Mild Bondage

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  him_and_me

  11 years ago

  Being tied up and blindfolded can be amazing. Having that level of sensory deprevation, heightens awareness of touch I find. Not knowing where your partner will lick, kiss, stroke or suck next is delicious. Him - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  yep agree with the trust thing. I think it's my turn to be tied up next ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Oh yes. In the right environment & in the right circumstances either being tied up or bondaging (is that a word?) another is a real turn on. My partner enjoys sitting over me whilst I lick her to orgasm. A few days back she tied me (my idea) to the headboard so I couldn't move at all. It made her incredibly horny - more so than normal - she had the most powerful climax. By which time I was ready to burst. I did actually manage to wriggle one hand free, so when it came to switching to more traditional action, there was very little delay :-) I didn't let on to her beforehand though.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I hope I don't offend but what exactly did you do for her while she was tied up? You said you sat her on a dildo and she sucked you off. And she 'seemed' to enjoy this? And you're looking forward to being tied up next, i guess she'll sit on a dildo and suck you off again. Just asking the question, did you spend quality time teasing and kissing/licking her grooves, making her beg for it? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I know it sounds contrived, but you really need to discuss fantasies and limits before you try another 'scene'. You also need to discuss safe words, and look into the safety of rope play. Did you do a debrief with the Mrs after? Is reciprocating something that interests her? You may both be 'switches' (happy to play both dominant and submissive roles) but generally you are a Dom/me or a Sub. Discussing fantasies is great for giving each other ideas, be prolific in what they could be to give lots of ammunition for future play. Limits are essential, soft and hard. Did you know she would like her tits being slapped or were you lucky? Google BDSM safety lists and go through them together. You don't have to do them all at once but it helps to know what is off limits so play will always be enjoyable. Here enters the safe word. I recommend using the traffic light system, where 'amber' is I'm not comfortable with what you are doing right now, but I still want to play. "Red' is an immediate stop. I know you said this is mild bondage, but I still think it should be taken seriously. For example I had a guy spit in my mouth once, it was an instant turn off. You need to be able to communicate effectively when playing with power transfer. But most of all, have fun.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Don't worry, I'm not offended at all...I am looking forward to being tied up and blindfolded. I bought a bondage kit last night. The wife and I tried the nipple clamps and they killed.... I guess I'm lucky, I tied my wife's hands behind her back. Played with her clit vigorously to get her wet. Made her sit on the dildo. I slapped her tits and she sucked me off and I climaxed over her face, covered it too. I use a dildo and hummingbird quite a bit on my wife, I prefer oral sex to intercourse. I have a thing about my wife taking two cocks but I know it will never happen, I respect that. She even takes my cock and the dildo in her mouth, I find that a big turn on - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  You are completely right and we have safe words in place. I also worship the ground my wife walks on so if I did anything she didn't want to, I'd be equally horrified - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  It still sounds like it's all about you and your pleasure, I did this and I got her to do that, and if you went for my clit before i was very close to orgasm, i'd probably take you out, way too many nerve endings, you don't seem to get how to turn a woman on, anyway, your partner is the one on the receiving end of that, not me, have you asked her what she would like and tried a session just for her pleasure? One sided you might think? Far from it, you do it for her, and i really mean 'do it' for her, and she'll quite literally do anything for you. Think about the journey, not the destination and consider taking her on a journey. The reward for you will come, and take you to a place you never knew existed. Good luck and keep learning, listen to the advise women give you and most of all, listen to her needs, even if they aren't always verbalised, you'll be a much better lover and so will she ultimately as you explore what each of you need - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I have seen women come and spurt like fountains while doing something very similar to way the OP describes. Just because you aren't into it doesn't mean the wife didn't find it sexually arousing. Like always the words a man uses rubs women up the wrong way. Hey OP, words like "I made her" and "she seemed to like it" have obviously raised some concerns with the ladies of the forum and rightly so. Definitely a language barrier between men and women. But I am sure you made sure your wife was okay and with you all the way. let's hope when your wife handcuffs your hands behind your back that she is gentle when she uses that dildo on you. Hey? ;-))))

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I squirt sometimes half way across the room when i sit on a big dick, so what's your point, this is a forum, i'm entitled to my opinion, as are you, let me ask you this question, isn't the hottest thing about bondage the tease, building desire, driving you crazy where you think you can't take it anymore? In whatever form, yes i get that, but she was shoved on a dildo and had a dick shoved in her mouth, wow, and when the op gets tied up, will he be giving her oral? No he'll be laying back getting his pleasure would be my guess, unless she sits on his face, i hope she doesn't mind being in the upright position every time. Men need to be reminded that times have changed, I just don't feel like the op's partner's pleasure is foremost in his mind, my opinion, I respect yours of course. I'd rather do the job myself than take less - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  It's your turn. Yep. Meeka has her milking stool on the ready and Bruno is chomping at the bit. Is that what you want? What do you want from a reciprocal situation? Do you want deprivation? Do you want sensory overload? Is it pleasure or pain? Is it all nipple clamps and CBT and forced anal orgasms. Or do you want to be tied to the headboard with nylon stockings whilst she queens you? The scenarios are so different and varied. There is nothing more sexually disappointing than a missed mark. Communicate.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Its about pleasure. I really don't think a sexually mature woman or man, would do anything they would not like too. Its a great journey OP and adds zest. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Lovinit28andKC72

  11 years ago

  My most favourite play, it's the rush, the endorphins taking over, the adrenalin kicking in, the anticipation of what's happening next, the come down. It is one of life's ultimate pleasures and always gives me the most intense orgasms...... I was fortunate enough to meet a Dom through RHP who I trusted, he showed me a great deal about Dominance and submission. I was also lucky enough to have a primal lover (fetlife), who was a wonderful teacher, who was only to happy to show me things I would have never dreamed of, let alone enjoy and introduced me to the whole other wonder side of BDSM......💋

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  Lovinit28andKC72

  11 years ago

  I've never had to use a safe word during play, mainly because I trusted who I chosen to play with. They knew me, knew my body, they knew I liked to be pushed, they knew how far they could push and then would push that little bit more and that's how we both enjoyed it, just seeing how far I would go for pleasure......💋

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