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MULTIPLE LOVERS or ONE GREAT LOVER
February 26 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Unless it was completely on my terms. The one great lover would have to be available whenever i want, wouldn't be allowed to depend on me for their emotional happiness and I wouldn't be obligated to deal with any pouting from them. And let's face it, that just wouldn't happen. I'm just not able to let one person give too much of themselves to 'looking after me' and not give them my all in return so I'd rather take a little bit from a few different people. . Having a few playmates who have other playmates of their own works a treat, when I see them I give the best of myself for the time they are there because a) I'm not worn down from having to deal with the day to day stuff that comes with maintaining a traditional relationship and b) I know that I get my space back afterward so I can relax and enjoy for a while. . xx Sarah (self-confessed committophobe)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have to say that there is no reasonable possibility of me finding one lover that does all the stuff I enjoy.. or would like to enjoy... it's too much to expect... I'd have to compromise some of my pleasures for sure.... I mean to say... what kind of magnificently delicious lady has hairy armpits that smell like a front rower?.. or foreskin? Oh... and... who's cock am I going to greedily perve upon while I'm plugging away at some deliciously tight fannied little nymph? No... more than one great lover is an essential....HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
In an ideal, or perhaps idealistic, world…I would prefer one great lover over a period of time rather than the more random bed hopping and trying to keep up with the changes in attitude and changes in latitude of multiple partners simultaneously. How long that lasts…who knows, but could be anything from a month or so or even longer. Of course, a mature and well discussed, honest agreement of how or when to move on would be part of that too. That really is not all that hard…or a lot to ask, but again, just a random thought that does cross my mind. | No, I am not looking for “the one” but would prefer a somebody to an any body that I could perhaps develop a deeper sort of friendship and understanding with…and truly experience that person more completely without all the white noise of “whose next”. I am definitely not talking about one of those “you haven’t called me today” or “let’s move in together” sorts of relationships…in all things balance, and as said above not one where someone’s happiness or self-fulfilment is my responsibility. Hell I have my own to look after and of course there are business commitments and social commitments and really…not at all ready to change much of that or start trying to balance that with someone else’s lifestyle let alone change the one they have. | Too, I am also very conscientious of my own health, both mental and physical…and do make sure I am not inviting the last person I was with to join us along with the last who knows how many they may bring to the table. I have myself checked regularly and like that feeling of confidence.| That of course is an ideal idealistic view that may not be shared by many but…if it could work that way I think I would enjoy it. If not, well then… | …all I can say is next!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Multiples are fun but finding your soulmate who also happens to be a great lover is unbelievably fantastic and wonderful.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Jeez you are harsh Stalky - I told you I would grow my armpit hair for you - I mean it doesn't just grow over night, and I can roll around with a front rower till I smell of man sweat while you perve at his cock. Oooh that sounds like fun. And I am very tight - or so I have been told. (hehehehe)Just have to figure out the foreshin bit now. Is it possible to buy strapons with foreskin? (o)(o)Meeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
I would prefer just the one great lover. I dont mind if he lives separately but some overnight stays would be good. As much fun as it is having multiple partners, it gets a bit annoying trying to teach every new guy what I like. No matter how good they all are, they still need just that little bit of tweaking. Very few are gonna get it right first time. To date...only one has. I get tired of the constant need to pander to new egos all the time, the constant getting to know different people to a level whereby I feel I can be intimate with them. With the one great lover, I can dispense with all of that. The friendship could develop deeper and I find that the deeper the freindship, the greater the sex becomes anyway. Unlike Stalky I dont have very many fetishes and one person could just about satisfy them all anyway. But until I find "the one" I am more than happy to have fun and games with a select few.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have reached a stage on these crazy sites where I am totally over the fickleness of randoms. Whilst I am not some desperate after a wedding ring (really do shudder at the thought) I would love to have one great lover to share and explore sensual delights......someone who is prepared to really gets to know how my body ticks and responds and allows me the same privliges.
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RHP User
15 years ago
If my weekender didnt piss me off last night I was in a situation where I had one girl for weekends and one for through the week it was a good mix I thought
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RHP User
15 years ago
If the one great lover can act like several different lovers and never become "same old, same old" then I'd take the one great. However, as time goes by routine and boredom sets in and you need something fresh and interesting.... just as guys wouldn't be happy with "same old, same old" for years on end. Variety is what makes life & love interesting. Sweet
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RHP User
15 years ago
Just prefer one great lover!!! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Alfred_Hitchcock' theres something amiss here.... why is she asking you this.. bi-sexual..? or shes loooking at you....? maybe she wants to explore more....couples...? I think you need to ask why she questions this....maybe she not all you as much as you would like to think.,...maybe she wants to get out and have fun ...maybe shes suspicious of you..? Maybe she has a another secret lover....?? Or MAYBE just maybe she was just asking a simple question to the poor bastard, and now you're putting shit in his head..... . . Listen "Bone8", if she asks you that then there can be only 2 reasons, 2 REAL reasons i should say..... . . She either really really likes your company and only yours seems to do it for her, and she wants to know if you're ok with being her one guy she likes to have fun with or whatever the devil you 2 get up to, or maybe she trying to tell you the other side of the coin.....And simply asking if you like her enough to be with her and only her, or would you prefer to see other women aswell.....Sounds like she really likes you dude, and if she's really that nice then i say simply think about it, you may be surprized..... . . I think personally she maybe really just likes your company and hopes that you feel the same way, but who am i to say really mate, and she will know with what answer you give or gave her..... .. PLAYFULGUY.....
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RHP User
15 years ago
But he would have to be GREAT x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' With the one great lover, I can dispense with all of that. The friendship could develop deeper and I find that the deeper the freindship, the greater the sex becomes anyway. How you connect can make a hell of a difference.Oh, and just one for me, thanks.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'PlayfulGuy2011'Or MAYBE just maybe she was just asking a simple question to the poor bastard, and now you're putting shit in his head..... . . Listen "Bone8", if she asks you that then there can be only 2 reasons, 2 REAL reasons i should say..... . . She either really really likes your company and only yours seems to do it for her, and she wants to know if you're ok with being her one guy she likes to have fun with or whatever the devil you 2 get up to, or maybe she trying to tell you the other side of the coin.....And simply asking if you like her enough to be with her and only her, or would you prefer to see other women aswell.....Sounds like she really likes you dude, and if she's really that nice then i say simply think about it, you may be surprized.....Actually there's gotta be far more than two possibilities... for example... Maybe she wanted to have a conversation about her fantasies... which, like many other fantasies, the idea turns her on, but also like many other fantasiziers... she has absolutely no intention of ever acting them out for real.... just wanted to have a sexy conversation... as a form of foreplay. There's no point speculating why she asked the question... but it is a good one! A question worth asking of yourself and of your lovers. I like that a person can be so in touch.HugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Just one, JUST ONE!!!! No, can it be true? Just one? No never, not just one. Please, no, never, not just that one. But she is there, some where out there, just her, just that one. Do I just count the someones, that people are just sums. Is it but one, is it but two, three, four, or five. So what do I do when she is the one, the extra special ONE, should we remember that numbers are special, or just the number one. We all have ones. My mother is one, my father another, my brother, my sister and friends as well. How many ones can we encounter, how many ones do we need to know.So I have just one, then another, just one, another and another.. So yes just one, why count any higher, for sums are not part of our power. Just one, all just one, all one of many. I do so love the ones...
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RHP User
15 years ago
But for us, One amazing lover is all we need. When we do swing- It is just for the fun of it, we could easily live without it- It is a random part of our life, not our life. The one means a much more intimate relationship that is much more than sex could ever be.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Quoting 'PlayfulGuy2011' Or MAYBE just maybe she was just asking a simple question to the poor bastard, and now you're putting shit in his head..... . . Listen "Bone8", if she asks you that then there can be only 2 reasons, 2 REAL reasons i should say..... . . She either really really likes your company and only yours seems to do it for her, and she wants to know if you're ok with being her one guy she likes to have fun with or whatever the devil you 2 get up to, or maybe she trying to tell you the other side of the coin.....And simply asking if you like her enough to be with her and only her, or would you prefer to see other women aswell.....Sounds like she really likes you dude, and if she's really that nice then i say simply think about it, you may be surprized.....Actually there's gotta be far more than two possibilities... for example... Maybe she wanted to have a conversation about her fantasies... which, like many other fantasies, the idea turns her on, but also like many other fantasiziers... she has absolutely no intention of ever acting them out for real.... just wanted to have a sexy conversation... as a form of foreplay. There's no point speculating why she asked the question... but it is a good one! A question worth asking of yourself and of your lovers. I like that a person can be so in touch.HugsS Ofcourse Stalky, i can totally agree, but i just don't see the point in "someone" putting other ideas in his head on the bad side of things, which i'm quite sure he "Bone8" would've thought of himself without actually writing it on here..... . . So i just simply stuck to the lighter side of things, ofcourse there is more than 2 possibilties, but there are (besides sexy talk ofcourse, and fantasies) 2 main things i believe she would of asked because it does seem like she does like this bloke with the question alot..... . PLAYFULGUY.....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'GirlTuesday'If they are the one, they can do it for hours :) no instructions necessary!!!**People who don't see the value in true intimacy do not know what they are missing. If you can't be with the one you want, stay celibate (for as long as you can).Randoms come and go, but the damage they do (in terms of disease and emotional head fucks), last much longer. I've had true intimacy, I enjoyed it while I had it so I know what I'm missing but I really honestly don't miss it all that much. Staying celibate might work if you were just fucking randoms because there's one you want but can't be with, but not all promiscuous people are playing because they're unhappy. It's not all about 'one done and on to the next one' it's about just enjoying letting things just flow lightly and having a good time while it lasts, then saying 'goodbye and goodluck (and really genuinely wishing them all the best)' when things have run their course. . Plus there's no guaranteeing "the one" wouldn't be carrying a disease either. If they really are 'the one' you'd take them genital warts and all.. xx Sarah
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RHP User
15 years ago
Communication that's what it about Cheers PlayfulGuy2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Bone8'Communication that's what it about Cheers PlayfulGuy2011 It's all good dude, i thought i may have just had the right idea of what was going on, the others have their opinions, but 1 in particular was steering your thoughts in the wrong direction.....It was a simple question from an observational point i think, no need for "someone" to make it sound like a mind fuck or some secret agenda type shit..... . . But that's life, people tend to do that.....I hope all this with your "friend" works out well for you, she seems to be quite the lady, and it would be a shame to give that up, if you were maybe thinking that ofcourse which i don't think you were really, but anyway, good for you dude, and good for her, seems like she picked the right bloke from what i can tell of your personality..... . . So all i can say to this now is.....HAVE SOME SUPER CRAZY ASS FUN.... . . PLAYFULGUY.....
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RHP User
15 years ago
As one great lover? If there is such a thing I would like to try that please.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'GirlTuesday'Perhaps you misunderstood my general philosophy gorgeous curiousnewgirl, because my comments were so brief. Perhaps I should have been wearing my nanna knickers, rather than my sexy brief ones :)Celibacy is another option in life. A period of celibacy can help to get someone special out of your head and your heart. It gives you a chance to clear your head, evaluate what you really want and protects you from venturing near randoms :), particularly if that would mess with your head even further. This is probably something that applies more to females, because we tend to get emotionally attached to people. A lot of men however, are more interested in a casual random experience.You accept "the one" as they are, in their entirety. Preferably without warts though :) but maybe we could compromise - just one or two good randoms to wash away the unrequited love blues but you don't let them cum? LOL
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Letsgetcrazy09
15 years ago
One and only one......could it be that if that was the case we would be born with handcuffs, when the one come along we used the cuffs???.......................... Lucky they come with keys............hehehehe Oh, do they come with fluff or leather........... perhaps a pair of each.......then again the feel of cold hard steel............ oops, did I answer the question??????????? Lets
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Sigmalonewolf
15 years ago
i have had the one great lover experience and think it is unbeatable personally. having said that, is it achievable again? well all the planets do have to line up in a row so i guess i'll keep looking up.... :) in the mean time........ ;)
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