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Opposites Attract?
October 10 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
Short term yes, long term no. Sexually, that's a bit different as I've discovered but intrinsic differences ie he's inclined to brush things under the carpet, you'd rather discuss/hash it out, or he's eternally worried about what people think, which has a knock on effect of the public face being more important than you, but you couldn't care instead putting the two of you first, or he's not a risk taker, you like to live on the edge, those kind of things will cause immense frustration further along. I married the polar opposite of me, a one word answer kinda guy lol obviously that was never going to work 😉
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Free to fly now girl 😌 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I am indeed. Gone full circle though and want someone to annoy me again 😀😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Educated, and just totally fun to be around...an addictive laugh, and just a really top chick.... Complete opposite of me....and she still occupies a piece of mah lil heart lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Quoting 'the_antichrist' Educated, and just totally fun to be around...an addictive laugh, and just a really top chick.... Complete opposite of me....and she still occupies a piece of mah lil heart lol Aww, under that rough exterior there is a soft spot. Careful might damage the rep :) You seem like you would be fun to be around if your comments are anything to go by. They make me laugh and they can be very educational LOL
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I am indeed. Gone full circle though and want someone to annoy me again 😀😉 I thought the same but now I have the chance its like a hot blanket in the middle of the Summer. "It's on me, its smothering me, kick it off " Hope you find your all seasons quilt.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
I'll do and try things just because I can . Never the type to be shackled but still disciplined enough to show respect . For me there's a fine line between living the dream and pleasing everyone else.. Just don't try and tell me I can't do something when I know I can..
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RHP User
8 years ago
The whole yin/yang thing works for some couples. One might be loud and adventurous, the other softly spoken. One can ground and settle the other whilst also being encouraged (by the other) into things they ordinarily would not do (in life in general). I know a few couples like this, they work well together and always have. Others, though - tempestuous is probably the mildest way you could describe their relationship. They have that love/hate thing going on - they drive each other berko and are constantly at it. Eventually one sees sense and decides to simplify their life by leaving the other. Myself, I married a Christian woman (and I am rather decidedly not Christian). It seemed like a good idea at the time. As her mother pointed out though, you don't yoke an ox to a donkey (my ex being the ox and me the donkey of course) - and she was right. It's basically insurmountable. Never mind that my ex was about as Christian as Jimmy Bakker, really when you boiled it all down. I would always say to her ''you may be a better Christian than me, but I'm a better person than you''.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Of how not to be Hahahaha Kidding....thanks chick....ditto btw - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Education, economics, status is irrelevant its all about chemistry and how much effort you want to put into the relationship to make it work, I have dating complete opposites in the past, businesswomen and a professional musician for example, but I made them laugh and we had a good time so it worked, I still remain good friends with one to this day...10 years later.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm a Man I'm attracted to women, and women are attracted to me That's a pretty good definition of opposites attracting 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It’s very good definition..... Normally you’re into men 😂😂 Love you 😘😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Normally I'd tell you to kiss my arse but after what you just wrote people may get the wrong impression So.... go blow a goat (Love you too ya big cum smudge) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
What I'm hearing is, yes it can work long term, I 'had' a ....... No need to thank me. I'm happy to share my brilliance 😀😯
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Sometimes the very things you like about someone the most when you first meet them can turn into the things that drive you crazy over time. Eg. In the beginning, I love how he is such a free spirit and spontaneous ........a few years later......Why can't he get his shit together and commit to something. Why does he never plan anything and follow through. Or (this is what inspired the topic, dating a guy who was a truckie and just salt of the earth type of person, nice guy, not RHP) I love how he is so open, straight up, down to earth and tells me what he feels ...... a few weeks later ....Fuck am I ever going to get a word in edgewise here. Its all about him. LOL I also see my friends who are long term couples and very different driving each other crazy expecting the other person to bend when its clear its not going to happen.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'EarthQueen'...I also see my friends who are long term couples and very different driving each other crazy expecting the other person to bend when its clear its not going to happen. "a man goes in to marriage thinking* nothing will change, and a woman goes into marriage thinking* everything will change." ? [* I'm paraphrasing, and unsure if the quote stated "thinking" or "expecting". Haven't stopped to check for references...]
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RHP User
8 years ago
This> "Sometimes the very things you like about someone the most when you first meet them can turn into the things that drive you crazy over time" Yes, so true but short of having a crystal ball, we don't know until time has been fast forwarded. Great point though, kind of blows my theory out the window lol 😂 or challenges it which is a good thing. Love to hear more opinions about that. Ontology, I love that, it is very confronting for women, but sadly true most of the time. Until we get older and wiser that is, learn from our mistakes 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
I once saw a cartoon of that in an old mag... a Bride and Groom at the alter, the Groom thinking, “all I have to do is say I Do and I get to have sex whenever I want”. The Bride, at the same time, thinking, “all I have to do is say I Do and I never have to have sex ever again”.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I can easily see the merits of both OkeyDoke and EarthQueen in different situations. Sometimes it works well, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes one person brings out the best in the other and you compliment eachother very well... other times it seems fun at first but then could fade quickly. To me it would all boil down to acceptance, respect and compromise. If both have that and each persons morals, wants and needs are not a deal breaker to the other then it could be a perfect match. But you need to establish what these things mean for each as that determines the outcome.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes, so long as the respect and acceptance is there, that will sustain the relationship. Each has to see the best in the other. My ex always saw the worst in me, I saw the best in him, he had lots of failings that he wasn't even aware of. I woke up one day and realised I would never be skinny enough, pretty enough, smart enough, on time lol enough, articulate enough, always say the right thing, the list goes on but he chose to see the worst in me, the best in everyone else, and that was the dealbreaker for me. I lost respect for him because he never respected me. He still would deny that though, wouldn't even be aware of it, because in his mind he's perfect. Add to that difficult to communicate with and happy to no longer have to be in that situation. If you're (general, not meaning you) married and desperately lonely, there's a clue 😯
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not boring enough. That was the key thing. He wanted to numb me down haha 😁 No-one puts baby in a corner 😠
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2'If you're (general, not meaning you) married and desperately lonely, there's a clue 😯 Yes, every time I get mopey because I'm feeling lonely I remember it could be worse. At least I can do whatever I want now without the anxiety of trying to please someone I can't. Quoting 'Mister_Playful'I can easily see the merits of both OkeyDoke and EarthQueen in different situations. Sometimes it works well, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes one person brings out the best in the other and you compliment eachother very well... other times it seems fun at first but then could fade quickly. True. My ex and I were always different but originally it was complimentary. He was rebellious and different and I loved it. Then he changed careers and became much more conservative in his thoughts and started to care more about what people thought about him things shifted. I felt he lost the fun. I remember just looking at him and thinking I know you were never this sanctimonious before. Lighten the fuck up. But I'm sure he probably thought similar things about me, its never a one way street.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Had great time
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RHP User
8 years ago
Change over time. It’s no tight or wrong, just who we are and how we learn. Just have to hope it is for the best and hope our partner changes with us or accepts why we are changing.
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RHP User
8 years ago
“no tight” should have been “not right”. My bad.
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