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Online just a novelty and entertainment

August 31 2019

When we started this we were quite naive to what this was about. We were quite frustrated when couples wouldn’t follow through with meeting or even chatting. I know we are all in the same boat with how much of a bottomless pit of failed interactions this has become, but it’s changed the way we think for the worst. We never wanted to leave anyone hanging, come across fake, not follow through with communication, or reneg or just not show up for a date, but it’s all for fun now. This has proven itself to be just fun and entertainment. I feel a fraction of percentage of profiles actually view this as a tool to meet. The rest is just to get off leading people on, getting a hold of their private gallery and most likely behind their partners back. We’ve had two recent couples on paper appear perfect matches for each other, only to totally quit communication after doing the hard yards of days of communication. So instead of being disheartened by all this, we just go along for the ride. And like I said it ain’t just us, we know it’s everyone. but not sure how else you can view this. It makes it very difficult to trust profiles or sift out the real from fake. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

6 years ago

I agree. For every genuine person/people on here there are a lot that aren't. I haven't met anyone from here for a long time. Simply because nothing comes of the conversation. I've kind of lost interest anyway lately because I'm tired of striking up conversations that go nowhere. I'm just glad that so many people have so much time to waste. I just read the forums these days, what there is of them now. I'm taking a break and investing time in me, which won't be wasted lol.

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RHP User

6 years ago

It’s weird how many don’t have any intentions of meeting. With a few questions, I can usually pinpoint the genuine from the fakes but it’s a time wasting frustration. It’s hard enough to find someone you are compatible with, have common interests with etc, it all takes time. Non-genuine people steal our attention, when we could be focusing on those that deserve it. They are selfish con artists, who get enjoyment from playing with people’s emotions. It’s sick.

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CoastCouple2018

6 years ago

That’s true Happy Go and Baby Doll. You can get a rough idea from the start. However the last few seemed really good and still fell apart. If only we had ways to tell. IDK

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FeistyFatty

6 years ago

Agree. And yes the novelty certainly does wear off. I found it wore off quicker for hubby and I playing as a couple with other couples (probably a few years). Then hubby got sick of the crazies playing solo, so he rarely meets with "new" people anymore unless its a threesome with me. And me, probably not far behind. I dont meet "new" people very often anymore because I'm finding the quality connections rare. Have been lucky over the years and met so many wonderful people, many of whom are very good friends. I too dont understand why people have zero intentions of meeting and just string along. Id just think that was a royal waste of someone's time. I still enjoythe forums, even though they're a bit more sparse these days.

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RHP User

6 years ago

It is a sad fact of RHP, sifting through the too common fake bs profiles. But it is what it is. One thing that I take into account now is if the profile is verified or not. By no means is it totally fool proof, but at least the verified profiles have gone to the effort (as small as it is) to prove that they are real. So are more likely to follow through with meets etc.

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SpicyKale

6 years ago

The difference between fantasy and reality is huge for some. It's always had us buggered why you'd pay for a membership and them behave like the OP has mentioned. In saying that, there's a lot on here that definitely meet up, we've been to packed clubs, so from our perspective the scene is definitely strong. People on here are all looking for something different though, some are playing weekly, others only on birthdays, NYE and maybe holidays away from home. We're at a stage of life where we've got kids, are shift workers and need to plan six weeks ahead! We know the lack of spontaneity works against us and probably puts people off at times, but that's life😐 We've definitely had the occasional are you interested still message, it's generally because one of us is on a late shift and the other us dealing with screaming kids, so the kik messages are a tad hard to get to. Some people are very understanding, others take it as rejection., even if we're very honest about it. None of lifes stresses are an excuse for playing games with others emotions though. We've definitely got a few on here that we're waiting to catch up with and drop past to say high when we can. Sure we're not the only ones in that situation, so communicate folks!

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RHP User

6 years ago

Yep it’s a patience game on here, I find if you just be yourself and put up with the bullshit it does pay off....if you are looking for a bang every night....it’s not going to happen. Be patient Grasshopper and you will find some lovely grass too eat.

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RHP User

6 years ago

I used to take it personally, but now im of the oh well your loss not mine. We have been in the Sean for a number of yrs now and this year has been the worst for no shows and BS. Maybe because we are older now? I guess we can just keep sorting through the sand to find the the gems

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AnnieWhichway

6 years ago

Many have the attention span of a gold fish. Nibble, swim on. I usually like to chat a bit to apply my b.s. radar but many go quiet after they lose their erection. No problem though, I'm not invested. They maybe think I'm a time waster by then. Other times though if I'm in the mood l move things pretty fast. It's then a case of who messages me at the right time, jumping the orderly queue

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SSExplorer

6 years ago

We are in the same boat. To be fair though I think couples are harder work as they often have kids and commitments and don’t have their weekends free for socialising. This coupled to a few failed meets then its hard to set the time aside for yet another lack lustre experience. We are guilty on both sides. Rarely do we have the time and then when we commit to making the time then the other party stands us up so then next time we find it harder to commit our time. Now we just check in to see what’s going on and if we do connect with anyone then great, if not then we have plenty more to do. It’s just a shame we didn’t match up to the OP as we didn’t hear back after sharing our pg! 🤪

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RHP User

6 years ago

To me I think you nailed it when you said some people use it as a tool to meet..... A tool being the key word.....it’s 1 tool...not the ONLY tool.... Think of it like shopping....EBay, as huge as it is, is just 1 way for people obtain the products they want....Facebook marketplace is another....buy swap sell pages also another... Then you have your big name retailers... Isolating yourself to just RHP to find your outcomes whatever they are, is like using only eBay to purchase everything you want for your project....

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FeistyFatty

6 years ago

Oh snap!!!🤣🤣🤣

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RHP User

6 years ago

I’d also add.... That any relationship irrespective of context takes time...it’s not a drive thru, or Uber eats(in this case Uber fucks).... I’d suggest that no one has gone to a pub and met their husband/wife in an instant....why would anyone expect it to work any differently on here just because people advertise themselves ?? Expectations are the highway that lead to disappointment.....

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RHP User

6 years ago

Crossing a privacy line there. That aside, should everyone reply after seeing your pg? A no reply is a reply. If you don't want that disappointment, then put more public pictures up, particularly of the Mr. It might save you a few clicks on your keyboard 😏

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