M72
OK here goes, a popcorn thread or not?
December 28 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
It’s a bit of a no brainer.... Like everything in life, treat things the way you’d want yours treated.... Us men all know that a swift kick to the nuts hurts like a mother fucker, so why would you be anything but gentle with a woman’s vagina initially until her arousal grows that can accomodate a higher pressure or a firmer touch?? Her body’s reactions will tell you all that you need to know....her hand on the back of your head as she grinds against you is a classic example of that....in the case of oral... Same with finger bangin the shit out of her.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I held something back in anticipation of a remark like that. One girlfriend likes one thing and the other likes something different. And that is why I asked.
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
You mean, two in the pink, one in the stink, type of thing. Or insert a digital mobile in her smoo? Either way, always ask for consent first, talk to her what your going to do, ask her, observe her body. Every single woman is different. No two women are the same. You go in first up banging hard, like a jack hammer, you're bound to end up nutless. 😊 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Always ask for consent ? Really ? At this stage ? Do you mind if I kiss you ? Do you mind if I lightly stroke your tummy ? Do you mind if I slide my finger between your labia ? Killjoy much ?
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'Philacrocorax' I held something back in anticipation of a remark like that. One girlfriend likes one thing and the other likes something different. And that is why I asked. No different to different guys like different things
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RHP User
8 years ago
To answer your question as honestly as I can. There are so many variables......agree with Foxxxy. To elaborate more for you on my experience.I had a medical condition that did not allow for deep or hard penetration of any kind which made my sex life a nightmare!! Ask your partners what they like. Maybe your friend who doesn't like it had a bad experience with it??Every woman is different same as everything man is different.Age is also a factor. Women who have been through menopause have trouble with dryness so be aware of that.Since having a hysterectomy and no cervix I love it although sometimes it is painful due to scar tissue up there.Makes the G-spot easier to find lolAlso depends on the size of the fingers. Start slow and use lube. Your partners reaction will let you know if you are heading in the right direction.It is all part of the experience and a good foreplay move. It gets my juices flowing lolGood luck and I hope this may have helped answer your question
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teejaylongsword
8 years ago
I'm no woman but when I have been with women... I do what Antichrist suggests. I take notice of little signals. I had a lover who would put a pillow over her head while I had to do my 'thing.' I had no choice but to read subtle signs since she could not talk and I could not see any facial expression. Mostly that would be oral (I can't get enough because to me its like kissing). Sometimes a finger would sneak in. I would start with gentle stuff (as the beautiful Superfoxxxy said in such an amusing way: so attractive). It would be like a bit of teasing (as if she might think I was never going to go in). I would caress her slowly at one point, then move to another position. I would still be on the outside at this time while also using my tongue. This would progress, while looking out for signs. The signs might be obvious, like her hand might encourage me to move or it might clamp down on my hand or head (meaning keep going). Sometimes her pelvis might move, or I might notice she is getting wetter. If she was getting wetter I might then progress to gentle finger penetration. really just the tip of my finger. I would massage just inside the entrance. Not stay too long, but then go back in etc. Eventually I would massage the g-spot and stay there for longer, or ad another finger etc. I found that she preferred not to talk. I had to work it out myself by reading her signals. If she did have to throw the pillow off and start talking it would be because I had done something wrong (haha). So its all about not taking things to heart, learning what that particular woman likes, persistence and the right approach. We became great lovers because of this and was happy to hear that I was her best lover (after the situation changed). I haven't found a woman that hasn't liked finger penetration (but as you suggest I am sure there are some that don't). I am always gentle though at first (its as if I am getting them used to it and/or asking permission). I think some women don't talk because they are concentrating on the feeling or they are having a fantasy in their heads. Not all woman have experienced everything. So 'play' with her and discover things together. One lover recently said that I was clever. She had never had someone who, for instance, I would massage her g-spot while licking her clit and kissing her passionately along her folds etc.
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
Dam right you do! Words are not the only form of communication. 😉 There's nothing more worse than a selfish sexual partner who just does as he pleases without respect or consideration of a woman's body, let alone wanting to stick his fingers in her. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Selfish or confident ? That is some pretty sweeping assumptions. Why would you even be at that stage with someone like that. I think your being contrary for the sake of it. I’ll leave you to it.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Despite what you see in porn movies, not all women enjoy the rough, non stop thrusting / insertion jack hammer action, of fingers, hands, fists and other things. Too many watch porn and think that all women enjoy these things. And therein lies the danger. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
OK, leave us to it. But, I think you'll find, it's a little different to fingering a keyboard or guitar. 😉😎 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you sign my no harassment disclaimer I prefer the tongue. 😉😎🤪🤙🤙
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teejaylongsword
8 years ago
I re-read my earlier in light of the comments of other posters. I mention persistence. I meant persistence with learning, communicating and helping to make your partner feel special and physically good. Dynamic is right when they say that its not like a porn movie and that not all women like all sexual acts. I met an interesting woman who was more interested in doing something to me, rather than me pleasing her. This flipped my traditional way of thinking on its head. She didn't seem to be as interested in other activity (that would focus on her) as much as I had assumed. She taught me a lot. Is this kind of like being a 'sub?' Anyway best to not assume anything and communicate (that includes verbal and physical communication - just as Foxy pointed out)
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Seachange73
8 years ago
It depends on the fingerer and the fingeree 😉 Like any sexual act between two consenting adults, where the hands and lips end up at the heat of the moment is dictated by what the other one feels comfortable with. I like it most of the time from men who know what they are doing. Here's the thing, most men I've been with would slowly and gently slip a finger or two, not too deep, and gauge my reaction. If he sees I'm enjoying the way he touches me, and moan in ecstasy, I'll let him push the boundaries further. I have one gorgeous fwb who would play with me with his hands/fingers for a long time before any penile penetration. He likes to watch me squirm and moan up close while he plays with me. The visuals of my body shuddering and back arching while cuming gets him off. Something to also do between 'sessions'. 😉 If at any point I feel uncomfortable or in any pain during our play, I'll most definitely be vocal about it and push his hand away. After all it's about both of us deriving pleasure. So Yes please. Within reason.
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
That's kinda funny. 😆 A bit off topic (raises middle finger lol) , but I have to ask, Is that on the keyboard or guitar 🎸?? Ms Foxy PS The "middle" finger is not to you OP. Well, if you let me, I'll stick it in your bum! 🙊🙈
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RHP User
8 years ago
I play with your affections. And if your a willing instrument I use my fingers at the same time. 👆 On either side of the fretboard !
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
Blowing your own trumpet are we? You're doing it all wrong. 😀 There's a whole world of exploration at your finger tips. There's no need to go crazy with a ton of different techniques. All you need to ask is, do you like it better when I do this or this? Just don't take too long. 😉😇 Ms Foxy
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bonefide
8 years ago
Yep very true look learn listen and ask. Can't be any simpler, it's like starting a new job, look learn and listen. New job won't have any of the perks your gunna get if u do it right. Unsure if they are classed as a fringe benifits, you're gunna have to ensure u classifier them as work experience related, maybe. 😁😂😀😆
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
Make sure your hands are clean, washed and nails trimmed. Nothing worse than an Edward Scissorhands inside pounding away. 😕 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
... that this issue is being raised. I happen to be extremely touch-sensitive and I didn't even know that until I was on the receiving end of remarks from two guys who are obviously used to women who are less sensitive. Physiologically, we can be different. Just because other women are less sensitive does not mean that the next woman you meet will be exactly the same way. Pussy and clitoral sensitivity is not something one can control or put on. If it's sensitive and getting uncomfortable, and your fingers get pushed away or your wrist gets grabbed, smartarse comments simply reflects on the insensitivity and brutishness of the man. I like what DC commented about porn and "jackhammering"! Lol! 🤣🖒
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RHP User
8 years ago
🖒to your Edward Scissorhands comment! 🤣🤣🤣
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RHP User
8 years ago
There is seldom a need to ask for the well tuned lover it spoils the moment all you need to know is in the feedback loop, you just have to care enough to feel it. Constant conversation is this ok ? Is that ok ? just destroys the symphony, sometimes you just have to trust the conductor.
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FeistyFatty
8 years ago
Just ask ... once! You'll get an honest answer.... I'm sure alot will be no..... mine would be a hells no...... never feels nice no matter how "expert" they promise their hands are. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' It depends on the fingerer and the fingeree 😉 Like any sexual act between two consenting adults, where the hands and lips end up at the heat of the moment is dictated by what the other one feels comfortable with. I like it most of the time from men who know what they are doing. Here's the thing, most men I've been with would slowly and gently slip a finger or two, not too deep, and gauge my reaction. If he sees I'm enjoying the way he touches me, and moan in ecstasy, I'll let him push the boundaries further. I have one gorgeous fwb who would play with me with his hands/fingers for a long time before any penile penetration. He likes to watch me squirm and moan up close while he plays with me. The visuals of my body shuddering and back arching while cuming gets him off. Something to also do between 'sessions'. 😉 If at any point I feel uncomfortable or in any pain during our play, I'll most definitely be vocal about it and push his hand away. After all it's about both of us deriving pleasure. So Yes please. Within reason. On the same page as LilyOrchid. I have had the same experience recently with someone who just kept giving. It was so sensual and I was going off. Its not the first time I have had it done but there was definitely something about his technique and using his tongue as well. Phew
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Seachange73
8 years ago
I agree. Very sensual. ☺ I'm all for it. The exploration of the gspot does not have to be harsh, pumping action. just too mechanical for my liking. Sometimes I love to mix up some rough tumbling action with sensuality. Some men are better at it than others as they arr more sensitive to my reaction and body language. These men are keepers. 😉 And I also don't mind changing the tempo a bit at times. It's quite sexy watching him watching you enjoying yourself as he pleasures you wirh his hands, lips, tongue and his cock. there is sensuality in voyeurism.
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RHP User
8 years ago
No surprise seeing how many feel about a feel. Ms Divorcee used her hand to show me how she likes to be touched, because I asked. Mrs Farmer told me I could put my finger in if I wanted to. I was a surprised by that so I asked she said she wanted me to, I went and washed my hands and followed her guidance. The last time I did that was in my youth. On the subject of hygiene, I have heard that mechanic's wives and girlfriends get more than their share of cystitis.
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