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Male masturbation habits

November 26 2017

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This is a question directed to other men. A problem that some men have of DE (delayed ejaculation) or desensitisation of sorts, is attributed to a number of factors, including porn, regularity, but also including (perhaps) lack of use of lubrication. This post is about the last point. I read in places that dry masturbation (without lube) can cause desensitivity, over a long period of time, and that lubrication may help restore skin moisture, softness, quality and/or sensation. So for quite a while now (perhaps a year or so), I have been generally using lube during masturbation, which I never did before, in my case Pjur silicone based. I know it certainly feels nicer. Although data is perhaps limited (wink wink), I do think there has been a slight increase in sensitivity during sex, particularly during condom use which normal exaggerates any DE issues, although it's hard to quantify objectively. (I have been able to orgasm more reliably, normally rarely or never, when wearing condoms, although it may also be due to sexual experience, knowing what positions work best etc). So to get other's input: Men, do you use lubrication during masturbation? Is using it, or not using it, regarded as normal? If you have gone from not using it, to using it, have you noticed any differences at all during sex over time? Have you noticed any benefits at all except for during that session? What types of lubes work best when just for your own pleasure? CT.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Because of my wife's pain situation, I was without sex for 12 years, During that time I got into the habit of daily masturbation. It was horrible. Mechanical and arid. I hated myself, but couldn't stop. Things changed but I remember that time with no fondness. In another post, someone said that sex without human interaction is horrible (or something like that). That, for me is SO true. I wouldn't wish an extended time without sex on anyone.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    While masturbation might not be good for the soul I believe that it is good for the body, especially matters relating to the prostate. Keeping the pipes open apparently.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Organic coconut oil is awesome.... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • Haleakala

    Haleakala

    8 years ago

    I use lube mostly but sometimes will masturbate dry - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I just grab it with two hands and beat it against my forehead.........

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Bit like chev ?? I’m starting to wonder whom’s who’s daddy 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    😂😂😂😂😂😂

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  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Of lube(not too much as it may cause it to break) inside the tip of the condom helps with sensitivity. Auntie's tip no 7

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  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    8 years ago

    Dry masturbation will in time desensitise the glands ... Can you imagine if vaginas were dry ? Thankfully they lubricate naturally and if not she can use a alternative.. Regardless , lubricant makes sense ... Now to find a good one ? Any suggestions ?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Yeah i dry wanked for years... and i found in the end i was just getting rougher to get off. Prolly about 2 yrs ago i started with lube and only use a lubrucant now. I ultinate between nivea moisturiser and a lubricant. A moisturiser makes him look pinker, feel softer and feels more life like... I find watching different types of porn helps, so delayed evaluation doesn't happen anymore, also being open minded when meeting, having a positive approach, confidence and have expectation help ☺ - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    * no xpectation - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'jayme2' Dry masturbation will in time desensitise the glands ... Can you imagine if vaginas were dry ? Thankfully they lubricate naturally and if not she can use a alternative.. Regardless , lubricant makes sense ... Now to find a good one ? Any suggestions ? On how much movable skin you have to move up and down. I can be dry, but only rub against the dry glans by choice

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I've recently started using organic coconut oil from Aldi and it's awesome. Previously it had just been dry wanking but noticed a difference since the use of lube.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I'm a happy wanker and I'm very in tune with what I enjoy and have done both dry and lubed. Ironically in the last couple of days I've read that 100% Aloe Vera gel is very good with some benefits........look it up :)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I've always done it dry. Never found I have any problems with desensitisation, but I'm also uncut. I've heard that uncut guys have a lot more sensation. But I may have to try lube from now on. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    8 years ago

    At 35 years of age , you probally still have time on your side .. Project another 10 years forward and it might be a different story...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'mrhottimes82' I've always done it dry. Never found I have any problems with desensitisation, but I'm also uncut. I've heard that uncut guys have a lot more sensation. But I may have to try lube from now on. - Posted from rhpmobile I was uncut for many years, had some minor corrective surgery many years ago that kinda sorta was like circumcision, can vouch that I was more sensitive prior to the op. That was a curse as much as a blessing though, often resulted in me not being able to last very long. No such problems now, it is less sensitive but not greatly so - just enough. I think this thread has made me want to go and buy some lube though.

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  • Hawt1

    Hawt1

    8 years ago

    OkeyDoke45 I think this thread has made me want to go and buy some lube though. Yep, same.. I think I will go get some too. countrytouch - Good post, thanks for the learnings, maybe with lube can resensitize and it will make it easier to cum.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Alone in the great outdoors, a National Park actually. 😵👏😸😱

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ... thumbs up to all the men who are taking steps to prevent desensitization! 🖒 I've had an ex bf with severe DE and it placed a huge strain on the relationship. So, I'm here to show support. 😉 I think women who masturbate too much are also prone to desensitization. Some of the masturbation stuff they do to themselves in porn is so vigorous that in a non-desensitised woman, would already have triggered massive multiple orgasms. But don't even try starting this topic with the ladies because the highly defensive characters will bitch it up a notch or two! Lol! Good on you OP, for starting this thread! 😉

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Masturbation is of course the most regular sex life for a single man, so you have to make the most of it ;) I will have to look up the Aloe type stuff, or others, any brand recommendations? Not sure about straight out asking the pharmacist lol! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Lubed Pocket Pussy is the way to go.

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  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    8 years ago

    I just spit on mine and call him dirty names while I finger my bum. Hugs G

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