Motivating my wife to cuckold me

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  RHP User

  10 months ago

  Horse to water etc… If it doesn’t want to drink it won’t until it’s ready. There’s probably a lot more to it for her. You’re a dude, it’s simple and emotionally say. She likely had a million questions and concerns and getting into her mind is the hard work you have to do in order to truly understand if she harbours deeper desires to do this or not. Take it slow and break it down. Maybe there’s a less committed alternative way to try it out that’s comfortable for her to begin with. She might be concerned about what it means for your relationship if you go down this route. Where as you for you it’s just sexual, she likely has a greater interpretation of the fantasy which could govern cause for reticence. Talk my man. Talk and talk and talk.

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  NeoAndTrin

  10 months ago

  Maybe put your pics into an AI video generator and see if it that can fulfil your fantasy. Probably your only option...

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  Nightglider

  10 months ago

  Another forum post by someone who has what most would assume to be a fake profile.

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  seekandplay

  10 months ago

  You say these things - but truly, you don’t actually know if you wouldn’t be jealous. Or what it could open for both of you. My best friends husband wants the exact same thing as you, she doesn’t want it to happen as she is absolutely petrified of what it could do to their marriage - even though the thrill of being with another man excites her. She just is not prepared to take that risk. He doesn’t ask her anymore and completely respects her decision. So perhaps you just need to accept it, respect it and not ‘plead’ with her for it. You’ve told her what you want. She knows. If she decides to change her mind, she will tell you.

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  wanderlustQLD

  10 months ago

  She said no.

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  Cucknshells

  10 months ago

  Bit dubious about the profile but will respond as I have been in this position. Maybe a bit different as I wanted to sleep with another man and I talked to my husband about it, and he said that he wanted me to. That it was something he had been thinking about for a long time. That he wanted to be cuckold. It was a surprise and it took me a bit to get my head around it as I had never heard of cuckolding before. I read stuff about it and books like ethical slut. I completely trusted my husband and I knew that he wouldn't regret it and it was truly something he wanted. Also he knew that I didn't want to leave him or was looking for a replacement. We weren't looking to fix something that was broken. At the end of the day you have to be on the same page. Have honest and open communication. Never stop talking. It has been amazing for us and brought us closer together . Been on this sexual journey for over 10 years now with no regrets. Shells xx

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  Sawadee

  10 months ago

  Some can roll with it and some cant... The women who can are usually in a stable relationship and on the same page as thier partner.. Then it becomes a adventure for both.. There are both men and women who would love to try this but for whatever reason they cant .. Theres that little bridge they just cant cross.. You already told her what YOU would like and she refused ? Quite simply she's not keen and proballly never will be. As one of the posts above have said , her best friends hubby kept asking the same and she kept on declining.. even though she liked the idea.. Besides' if she said yes and went along just to please you , how would you feel ? Sex is only good if all are on board..

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  Felicitous

  10 months ago

  Just because you want it for her.. doesn't mean she wants it for herself. Not everyone wants to share themselves with others... It has nothing to do with thinking your partner will be jealous - and more to do with personal preference and comfort. There are so many other reasons..but at the core, if sharing herself contradicts in any part how she views herself.. she's unlikely to be able to do that until she challenges and changes some of those beliefs. If she does change them, she should do that for herself not to please you or resentments can form. Ie Being with another is cheating and I'm not a cheater. Bring with another makes me promiscuous or makes me feel 'cheap' etc She's less likely to change her mind if she doesn't feel safe and especially if her needs aren't being acknowledged by you. Right now it doesn't sound like you're acknowledging her need to NOT want to partake. In addition the pressure of having to be with others to please your partner is not necessarily a pleasant experience.. you might push her to do things that she doesn't want to because you're getting off on it and in the moment you're only focused on your idea her pleasure. Do you know the 'whys' for her? You didn't mention them - only your reasons why she should partake. Have you asked her in a way where you actually try to understand... instead of just pleading her to choose what you want. V

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  nightingale8

  10 months ago

  Go to the beach and have fun perving together 🙂 be clear in your own mind it’s not a signal to progress any further. She knows now what you want so simply let the decision to take things further (or not)

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  RHP User

  10 months ago

  I will give you the same advice as others. My partners (over the years) and I have told couples this as they were exploring this lifestyle. Both of you have to be on the same page. You need to keep talking. Maybe try something when mutually agreed, even if it just to go to a club and watch others, and talk about it after. Just last week a couple who are good friends told me they met a new couple and did have a 4sum. Later the new couple messaged them and said thank you for the experience but we have realised it is not for us. Swinging, in whatever form, is something that requires commitment together, just as it does for many other aspects of marriage.

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  Thesunlovingsub

  10 months ago

  This very much seems like it’s all about you and what you want, not something you have suggested as a shared experience born out of mutual desires. Consent is not a negotiation where you wear someone down to get what you want. If you respected what she wanted maybe you could have pulled up at one conversation where she “refused”, and not followed up with numerous pleas, and left the door open if she ever wants to revisit the conversation.

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  Jonnymac

  4 months ago

  I can totally relate with your fetish. It is such a great gift to your woman if that's her thing too!

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