Not getting any attention

November 29 2025

Im new to RHP, I filled out a profile, put effort into it, put some good photos up, stated that im only into females, but the only messages i recieve are from guys complimenting my photo. Seriously, its starting to really effect my self esteem. Can anyone help me, and tell me straight up what ive done wrong?

Comments

  • Bear68

    Bear68

    6 months ago

    You will always get the odd male message or look at your profile from time to time. Just be curtious and confirm your straight. As I said just be nice about it and don't take offence. If they keep on messaging that's what the block button is for.

  • OpalRose

    OpalRose

    6 months ago

    It’s not you. It’s us. We are so smashed with messages it’s overwhelming. Often 10-20 a day. Even with my closed off profile it’s 5 a day. Nobody can keep up with that, so it’s easy to just ignore any message that’s not needed at the time. Especially when a good majority of guys can’t take a polite no for an answer.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 months ago

    I wouldn't pay it any mind, just hang in there, make sure you are a paid member and send some good messages only to those that you match with profile wise. Eventually if your profile is well done someone will respond. But like OpalRose mentioned there is much "competition" out there. As far as the messages and looks from males go. Well that is just part of being on this site and you get used to it even though it is a bugger but just don't let it effect you. Get involved in the forums and the chat room too, as being seen as who you are no doubt can help. All the best

  • ppiffle3934

    ppiffle3934

    6 months ago

    There is nothing wrong with your profile. It reads well, you have good photos, and what you are looking for, Not all women are paying members but are guests like yourself, so that also means they usually can’t contact you.

  • TheNLMevents

    TheNLMevents

    6 months ago

    Perhaps look at attending meet and greets and parties, make an effort to try and meet hosts of parties prior so they can vett you for admission as always a lot of single males trying to get into parties. And look at the good quality events. Meet people in person, then your profile becomes a a way for people to recommend you. It is how we find good single males-via recommendations and meeting them at good events

  • Ex007

    Ex007

    6 months ago

    Women very rarely hunt here. My advice for you is to read profiles and send polite tasteful messages.

  • S33kNud1stFr3nds

    S33kNud1stFr3nds

    6 months ago

    My advise would be to take the male comment as huge compliments. Build your confidence on the compliments not so much who they are coming from. Hope you find what you are looking for. 😊👌🏽

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 months ago

    We get a lot of messages - so it can get missed. But I looked at your profile and I would say it’s actually one of the better ones for me. I would respond to you.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 months ago

    RHP is brutal for single men as there are just so many of them. I put up a date finder once for a single male and we watched the numbers poor in and ended up with around 200messages. We eventually turned it off and I felt so overwhelmed as I am a connections based person and not just on the looks side of things. To “stand out” I guess I look forward a message that shows the person has actually read the profile and not just sending hey or hello or a message that is clearly a cut and paste. That the message is more personalised and that I feel you are interested in me as a person and not just a quick hook up. That you can play tennis in your conversation and it takes on an energy of its own naturally.

  • Funbibribie

    Funbibribie

    6 months ago

    We are fun cpl but we are finding it hard to find a normal cpl who we can meet socially and if we all click have some naughty fun. We have found parties very clicky and lots of time wasters, puc collectors on here.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 months ago

    Are you serious?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 months ago

    You are amazing

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 months ago

    It would help if this site had postage paid so others can message you if they are guests

  • BBBuster

    BBBuster

    5 months ago

    I hear you mate I got about 4 responses And there at least 1 hour flight Don’t even get reply’s I might of got one or two lol I must be the ugliest dude in Western Australia Been hear two months Kept to my age group Wrote big long winded messages A lot of ladies don’t do the hi or hey How are you does cut it And still no reply Ah well not much we can do