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Meet first play later

December 08 2011

To us meet first play later means just that.Wanting to meet a couple based on both liking what's written in each others profile's. Also both being attracted to each other's pic's. Then a quick chat on the phone to arrange to meet. Prove we are all real and get some quick feel for the people. At this stage from what we have to go on. We are thinking there is a good chance we could hit it off with the couple. We wouldn't wast some ones time if we didn't think there was. So its worth meeting up to see if we all click in person. Usually for us its low key date. Just a coffee or quick drink some place casual and not to much commitment of time or money from both party's. As we realise both are precious to people.Now to us the basics commitments of this date are just a meet and greet. Though we do understand some times you just hit it off and everyone might want to do more than just meet and greet. Perhaps even on that same day if all happen to be available and keen for more.What we have found though is quite a few couples who have (meet first play later ) listed in there profile. Seem to be saying yes and wanting us to say yes to more befor we have even met one another in person.This puts us in a awkward position when we say that we would like to meet them first before making that decision. Some seem upset by this and less keen to meet. Now it works both ways they might not like us in person to.Are people really saying yes to everything based just on the profile? Perhaps meet first play later have a new meaning?I know there are times when you have a great vibe from a couples profile and even before meeting your almost certain your going to get on well and it would come as a surprise if you didn't. But you still want to leave it open in case there is something in there personality or look's that wasn't apparent in there profile.I guess to sum it up. Until we have meet some one in person we don't make any commitments for more. It's the same set of rules for everyone so it shouldn't be taken personal. We are happy to leave a few doors open just in case we do hit it off. We might be saying YES YES YES! to more 5 min's into the MG LOL. But we still think the MG before committing to more is an essential part of the process .Have others found complications when just getting that essential MG in person out of the way before saying yes to more?Tim

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RHP User

14 years ago

We dont go along with going with the flow. Either we meet to play or we meet to greet no play. We have seen photos, talked on the phone and if we are meeting just for coffee thats all it is. But we wont close the door to play on 1st meet either if thats what we all have in mind and that option was agreed by all 4 before meeting. If we are meeting just for coffee and play is suggested now! Its a No.

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14 years ago

I guess some people just don't like to meet unless they are guaranteed play. That's fine but personally we always need to meet first before making that choice and wont change that rule for anyone. We were just quite surprised as it was the 1st time we had come across couples that wanted an answer before we met.Going with the flow isn't for us we share the same view as justenough. We ether meet to play or meet to be social one or the other. Gives both party's a chance to go off and talk as a couple before committing to anything more. It's awkward trying to kick each other under the table or use hand signals and gestures between each other. Trying to make a choice on the spot. If it turns out that every one is that keen and are all saying yes. We usualy like to do the Meet and greet in the day time or early evening. So we are open to making contact shortly after the MG date and make plans to play later that night.We will just keep doing what we are doing now. As we think its reasonable.Tim

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RHP User

14 years ago

timandjane, I agree with you completely and you are quite correct in not meeting people for sex without meeting them casually first. You don't really know what people are like until you actually meet, and although their profile and pics might seem OK, they may not be. They could turn out to be not so nice people who you don't really want to be with. I wouldn't be too concerned with people who don't respect this, they are probably not worth meeting anyway.

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RHP User

14 years ago

I do prefer the meet first play later, that is where it all starts. If my mind is stimulated then the rest flows easily.If I am to share my energy with you then I would like to know who you are first. That said, I am no saint, and have been know to allow things to flow at the first meet.

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RHP User

14 years ago

If you dont connect on first date then there is nothing - just say so and exit. If you connect then have sex when it seems right. Any DOA (Designated Office Asshole) who lies will say anything for many dates just to have bad sex. Any there is no point in an arbitary hold back. Just go with the flow. Even if its not sex then show the other person you care and have connected. Have some mutual masturbation or even just fingering. No point in a waste of time. Just my view.

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contemplating1

14 years ago

.....T&J I go to meet with few expectations, other than meeting new people, enjoying a coffee/meal etc Then see if things click for another meet...or sometimes it can just happen... Personally I don't think its great for anyone to go for a meet with "expectations and demands." Its just setting someone up for a let down... Have a good 'un!

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