RHP

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Narcissism, sex and dating

June 27 2018

This one goes out to the women on here...recently a long time member of this site disappeared. I was like her a few years back, was freaked out by the amount of incestuous nature of Surfers Paradise and took a long time away from the scene after being burned badly. Been on a few dates this week and I'm finding it hard to see anything but Narcissistic types everywhere. I'm not a swinger or group sex type (I've never tried it and don't judge it) but is anyone else struggling to meet guys that are just normal? - Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    8 years ago

    may be confused by anti social behavioural traits ? Mado Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Every single guy right?

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    8 years ago

    You've been on a "few dates" already this week, And they're all narcissists? You can't figure this out prior to meeting them? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Forus1234

    Forus1234

    8 years ago

    How do you determine a narcissist from a first date, perhaps we all can learn from this? Some people are very clever at hiding this, masking their true self. We know someone that just ended a one year relationship with a female narcissist, she had us all fooled! Can be quite dangerous people!

  • Freaky_Fun

    Freaky_Fun

    8 years ago

    Seriously what's that supposed to mean? It only Wednesday but I'm not judging though.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Struggling to meet guys that want to date properly. My ex was/still is a narcissist. Very clever with mind games and was hard to see it over the 27 years. Crystal clear after - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Perhaps your previous bad experience has your senses alerted to the slightest sign. Everyone has a bit of narcissism within them but most are in balance with other characteristics so you dont see it. Maybe check yourself and see the positives of your dates and not the negatives

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    AnnieWhichWay, you might be right. Hapygolucky,so sorry to hear hun. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Perhaps.... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Perhaps that should have been the thread question. How do you filter that? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Are everywhere. As are narcissistic females. Dating sites bring out the best and worst in people. Ive seen people ( one couple in particular) berate the fact that they think most swinging couples are fat ugly bogans. Made them very unpopular, but obviously the messages and flirts go to some peoples heads. I think we should remember that we are on an online dating site and that doesnt automatically turn us into perfect and gorgeous beings.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    8 years ago

    Think you will find a narcissist feeds off attention, to be admired, correct on all accounts and will not apologise. The discard phase is where a narcissist shows themselves true, no emotion of empathy. I think we all tend to apologise with misunderstandings, especially in the early stages of getting to know one and other, I also think that we show empathy in any time as well. Personally if no empathy is expressed nor expressing apology.. is an early warning, as wonderful a person this person may have you feeling about them, these emotions draw blank expression, questioned and it will be your fault for not making sense for reason, poorly communicated end of discussion. No apology no empathy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I find the older we get the less tolerant we are of others faults and we become more set in our ways, we seem to look more for negatives than positives in people than when we where say in our teens or 20s...bad relationships do take a toll over the longer term so maybe our patience is very short...I could be wrong but I'm chucking it out there for consideration...maybe give people a few more dates to really see where you're at.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    8 years ago

    What's normal?? What's trash to some, is a treasure to others. I am too perfect to be a narcissist. Self-love is a wonderful thing. I think you'll find a majority of posters here, have a healthy bit of narcissistic qualities\traits. Sure this site can be incestuous, however, if one is in a healthy mindset, better choices are made (especially when meeting people). How would the world look, if we did not have self-love? Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Are usually incredibly charming because they NEED to be.... Rules most of us single guys out from here lol - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    For this shir and need to move back to Sydney. There's self love and then there's this place. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • nightingale8

    nightingale8

    8 years ago

    "I am too perfect to be a narcissist" 😂 I love it. Stealing that. Agreed, self love goes a long way. Also seeking out kindness brings the best kind of people. Things I don't tolerate - asking a simple question and having that question ignored - gently saying what I won't do and that being ignored - being referred to as "foxy/ sexy/ etc" in place of my name before something is established - straight up dick pics - hot and cold treatment. Sorry not worth my time Seems to work for me. People will treat you the way you allow them to. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Foxxy "I'm too perfect to be a narcissist."'Hilarious :) Nightingale- Cheers, hun. I do those things too but I'm missing something. I really am wondering if it is location. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I keep hearing much about this narcissism business of late. Can someone tell me how somebody who likes growing flowers relates to anything?

  • rupamohan

    rupamohan

    8 years ago

    True Narcissistic are master of the game and it takes years to find out. Either you are wrong or you process godly skills to unmask others or you met fake Narcissistic

  • tall60

    tall60

    8 years ago

    Shouldn’t be that hard to pick by manner and presentation...I suspect there are worse things people can be!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    a setting on a washing machine, not original, but true. Thanks to a recent thread about narcissists, I too realised I had one in my life.😞

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Had a great date with someone who seems really lovely as well as sexy. Haven't laughed that hard in a long time. Took a really sharp deviation from what I'm usually attracted to and wow. Had thea best time. Off to Brisbane for dinner and a show and spend the night. What a difference a week made. - Posted from rhpmobile