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Notches in the bedpost

August 21 2013

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I was listening to the radio whilst getting ready for work the other morning when a lady called up and said that her husband had asked her the other day how many sexual partners she had had in her life before him. She responded with a number in the fifties and he apparently then didn't speak to her for a week.I was talking to people at work about this (we're pretty open around the office) and debated whether or not that would be a disturbing number or maybe the husband's ego just couldn't take it. For a woman in her 30s though, and say she was sexually active since 20, that's about five sexual partners per year and when you put it that way it doesn't really sound like much.But then the people at work put forth another question: If choosing a relationship, would you be more concerned about a person who had a large number of hook ups, or a person who had a significant number of long-term relationships with little to no break in between them?And why?We unanimously said the latter and said the phrase that circulated was 'practise makes perfect'. I'm interested to hear all y'all thoughts.

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Presumably..... That woman's husband was previously happy enough with her sexual appetite, ability and openness.... to enter a relationship and marry her! What a dipshit, to feel to challenged by her experience when he was the beneficiary of it. DG- Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    If you get asked that question you are screwed (and not in the good way) however you answer it.   If you give a high figure, narrow minded people will think you have no morals and screwing everyone you meet.   If you give a low figure, the same narrow minded people will think you either have lived a sheltered life, aren't experienced or lying through your teeth.   I was asked that exact question once, replied thus: "more than you think and less than you imagine"   Mooka

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  • Plain280

    Plain280

    12 years ago

    Back a couple of decades ago, I was innocently asked this question by my partner and without thinking blurted out a number. Guys and Gals do not answer this question without qualification, I mean it is before your current partners time with you and you survived in good health and of sound mind. If you have picked up some experiences to explore with your partner during sexual activities another taboo is dont give out the who and where you learnt to be good at certain things. This is the proverbial minefield, jealousy loves these predicaments and this is not mud but reinforced concrete that sticks to you for the rest of your relationship.Ps I am talking about most relationships here not the RHP people who tend to be broad minded about these issues.

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Had so many notches that it fell to bitsNow I have to sleep on a mattress on the floor.And people do judge you by the number of sex partners you have.so group them into bundles of ten, that should cut it down a little bitalso if you don't actually sleep with them, when a person says how many did you sleep with..that cuts it down a bitfor me thank god if i find a guy that does have a good time with the ladies and he has picked up a clue along the way.but heywomen are still called sluts by other women...I know as some woman on here called me an old hag of a slut and old cunt and you name it. I think her parents need to get the money back from that charm school

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I mean really who cares how many partners? As the OP mentioned more about how many relationships. In the end really matters who they choose to sleep with at night over and over and over again! Don't care if you have had 100 or 1! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Why did he wait until after he married her to ask the question, if it mattered that much to him?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    are from my nails...That reminds me ...I must trim themFOXY

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I will politely plead the 5th ... Also I may ask them to clarify if they mean how many at the same time?

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    ....of a way to explain how utterly irrelevant any answer to that question would be to me. For me it is about the person and the journey. A little grasshopperish for an answer but if I am with someone it is because I want to be. How many or how few sexual partners they have had has no relevance to me at all.

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Probably didn't ask her earlier as it would sound the "jealousy" alarm and it he knew it doesn't and shouldn't really matter when you're already in love and have decided to marry.The topic came up with the boys at work and thinking he "knew" his wife he gladly volunteered that she had maybe had 3 or four previous partners. When he asked her (expecting reassurance and bragging rights) she blew him out of the water with 50 ! Took a week for him to sulk it off is all :)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I can't count past sixty....just frogs and princes really

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I honestly have no idea and I wouldn't want to try to guessI would say that I am slightly embarrassed by what it would be as it makes me feel a little promiscuous...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Presumably..... That woman's husband was previously happy enough with her sexual appetite, ability and openness.... to enter a relationship and marry her! He also presumably benefited from her exploits with every one of her past loves, from those who gave her encouragement and experiences vast and varied.

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Well for us, the notches are respectively 1 and 1. While most have said number is irrelevant, i imagine most RHP's would find this incomprehensible especially with people in midlife. Sadly, mrs slow has decided that she doesnt want to increase her number because I keep her satisfied (LOL) So that is why our profile is not visible. Not sure where to go with this because to be honest, I am not really happy with my number.

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'LI55Y' Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Presumably..... That woman's husband was previously happy enough with her sexual appetite, ability and openness.... to enter a relationship and marry her! He also presumably benefited from her exploits with every one of her past loves, from those who gave her encouragement and experiences vast and varied. That is just as I said in the rest of my earlier comments.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Does anyone really know (especially if being on this site) how many people they've been with?I don't keep a little black book. In all honesty, there haven't been many memorable people in my entire sexual life. So when it comes to trying to figure out the count, I fall over at 50. And I'm pretty sure that's in more recent times, not my entire life...But again, since I don't remember most, I have no idea really. I do tend to ask the people I'm with how many they've been with. Don't care if they lie or not. I tend to give them high fives. hahaha

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I dont make a big deal out of sex.... I am a sexual being and its a normal part of my life.... so keeping track seems like kind of an insecure thing to do.I occasion to think back on the year, and realised.... Id forgotten two womenSo I wonder if its worse to know your number, or to have no bloody idea. HAHAHAHAI'll be in Hell if anyone needs me. DG

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Some women keep lists! Which I have to be honest, I find totally weird. This came up recently in SWB and I am pretty sure of my number but only because there aren't that many though. I am a bit prudish when it comes to that... No question. :(

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I agree about the memorable fucks... and how bloody sad is that.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Slow_at_first' Well for us, the notches are respectively 1 and 1. While most have said number is irrelevant, i imagine most RHP's would find this incomprehensible especially with people in midlife. Sadly, mrs slow has decided that she doesnt want to increase her number because I keep her satisfied (LOL) So that is why our profile is not visible. Not sure where to go with this because to be honest, I am not really happy with my number. interesting .... your profile is unavailable .... does she know you are here? ...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    She does but as I said not interested at this stage. That's why profile not visible as we are not seeking to meet. Being here allows us a glimpse into how this works. And what a fascinating world it is.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I concur that the husband seems a little closeted in his view.Everyone does it, as long as you enjoyed it, and kept it clean - I don't think your partner has any business getting their knickers in a twist.And really, they're the one getting to benefit from that experience now - so again what's the reason for complaining about it... (can't see any)

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