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Male Guests....
July 26 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Right now I have dropped back to Guest and I am pretty much here for the forums. Being a man is much more than making the first move and with the ocean of indifference here, quite a few may be just dipping their toe in to test the water before paying up. Maybe they just can't be bothered, maybe they are married and cheating or maybe they are just cheap. As you correctly pointed out, the reasons are many.An option to reduce your level of annoyance may simply be to ignore or delete all flirts and just concentrate on the messages?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am a paid member ,and have always sent mail to women being polite as that's who i am.Always get the "your not what i am looking for " reply blah blah blah !!!!!!You might find that men outnumber women 100 men to 1 woman on this site,actually realise its not worth the time or effort in contacting woman or joining this site for that reason! The numbers are against us men !Its pretty easy to assume men are tight asses ,married or cheating on a spouse but there are still single guys,who get knocked back by the masses and probably just give up after they have done a 1 month subscription.I joined for 6 months ,they got me good bwahahha ,but my membership is up in a few weeks,and i will not be re joining !Will just be a forum hanger and pop in now and then!Cheers
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RHP User
12 years ago
While I admit I have quite the coloured past, to the darker side, I chose to go back to a guest essentially for the same reasons. I wasn't messaging ladies anyway as there weren't that many women that really stood out enough to warrant wanting to meet them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well, by that reasoning, women who won't make an effort to contact a man she's interested in probably won't make an effort in bed either. I had paid membership, but I've been too busy to meet people, so I figured no point paying for something I'm not using. Personally the old fashioned thing holds no water for me. Especially when I see women complaining about the men who contact them! Well do some of your own contacting! (which admittedly you haven't done... just a general observation)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was a paid member for the first 6 months & I've been a guest for the last month & a half . I have other financial commitments that have priority, at the moment. I'm going to get Platinum again , but when I'm ready . I hear what OP is saying . A Woman contacted me recently & I had to ask her to Message me so we could Communicate. I felt pretty Lame ... Cheap ? Pfffft ! When fishing with a net , you're likely to drag in all sorts of inedible species . You take out the stuff you want & you throw the rest back. But if you only fish for one variety , you're likely to miss out on a lot of good eatin'. GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh, you lost me at "I find it a real turn off being asked to message a man."I struggle with this mentality. So they have to chase you, but you can't chase them?As someone who can msg people, their lack of ability to msg us is no issue. I can communicate with them and I can see their pictures. Membership is for my benefit, not others. I apply this to others as wel. If they don't want the benefit, they don't 'have to' and I definitely don't believe it's a man's job to initiate or msg.
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RHP User
12 years ago
hmmm me thinx sirlurkalot may be in for a arse kicking...lolQuoting 'sirlurkalot' While I admit I have quite the coloured past, to the darker side, I chose to go back to a guest essentially for the same reasons. I wasn't messaging ladies anyway as there weren't that many women that really stood out enough to warrant wanting to meet them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mens messages are crap, Why the fuck should I reply, whinge whinge Whinge !Agree with all of the above ! Right on the money !But honey, I'm just here for the forums ! Bwahahahaha !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why didn't you join earlier?
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sweetgem
12 years ago
You're not alone in this pond of being contacted by men who are Guest members. I too get that a lot and it annoys the crap out of me! So I usually just delete the flirts unless the profile is really standing out and catching my attention. But that is very rare to come across! However, I don't try to guess their reasons as it's not my problem :-) Yep, people might say that I would miss out on meeting a good man by deleting his flirts, but I don't care nor will I feel pity, because I am looking for a particular thing and it's difficult to find on a sex site like this anyway, so I'll say IT'S JUST NOT MEANT TO BE! Lol- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Of some tasty bubbly plonk, will get nice and comfy on my lounge and watch the reaction to this with interest! Can someone please bring nibbles, I like the old fashioned ones with the 3 different types of small pickled onions (red, green and white) and toothpicks on cheddar cheese or good old corned beef...... gotta love it. Flirts schmirts, wish some of the lovely guest women would start giving me a hard time!!!!! Thank god it's Friday and bubbly o'clock...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am a brand new member. I can't use the family credit card... yes... go ahead and judge me... My profile is not verified yet. However, I've found someone who I would love to contact but we are both guests and we can't communicate. So the only way I know to let her know that I am VERY into her, is to send a stupid flirt. They're ridiculous I know, but it's the only means available at the moment. She seems me flirts too, so it's frustrating. Anyway, not sure how or when I can pay up. Just my two cents....- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'sweetgem'You're not alone in this pond of being contacted by men who are Guest members. I too get that a lot and it annoys the crap out of me! You poor thing! Yes, I like paying members, mostly because I prefer it when guys message me rather than send flirts. But you make it sound like male guest members are being offensive just by contacting you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Kizzzikins ,but you is so cute
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lol maybe.... :p. That said though, I can't ignore my cyclic past of turbulent behaviour, and I'm also saying that I'm a picky bastard that hasn't quite found someone with that X factor for me yet. :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well - we might even be comparing various adult dating sites here. Competition is good, and given the numbers are soooo stacked against men they try to be on as many sites as they possibly can. Generally they might not want to be paying what would come to serious dollars in more than 3 figures per year if they wanted to be on all popular sites. Natural selection - where do I see more locals? One site I visited showed me in a search for Victoria that so many women were from Ararat that I easily figured this was the first one on the list of towns to pick from so more of the Internet factory workers picked it. Yes, which site has more "paid" women on their books, whose only job is to contact the Guests members pretending interest until they pay up? Let's face it, they all have to do it as part of their marketing... Still - I am confident there is enough genuine ladies online, even local ones, so I have one full membership (on another site not here ATM) and the others are Guest memberships. Besides - if a woman wants to make contact with me she will, on many sites women have free memberships with privileges anyway.The point of getting lots of winks is true - Mrs Sparks concurs, but then - isn't a wink just as good as a message that simply says "Oi, interesting profile you got there, do you want to look at mine?" Oh well, another topic altogetherMr Sparks, your friend if you so request... :-)
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Maybe I should rephrase my comment. Yes I do get many flirts from male "Guest" and "Paid-u"p members. Ok now that I am still a paid up member, I don't mind so much if I receive flirts from guest members, but it annoys me big time when I get flirts from paid up members! I just don't understand why didn't those paid up members send me messages instead? When I was a Guest member, I also received many flirts from Guest male members, which made me wondered if they had expected me to fork out $$$ to pay for a membership and then send them a message or what?! That was my biggest annoyance!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't get it. Why wouldn't you want to drive the bus.....instead of just being a passenger? Most of the men I've met from here I made first contact with after reading something they said in the forums that I liked. I don't like the sit back and hope for the best view of life, I'd much rather go get the things I want from life.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I find that odd too sweetgwem that paid members send you flirts I just figured they had messaged so many other women and ran out of flirts when it came to me...And Mr Smith whatever you do is your business go to a store buy a pre-paid credit card load it up and use that.....that way the misses wont know and hopefully your children never find out.On the occassion I have received flirts from guests and sent them a message giving them the opportunity to introduce themselves....I tell them this is a chance dont waste it...........most waste it.I am learning though to be more pro-active now with my dating...I just have to learn to be........not so nice....Im easily walked over.
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erotictouch4u
12 years ago
Quoting 'Kizza1973'I am a paid member ,and have always sent mail to women being polite as that's who i am. Always get the "your not what i am looking for " reply blah blah blah !!!!!! You might find that men outnumber women 100 men to 1 woman on this site,actually realise its not worth the time or effort in contacting woman or joining this site for that reason! The numbers are against us men ! Its pretty easy to assume men are tight asses ,married or cheating on a spouse but there are still single guys,who get knocked back by the masses and probably just give up after they have done a 1 month subscription. I joined for 6 months ,they got me good bwahahha ,but my membership is up in a few weeks,and i will not be re joining ! Will just be a forum hanger and pop in now and then! Cheers I was a paid member for just over 2 years and also got sick of the no-replies. Women here always scream about wanting men to be nice and polite but yet most don't even take to courtesy themselves to even say "hello" and find out a little more about you, especially when it is free after we send the first message, before deciding you are not young enough. Apparantly you have to be young to be an experienced and considerate lover ET xox
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I wouldn't be "annoyed", it might be noticeable - but just ignore the flirts and reply to the messages?Seems like a pretty good solution to me.And to note what I think a lot of people are saying or try to - paid members are much more likely to be genuine or capable of meeting than guests. They are also much more likely to have a profile that gives some indication of who they are.:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you all for your comments. My apologies...its Friday night and I was in a hurry to go out when I wrote the topic. I have no issue with male guests as a whole. It's a free country and we can all choose to be or not to be paid up members. Its the guest male members who clearly only contact me only because they know I can contact them. I have replied to many guest members and found some really delightful people. Its those who clearly don't read my profile that are the annoyance. Its the when I've sent a message at their request and the reply coming back is to the effect "Hi babe wanna quickie?" that really annoys me. Obviously they haven't read my profile or don't care whats in it but send their flirt in the hope of a quick score. In the meantime I've wasted a perfectly good message on a complete drop kick. The flirt didn't cost them anything but my allocation has been used up by time wasters. Hopefully I've been able to convey what I really wanted to say with this topic. Does anyone else feel the same? Cheers SF
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was a paid member for some time on RHP but got over the amount of women you would message who were Guests and couldn't be bothered to reply to the message that was sent. And before the usual band get on their high horse of I get so many messages and sooooo little time to reply, or if the subject line is Hi I am not going to reply to your message, it all boils down to courtesy if someone takes the time to say hi to you at least take the time to say sorry not what I am looking for or a short sharp fuck off :) Yep there are the minority that take a knock back to heart but its easy to send a message of thanks but no thanks and hit the block button, so the response of I sent a thanks but no thanks message and then he abused me is wearing a bit thin. I have meet some very sexy people on RHP as both a paid member and a guest and have made some very good friendships, as for paying for membership again on RHP I am happy with my circle of friends that I have and yep just here to throw my two cents in on the forums when something interests me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Upon your clarification, I think that what you're saying is no different to 50zcool.....lol and let's be honest, even the paid men's messages I read about are shit..... It's unfortunate, yes, but toughen up princess, it's the way it is.... The thing to remember, is that most of the guys are here for sex and a quickie, and a small percentage are here for something more substantial, and no I'm not referring to a relationship. So far, I see in the forums, that women want to be made feel special, like they're some kind of martyr or something, and I apologise for the misogynistic tone that comes through, it's not the intention, but the topic of how men either message or reply has been a constant problem the ladies in the 3 years I've been here. Makes me think that deep down there are only a small percentage of women that truly want sex vs something more refined. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you blue_eyes...I intend to very soon. My stomach goes nuts and I get a lump in my throat when I see this girl!! And she only has one pic! I wish she'd read the posts I've made so she knows that. Anyway, I just found my secret sweetheart on CL! Which I check regularly out of curiosity...with a dash of hopefulness and perversion. :-P- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
There may be many reasons why someone doesn't pay for membership, until you actually get in a conversation with them it is wrong to assume as you may miss a good opportunity to meet a truly nice guy/girl.Whilst saying if you are not a paid member you are cheap perhaps wanting only a paid member maybe you might be considered a gold digger? It can work both ways.I always reserve judgement before deciding whether I like the guy or not.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was a paid member. But it ran out and honestly, i didn't really find any real benefit in full membership.That's not to say that I don't have paid memberships elsewhere, which I do. And I received much better returns on those sites than here.I'm here for the forums, which I really enjoy and to find out about events, that's about it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When my membership is up i will send you a wink everyday for the rest of my internet lifeIts the least i could do
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RHP User
12 years ago
At the end of the day there are real people sitting on their computers logging onto RHP.They have their own personal reasons to be paid members or not.I believe it's a bit RICH to say..."My thoughts are that if they won't pay for membership they must be cheap skates ..... and if they are cheap skates they probably don't make an effort in the bedroom either".Some people may find that statement quite offensive, not because they are married or somefink - but it just may be their financial situation they are in or have other priorities.Does it really make a difference if they are paid members or not - isn't it about the actual person themselves?If they are honest about who they are - that's all that matters to me at the end of the day.And as Sir Lurk said..."The thing to remember, is that most of the people are here for sex and a quickie, and a small percentage are here for something more substantial" .I want REAL relationships with honesty and substance and the same as you SF.I have meet some pretty amazing people on here with some being only guests.FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Kizza1973'When my membership is up i will send you a wink everyday for the rest of my internet life Its the least i could do LOL.... knock yourself out! SF xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I am shocked. People actually look at their flirts? Christ, I haven't bothered doing that for years. Who cares?? Bizarre that women get worked up about this stuff.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Only read your last comment... Of course women want something refined, well most of us. Haven't you understood that yet? Most women don't want to fuck just anybody you know... We still want quality even for casual encounters.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are the majority of people on here 30+ ? perhaps this isn't for me :S
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sex VS something more than just sex aka something more refined....- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'JeanTassume' Are the majority of people on here 30+ ? perhaps this isn't for me :S Most people that talk on the forums are usually older, but there are younger people as well. Depends if you enjoy a bit of a debate. To be honest younger persons persepctive is always good. Or if you are asking are there younger people in general. Well I just did a search of women looking for men in Western Australia who are under 30 and got 70 pages of profiles. So that would be a yes..... there are heaps of young people here.
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