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Online Stalking
May 05 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just like to mind fuck another you want reasons why? Most don't need one, but she might feel you did her wrong in some way, or she might feel she can pull your strings, seems like its working. Just focus on your kids and remember if there is any custody disputes this is the first place the private detectives look and it can be used in court against you. your life style choices are always part of the proceedings and sex seems to get everyone bent out of shape for some as they need to show your not putting your children in any moral danger , yada yada yada so you do need to make sure you keep yourself safe from her stalking besides she may just want to play here by herself, and want you to go find another sex site to hook up with women.
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sweetgem
12 years ago
So I do not know why would she, or someone she knows, be stalking you. Only your ex wife knows OP. However, LadyT might have guessed it close to her right answer? I do not want to give assumption to why your ex is stalking you whereareyou76, because what I assume could be far from the truth and would not be fair to your ex. All I will say to you is, be careful of what you do on a vanilla dating or adult dating website IF, only if, you still haven't had an official divorce! Though, I am interested to know OP, why did you have to mention all those things that your ex wife did in the opening of your message? What she did or the cause of your separation or divorce is totally irrelevant to the purpose of this thread! It's just not cool to start bad naming your ex and mislead people into believing what you say! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Haven't named my ex sweetgem. I mentioned what she had done to outline that she was the cause for the divorce and now appears she's stalking me for some reason. I also have it all in black and white. She hasn't got under my skin or pulling my skin, my question is more about why would someone go and do all that she did and possibly stalk me while she's with someone else. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Facebook is full of it - you know those people you avoid, don't want to see - but curiosity gets the better of you - it's human nature. She wants to know what you're doing - have you moved on? are you happy? have you had a haircut, bought new clothes, done something interesting? Women are curious creatures, we love extra information - she wants/needs to know what you're up to to feel better about her choices. I'm genralising here, so ladies please don't take offence, but really - we like to have the upper hand. Ever heard the saying - any attentions good attention? Mrs B - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is because she can,and really you do know the answer....if indeed you are not divorced she might be digging up the dirt on you,if you have children that might be the reason.....when relationships end sometimes it brings out the worst in people, you can't change her behaviour, but you can control how you react to it,be the better person hugs xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well she's not my girlfriend yet. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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erotictouch4u
12 years ago
You were probably her security...income, family life.Now all she has is herself and playmates and possibly is wondering what security she has on her own.As Q says, she is probably trying to dig up some dirt on you to convince herself it was not all her fault and justify what she did.Just keep your kids close but don't fall into the same trap as her of biasing them against her as she is still their mother.ET xox
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't try to rationalise an irrational mind. All you can do, is know that she's there, protect yourself without limiting yourself, and concentrate on the kids. My ex did similar, not quite the same, but similar. You keep your private life to yourself, not even share it with the kids. Work on showing the kids a balanced, stable life that's fun, and let them decide with their actions not their words, as involving them in "adult shit" is not cool. Even IF she takes off with the kids, they WILL find you. They always do. I realise, you only asked "WHY" she is doing this, and I think I've answered that, and thrown in some extra on the off chance you're struggling a little bit with the other stuff that can plague you as well. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
Be the better person!! There are children involved - so be the better person.. The best version of yourself x - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
is when one partner will try to manipulate the children against the other parent and destroy that relationship during a separation or divorce. One parent will say things to the children (aggressively/derogatory) about the other parent, sometimes they will question the children and they try to will sabotage contact as well...It is their way of showing ill feelings towards the other parent, main reason being because they are hurting and want dirt on you. They will use children as porn. It is wrong and a form of abuse...children should not be involved!! All I can say OP - if you act with good ethics/morals, intregrity and show your children good-role modeling, then you have nothing to worry about...as for the stalking and looking at your profile and that is all they are doing - they can. If it is in real life and they are constantly "stalking" (that's a huge word) document and document is all I got to say and take further action until you feel SAFE. Sometimes separations/divorces can be quite messy especially if a new partner is involved. Good Luck with it all. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think you mean children as pawns...xx Q
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
oh dear.........YEEEEEEES Q I do. ** Readers please note and understand, I did mean "porn as in pornographic" nor was was post directed to go down or veered in any shape or form to approach that subject. Not embarrassed over it, but I am sure people will choose take it my wording of spelling and assume something else. I am sorry, if they choose that. :( Ms.Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know I stalk people because I enjoy it... I stalk celebrities, my brother, my brothers friends, the kids at schools parents, my sons school and the teachers there :)... It's always good to know what's going on... Have information and easy to do in the car park while I'm waiting to pick up the boys :) Don't be so paranoid! It's probably totally harmless. Xxviolet
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your Reply was GOLD
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RHP User
12 years ago
find it nteresting that people are willing to vilify this woman when all we have is the OP's version of events. Maybe he's telling the whole truth, but maybe he's leaving out a few details (not like that hasn't happened before on here). Maybe his ex is stalking him, maybe she isn't. Point is I'm not going to make any sort of assumptions about her or her behaviour when I don't know any facts whatsoever about the situation.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My brother and sister-in-law are divorcing, and she has been telling people (read: friends, family, teachers, their GP) a lot of things about his declining mental health.She told me he was verbally abusive, and he had threatened suicide in front of their children. Knowing of my brothers issues in the past, I took her word for it. Then I started to find holes in her story and I spoke with my brother in depth for hours, for the first time in years. It quickly became clear to me her stories are not the truth and other people are finally catching on, including her own parents. My brother told me he doesn't even think she is lying out of malice, but she is so desperate to keep the kids, house, etc. that she doesn't realise the harm she is causing. Who knows what your ex's reasons are, OP. No one can speak for her but she herself.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' find it nteresting that people are willing to vilify this woman when all we have is the OP's version of events. Maybe he's telling the whole truth, but maybe he's leaving out a few details (not like that hasn't happened before on here). Maybe his ex is stalking him, maybe she isn't. Point is I'm not going to make any sort of assumptions about her or her behaviour when I don't know any facts whatsoever about the situation. LD Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I disagree. I don't think we've vilified the bitch at all. I think most of us don't blame her specifically for being a nut job bunny boiler!!! :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Excuse me ....I don't want to be included in your statement!! Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Given the fact that the OP wasn't about you.....then it's safe to exclude yourself.... OR... Are you trying to tell us something??? :p ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Phew! Thank you. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Asked a question...the question was why would an ex be stalking him onliine people put forward the reasons why they thought it could be happening.....and probably based on their own experiences...l don't think anyone was saying Anything about the ex specifically.... People should be able to ask questions here based on what is happening to them.....and posters should be able to give their opinion Q
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