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Moral Dilemma (Any advice appreciated)

August 03 2008

As mentioned elsewhere in the forums I have just recently split up with my now ex girlfriend of 6years. She has since started using mind games to get at me and one of her strategies is by having by now having regular contact with my twin sister who when we were together my ex had no interest in(We had plenty of arguments over this). I guess what I am asking is should I tell my twin that I feel the ex is using her to get at me or let it go?

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RHP User

17 years ago

Siblings often live their own lives and have their own thoughts.. But when it comes down to the crunch, they know the siblings more than they know anyone else, apart from their own partners. She will listen to your ex, but she will always in teh back of her mind, support YOU, not her. You can talk to yer sis about it Tell her how you feel, and maybe she will reassure you, that she knows this game, etc etc..

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RHP User

17 years ago

do you want to waste your energy working out what to say, how to put it, trying to stabalize the ship etc... no.. your ex is a bully and the best way to deal with a bully is to look unafected... and at some point your sister should switch on to what is happening by her self. ppl often like to work this stuff out on there own,being told by somone may just put a nose or two out.. play cool and let it go.. LRE.

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RHP User

17 years ago

They are only mind games in your mind, if you let them be that...... dazi

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RHP User

17 years ago

I would tell your sister how you feel. But be sure to do it over a glass of red and just sneak it into the conversation as if it isnt really bothering you.... If your close which im sure as twins you are she will probably pick up your feelings easily and cut off the friendship with your ex. If not I would ignore it. I am friends with my brothers ex from when he was 16 and Im not sure he even knows we still catch up.... He just ignored it at the time and got on with his own life.... It also helped his ex to move on because she would know that he was seeing someone new through conversations with me and it really encouraged her to move on... Its a negative situation but you could take the positives out of it....

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RHP User

17 years ago

Your ex is trying to hang on to your family by the sounds of things. Its always hard when a relationship breaks down and we lose contact with the other family members. Im sure if your sister is your twin she may be aware of how you feel. Im aware that your ex didnt have much to do with her. Maybe your twin is aware of her mind games. Talk to your sister, you may be surprised at the way she feels about your ex too. Stay positive, Leelee xxx

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RHP User

17 years ago

Thank you for all your advice so far. I will try and not let it get to me. Just as a slight update she rang me today to see if things I said out of anger on Saturday were true. I mentioned I said them because I am still hurting over it all. I mentioned that I did not believe anything she said to me anymore. Normally after speaking to her I feel like shit, today I however I fealt great. I am starting to take control over my life.

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RHP User

17 years ago

Maybe your twin is just playing along to catch her out at her own game. Ever heard the saying...Keep your friends close and your enemies even closer? This way she will be aware of her (the ex) bullshit every step of the way and give her enough rope and she will hang herself with her lies and head games. She (the ex) will end up looking the fool and smelling like shit instead of daisy's Hang in there mate.

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RHP User

17 years ago

If you care about your sister tell her straight up If what you say is an accurate assessment - and only your sis can probably judge that - this bitch (your ex) is using your sister - but ultimately its her call - but I have been used by people like this and I wish someone had said something wnen they saw it coming Good luck

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RHP User

17 years ago

I did mention to my twin last week that I thought that was what my ex is doing after my twin mentioning that she had not heard from her for awhile. She said she thought the same thing but later on my ex out of the blue rang her to see how things have been. Noy much can be done. I guess they say every dog has it's day. Once again thanks to evryone for there input

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RHP User

17 years ago

Mate, I reckon all you need to do is find her best friends and try to fuck them all. I think you will feel pretty good after that.

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RHP User

17 years ago

your a complete git!

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