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Message response
April 28 2025
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Felicitous
one year ago
While you're waiting for comments here - I recommend you use the forum search box for past discussions on this.. key words 'no reply' /response etc. You'll very quickly get a clear picture of why this is happening.
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Ex007
one year ago
If you search this topic you will understand why people do not reply.
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RHP User
one year ago
Another topic that pops up often. All I can say is I completely agree with what you say but sadly it does not work that way here. If I were to be completely honest I feel many forget about how we really operate in real life when online. And sadly it seems that the two are treated differently. Whether it comes down to time, rudeness, ones experiences here or just meh I can't be bothered. Who knows but it is what it is
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OpalRose
one year ago
“If a person walks down the street and says hello do you not respond back?” What about: “If a person walks down the street and you can tell he’s naked under that cloak, and there’s a good chance he gets his dick out if I respond… and I can see he’s not my type of person…. And I’ve just had 16 other similar people already since the street corner, 3 of them abused me because I didn’t want to fuck them in the alley….do you stop and chat… or do you wait just a bit longer to chat to those people over there who you are wanting to say hello to and seem to be the ones you’re actually looking for?”
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RHP User
one year ago
Hehehehe this is gonna be good! Lol "no response...move on" do not expect people to give one shit about a message doesnt work like that on here. I learnt that the hard way.
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BarberBoss1981
one year ago
The thing is none of us owe anyone a response at any time...its up to our discretion Ive had people not reply and I dont care I just assumed that's cool im not for them...ive also replied to people before saying no thankyou then they get the shits or try to convince me why I should be interested. Its really should not ever be an issue if someone doesn't reply
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The_Milkman
one year ago
Totally get where you’re coming from - being ignored after putting effort into a respectful message can feel deflating. A simple “no thanks” really doesn’t take much, and for many of us, it’s just about common decency. However understand where others are coming from in the comments - this platform can be overwhelming, and people are constantly bombarded with messages, not all of them respectful or safe. @Opalrose made a good point. For a lot of women, ignoring messages isn’t about being rude- it’s about protecting peace, setting boundaries, or avoiding the drama that sometimes comes even after a polite “no.” And @Barberboss nailed it too - no one owes anyone a reply. Rejection is part of this space. You have to be ok with silence and not take it personally. At the end of the day, yeah, it’s nice to get a response. But it’s also fair that people use their time and energy however they see fit. Best thing we can all do? Keep it kind, keep it respectful, and move on without resentment if it’s not reciprocated.
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seekandplay
one year ago
Also agree that it’s best to filter through the forums for more insights into why, it’s been discussed so many times but understand it’s a hot topic for a reason. I get the frustration on both sides - those who are genuinely polite get frustrated. Those who don’t reply, also get frustrated with the messages that come through. You’ve got to have thick skin for the online world, unfortunately ‘it is what it is’, no matter how many posts are made about it. When you start here as a new profile, it’s extremely overwhelming. Users see someone new and pounce immediately. I think I got 300+ messages in 24 hours. There’s just no way all of those were being responded to. I guess I am one of ‘those people’ who have a profile picture but is not actively looking. My profile says that. So if people read it, then there should be no issues. I like chatting to some women here who I’ve connected with in the forums, and having a picture at least shows that I exists, I suppose. I’m not leading people on, if they read my profile, they’ll see. I don’t want to give my phone number to people, so the message area works nicely for me. I have actually replied twice in the last few weeks to two users. Respectfully and politely. The first user tore me to shreds, called me a fat c*nt who he was allowed to disrespect because it’s RHP, and it’s ‘allowed’. No time to report him, as he blocked me before I had a chance. The second one acknowledged my profile said I was not looking, yet still messaged me a ‘confused’ emoji waiting for a reply a few days later - so I told him, I’m not interested. He proceeded to tell me how I have ‘daddy issues’ and that’s why I’m on RHP because I’m damaged and need help. Yikes. Damned if you do. Damned if you don’t. This is why we don’t reply. Because people are disrespectful and it gets tiring. We also don’t reply because……. we don’t have to. Also, I think if people keep getting so frustrated about not getting replies, then perhaps they need to look at doing something different. Obviously something isn’t working. Maybe it’s time for a change of photo, or wording in the profile. Perhaps the way messages are sent aren’t being written the right way. Maybe, just maybe, it’s not always the persons not replying fault, ya know? It’s a tricky one. But……….. it is what it is.
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seekandplay
one year ago
Also - go to the stories section and read ‘How to talk to a woman on RHP’… it’s in the forum too, but in the stories area it has 400+ replies. Some very good discussion in there for both sides.
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CrafTeaWench
one year ago
I tried to be nice when I first started out but that way lies madness. I can only speak about men but so many of them take a no thanks as a challenge and keep msging until you have to block them anyway. There is an ignore button for a reason. And i did some research on one particular site. The person you aren’t getting a reply from mightn’t have been on the site for months! The longest I saw was 11. If you’re not a paying member you don’t see this info. And think you’re being ignored.
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Bacchus
one year ago
I like to think of this as the "common decency expectation". People seem to think: "if say hello and am not a weirdo, then it is common decency to respond" My two cents: * Where did this version of common decency come from, when you are strangers to each other? * No one owes a stranger any decency (i.e. a response) when the stranger approaches them out of the blue - on the street or online. * If you have established a friendship, and invested time in a relationship, then maybe we can talk about common decency being expected (because of the effort already invested over time). But with a stranger? No common decency should be expected.
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RHP User
one year ago
It's a sad reality that people will always come up with excuses as to why they don't respond to polite messages. This won't ever change, if people aren't going to respond then they aren't going to respond. You can't let them effect how you treat people. We have messaged people and they've left us on "read" and we consider it dodging a bullet. We also feel that if you can't send a simple "thanks but no thanks" then you aren't someone we want to have the ability to look at our pics, read our stories and watch our cams, so after a fair period of time we just block you. After all, if we aren't your type then there is no point being able to look at each other's profile. You just do you, keep doing the right thing and don't worry about what other people are doing. You'll find your connections.
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BiPeggyGal
one year ago
1. Nobody owes anyone a response. My inbox has been overwhelmed sometimes too. Consider we all mostly have outside lives - unless we want to neglect other life aspects, I don't have time to respond to all. 2. I have also sent messages and got no response, but I simply don't care. As soon as I hit Send, I've moved on to whatever task is my next priority. I don't get tied up with strangers contacting me. 3. I try to be as light-hearted and detached with RHP as is a healthy mindset for me, so that my expectations are balanced on here. Or maybe it's just that Sex for me is a Dabble, not the main focus in my life pursuits, possibly?
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SubmissiveJo
one year ago
We all live busy lives… but lemme tell you… a no response IS A RESPONSE… I get very busy at work and sometimes work til late night… but I’ll always have time for fun.. So if a guy/girl doesn’t respond.. take it as a hint and move on. Don’t get attached. Had this one person who I had and amazing session with.. Planned to meet again.. Organised to meet up again but never happened… However, on the day we were suppose to meet up, he cancelled.. I ended up finding a someone else that day and my gooooodnesss….. let’s just say,… the universe works in miraculous ways 💦💦💦💦🥵🥵🥵😘😘
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Samwise_Gamgee
one year ago
All the profiles with different versions of "Happy to chat" probably started out that way but by bad experience or apathy have become more likely to block than engage. We're all pretty much here to get Biblical with each other. Politeness doesn't count much for convincing people to give you a shot if they aren't interested. It's rough if you value being 'decent' cause you learn niceness doesn't get the ball rolling on RHP. It's generally abs and arses.
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RHP User
one year ago
This whole topic is wearing a bit thin for me. I’m one of those rude people who leaves messages on read or unopened. And for me, unless some dude is going to take care of my kids, run my errands, do my chores, help me get to and from work, the gym etc etc then he has absolutely no right to tell me that I must respond to him just because he wrote me a message and he wasn’t a dickhead. I get so annoyed when some random, who contributes absolutely nothing to my life and who I haven’t even met, tells me I have to respond to him because he made the effort not to be a douche … in a text. Omfg the bar truly is in hell. I’ve met so many men who’ve spent a first date talking about how hard it is for them online and how rude people are for not responding. I’ve even had guys pick up their phones and log into rhp while they’re still in bed with me. Naked. After sex. They’ve all justified it on the basis that it’s tough to meet women online and they never hear back from anyone they message … the irony of telling that to the woman who replied and fucked them being totally lost on them… Anyway.. heaps of messages go unopened or unanswered and people should just suck it up. It’s not personal. I didn’t respond right away to a guy I met recently. He didn’t take it personally and when he messaged this time we met and omfg this man is the best sex of my life… and he can cook … He gets that I’m busy and I don’t have time to always be online so he puts his energy into creating a positive experience for us both rather than complaining about things that aren’t under his control… I want to feel like someone wants to be with me and complaining about how rude people are or how hard it is chasing new fucks just is not a turn on…
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BiPeggyGal
one year ago
I had one comment to me this week how they would like people to respond if not interested - I explained I simply don't have time with so many messages. Meanwhile they left to go outside TWICE on business phoncall matters, leaving me to wait. I dismissed them after the 2nd time, imagine not realising ....
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SweetSerenade
one year ago
No one owes you a reply. If they don't reply, you're not their type. Simple.
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