Not wanting a reputation as a player.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  You are seeking a female best friend, a fuck buddy. only ONE fuck buddy. There is nothing wrong with that, I think that is a nice thing to have. To find one, is as extremely difficult, or extremely easy. Depending. Honesty and upfront is the best way to go. Always let HER know from the beginning, where you are, where you want to go, etc etc. how about "Im not looking for a relationship, nor one night stands, i just looking for a best friend, whom i can have a lil fun on the side.. .. etc"

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Firstly, you need to know what you want and take the time to think about it carefully. The constant running hot and cold with someone that you have met just adds grief, which is unecessary for both involved. Honesty with the other person is paramount as well as is letting go of all your baggage bit by bit as you go. I suggest you find a playmate, someone that you can bond with and have a connection with but without the hassles of a relationship. You can choose whether you are exclusive playmates, or playmates that play with others only in each others company or open playmates (suggest that if open you play in another field then rhp, it then remains uncomplicated) most don't want to know who u are nailing, particularily if it is someone they know, so don't rub their faces in it (not manners), a random at a pub or on a business trip shouldn't complicate things. But if you end up in a happy playmate situation you may find that your not really particularly interested in anyone else, if it is good, you don't want to tend to stuff it up. As much as some think the grass is greener on the other side 99.9% it aint and what wonderful person that makes you feel happy right now, won't be there when you get back from finding out, and you are back at the beginning sifting through a sea of profiles trying to find another. Good luck, that could take months and months. Easier for a girl, but not for you guys. So, if you find the perfect playmate, treat her well and you should get it back 2fold. I have seen some playmates develop into a long term relationship over time, just because the crap was removed at the beginning. Sometimes a strong bond occurs just because the pressure is off, and one day, you both realise your ready for a little committement. But that does not necessarily always happen, and some will drift in and out of each others lives over time and then settle with another. Maybe look for someone that works away a bit, or has a busy lifestyle may serve your purpose. Then you appreciate the time you have together, as well as have a distraction from work (extra bonus). This is only my advice from my own experience, which has worked well for me and I haven't had a complaint that I know of from a playmate, and still keep in close contact with my playmates as good friends even if they are now in relationships or I am. Remember you will still need to maintain respect, honesty etc, it does not mean you have a 2am booty call when u want it! Playmates are equal. You both need to contribute to get something out of it. But over all don't start one if you are not over your ex etc just because you want sex, that is not fair. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. There are way too many (sighs..met a few) on here doing that as it is, and it just leads to hurt and complications. Should be about fun, friendship and stress free. Good luck! *wanders off to think of norty things to do to her sexy playmate* xxMiss_Honeyxx

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  What is wrong with being a player? Afterall you are on a sex site - a place where many of us are players - that is, we do not restrict ourselves to just one person. Perhaps you need to be on RSVP or Lavalife. Merely a suggestion.

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