Monogamish...how has swinging affected your relationship?

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  madotara69

  11 years ago

  Truth is, we only entertained the idea of swinging because we were enjoying our sex life so much and after having some fun with discussing the thoughts, joined a swingers site and gave it a whirl. Golden rule is that we are all in together, no one left out and teamwork needs to be the fancy part. None of it has effected our relationship, as other than a few hours here and there we live a monogamous life and enjoy that more than anything else. It really does not phase us if we do or don't swing, we don't need it, just enjoy the passions we share during the boring and vanilla muggle life that seems to be so so frowned upon in here, ha ha. So really monogamous for us, hands down is far more enjoyable than monogamish, just a bit of fun now and then is all it is. Mado Tara xx

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Got me and the ex an extra two years of marriage which we wouldn't otherwise have had. I think if you're both mature enough mentally, it can prolong if not outright save a relationship. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  golden rules: If one of us not comfortable in anyway we leave the place We will never have fun in our home so we will always be somewhere else If one is having fun and the other is fine and happy to chill we can stay We love each other and we are not looking for relationships just good fun (not polyamorous) Communication - we tell each other everything If jealousy comes into play or any emotions we stop - pure and simple Being monogamish has totally helped us in normal life and in the bedroom so for now we are happy with this lifestyle and I personally hope it will stay that way for at least a while!!

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I don't think swinging can save a marriage either - I think if the marriage is going to fail it will.....what will be will be. When I was referring to swinging helping us in our life - I meant it reopened our communication which was a little lacking due to living busy lives.

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  Paradisepair

  11 years ago

  Swinging definitely helped us fix a part of our relationship that was broken, it reconnected us, opened our communication and gave us a mutual interest. Our rules include no-one who lives nearby, no friends, no work colleagues. pitfalls? Time wasted by time wasters, but not much that is about us together. If one of us didn't want to swing we'd probably introduce an occasional hall pass for the other as I can't imagine jealous being a motivator to stop.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I totally agree - no friends, acquaintances and people you know! Quoting 'Paradisepair' Swinging definitely helped us fix a part of our relationship that was broken, it reconnected us, opened our communication and gave us a mutual interest. Our rules include no-one who lives nearby, no friends, no work colleagues. pitfalls? Time wasted by time wasters, but not much that is about us together. If one of us didn't want to swing we'd probably introduce an occasional hall pass for the other as I can't imagine jealous being a motivator to stop.

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  QLDtwo4fun

  11 years ago

  Yes swinging has contributed to our marriage in a beneficial way.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  It 'saved' our marriage........ We both recognise this....... We knew we loved each other, however due to medication, work etc, etc, etc, that one element was missing and it caused such a level of stress, questions, lack of communication and lack of sex, that it almost destroyed our marriage............ Through swinging, we have found that we communicate more, we 'listen', we encourage each other........... Two years of marriage counselling that while very effective for communication levels did not include sexual tension............ Yes... "It saved our marriage,

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  If hubby said no more at this moment, I would KNOW something has happened and talk, talk, talk, if he still decides no more, then so be it, I would support him..........My husband is my be all and end all

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  JohnAnn2227

  11 years ago

  Swinging has been a wonderful experience for us and something we began in our early 20's before we married. It has given us so much fun and enjoyment and has let me realise who I really am (bisexual) without people judging me. Do we think swinging can save a marriage that is in great trouble? Probably not. You need to be really in love and want the ultimate pleasure for your partner with no jealousy attached.Rules for us that we try to stick to are: Not with friends who are not already swingers (even though it was good friends who introduced us to swinging way back), not with work colleagues, not with people who one of us in not really attracted to (there is no "taking one for the team"). We have now got to the stage of our swinging life where we have lower our inhibitions and are willing to try a new experience except pain & watersports. John has even grown to enjoy male touch as part of a group and does not now feel guilt or doubt later. It is a huge decision to make but we have never had a regret and can't imagine not swinging.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  But certainly not a fix. I don't think you can safely enter into this unless your marriage is already running at 100%. Absolute trust is a starting point, not something to be gained by playing with others. But it has taught us more about what we like and given us more things to try in our own bedroom play.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  We have always been good communicators but swinging has massively sharpened our skills as communicators, with each other and with other people. It has also allowed us to shed a lot of repression about sex and be honest and candid about we want.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  We swing because we both enjoy what it brings into our lives, not to fix anything. When and if the time comes that one or both of us decides to close the door on the lifestyle, we both back each other fully in that decision and live our lives as we do outside of it on a daily basis. As swinging is just a past time for us when we want to be a little naughty, not the bee all of our lives.

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