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Menopause and vaginal dryness
December 13 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
By golly on your profile you state your age as 99 so I would expect that not only has it dried up but healed up too :) I guess a lot has to do with your urge to do it. Particularly if you're not aroused? If you're enjoying it to your utmost then KY jelly seems the way to go... as long as its not coming out of your ears. Once had a rectal ultrasound and the quack used an exorbitant quantity of lubrication... so much so that it was gushing down both my legs and he provided no tissues for self cleaning. Do hope you are still getting lots of pleasure from your men friends...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey that is just a fact of life.Yes you will find guys who are put off by it but then they are not worth gving it up for.I personally prefer to use "Pjur" by Eros. This lube doesn't get sticky like most athers and feels very silky smooth to touch.Oh and you needonly a small amount.Give it a go i reckon t may change the way you perceive this issuegood luck
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RHP User
16 years ago
Derr Eunuch..someone who does'nt give their real age on the site...omg...I"m SHOCKED. In response to you're reply, I refer to roughfukr who noted that you will find guys '....not worth giving it up for'. Thank you for so making it so obviously clear, that you are one of those men. In the meantime, yes, thank you...I will continue to enjoy sex and I will be prayful every day, that there are men out there who's own sense of manhood don't depend on making me 'wet' but who rather, are experienced and sensitive enough to realise that sometimes, again as quoted from roughfukr, that for some women, vaginal dryness issues...'is just a fact of life'. Have a nice day.Roughfukr, thank you for your open discussion on a subject matter sensitive in nature to my and I"m sure, many other women's hearts. It's great when women can discuss matters like this in an open and intelligent way.
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RHP User
16 years ago
We try to have a male to male chat about what turns our ladies off and any requirements before playing. And let the other guy know a lack of lubrication is not a lack of arrousal and to use lubricants. We also like to chat to the other female and ask if there is any performance issues with her guy. This approach has had very positive get togethers in the bedroom with hours of play and a big smile from everyone. Guess if you are a single lady ...just ask to use lubricants or sneak some in as well, in the bathroom before the bedroom. Agree roughfukr1 we had one swap last year where the other guy did not have sex, talking to him by himself afterwards he said it was because a lack of natural lubricants and took it as a sign of lack of arrousal and willingness, which was not the case. That experiance was one dissapointed partner afterwards. Its very hard to have a second try with the same couple after your partner has been let down like this. Cheers
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RHP User
16 years ago
I find that most lubes need a bit of water to rejuvenate.... water or maybe a bit of saliva.. lol... better than adding more lube... plus you could go to a better lube... silicone lubes last forever and you hardly use much at all each time.. but they are also expensive. Nothing you are saying is news, bebe. It's just part of the cycle and we deal with it best we can as it comes along. I like to play with toys simultaneously... something buzzy as a hand held assistant might get you going a little faster... introduce it early and you need to take control of that thing once he has entered you.... we can't operate two pieces of heavy machinery at once.. :p.. it's an OH & S issue! Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
Don't forget about the psychological thing - if you think there maybe a problem there will be. Best to relax, use the lube and don't worry about what the men think. I'm sure when presented with lovely lady (I assume for 99 you're stunning) with a willing pussy they won't be doing any thinking... Regards Mr. SR
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RHP User
16 years ago
No offence meant... just thought your username and profile age implied a hint of mirth and mischief. Tend to think that if it ain't fun... then it ain't fun doing. We're dead a long time so make merry at ever good humoured moment. Sarcastic barbs were not on the agenda. Now it seems your predicament is a tender topic... and I do sympathise if this causes discomfort. But then if my silly jesting offends then its more in the eye of the beholder than any intent on my behalf. The good advice given here by others will more than compensate for my frivolous and harmless comments. It is the festive season... so wish everyone many merry and joyous moments :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Dear Mr EunuchI am profoundly impressed to receive your response to mine. Touche, I am, as i said in my profile blurb...a person of fire and ice and yes, you are right..I am sensitive about said subject, that being noted..I am too a person of mischief and mirth and I can see now I harshly judged you. Please...let us start again and be friends from this moment forth. There has been some wonderful discussion come out of my post and I am so glad for it. None of us like to speak openly about our own perceived failings or foibles but I feel the responses received thus far, have been sensitive and are a credit to the male sex (on those ones sent in by men of course). I hope other women read this and are as heartened as I am to see that men possess an ability to not only commiserate with women, but to also actively want to help their lovers out in whatever problems they may be facing as they pass through the menopausal stage of life. To my new friend Eunuch, seasons greetings, festive tickles on your tummy, and joyous moments always.
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RHP User
16 years ago
It is quite ridiculous to say that vaginal dryness has a lot to do with one's urge. it has nothing to do with it, once you hit the menopausal years. Vaginal dryness has been my only symptom of menopause and i go thru lots of lube and if guys dont like it well too bad.
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RHP User
16 years ago
FJ - it's a fact of life, and if the guys you are playing with don't understand the facts of life then why should you have to teach them? I've not yet been faced with a situation like that, but I've often had a gal want to use lube - it's the way it is and in my view does not show if you are or are not turned on. Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
My humble thoughts are that in the ideal situation, a couple at play should be totally uninhibited so that nothing impedes their bedroom adventures and experimentation. With so many outrageous toys, sexy attire, role playing and all matter of potential pleasures... the application of a little lube should hopefully not be an issue. Dear Ms desserts... I was not emphatically stating that vaginal dryness results from a lack of libido. My comments were tongue in cheek so I do hope that my babbling is not taken as serious input. Qualified it ain't... mischievous it was... misunderstanding is a failure of me to convey that my comments should not be taken earnestly. Thus sorry if my silliness was taken to heart. Yes for age 99 Ms Jones is stunning :) Dear Aly and Drew may your Christmas be lubricated by much good cheer, and an ample supply of the cold amber fluid too.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Oh 'we such sentitive males,thinks we have all the ails of femdom solve aye that for the sensitviity of the dryness of vagina .hark that we mere males have the lubrication oozing out of the end of our (what do we collectively call it ) Gentlemen there is a song sung by an american C&W singer Dear Penis hey if only we could be the Don Quixto or the gigilo of lovers we could put Casonova too rights on qoute why this lady is suffering a' dry vagina' and taking longer to lubricate .It maybe that we males need to take a considerate view and slow down till you the recipient of the encounter derives the pleasure you so desire time should be irelevant.....Seek a friend who understands ur predicerment ask them too help you and then relax and(I MEAN RELAX) enjoy see if you don't lubricate easily and enjoyablydon't force ur naturall body functions hey hmmmm......
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