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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I don't think it's necessarily presumptuous ... it's a fair generalisation to make based on my own experiences, both as a couple and as a single. . I certainly wouldn't make a decision to meet a couple based on having only conversed with the male of the partnership, put it that way. Infact, I'd be more likely to be influenced to meet based on my interactions with the female in most cases. . Flirty x

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  thanks flirty and Krissy, yeah it has us stumped.... we will only ever chat together and or cam together, but to date neither has happened - so we dont have msn 'on' as much these days.... as it is too one sided we feel... and true we would never meet anyone who we had only ever chatted to the guy - its gotta be both or none at all !!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I agree If the guy is doing all the talking and constantly bugging me to meet but I never see a female I'm blocking in a heartbeat.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We have found that the way to "screen" if its all the male thing is from the initial email messages. We always sign off as to who writes the message with his name or mine (miss writing this) so you get the idea if it is all the male chasing.MSN chat well we must have over 30 contacts and if we see any of them on line to chat once a week we would be lucky.I think because we ask up front who we are talking to and if it is only the male we ask to wait till the female is there they cut us short straight away. We wont chat unless both are there and will say that upfront to all couples.the true ones are out there you just have to screen closely, not reply to the pushy and hope to sort them out.So no it is not all a male thing

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We've had the same experiences. Its just the annoying waste of time that peeves us. We had one only last week where we swapped PGs and then the guy said his other half was in New York but he was happy to come and give me the time of my life.. Buggered him off quick smart...But putting the shoe on the other foot, MrJJ usually does the initial chatting here because Im not really into sitting in front of a computer for very long period's of time. He knows what I do and dont like' so he sorts that out then brings me into it once anything looks promiseing.. Besides' MrJJ has access to a computer throughout the day ' where I dont.So its not always the case, but how do you know that.? You dont, just wastes everyones time... grrrr

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I am always the one who is on chat... (MR) works days AND nights so, if people want to chat to the both of us at the same time - they seriously have a 6hr window in the middle of the night to catch us both... Prefer to be sleeping, or shagging, than on MSN. LOL... What I'm saying is... People lead busy lives, and aren't always able to 'both' be available at the same time. We have organise everything in advance, in order to organise baby sitters and time off work etc... Don't just presume they're a fake because of their circumstances. (MRS)

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  *chuckles* Ok, here is my experience. I have been on here as part of a couple, and vitually insisted that my lady at the time does her research AND communications. She ferreted out a few couples who were like minded, and we had fun. she ferreted out a few singles who were suitable, and prepared to play... so we had fun. But, we found, and I have found as a single, that in MOST situations, the MALE wants to play much more so then the FEMALE, and in many cases.. the poor wife.. IF she even exists, knows nothing about it. A very classic case has had it's conclusion in Court over east where a fella was slain after turning up at a swingers place alone, and things turned ugly. Sex trade ( and yes folks WE ARE IN IT.....) CAN be like the drug trade, in which there can be some .. well... delightful times to be had, but having to deal with the scum of the earth sometimes to find those times, can be traumatic. To some :) Getting lied to, deceived, cheated and ripped off... :) damn I REMEMBER those times.. :) I was recently contacted by a couple myself... ME... hairy old bike trash caveman. by a couple who showed GOOD photos.. young, hot, lithe, verile... damn, they looked hot... but, only the male talked, msg'd, msn'd, sent photos... of himself.... ok, I was... SORT OF chuffed, that such a hot buffed gay, Or bi lad tossed off over the thoughts of big bad me... but, he did it through the guise of a couple. - where he need not have. IF an old fart like me is subjected to it, then you good loking girls and couples better get used to it... :) I always let my lady do the chosing. WHY? because I want her to ENJOY the situation. Hell, I am a male... I can bonk anythiing she brings home for me, but SHE cant, so it is ALWAYS her choice. That is.... UNLESS she tells me to go surprise her.... but, she learned NOT to do that :) Have good times folks.. caveman x

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  N4November

  14 years ago

  When I first got into RHP world, I got asked for MSN chats all the time. It seemed to be the norm so I went along with it even though I didn't have a webcam then. I certainly encountered lots of wankers hahahah I never use MSN anymore. I'm happy to chat in the chatrooms on RHP and if they want to put their webcams on, cool. Personally, its all about the written word and the way someone communicates with me from the get-go. Prefer to chat on phone and meet sooner than later. Good luck xx

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We have a theory that those who insist girls must talk is they are primary looking for a girlie bi relationship not partner swapping being the primary reason. The Mrs will chat on phone but she insists all four talk as she is not interested in sex with the other lady she is more interested in sex with her husband! So she wants to hear from him. So we say" No" to just the girls talking all four must talk. We say no to cam unless its couple to couple all four. The Mrs will only become involved once it becomes serious and a meeting is planned and those pretenders who say they are couple and then start asking if we like MFM 3 somes are taken care off with the delete button....WTF mate take a jump! Don't think MSN is a waste of time but its not necessary a phone works better and quicker. But whilst saying that reflecting back some of our best contacts and times were with newbie couples when we were newbies experimenting and talking about for hours on MSN........think we might want to be newbies again?

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  RogueGeek

  14 years ago

  CL isn't much for chatting lots and he knows I like to get comfortable before we meet somebody. He is also on-call 24/7 and so is often to busy to chat a lot. In fact, I pretty much do all of it on RHP - chat rooms, forum posting, flirting messaging etc. We now have a few MSN contacts but they are hardly ever online, and it is frustrating because it is often easier to organise things in a more 'conversational' setting than via RHP messages.Unfortunately there was one instance where CL was interested in somebody, and I wasn't, and since I expressed that he hasn't heard back from them :( So all the stuffing around and pretending that other people do really does screw things up for the genuines.Cheers,MS(the female half)

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  Cut3Cpl3

  14 years ago

  Here is a good rule of thumb that we tend to use with MSN. MSN certainly has its place. No matter which half of the couple that you are talking to, if you ask the right questions you can generally get a good feel for what they are going to be like. Someone with a pretty random screen name, terrible/lazy spelling and grammar, and wants to just trade pics all the time is generally not someone we talk to for long. On the other hand, if they are good to chat to, and dont hit you up for pics all the time, then we are generally happy to keep the lines of communication open.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  If this is a wrong place, please forgive me. My question is what is "My Stream" section? sorry for this simple question!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  It's hard enough finding to go on RHP without being diverted to MSN when there are chat options here. What happened to phone calls anyway?We've even gone as far as to say we aren't into MSN in our profile listing. People still ask though...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  LoveLingerie: your "MY Stream" section is where RHP posts things relevant to the profile you built. For example, one you have replied to or created a forum, all the others who post onto it wil be shown in "My Stream" New people looking for a date etc who fit into the profile of the person/s you are looking for, will be shown there also. Stuf like that.. you will get the hang of it ok :) caveman.x

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We haven't experienced any of these MSN situations yet. But I guess we're only a week old and not looking for couples though!Anyway, prior to initiating any contact with people we collected onto our hot list, we established some ground rules in order to secure our feelings, privacy and security. Interestingly, this thread really coincides with our first rule!1. Only engage in the "naughty" online activities together. Whilst this is kind of sucky, 'cause T & I don't live together and our dual availability is only a few nights a week, it prevents us from getting our feelings hurt through singular actions. Furthermore, after reading this thread, it seems that this is doubly important now, 'cause I (M, the male partner) will be doing most of the website communication and I really don't want our genuineness as a couple and legit profile to be sabotaged by my temptation and my penis getting the better of me.On the subject of genuineness, we sent our verification photograph in on Wednesday evening and we're still not verified, is it normal for it to take this long?

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