M57
Manners are questionable
June 05 2015
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
6ft tall, perfect body, wealthy? Op, what's his username? Hope you dont think i'm shallow or materialistic or anything............he still needs to have nice cock......but i suppose if bought me a new car....
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RHP User
11 years ago
There are many reasons but I think the easiest thing is not to have any expectations. That way you're not disappointed. Just remember, nobody owes you anything. If they're not interested then no response is a response... :-)
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tylannister
11 years ago
Most guys don't comprehend the scale of messages women here get. I was chatting a few days ago with a new member and in her first day - less than 24 hours, she had received 60+ messages. Its a lot to sift through and most is one-liner crap. I've found (in my fairly short period of time here) that if you spend the time and effort to write a real message, you'll probably get a response. It may be a few days, but in general, I've had a good return rate from the women I've messaged - even if it is to give a 'thanks for the thought, but not right now'.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Im with you on this topic SacralChakra. Sorry Tomo, I know it's a bitter pill to swallow, ....for us all. Have you thought about adopting a dog or cat? They make superior substitutes for human company.🐕🐱🐦 KK xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are sooo right..I adopted two small dogs just last weekend..I can highly recommend it OP...there has been at least one forum topic a month complaining about the lack of response to messages ever since I have been here..well maybe a slight exaggeration ,but you need to take no response as a response..xx Freya
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RHP User
11 years ago
you're new here huh?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ask for feedback re your profile but if you want women to respond to your messages you need to make it a hell of a lot more interesting than it is...and telling people that they are rude if they don't reply will not guilt them into replying..xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
What I get from you profile is that you are bored on weekends so you want some random NSA sex, you are not into idle chitchat so you don't even want to get to know the woman at all. You would prefer her to come over and bonk you, then leave. To be honest sure some women are into that... But it would not appeal to most women. I find it a bit disrespectful to your potential sex partners actually. So to some up, a fit young totally hot guy may get away with that attitude but us older average folk can't. So as Freya said, you need to put in a lot more effort. My 2c.
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RHP User
11 years ago
What sort of messages do you send women? Gives us an example.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If someone doesn't reply to your message, they are not interested in you and therefore not wasting your time. Take it as a blessing! And as has been said, mate.... you really need to improve your profile if you expect quality responses. Rotate your pics, show yourself SMILING (someone happy is someone worth being around) and the old " Not here for games or idle chit chat but will" just reeks of someone not interested in actually getting to know someone. Just some food for thought. Best of luck to you though!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' and telling people that they are rude if they don't reply will not guilt them into replying..xxFreya I've noticed a few profiles with lines like that in them (IF YOU DON'T REPLY TO ME YOU ARE A BAAAAD PERSON) and it just rubs me the wrong way. I don't know about other people but it actually makes me not want to reply on purpose
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RHP User
11 years ago
I to looked at his profile. I don't like this side pictures, one person must have started this and so many men think its hot......sorry its not. Meeka I read his profile and get it, as I was asking the same, and understand his mindset Work is so busy during week , it would be hard to have someone over, but weekends hey time so much time to spend on my sexual fun, I am relaxed and present in mind and body......this doesn't mean someone is lonely. Tomo we all have set backs on here, some are rude and some are just plain stupid. We all know average men have a hard time, and then not. Some average men found the holy grail because it's their attitude to this game. Just have fun, think fun and stay for a while. Brush the unwanted away and participate on the forum. I find so many males show their mindset more freely on the forum and us women love men with a good brain on their shoulders. Cheers Litonya
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sweetgem
11 years ago
You just want free sex and more sex on the weekends when you have some spare times! You don't even seem to be interested in taking the fun time, with your potential play date, outside your bedroom even though you have mentioned going to places. What and where are these places that you mentioned Tomo? Also, do you fit into the age preference of the women you messaged? There are women who really have an age preference when it comes to meeting someone new. I myself is one. I don't know about others, but for me, when I see a profile that lists their drinking and smoking habits as "regular", it's an instant turn off. However, I would still reply to say "thanks, but no thanks" if he fits within my age preference, otherwise no response will be returned and I always make this intention very clear in my profile. Lastly, yes, you've made yourself sounded grumpy by telling people that they are rude if they don't reply to your messages! Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
11 years ago
It is also manners not to slag the women for avoiding bitter men who paint the women scarlet in such a wide poison-filled brush and befoul the reputation of other men who they haven't met. Not kosher in my books. Manners and respect of individuals goes a long way in anyone's books, in rhp and in the real life. As what others have said, reflect and examine what you are putting out there to attract the women and why they are not attracted to your approach and your profile. And the messages you send. If you were a woman, would you respond to a man like yourself with your approach? would you find yourself attractive at all? Real basic stuff. They have given you some salient advice and these wise women and men are doing you a favour. Take it and run with it. And take it easy. You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar. buzzing off now... Good luck.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'sweetgem' You just want free sex and more sex on the weekends when you have some spare times! You don't even seem to be interested in taking the fun time, with your potential play date, outside your bedroom even though you have mentioned going to places. What and where are these places that you mentioned Tomo? Have you been reading my profile again? What's wrong with that?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh yes I see that he has spoken about going out in the second part of the profile. To be honest I didn't get that far. The first paragraph told me enough to know that we are not looking for same thing so didn't read further. At the end of the day, like attracts like and can take a long time to find.
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IamMrSilly
11 years ago
Seriously, after seeing the number of messages that woman can receive, I understand it is a unfair and unrealistic expectation to reply to all messages. And for the people who do, what to they get in reply? abuse and criticism.. Silence is your answer, complaining about not getting a reply just sounds petty and needy. and none of us are that!
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
Isn't no response just as much of an answer as 'no thanks.' Sometimes the 'no thanks' response just seems to lead to further questions, like 'why not.'
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP, your post reeks of entitlement. No one is obliged to respond to your messages. So drink a cup of concrete and get over it . As for your profile If I msg you, it rude not to reply Passive agressive is plain ugly IMO
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RHP User
11 years ago
One from a guy wanting to have sex this weekend (template message, probably sent to a dozen others) and one VIC guy in town for a few days and wanting to meet (another template). These two men: - Couldn't be bothered starting their message with even a hello, let alone my username- Didn't meet my requirements at all - Hadn't read my profile that clearly states no NSA, and that I'm looking for local men only This was all before my morning coffee, so it probably would have been nicer of me not to respond... Careful what you wish for.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I used to answer all my messages. Maybe not immediately but certainly within a few days. For the most part, if I sent a 'no thanks' reply, I'd get a polite response back. But every now and then I'd get a response demanding to know why or, even worse, an angry, nasty message calling me every name under the sun and then some. Some were so vitriolic they took my breath away, literally. It got to the point where I stopped looking at messages responding to my 'no thanks' just in case I copped an abusive one. And then there are the first messages that are simply crass and not worthy of any response at all. For example, 'I want to stick my tongue up your arse'. I have nothing against rimming, but as a conversation kick-starter first up? No thanks. There are some incredible and awesome people on RHP, but it's got to the point where I'm so cynical, jaded and exhausted by the dirt that I have to sift through to find those nuggets of gold, that I've just stopped looking altogether. Now I'm just here for the social side (which is amazing), and the forums. Rant over, and thanks for reading if you got this far lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I haven't done the online dating thing for years but when I did it would take me up to 4-6 weeks to reply. I had to be in the mood to answer messages, of course by then I had so many to answer that I would only look at a profiles of people if their initial message was really interesting and stood out and if I liked their profile photo. Otherwise it was a template response back saying no but good luck. I never rec'd a nasty message back though, although once or twice men called me up on the fact my reply was 6 weeks late. I do remember once having two really good profiles that had emailed me so I responded favourably and they ignored me. Don't blame them. But that is why I am useless at online dating and don't do it. I don't enjoy answering all those emails and looking at all those profiles. Not for me. So I just would meet people at social events and meet & greet nights instead... Have probably met over 120 RHP people this way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP old mate, demanding replies to messages will surely result in even less replies, regardless of whatever else you put in your profile. The ladies here are, like it or not and because of the nature of online sites like this, in control of who they reply to. They can pick and choose and still get plenty of what they're looking for, whereas by comparison I pick and choose and get bugger all! Don't let it get to you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have 3 friends so you must have gotten at least 3 replies either to a message or friend request! LG
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RHP User
11 years ago
I won't get into it but I have many unread messages and many no replies. But I can say I feel it comes down to not interested as I have always written very polite messages possibly too polite for some I would say. I would also say where I live makes a little difference. I will say though that I kind of got bored of sending messages as the rate of no reply and unread well outweighed the reply rate. It is just the way it goes bloke and has to be accepted.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Don't open the message until I'm ready to reply, then I do them all at once usually.... 💋
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