span from deciding condom free would be nice to going without would be 3.5 months. This is to ensure that you're both free from the really nasty stuff.The trust issue is a seperate thing.
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jandv
16 years ago
Its funny, Even though i have had a vasectomy "sometimes" I like wearing a condom with the wife as it is something different. I spose it is like sticking a ice cube in your puss before you do the deed. It feels different. LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
I dont trust any guy from here to that extent. Less mess with condoms and i wouldn't want all that foreign sperm from a casual lover!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
great now I'm scared to have sex jk. thanks everyone for the responses. it looks like as long as I'm single then rubbers it is... better safe then sorry and let's face it sex is too much fun to ruin it with irresponsibility... You make a good argument for having one partner btw!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Mynameonurlips' I hate the damn things...and to make matters worse...they taste awful, make me itchy and..........................Ain't gunna happen so....it's back to latex allergies... try Durex Avantis, they're more expensive but are non-latex. They won't have them at woolies or coles, but any chemist should have them. I had a playmate who developed a bad latex allergy, these were a godsend :-) (still not as a good as bareback, but better than nothin at all)Quoting 'Miss_Saturn' I think the responsible answer is NEVER ! Even if you get tested which I do every three months (none of the guys I'm with do!)... there is STILL a risk as testing does NOT pick up many STIs... herpes and genital warts to name two. I didn't think a condom will protect you from herpes/warts - since those are spread via tissue contact, not necessarily fluid secretions. (on re-reading your post I'm not sure you meant to imply that they did prevent it, but figured it was worth saying in case anybody was relying on a condom to protect against herpes)
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RHP User
16 years ago
A lot of swinging couples have unprotected sex with each other and their invited guests use protection. This strategy relies on trust... but succesful swinging itself also begins with trust. As for STD's.... regular checkups is the only answer. We can cure a bout of syphalis, the clap, crabs... and regular testing ensures that we do not spread that shit around. The ones that are for life, that also kill you, are the ones to worry about. HIV obviously. But it's actually difficult to catch... if you have unprotected anal sex where you are the receptive partner with a person who is hiv+, I understand that the risk is around 5 in 100, that is, if he cums inside you. If the HIV+ person is receptive the risk drops to 3 in 100. Contracting HIV through oral sex is less risky. You have to have an open wound and he has to cum in your mouth for you to have any chance of contracting it... or the HIV+ partner has to have a wound in the mouth (which is common for HIV+) and you have to have an open wound on your genitals.... not uncommon for a serial masturbater by the way. What amazes me is that in the swinging scene women invariably engage in oral sex with men and women without any protection at all. Always without protection. It will never happen to me they must think... And do these women get tested regularly.. or ever? Watch out fellas. Personally I think it is easier for guys to stay clean by simply wearing a condom for penetrative intercourse and not going down on women we do not know who are on their rags.. hehe. Hugs stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks Sydboy and to a most friendly cpl who took the time to msg me & share some most valuable info. As you both point out, not nearly as 'noice' as creampie, but at least there are options other than abstinence! Guess who is going shopping!!??
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RHP User
16 years ago
MMM well this is interestingI quite like them at times as some one else said that make thing s feel different and that is a good thingI agree with that interesting to know that ladies side of it Rob
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