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MFM has anyone had uncomfortable/bad experiences.................
February 07 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
we hadone guy around who just couldn't keep his manhood up. He spent ages trying to get it working I even left the room to ease any nerves but it didnt help. It got to 5am and we had to call it quits and ask him to leave.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You will meet good and bad sojust roll with it.However the right guy might come alongand you become friends that last years.I see a couple every 3 months and have done so for 20 years..
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RHP User
12 years ago
oh no its a bit embarrasing for everyone if that happens
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erotictouch4u
12 years ago
I had one where I was the third wheel and the male of the couple did not use a condom with his lady.Did not make me want to go again for seconds.Very disrespectful in my opinion.ET xox
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RHP User
12 years ago
i wouldn't be able to get it up for a 114 yo either!!!
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luvsilver
12 years ago
Hi Rores. So far all the experiences we have had have been positive.Not sure if it has just been good luck or the fact that Mrs Luv does a very good job of selecting the right people before she meets them first of for coffee.I have nothing to do with the screening process though I usually can tell if she is going to be attracted to someone or not. Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'eagertongue4u' I had one where I was the third wheel and the male of the couple did not use a condom with his lady.Did not make me want to go again for seconds.Very disrespectful in my opinion.ET xox This is a bit of a strange one to me, we are a couple and have been for a year, we have mmf every now and then and I dont use a condom with my partner, to me the third wheel needs to wear the condom as he could be the one to introduce things into our relationship, and if we have anything he would not get it if he is wearing a condom Also I wish Chevtrek could make a comment with out letting us all know how good he imagines his sex life is ffs Durty
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RHP User
12 years ago
Dealing with people is like dealing with kids. The only difference is, that we as adults are able to articulate feelings, should have a reasonable grasp upon right and wrong, as well as respect, integrity etc. So.... Before you engage in any interaction, be it talking, fucking, or anything, be prepared to take actions - more specifically impose consequences - to those who breach what YOU expect and have communicated to be acceptable. Those consequences for me - and the consequences are likely to change from person to person - would simply be any interaction - be it verbal or physical - would cease immediately and the said perpetrator of the breach would be removed from my life like a cancerous tumour. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi Rores, in a MMF, respect towards the couple from the single guy is paramount. It is what you should be screening for. How do you do that? I would suggest a night of socializing before considering their suitability. Go out for a meal, a drink or three, a game of pool, dancing, whatever tickles your fancy. That way you can assess their character as well as build some rapport and establish a dynamic long before you get your gear off, and maybe avoid any awkward scenarios that may arise from jumping in the sack too early without actually getting to know them and how they may behave once your clothes are off. Your profile is straight forward and straight to the point. How has this been working for you so far? Because it is focused on what you are looking for sexually, I imagine it would attract every man and his dog, making the screening process more laborious and finding a suitable partner even more difficult. Also, because of your taste for hardcore, you may attract the more sexually aggressive men, which I guess is what you are after, but, as your post suggests, you are concerned that this type of person may not have the respect towards you that is necessary for keeping play within your own boundaries, which, as a couple, are yours to decide upon. Be clear with people on where the line is drawn and make sure they understand and agree what you are into and what you are not into, but, again, my advice would be firstly to try to screen them for respectfulness toward you both. Hope that helps.
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JohnAnn2227
12 years ago
Hi we have had not what we would call bad experiences but just disappointing. We also met a guy who could only keep erect for a short time (despite my best efforts), another guy who literally lasted 30 seconds and a final guy who we brought back to our hotel only to find "it" was about 5 inches long and rather thin. He was gorgeous but just didn't make much of an impact. But for every disappointment we have had some out of this world experiences. MFM is definitely worth the risks of being disappointed for us.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well said....but I think it takes more than just 1 night to establish their true integrity, respect etc. as a woman outside of RHP has recently found. But.... That's entirely different story. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Our male guest star tried to enter me from behind without protection. I quietly reminded him to wear a condom, to which he responded (under his breath) "It's only anal". I decided not to ruin the fun and he put on a condom, but it put a bit of a damper on things for me. Mr Tryst didn't find out exactly what had occurred until after our guest had left and was shocked. Suffice to say this gentleman was not invited over again. It certainly taught us to be (even) more clear about our stance on safe sex before playing with anyone. x Ms Shout
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RHP User
12 years ago
From the extra guys side: I've never had any problems with people not respecting boundaries, that stuff all seems to get covered pretty well in pre-play correspondence (in around 10 mfms). My first one was a little awkward as the male partner couldn't maintain an erection and therefore was reduced to a spectator... And we continued to have a pretty wild time. In hindsight I think he should have asked us to stop as his girl said in email after that he wasn't comfortable (although she clearly was)...So no boundaries crossed on my behalf but clearly they weren't on the same page. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I just want to say I find referring to the single man joining the Mr and Mrs as a "third wheel" not all that respectful. I like the term "guest star" though!
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erotictouch4u
12 years ago
Quoting 'Durty_Angel' This is a bit of a strange one to me, we are a couple and have been for a year, we have mmf every now and then and I dont use a condom with my partner, to me the third wheel needs to wear the condom as he could be the one to introduce things into our relationship, and if we have anything he would not get it if he is wearing a condom Don't you think this a little disrespectful of the "guest" that they have to be subjected to your male bodily fluids.It seems as though you view your guest almost like an intruder when you say they can "introduce things into your relationship". To me, safe sex means for all in the group, not just the guest.ET xox
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'eagertongue4u' I had one where I was the third wheel and the male of the couple did not use a condom with his lady.Did not make me want to go again for seconds.Very disrespectful in my opinion.ET xox Yeah - ah - NO. My lover and I had our first MMF a couple of weeks ago, he was down as optional on safe sex, but I used a condom regardless, and for exactly this reason. We don't normally, but it's just respectful to EVERYONE in the bed to all act the same way.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ShyPrincess74' Quoting 'Meander' I just want to say I find referring to the single man joining the Mr and Mrs as a "third wheel" not all that respectful. I like the term "guest star" though! I like guest star too ... or special guest! Third wheel implies they are unnecessary and not at all important. Which isn't the case at all! If they weren't there, it'd be very hard to have a threesome! I like the term "partner" - it implies a level of equality while everyone is having fun. Either that or the correct term for the role being played.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The times that we have enjoyed MFM play, we've never had an issue with the other guy.... We believe its all about screening the people you intend playing with, (go with your instincts as well) try not to dive in too fast with the guy with the hottest body and biggest package, as they can sometimes be the ones who will disappoint.
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I just want to say I find referring to the single man joining the Mr and Mrs as a "third wheel" not all that respectful. I like the term "guest star" though! I have to say, I've been called "The Fuck".... Third wheel is fairly innocuous. HugsGazpacho
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