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🍍 Now I Understand Why Couples Go to Swinger Clubs Instead 🍍
June 06 2026
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Wecome
20 days ago
We do love the social meet n greets, Red Sparrow and Luxe work for us...
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MrandMrsEss
20 days ago
Feel your pain. We often feel like the square block trying to fit into a round hole. The online experience is just as you describe for most people we have discussed it with but then swingers clubs are just too impersonal for us although for some reason we’ve had a ball at some overseas more than local ones. My thoughts are that the Aussie scene is so small so there isn’t a huge range of experiences to be had and we see the same people at most events so if you haven’t connected already the chances are against you. For us, it’s highlighted just how lucky we are to enjoy what we have together and for some time we go into anything new with the attitude that we are going to have the best sex at the end of the night whether anyone is joining us or not. This has resulted in very few notches on the bedpost but fuck me the few that are there are sure great memories!
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MsSuperFoxy
20 days ago
Haaa but wait! What you’re actually looking for is the all exclusive unicorn (as stated on your profile). She gets to decide and chooses. Probably going to be difficult though when Mr is the one running the account, especially with emoji over face pics on the profile. You're actually wasting her time going back and fourth with messages requesting face pics etc. Because she has to be attracted to you both before proceeding any further You maybe right about clubs/parties, however she doesn't hang out there all the time tho. Ms Foxy
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PartnersnCrime
20 days ago
Oh gosh yes, this is so relatable! Saying that traditional online dating never worked for me either for the same reasons. Our issue isn't so much radio silence or last-minute cancellations (those happen, life is life) but more that you can have really great chat online, and then you meet in person and the attraction just isn't there. And when you've planned a whole night around it, organised a babysitter, gotten dressed up and walked into a restaurant, only to know within the first five seconds that it's not your kind of people... you still have to politely sit through the whole evening and then find a way to explain there's no after party. It's a lot of effort for what can be a very awkward outcome. What we've found works so much better is seeing people in real life first. RHP parties give you that. You can see people in real life, whether there's a natural attraction, and if there is, you take it from there. We do find clubs a little rushed for our taste, everyone seems to be moving to rooms very quickly, which isn't really our vibe. So for now our sweet spot is parties to connect, then follow-up dates with the couples we clicked with, sometimes with a bit of pre-chat on RHP or WhatsApp to keep things warm in between. It's working for us.
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Andrea_Sydney
19 days ago
You have a great profile! It’s well-written, your validations are amazing and your pics give a great insight into how you both look without giving away your faces. You are flagging you will reveal your faces on matching too, which is important. One of my annoyances on rhp is couples who expect an extended message exchange and several promises of discretion before showing their faces. Ugh! And then you message with effort and all that, only to receive a blurry pic with sunnies … I no longer bother with couples that are too shy to show their faces. The other thing I find frustrating is photos are attractive, ours are confirmed as attractive, the messaging seems to flow, you made a lot of effort…only to find out wifey hasn’t actually seen the pics yet. Takes one look and says nah. So also with this, I ask immediately whether she’s seen the pics too before I continue. I will be honest and say that it’s usually me who loses interest in the messaging back and forth, sometimes of course also the other side isn’t into our pics, attraction 4-ways is hard to come by and I do believe you have that quite right - it’s better done in person! My honest rhp breakdown: Couples - for events, messaging saying saw you are going as well and connecting that way - we met some really lovely couples and singles that way who we also ended up playing with. But never once did any connection coming only from rhp messaging result in actual playing for us. Singles - yes. We met and played with singles off here. My personal opinion is that a 4-way attraction is so difficult to have that there’s only actual results if we meet them in person at events. Things that I would feel as “unattractive” in a photo are suddenly totally fine or even attractive when accompanied with someone’s witty way of talking or gentle voice or sexy eyes. As four people have to agree, it’s my opinion and experience that only actual meet ups work, whether for plain meet & greet or play parties. Your profile is lovely - definitely wishing you all the best!
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TheNLMevents
19 days ago
Exactly why we host meet and greets in Newcastle. Genuine people, social, no play pressure so good for those new or curious about the lifestyle.
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NorseHeat
19 days ago
Yes!!! This is how I feel spot on. We love the clubs, the night is what you make it. Everyone is there to meet people. If you don’t vibe with others, that’s ok! If you are a couple you have each other to have fun with and my husband will always be my preferred play mate, so either way is always a win for me 😍
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AsianLady4711
18 days ago
It's harder than you think to get laid off this site about 1 in 6 success rate
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sublime
17 days ago
I’m so glad you bought this up , have experienced flaky experiences from all profiles be it Male , couples or females, I have decided that I will only go to well organised hotel parties or events moving forward. I have met some genuine awesome couples on here, so I will always be happy to reconnect with people I have met
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SweetSerenade
17 days ago
Our experience is that it's 99% a waste of time trying to make a connection. This site is useful for the events page. Clubs and events are the only way anyone can meet us.
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WildWest1971
17 days ago
Our location makes it’s a little more difficult to meet. We prefer the meet and greet events and going to the clubs. Because you don’t always click with the people you might be meeting. And we have a good group of friends and there are normally some of them going to the same events. Which makes conversations spread a little wider and we find it a lot easier. And then the good wife can also dress a little more naughty. As she does enjoy a good costume event.
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Calimom
17 days ago
I get that all the time! The ghosting when the play date has been made is frustrating! Maybe I should look into attending one of these things. My problem is that I’m shy. So might be a bit overwhelming for me.
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Loverrboy
16 days ago
Wells aid, a lot of people talk big and cannot deliver, gone are the days of integrity and holding to own words or commitments. It wastes others’ time and efforts and ruins all the fun experiences to be had. There should be a process where repetitive behaviours like this results in a profile restrictions.
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BillRuby
16 days ago
It seem to me that alot of talk goes on most of the people that have commented I've reached out to and don't get a response,even if the couple that has reached out to you aren't your type have the courage to tell them we're all adults
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Firenflesh
15 days ago
We have found more success since having our face pics up ...that being said it's also still hit n miss due to for us a distance thing and living in a lesser populated area
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BlackD
15 days ago
I truly understand your frustration, @TandDaddy. Tonight, it was not different. I experienced yet another last-minute cancellation. About a month ago, I started using this app again, and since then I've accumulated countless last-minute cancellations, as well as being ghosted by some single women. I find it extremely disrespectful when someone asks you to set aside a specific day and time for a date or meet-up, only to call it off at the last minute. It shows very little consideration for the other person's time and availability. It's soo frustrating. To be honest, the main reason I continue using this app is because of the amazing couples I've had the pleasure of meeting and playing with.
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WERUP4FUN
14 days ago
Feeling the same, never been to a club but checking one out tonight. It’s a huge effort to connect with a couple through chats, be able to arrange a time weeks in advance around work, kids etc. Work out who or where to host. Then when the day comes to mood or desire has shifted, can all be well and good to plan for weeks. Then have a shit day at work or the kids get sick and the mood is gone. We are finding we like the spontaneous side of the lifestyle and it’s much easier to come home from work on a Friday, find you have the night free and head to a club if the moods right. When you get there the patrons are there for a the same reason you are and you have options.
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Gavloz
14 days ago
We know exactly how you guys feel. We were at a point where we thought that there was something wrong with us
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Scorpion2112
13 days ago
You actually get replies??? Lucky you.
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Slow_n_steady
12 days ago
That’s been our experience too. Just dipping our toes for the first time. Have organised three attempts to meet a single male in our hotel and have been stood up every time. Weeks of chatting and pic sharing, rearranging schedules around life and babysitters, only to be ghosted at the 11th hour. Leaves a sour taste and RHP don’t allow users to provide any commentary or negative rating on these perpetrators to warn others to be aware.
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JellyinHobart
11 days ago
Oh yes, the old checking your phone to see if the plans are still locked right down to the time you step out the door then BOOM! flaked…
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Pocketrocket602
10 days ago
As a single woman, it's not just couples who experience this. I've had enough of time wasters making minimal effort with chatting online when I've made it clear on my profile I'm not here for pen pals, so I've turned my inbox off to any new convos. I get to make the choice if I want to interact and have also stated on my profile I only meet new people in a social setting. After a shocking first meet with another member when I initially joined, where I paid for a hotel and made them try to feel comfortable, it was rather awkward and uncomfortable feeling that the online chemistry didn't translate to real life. So I don't bother with it any more and people can meet me where I feel comfortable
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Dadbod60ish
6 days ago
Ive been on here in the past with my ex partner and feel your pain. On here now as a single male and its very hard because so many ruin it by being disrespectfull. And deff not easy going to clubs as a single make either
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Balancedcouple
2 days ago
The above statement put me at ease, as every single line item occurred for us; now we don't feel alone. I assume that when men manage the account, including myself, their excitement and agreement on plans, with no consultation with their partner, is a big part of the issue. Even though we met and passed on details and a hard-to-manage sleepover, and made a night out, people will cancel closer to the date. Very, very tough as I lose trust, I imagine being more closed and reserved next time. But who knows, I could be totally wrong, and the next couple will be amazing.... I like your statement and will give clubs a try. Plus, personally, I suck at messaging even with my closed friends 🫣 now I imagine how strange it would be for someone new ..... Anyhow, big thanks for your amazing writing. Cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeers
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Shared_HotWife
2 days ago
We’ve had a very different experience but we aren’t into couple swaps so maybe it’s not quite the same? We are very open in communication so we find that most people don’t read our profile and when they do they often disappear which is great as time wasters get filtered quickly. The people who continue with conversations usually end up meeting us. We organise group sex rather than couple swaps after drinks so quite different. It’s much easier to find 6 suitable gentlemen for 2 insatiable goddesses than align 2 couples… or at least that’s been our experience. So many profiles are just cookie cutter renditions of everyone else so maybe the issue is that if a very similar offer is available from dozens of the same sort of people then why would they choose you over someone else who is essentially the same but maybe closer or taller or shorter….
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sublime
22 hours ago
Absolutely! It’s actually like a full time job , Too time consuming to waste on flakes , I enjoy well planned hotel parties or clubs
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