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Lifelong learner?
May 29 2014
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JessicaRabbit
12 years ago
Monogamy doesn't work for me. In fact, relationships in general, I'm not very good at. I enjoy my freedom way too much. I've also learnt that when you're both mature adults, it is possible to remain friends after a long-term relationship breaks up. If they've been such an important part of my life, provided it ended amicably, why would I want to cut them completely out of my life just because we didn't work as a couple?Oh, and another hard lesson learnt - love ISN'T enough to keep you together.Jessxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
taught me that I lost a lot of myself while married. Everything I did was for my husband or my kids. I don't ever want that to happen again.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have taught me that I am crap at relationships xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think it depends on the relationship. My partnership with Mr turns 20 next month - from this relationship, I've learned that it's okay to be me; that it's okay to want time alone and that it's okay to want to inhale every part of him. I've leaned when to compromise, when not to compromise and how to just 'be'. But...we also have a long term 'relationship' with lovers. That relationship has taught me patience, self awareness and that I still have capacity to grow. Gawd...that all sounds a bit deep and meaningful! S'all good :-) Inadditionto (Mrs) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Taught me that I don't have any money any more... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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MissBishere
12 years ago
That I don't do well in relationships - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I try to take something away from every encounter, even if it is that I don't want to have that encounter again. But I met some amazing women who are not just sexy but intelligent and showed me new ways of thinking about life. I found I relate better to women than men. I found that I love very easily but maybe not so wisely. I found that sometimes good women love assholes and unfortunately I am not an asshole. I have learnt to love Amy Winehouse, Pedro Almodovar and traditional Chinese cuisine (no fried rice). I have learnt that 3am can be the best time for sex. I have learnt that just because I haven't done something doesn't mean I shouldn't do it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I gave a lot of things up because my ex asked me to I lived my life for her she would say jump and I would say how high gave the Army up for her worst thing I ever did my first relationship after opened my eyes to a howl new world Colombian women man they are wild I never really experienced sex until I met her also learnt how to take control of my own life again thanks to her started getting back into the things I like mountain bike riding kayaking running cross fit hiking you name it life is good now just got to find another woman
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RHP User
12 years ago
Come on!!!! Surely you've learnt good things about yourselves?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Me too Ralf!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I learnt that money does not make my world go round my family does. Don't waste opportunities and revenge is sweet but really not worth your time move on and enjoy life, love , and happiness. Ms S - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' taught me that I lost a lot of myself while married. Everything I did was for my husband or my kids. I don't ever want that to happen again. But I cant help it I so love to care for people.............My casual FWB or more FB relationships tought me so much not to be ashamed of my body to enjoy it.......to let go and make noise when I orgasm.........they helped me through some emotional and long term pain.......they satisfied that urge. It was the one relationship that against my own inner thoughts I gave into which taught ...........no undid all the good......... the one time I thought I could be that giving caring loving person I had lost..........he changed my thoughts about everything about my worth ...........changed my outlook on life.
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Throughout my relationships in life I've learnt that, relationships/a marriage/a partnership are bloody hard work and if you're not willing to put the time/effort in, than sometimes it's better to walk away. That not all people are genuine and some people are down right nasty and to trust your gut. That communication, being understanding, being honesty, having compassion, to listen with an open mind and not judge are the best tools for any relationship...... The biggest and more recent lesson I've leant is that it's ok to love yourself and put yourself first, this lesson will be passed on to your children. Then they will learn that loving yourself and putting yourself first, is not a selfish thing to but, a selfless thing to do. Because you can never truly know your worth, until you love yourself.........💋
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RHP User
12 years ago
Shells, just beautiful. Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
That every interaction you have with human beings creates a relationship- be that positive or negative... Relationships never end and are always in a continual process of development... We put labels and boundaries in them when in reality none exist. And most of the stress and drama is caused by the imaginary rules, labels and boundaries we create. Xxviolet
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' taught me that I lost a lot of myself while married. Everything I did was for my husband or my kids. I don't ever want that to happen again. Since then like Missblissbomb I too have learnt "that I could feel again and that I was likeable, loveable even". My last break up included my husband and former "bff". So I am learning about sexual and also non sexual relationships too. The most important thing I have realized to paraphrase HP "I am worth it". And I won't be used or taken for granted again.
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RHP User
12 years ago
take it all in and use wisely
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RHP User
12 years ago
That I am very comfortable with myself.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've seen what I've learnt in the comments half a dozen posters already, or more, so I won't go over old ground except to say the next RL relationship I have will be about me having the time and space to be me, rather than give give give until you're not yourself anymore. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'RunAwayJoinCircz' I learneded that you can never make someone else happy by being someone you're not.... That I'm not the marryin' breedin' type....at least not yet... And Well basically that I'm far to immature and damaged to be in a relationship, simple really.... (Be QUIET Tinkerbell...) The new meds aren't clashing with the leather Circz
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MsJonesy
12 years ago
I've learnt I am capable of great passion and friendship with both men and women. That openness, empathy and lust are parts of me I give freely, and have the right to expect in return. For the last two years the special people who have come into my life (be it fleeting or permanent) have joined me on a journey I never envisaged, and for which I will be eternally grateful. Hold my hand or hold my breast, I don't mind which, just be ready to stroll with me, bed me, and explore this wonderful world and each other.
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RHP User
12 years ago
for many of the "friendships" and "relationships" in my life they have reminded me of how I don't want to be
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'JessicaRabbit' Monogamy doesn't work for me. In fact, relationships in general, I'm not very good at. I enjoy my freedom way too much. I've also learnt that when you're both mature adults, it is possible to remain friends after a long-term relationship breaks up. If they've been such an important part of my life, provided it ended amicably, why would I want to cut them completely out of my life just because we didn't work as a couple? Oh, and another hard lesson learnt - love ISN'T enough to keep you together. Jess xx You are SO right Jess!!Glad I learned that sooner rather than later too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But must we not all grow up one day?? Qefenta, I'm with you, I've tried many times but relationships and I do not mix!! Now fb, that's a whole different story ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I learnt recently that responding to bullies gives them a sense of empowerment. Stay strong. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
of late, to very cynical. But I'm open to suggestion.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Whether it was the big marriage or any style/type of relationship since, there will always be the good, the bad, & the ugly. Now I listen to those lessons putting myself first now for the first time, but still relish giving and risking future hurt as opposed to holding my cards too close to my chest and risking missing amazing experiences. It's a tough balancing act, one I've managed well so far... I'd consider myself incredibly lucky and would put it down to more than simply 'like' attracts 'like'. More like sane open communicator attracts....
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MsJonesy
12 years ago
Quoting 'RunAwayJoinCircz' Quoting 'Lisalee69' But must we not all grow up one day?? Qefenta, I'm with you, I've tried many times but relationships and I do not mix!! Now fb, that's a whole different story ;) - Posted from rhpmobile Well depends on your definition of growing up. When the shit hits the fan I'm about as reliable as you get and will fight 'red of tooth and claw' for something or someone I truly believe in. The rest of the time I like to see the lighter side, otherwise there's no point (in my mind). To me 'growing up' isn't about losing your ability to fantasize or be silly or have fun or believe in the impossible.....or about giving up on your dreams in favour of a wife, mortgage, kids because that's what the 'responsible' people do. So much of our perceptions and beliefs Is just bullshit fed to us from the time we're able to think, I'm no anarchist but I do believe the TRUE mark of a man is someone who can think for themselves and make their own decisions in life.....and take responsibility for the consequences. If THAT"S a Grownup then I'm a Grownup. I agree Circz. Could we rewrite it, with your kind permission, to say "...TRUE mark of a man or woman..."
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MissBishere
12 years ago
This is the second post I agree with you on... What is the world coming to! 😀 Very well written young man. 👍 Missb - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
12 years ago
Quoting 'RunAwayJoinCircz' Quoting 'Missb72' This is the second post I agree with you on... What is the world coming to! 😀 Very well written young man. 👍 Missb - Posted from rhpmobile ...I grow on people... ....like a fungus.... I'm fond of fungus; some of them are quite delicious to eat ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
The most important thing relationships have taught me are.... "id rather be slapped in the face with the truth ,than kissed with a lie!" Being honest gets you further in life and helps you develop as a person.All for the good IMHO!
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Dryphuz
12 years ago
that due to past experience i will probably only meet 2 to 3 possible partners in the next 2 decades and that i will fail to get up the courage to even talk to 1 to 2 of them... but I'm a massive pessimist... Its just my pessimism has never been proven wrong...
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
to say "Thank you to each and every one of my relationships for they have opened my eyes and heart a little more" My heart is open because of them. Foxy
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