M60 F54

New to this and seek fun and friendship.

August 21 2010

Hi everyone. Just a little about us. We are a mixed couple, Asian, verse Australian. We are new to this site and very new to the swing scene and would like to find out, how, when, why, who. No 1, How.) - Never done anything and would like to know how to start with out being pushed or pressured into thing's. No 2,) When - Would like to know when is the right time to swing and meet people. No 3,) Why - Why would we be interested in this, mmm it sounds like fun. No 4,) Who - Who do we do it with. Who do you trust and how do you know you can trust them. Now my wife and I work in an industry of employment where we deal with a lot of people and it seem's that a photo is required to see who you are meeting, but is it necessary to upload a photo or is it best to email one another before meeting. How do you know that it is the true photo of the people or person you meet. We have talked about swinging and have decided to go into it with open eye's but one question still remains, when you meet someone, say for example a couple. You meet, but only three of the four like one another, how do you get through that scenario as we are not interested in splitting up or splitting couples for fun. Thanks to any replies.

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15 years ago

There is always the fears which go along with the potential excitement of it all... 1) get a membership and start chatting to other like minded couples, believe it or not - many people talk up their experiences and often little to no experience also, chat online or on the phone, arrange a meet n greet... we once arranged for couples in our local area to all catch up at the club for a drink one night - took the pressure off everyone, got to meet who you liked and connected with and sort out those you didn't have any connections with - even if you're new to this you can still do that! 2) For me the right time to do this is when your own relationship is stable and 'excellent' in the right scenario and for the right reasons swinging will only bring you and your partner closer - not come between you. Trust is essential, if you don't trust each other or become jealous then it can all come crashing down, talk to each other, touch each stay connected with each other during your experiences 3) who frickin' knows why any of us do this!! it's fun, we get to meet new people and just get out of life as you know it with all the responsibilities etc and let your hair down a bit! 4) you do it with people who you have some kind of connection with, feel you can trust or have things in common with ie: same age kids make BBQ get togethers easy, nude sunbaking - makes for a great catch up at the beach, drinks and dancing - partying with like minded people whatever takes your fancy really! It's almost impossible to find 4 people who all share the same intensity of feelings for each other, the way we look at is, enjoy what you can while being comfortable, but don't push the boundaries

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