F52
Love me, love my kink.
August 09 2015
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MissBishere
10 years ago
of you knew it from the start why get involved? I really don't understand that. If it's the one thing I just after and had to have I wouldn't have entered into the relationship without having it sorted how I (we) would work that out. Was he aware, is he aware? I would be discussing how to find it elsewhere if he couldn't or wouldn't accommodate it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You don't always develop your kinks til later in life. What if you didn't even realize you had those "kinks" when you fell in love?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't know. It would depend on if the relationship outweighed my desire for that particular kink (I have one in mind). I'd certainly attempt to fulfil my desires in a way that was satisfactory to us both, but even if that wasn't an option I could be fine with it. I've given up things in the past for a boyfriend without feeling I gave up part of me, because the relationship itself was so fulfilling. All my kinks are wants, not needs, I guess that makes it easier too. If what I had with my partner didn't outweigh me wanting my kink though, I would question the relationship and if I continued to feel unsatisfied I'd have to prioritise and choose me, which could mean going my separate way.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You said from the start, in which case their would not be relationship. Maybe, if i thought there was real potential. Maybe.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
my own biggest kink, For me I have tried to have a long term relationship without them being into it. Can fool them and you can fool yourself but in the long run you need to do justice to yourself. Just depends on how reliant you are with your kink. Mine, I don't have a choice so from now on, the person I go with will have to accept me, panties and stilettos included.Annie xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
All about the importance of the kink ..if the lack of said kink is going to make you resentful and unhappy and you can't accommodate it at all..move on ..it's not fair on you or the other person xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' All my kinks are wants, not needs, I guess that makes it easier too. If what I had with my partner didn't outweigh me wanting my kink though, I would question the relationship and if I continued to feel unsatisfied I'd have to prioritise and choose me, which could mean going my separate way. I agree. There are more essential "needs" (perhaps) such as general intimacy, basic touch, friendship, connection of two like minds, having mainly shared sexual/non-sexual interests and chemistry. So I guess I would be more inclined to forgo any specific "kink" if I had basically everything else, which is much easier to achieve, as these general things are "vanilla" desires that basically everyone has to some point. But the point of meeting someone special off an adult website (if you do), is that they will understand that you have a particular kink, and would want to allow you opportunities to explore it, even if it wasn't shared. If a lady fulfilled most of my wants and needs, yet she had a major kink I was certainly not interested in, I would definately allow her to play elsewhere to gain that satisfaction. But it would also depend on how often she needed to experience that particular kink. I certainly do have a kink/fetish that I woud very much like (but not need) my partner to share. And while pretty much everyone on here (women) do like it (cum or cumplay, you could basically call this vanilla), in this case it only really becomes a rare kink/fetish when taken to further levels (more quantity [groups] or more varied/focused play) than in typical play scenarios.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If it was truly an amazing person you could see yourself spending the rest of your life with, they would be my priority. You can fantasise and masturbate about most things. At the end of the day, what use is your kink when you are old and lonely?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well said Freya totally agree. As for me I find love would well outweigh any kink
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RHP User
10 years ago
knowing what I know now about myself, if I had a kink that I couldn't live without then of course I would find someone who was either into that ..... or able to allow me to experience that outside the relationship. For me I would not put a potential female partner through me being continually resentful of her not doing, accepting or accomodating kink x, y or z. It would also be shredding for me too being with someone who rejected me when I asked to do that kink if its core to who I am and someone's sexuality. Being in an existing relationship a realising you have links is a different arguement altogether. Cheers, W - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Well ultimately I'm looking for someone who likes a wide range of different things. I'm not going to start anything with someone that doesn't have some of the same interests, or who doesn't like to explore and experiment in the bedroom. Do I need my kink all the time? No, but some of the time and as a part of our play time, yes definitely....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Any future partner will be under no obligation to kiss my ass :-/
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RHP User
10 years ago
A genuine, if not rather uninformed question; for someone who identifies as TV, surely wearing femme clothing would be considered vanilla, or at least vanilla'ish?
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Merely alluding to the fact that many of the people in here think transvestism is a kink. The partners in my long term relationships certainly thought so upon learning of it. And yes i do not personally think of it as a kink as i once lived as a transexual. For me i find it normal. Many do not. Fetish is a kink by definition-yes? Cd/ Tv is listed on this site as a fetish. And unfortunately, TS and TG is also listed as a fetish. So for the sake of the RHp indoctrine l am officially a kinky fucker. I actually feel normal. It's all you lot that are kinked maybe???
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RHP User
10 years ago
With you on that one.... Crumbs !!
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RHP User
10 years ago
And a very handsome kinky fucker at that!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Obviously doesnt tick ALL the boxes!!!
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