Married but our sex drive’s are extremely opposite

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  With the distractions of family living, lack of privacy and just too tired, our sexual activities tended to wane. So a few years ago we decided to do something about it - make time and experiment. We dabbled in sexual fun here and there which evolved to include other people in our sexual activities. Now our sessions together have an added dimension, we have that after glow in our minds, it's so good.If your relationship is stable, then exposing yourselves to what goes on here may rejuvenate your sexual desires. - Ed

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  this is pretty standard, we all go through this, or similar, when in relationships.... you are doing the right thing by even recognising theres an issue...just keep your lines of communication open, and talk your way through it. experiment with different times of the day, or even do as we do....and have 'date nights', which seems to keep the 'passion' alive for us at least....we go as far as arranging dirty weekends away...just us of course....which does wonders for us as a couple...try introducing different things....lingerie, toys, porn, whatever and see how that goes, but don't rely on others to try and reignite what you once had...that has to be something the two of you do on your own.....outsiders may complicate things further........

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  you will find that mismatched libido's are fairly normal, and cyclical, most people's drive waxes and wanes, for a whole host of reasons, family, work, health and financial pressures all contribute.I find myself, that if I'm having a break from work and not doing anything at the farm, then I want sex daily, if I'm under the pump at work or the farm and mostly both, then sex is the furthest thing from my mind.As to how you fix the mismatch.We got into swinging and that worked quite well while the kids were little, but as the kids got older time pressuresput an end to that, with Soccer, Cricket, Football and Motocross.Then we progressed to an open relationship, and that worked ok for a period, but these days, personally I don't even have the time for that, as for Kj I don't know what she gets up to, and I prefer not to know, as long as she's discrete.The Key is to talk about it and be honest and tolerant with each other, lay out the ground rules....and stick to them!Remember your partner is not some possession to be denied their basic needs at your whim and vice a versa.Cheers Felonius ....Live and let live is my motto

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Felonius that was an amazing postxHugs H

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I have an amazing post too :D

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  And I see, an appropriate address for that big post Ozboyx Hugs H

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Witty...much....bahahaha Cheers Felonius

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