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Letter To You Teenage Self
September 28 2017
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Also meant to put - Sex And Relationships, if you want to expand ..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
"If it has tits or wheels it's trouble" Seriously though, my advice will be to listen to your logical brain and your heart not your cock. Following the cock will empty your wallet and break your heart.
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RHP User
8 years ago
This really makes me quite emotional. I feel sorry for my teenage self. She was very down on herself, always thought of herself as being less than others, zero self confidence, although I tried to hide that, always wanting to be someone else, what I wasn't, and always wanting to fast forward time. She didn't appreciate life and what it had to offer, instead felt like she was a didappointment to everyone. She wanted to be thinner, more beautiful, more intelligent, sexier, she was embarrassed by her appearance and that held her back, that insecurity carried forward throughout her life. Now I'm the complete opposite. I would be very different if I were her today. I would tell her to grab life by the balls and appreciate every bloody moment. Just a quick post but probably sums up how my self doubt hurt me on so many levels, in so many areas of my life
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RHP User
8 years ago
Typo
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RHP User
8 years ago
Treat someone how you except to be treated. With heathly respect honesty will follow.
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RHP User
8 years ago
You'll at least make it to 30, it will get easier with time, you'll learn from the hard times and you will get stronger. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I_touch has so completely described my teenage self and how I was & felt, it's eerie!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
xx never too late. We have the rest of our lives now 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
That life wont turn out quite as expected.....and that's ok
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RHP User
8 years ago
I wrote a general reply, didn't talk about sex. Omg wouldn't know where to start, but a point of note. There was no internet then, without which expanding and learning about sexuality was based solely on individual encounters, which weren't memorable, for them or me, and self exploration, something I had no success with, but had I, that would have changed everything, as it has now. But I still wouldn't have been able to fully open up and let go, the world was a very different place before the internet, it was feel around in the dark and hope for the best 😄 One thing I would tell her is not to be so bloody shy or worried about what my pussy looked like. I'd tell her to spread her legs, touch/look/feel/taste/stroke/experiment/do all of that for guys to see, to love her body and embrace her sexuality, and stop judging herself
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RHP User
8 years ago
The things that happened to her as a child were not her fault and to not be ashamed of her body nor feel bad for feeling sexual. I can't truthfully say I walk my talk yet 😂 Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
To explore, experiment, try everything at least once. Not to be afraid of what others think. And lastly not to settle for what is easy and expected. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't settle down at 17 and drop all your mates for a guy. Enjoy each day as it comes. Live it up, explore sexually ( whilst being careful of course), go travelling, make more friends. Be happy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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daveWithABigD
8 years ago
On your 18th birthday go to a brothel and get it over with. Waiting to find someone that reciprocates your love will only leave you disappointed. If a woman you consider a friend doesn't want to "ruin your friendship" by dating, don't hold onto the hope that time will change her mind. Just settle for the friendship and move on. No matter how much you change yourself, mentally, physically or spiritually no one will love you until you can learn to love yourself. And by that I dont mean the type of self love you practice in private up to 5 times a day. On an unrelated note, put aside 10% of your wage/salary because one day you are going to have a mortgage & without that money you will be under the thumb of your lender until you retire. (If you're lucky) Now get your hand out of your pants and make those changes. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I would tell her (mainly 18yr old me); 1. No you're not lesbian, you just don't know how good cock feels yet so you don't get excited over it. 2. Don't sleep with your girl friends 3. Boyfriends need to fit into your life, not the other way around. 4. Stop being a bitch to your brother. 5. Send as many nudes as you want, no face though... everyone will update their shitty phones and no one you know is smart enough yet to know how to upload them to the net... Except for you. 6. Fuck that pom more often. That dick drunk feeling you get from him will eventually stop when he has to go home! Don't waste it! 7. Yes, try and fuck her.... Trust me! She wants to and you'll fucking regret it for a decade!
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tylannister
8 years ago
Were I to write a letter to my teenage self, I honestly don't think it would have helped me. I was lucky enough to have very frank and very encouraging conversations with my dad about sex when I was a teenager. I remember at one point telling him about a girl that I had a crush on, but thought was out of my league. My dad's response was simply, "Why don't you ask her out?" The response dumbfounded me. I couldn't believe that it was THAT simple. It took me another decade to realize that it COULD be that simple. The advice that I would give to my teenage self would, for better or for worse, basically be the same as the advice my dad gave me. So, I guess my letter to my teenage self would say, "Listen to your dad. He actually knows what he's talking about. (With this. Ignore him about other things like politics and religion.)"
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RHP User
8 years ago
Listen more, party more (with out so much booze) don't fall on Cols cock but his best mate. Swim out to that island starkers and have sex with Andrew. In a few short years he was dead. Relax and breathe and get your head out of your arse. Go easy on mum and dad. Be kinda to your sister she is going to be your best friend in later life. - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Quoting 'MsSexyDeviants' 5. Send as many nudes as you want, no face though... everyone will update their shitty phones and no one you know is smart enough yet to know how to upload them to the net... Except for you. This LOL. How times have changed. Had a conversation with my daughter about his the other day about her friends sending nudes with faces. Me: If you are going to do it (and we all know you probably are) NO FACE!! Be smart and don't be giving every single piece of yourself away to some random who is probably going to whip it out and show his mates at the first opportunity.
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Thanks everyone. Yes also remember feeling so insecure at that age about pretty much everything. Still thinking about this one before I put mine up.
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Seachange73
8 years ago
That describes me too as a teenager. 😢 definitely emotional. I did lack self confidence and didn't really appreciate myself as I was teased as a child for being skinny with big hair, big eyes and big pouty lips. and my older brothers were not forgiving as well. Worst was when I was got run over by a car at and left in the hospital heavily bruised, black n blue all over and broken leg and arm. After a month in the hospital, I came home and resumed school still in plaster caste. They and other school kids nicknamed me 'ugly' and 'spring roll'. 😩 I was hurt and although I fought back and ignored them, mud sticks. Only my mother stood by me and told me the story of the 'ugly duckling'. She told me to be patient as all things, like flowers, take their natural course to bloom. And then I shall have my time. She enrolled me in ballet, art classes and Kemon. She told me they arr all just white noise. So I focused on being a great student - representing my school in mathematics and spelling, my ballet - danced in the Corp De ballet in a couple of ballet concerts in our national arts centre (travel over one hour each way fr my home after school was a killer) and good with sports landing in spots in national sports competitions representing my school and winning or in the finals. these passions took my mind away from focussing on me being 'not pretty' and away from potential boy problems. I listened to my mother. My achievements boosted my self confidence and made me Fearless. Only when I got a scholarship to uni, joined several uni organisations in leadership roles and started working part-time while studying did I appreciate that I had a lot to offer and I had developed a maturity and independence that the people around me recognised and liked. I also started liking myself and dressing/grooming better. I've become a Swan. So to my teenage self, yes mom is right, it may be a sad lonely time for now but like everything, it will pass. ignore the white noise and keep busy, learn everything and work hard. Find yourself with what the world has to offer and the world will find you. Then the world is your oyster.
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Seachange73
8 years ago
Nice topic. Sorry to veer off topic. Given the background spiel, leads up to where I am. I was a late bloomer. Still a virgin pretty much until nearly the end of uni. I had many offers before that but with boys who didn't fire my imagination nor interest. I would say to young self, take your time. You are pretty and amazing
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RHP User
8 years ago
Loving ourselves. Why is it we stuggle with that when we're young? Can't expect others to love us if we don't love ourselves first. I now love seeing young people who are confident and comfortable in themselves. Good for them, it's very freeing
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RHP User
8 years ago
Get your face out of that book! You don't have to be the best. There is no such thing. Listen to your mum and go out. Tell her you love her more often and don't fight with your brother.(Ms)
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Seachange73
8 years ago
True. I think it depends on the family and social support we get as kids. Specially during our formative years. sometimes, people we care for the most, like family, can let us down badly and at such a young tender age, we are not well aware of our strength and confused with the ways of the world. Easily lost. My duty as a mother is to instill morale values, sense of adventure, to take risks, be independent sensible and sensitive into my boys. Much like my mother. And not be a follower but lead by example. My eldest is quite open wirh me about his relationships and sex. And most of all, let them know they are always loved and our home is a safe shelter for them at any time. I agree with you. I am in awe of younger generation who are much more confident and open than we were at that age. they are not as materialistic as my generation. The 80s have a lot to answer for. Lol. Happy Friday.
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RHP User
8 years ago
about being confident I was a reasonable person worthy of love, about being my self and not being so shy and insecure and thinking every one was judging me poorly, about be more relaxed and enjoying life more and not hiding my insecurities by working harder than I needed too......and there's more I could list too BUT I suspect I wouldn't have listened
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting you "Get your face out of that book! You don't have to be the best. There is no such thing. Listen to your mum and go out. Tell her you love her more often and don't fight with your brother.(Ms)" On that note, I'd tell my teenage self to get my face 'in' that book 😀
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RHP User
8 years ago
Omg send her my way! I have an awesome app that can get rid of any defining features. You need to be a head of the curve with kids now days! And I know a few tricks... But yes they will take nudes and share them. Kids have been showing each other their bits for as long as we have been human. All you can do is to teach them to be smart about who they send them too. Tell her to not shit where she eats either... Always kept me out of trouble 😂 On second thoughts... Better not give her any of my advice, hahahaha might be the reason I never want kids!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't let anyone tell you you're anything less than desirable and don't waste time on men who only want to use you. Know that your body is your temple... No one has any right to touch it or do anything to it without your express say so. No is a magic word. Lastly, know that it won't always be the same! You will find someone who respects and loves you the way you are and it will be a long, rewarding journey you will take as you continue to explore and enjoy a rich sex life with each other. PeachyPearL xo Thank you for the topic
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RHP User
8 years ago
This is a hard one. I wish I could tell my teenage self to be ok with who I am, and to give myself permission to feel pleasure and joy. I suspect, however, that if my teenage and young adult experiences with my body and sex were different my adult relationships would have played out differently too, and I quite like where I am now. So, I’ll take what I’ve got thanks. But I’m sad for what younger me had to endure to get here.
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
This could be a book. Loving it. Need more Male input. I've got a son. He's going to need a chapter as well. 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
my Dad told me something his grandmother had told him (my Dad) in respect of his Dad (her son, my Grandfather); words to the effect: "You can manage him with a length of cotton - you can gently lead and he'll follow, but if you try to push..." I had the benefit of advice from various figures. Much of it good; all of it well intentioned. However, it's important to understand and acknowledge advice from anyone at all will be shaped/coloured by their own experiences, fears, and prejudices. There may have been factors at play forming their own experience which they were not (and perhaps still are not) actually aware of. It is easily possible for people to conflate and confuse causes and effects. Of course, they also are many people willing to offer advice on matters about which they actually have no knowledge or experience at all. Be prepared to consult widely and ask critical questions. Don't be rushed into decisions. Frequently (perhaps usually), if there is pressure being exerted on you to make an urgent decision, you will find the position you're encouraged to take is not in your interest, but in the interest of those exerting the pressure. Beware the suggestion you should "give in for the sake of peace" - it may not be wise. Most everyone you'll ever meet experiences knocks to self-confidence and periods of doubt. Look to examples of people who've overcome those difficulties. Take note of what you can use and disregard those elements that don't meet with your personal circumstances or style. The more you learn (about yourself, about others and anything else you encounter), the greater the freedom and peace of mind you will enjoy. You will be able to confidently keep your own counsel.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wow...i would love to tell my teenaged self how beautiful i was (and my 20,30,40 year old self too haha!). And what I tell mt daughters now- that all the schoolyard drama and crap won't matter a fig in 5 let alone 10 years! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
1. Slip a doughnut around his penis, and slowly eat it off 2. Use your girlfriends bra to bind her hands behind her back, then cover her nipples in yummy toppings and command her twin sister to lick them off. 3. As she is riding you, pull down on her earlobes with your fingers, and pull on them to rock her forward and backward 4. Let her Blindfold you, then let her give you bitch directions - Posted from rhpmobile
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