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Over-Validated: Good or Bad
March 30 2018
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
is a turn off for us - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
...and someone handed you a card listing "references" from people they had bonked or even a list of friends that you really don't know as some sort of rationale as to their credibility? No. Want to see my friends list, roll past my FB profile then for more info, hit up any of my 600+ friends. I've only accidentally fallen down drunk and/or naked with a few of them. ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
When I joined they did put me off a bit. I was new to the whole concept of RHP. Now it shows me that these people actually will meet others. The number of validations dont bother me at all. Say a guy has 20 validations.....the next guy may have none but has slept with over 200 people. Its not relevant to me. I do prefer the ones that are more about the persons character than detailed descriptions of their sexual skills though. Mr X might have brandished his deliciously thick tool around all night and f**ked you til you couldnt walk next day, but might be a completely different scenario with his next date?
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HotNightsGC
8 years ago
To us, it’s irrelevant whether a person has slept with 2 or 200 people. So a persons friends list is not an accurate representation of their profile. Validations however. tell us if the person is real, that they turn up to a meet, that their profile is true to their self description and if they’ll be a good match for our preferences. The amount of validations a profile has doesn’t bother us. The more validations they have, the easier it is to view peoples experiences with them are consistently good. Just our take. MS HNP. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I’ll admit when I first joined they were a put off, however over time with different experiences and opinions my view has since evolved. @ VivalaKoko - totally agree with you 😄 @ HotNightsPerth - very good point @ Meander - ha ha rolling eyes 🙄 this says more about the people writing the validation rather than the receiver. Annnnd someone has to say it, yep I’m going there...... The sexist double standard 😳 I’ll admit there are validations I didn’t approve or I’d deleted due to the messages and judgement I had received personally. Ooooo I must be a player 🙄🤨 Men are cheating on their “ non sexual “ wives or searching for a woman who “knows what they want” yet if she does? Umm she’s a player. A tart? She must have several men at once. She’s not worthy of further time or respect ✊ Pre conceived and negative connotations formed over hundreds of years, ingrained into our psyche from society and past generations. Slowly RHP is opening our minds and having healthy debate, yet it’s still exists. Mostly from the biggest hypocrites and “players” themselves 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's an indication that you're a real profile and that you like lots of sex :) People who don't like lots of sex!?!? Well those people are just weird and probably maim small animals in their spare time
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RHP User
8 years ago
Totally agree wholeheartedly with Lionsdoll1 ( 😎) - Posted from rhpmobile
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WishingWell
8 years ago
Hi Juxone, Ah the controversial validation topic The template validations don’t mean a thing to me but if a playmate writes something unique and with depth then I do appreciate it and will put on my profile. I do look for validations on male profiles that reaffirm what I’m looking for in a play mate. I have had people judge me on my validations but I’m no virgin and am on this journey for sexual exploration at the end of the day. Each to their own.. The fact is that you can’t please everyone and I believe you should just do what feels right for you XXX
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FeistyFatty
8 years ago
Is an instant turn off for me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Validations to us say you are true to your profile. Be it a couple or a single. You could validate someone because they are a genuinely nice person/s. It also doesn’t mean you slept with them. Guest/ no friends/ no validations/ not verified... says be careful. You don’t need 200 of them but if someone goes to the trouble of writing one and we actually enjoyed our time with them, then we see no harm in using it. Juxone hope this helps xxx 😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I had always seen it as a bad thing to have lots of validations.. And saw it as a turn off.. But your comments have changed that way of looking at it. I guess some of the content of validations could still be a turn off.. And as you have to allow the validation, it could also be a representation of the person.. But definitely, the number of them means nothing except that they are genuine and follow through.. It's nice to have my thoughts challenged and even changed.. 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi RHP friends-thanks for all the posts and although they may be all varied-I can see the rationale behind each individual responses I agree with many of you in that the template validation is a bit impersonal and if you going to validate someone-then make the effort to do it. x After a first meet I would always message the person/couple and thank them for the pleasure of their company-but I wouldn't necessary validate them-in fact I hardly validate as I never expected validations myself-but i am wondering if that is a expectation for some people-if you had a really good time with someone should they deserve some thanks and praise openly? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
... that attest to someone's friendliness and nice nature are ok. But those that say things like, great stamina, had a steamy hot session... blah blah... good fuck, gives good oral, blah blah... I find that crass. It's like fucking someone and then yelling from the rooftop that he/she fucks well, good time guaranteed, don't miss the chance to fuck him/her! That's just... TMI. 😝
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RHP User
8 years ago
I personally don’t like it .- few or so is fine but for me it tells me he is jumping from chick to chick and he really doesn’t even care what her name is he just wants the V! Yes people sleep with a lot of people — fine , but I don’t need it shoved in my face or for it to be a numbers game. Somethings are better left unsaid. - Posted from rhpmobile
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WishingWell
8 years ago
@ Meander - ha ha rolling eyes 🙄 this says more about the people writing the validation rather than the receiver. ..And what exactly does it say about the person writing the validation Lionsdoll1??..
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RHP User
8 years ago
It says it is their choice of words to use and their opinion. Not the receiver. It’s not a negative comment at all. 😘 Personally, I liked your validation, I liked the use of “wand” as a description. It says to me you enjoyed your time and found it to be magic by using that description. ( ild have to agree) I also took it as a little tongue in cheek 😉 and playful. Im sorry, I sincerely hope you didn’t take offence, the English language so often gets construed into certain negative lines. I meant it literally not figuratively. Perhaps I didn’t choose the right words. 🤷♀️ Meander had stated that validation made her roll her eyes. Im saying Juxone didn’t say it about himself. - Posted from rhpmobile
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WishingWell
8 years ago
Thanks for the clarification Lionsdoll1, all good !
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SugarSugar69
8 years ago
Not all validations mean you've fucked the person giving the validation. I like validations as it helps to filter the crap out from the genuine people. For those who think it's a no no because it's an indication of how many people someone's been with, go stick your head in the sand.... this is redhotpie after all. Do whatever pleases you. Screw what people think. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
thats a perfect response in my opinion can't say any more than whats already been said by pure peony
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RHP User
8 years ago
Non templated validations are a good gauge to see if a person is right you and for me confirms they are real too. However it is up to the receiver to accept and make them visible to the masses. Like what hithereU has said, you cant please everyone… so its your choice as to how many you want to show - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
My thoughts are, we are ALL here for sex as the primary objective. There are a plethora of agendas that fall beneath that umbrella. I validate in my own words IF and only IF it hasn’t been worth it. I have had some of the most, magical, soul touching energy exchanges from Rhp and I’ve had some of the best best slammed up the wall and fucked sex and everything in between. Lovers who turned into friends and back to lovers. This site has been good to me. To validate the person is a great thing, methinks - some of us need a little more connection and it’s easier to ascertain if a potential encounter could be a personality match, if someone other than them is doing the talking. It is hard to own your skill and finer points, much less: talk yourself up. As for sex...if any of us are having bad sex in this era, we shouldn’t be having it at all. Haha. 💋 I read the validations to see if the noice is worth the squeeze. 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
@PommyFucker, couldn't have said it better myself mate! Totally agree. @SugarSugar69, exactly! It is RHP after all. I don't see any problem with having validations. @FemmeFontaine, great points. I find them useful and often read them on profiles I come across. I don't see how having 20 can be any worse than having 2.If I come across a lady's profile that has 20 validations, I don't lose any respect for them. I say good on em, and it makes me want to meet them even more coz I know that they know how to have a great time! @lionsdoll, I sypathise and totally agree that it really sucks how some dudes would look upon many generations negatively. Although I think if they're that closed-minded and backwards, are they even worth meeting? Real men are not intimidated by a woman's strength or promiscuity. For me, it's a turn on!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Over validated is just that, but that begs the question of what is the difference between validated and over validated.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks for the vote of confidence! The issue resides in the closed mindedness. I am a strong woman with somewhat, promiscuous tendencies I keep in an ethical manner if that makes sense? Lady on the outside with morals and a heart of gold and a fire within. Only a special few could agree with that though...., 🤭 So back to the OP, what is “too many” to the masses? Make or female? Even in 2018 in RHP land, still debatable. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Each to their own but if I see a guy with a heap of validations then I steer clear or has been with someone with pages of validations then it's a no go zone for me - Posted from rhpmobile
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