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Parents' challenge and handling
January 03 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
We as parents cannot protect our kids from heartache, physical injury, or being exposed to things that may harm them....ok maybe delete that last bit as it kinda just says the same lol All we as parents can do is provide them with the thought processes of analysis and the tools to cope with heartache etc if it presents itself...... The rest......is hoping we did it right..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
It may not be what it seems to be. They are young they have their whole life ahead of them to learn from mistakes. We can't judge by their age. We as other potential interested parties will pick up on what they write. Who are we to box other people in to our way of thinking? Maybe they have permission but can't express it very well or maybe their partner is saying yes to please not knowing themselves at the tender age of 18 or 23. What age is appropriate to be on this site as a couple? That's a very discriminatory question when the maturity of the mind is not taken into account. I understand what your saying though, Sweet Gem. Life is painful and not even parents can protect their children from life's pain. Growing is painful but can be rewarding. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have raised two step daughters in their twenties now and have a son in his teens and a younger daughter. My childhood was in a very strict religious home and school where sex was taboo and not spoken of in a manner wanting to encourage it. This has heavily influenced my parenting style to be open and honest with my kids. We speak about everything and my children know they can talk to me regarding any topic, with an open mind and no judgment. I have spoken with my older children about porn, masterbation and their bodies. I do not want any of my kids embarrassed or ashamed about themselves or their sexuality. I applaud young people that have discovered their sexuality early. I wished I hadn't taken so long to appreciate sex. And to answer some of your questions SweetGem, I do not condone someone underage on RHP or fraudulently representing themselves as a couple when they aren't (or single when partnered either - but that's a whole other topic). What are the thoughts of the parents who have young children (under 18 or younger)? Are you worried much about what your kids might do outside home, especially those who have daughters that are already in dating relationship at 18 years of age? I am not worried about my kids or their activities. I have taught my children about sex, their bodies, respect for themselves and others. I know they will come to me to discuss anything on their mind. There is also a website www.lawstuff.org.au that outlines laws for each state (there is a SEX category), quite an interesting read. How would you react if you come across a very young couple's profile on sites like this, which contains a photo of one of your children? What would you do and how would you handle the clarifying task with your children? I would ask my children outright if it was their profile. If so, probably block them from seeing mine (or if underage further consequences would apply). If not, report it immediately to RHP. Do you think the kids in today's generation know what to focus on first, even with their parents' guidance? SweetGem what do you mean by focus? Sexually or do you mean broader; study, career, family, travel, etc? I guess my answer to all is I trust I have raised my children to be well rounded, respectful human beings. I want them to work hard for what they want to achieve in life, live with passion and enjoy what life has to offer. A part of that is to enjoy exploring their sexuality without feeling dirty or ashamed. So yes, I believe my kids know what is important to focus on.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Once your children turn 18,they are an adult and free to do as they wish.and more than entitled to privacy in their private lives....not sure why this is an issue...
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
I'm a mother of 5, 4 boys (25, 23, 14 & 11) and 1 girl (19), I think I've done a reasonably good job with the older ones, still doing the same job with the younger ones. They are all awesome individuals with their own voices, good manners, respectful, who know the differenc between right and wrong, they have common sense, kind hearts and are loving caring people, like their mother. The thing is Sweetgem, we as parents can only do so much before they make their own choices and walk their own paths. All I can hope for is, I've given all of them the life skills to get them through whatever choices/decisions (wheather that be sexual, everyday life, social situations, or in the workforce) they make as young people, also that they know that I'm always going to be there for them, to love them, to listen to them, to help them, to advise them, to not judge them and that it's all unconditional.💋
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RHP User
9 years ago
A good sculptor sees the figure already inherent in the marble, and labours patiently to bring it out. A bad sculptor tries to impose a pre-envisioned figure onto the marble, regardless of its inherent qualities. I reckon that's true of parenting. I've worked hard as a father to help both my kids understand who they are, to be comfortable with themselves, and to bring that self respect into their relationship with others. Being sexually open and inquisitive is a gift, as long as you're not being manipulated by anyone, and with healthy self respect manipulation's much less likely to occur. Of course they'll make mistakes, but they have the internal strength to weather that and learn from it, which is what growing up is. The sexual adventures they embark upon will be their own, and of their own choosing, and part of their journey into maturity. As for their generation as a whole, the last twenty years or so of technological advances has created a very different culture from the one I grew up in, and has certainly impacted on their attitudes to sex and relationships, but judging from my kids' friends it's just different, not worse.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am part of the 'young people' that you describe - I joined when I was 19 as part of a couple and have been on here ever since as a couple and a single - also I should say that from the get-go I've been the one that sends out the majority of messages and makes things happen on here, not the male While they've never said anything directly, I know my parents aren't completely in the dark about my relationship/sex life preferences. All they've ever said to me was to be safe, smart, happy and healthy. Which I like to think that I have been on this site. And I think that my experiences on here have helped me to become a sex-positive, open-minded person. I think my parents would be confident in that they've raised me well-enough in my formative years to make intelligent decisions, and if I was a parent I'd like to think that i'd done enough to think the same so I wouldn't worry if I saw my child on here. Once you get to that age - truth be told - there's probably very little a parent could do/say to stop a younger person exploring if they are curious. I'm curious, what would YOU say/do if your child was on here sweetgem? Miss Little xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have my own kids and a step child, the oldest 18 is a girl and has had the sub dermal contraceptive implanted about 18 months now, she is sensible and responsible and talks openly with her mother about her issues, all good there. Next is a 15yo girl who has her head in the books and isn't into boys much but has male friends, I have tried to educate her on how boys think and how to treat them with respect and not take advantage as it is a two way street. Youngest is 12yo boy, he has interest in girls and has had his heart wrenched once already, I am trying to teach him to be his own man and not be a pack animal, I am teaching him respect for girls, his friends and himself, I am already onto him about thinking with his big brain and I think he gets it, he just hasn't lived it. They have all been guilty at one time or another of social media "crimes" and have been jumped on. The big message from us is about respect for themselves and others, resilience and responsibility for their own shit. I'm confident the lessons learned to date will hold them in good stead if they ever start using dating apps or the like, I have always emphasised discernment and critical thinking about what they see online in their education work and social media use. I'm cautiously optimistic about that we have a good mix of technology and irl time. Fortunately for me I think I have a few years up my sleeve before I see them here !
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RHP User
9 years ago
What do you mean when you ask do kids know what to focus on first? What do you think they should be focusing on? I would imagine most 18 year olds are focused on fun and sex and most likely always have been - even if they way they have gone about it has changed to when you were young. Perhaps this is more a cultural question and different culture views on sex?
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Like I said, I did not make this topic to attack anyone, so nothing is personal in my approach/questions. I asked questions because I am interested to learn from the mindset of parents who have teenage, and early 20s, children. I am interested to learn how would the parents handle the communication with their kids about safe sex practice, etc. in this new century because, I am not yet a parent and I could only imagine how challenging it is to talk to your children about sexual things 😊 I am naive, so I know I have no rights to discriminate against the young people who are, and/or want to sign up to sites like RHP! But I am interested to learn how would parents in this day and age raise their kids in terms of guidance, as things have changed a lot since I was 18! Therefore, if anyone that reads this topic and takes it personal, I am not responsible for your own interpretation because, I mean no offense. Besides, we are all adults in here and words can display different messages to different readers 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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NudesRus
9 years ago
What sight are we on. Christian Family and Friends! This is an adult site and anyone over 18 can be on here for what ever reason they want to be. It's got fuck all to do with anyone else why they are on here, everyone has their own reasons. We have two boys over 21 and I'm sure they get up to stuff we don't want to know about. With all the shit going on in the world these days, if being on a swinging sight is the worst thing they are doing, I'd be happy. I'm having trouble getting my head around why someone with such prudish views is on an adult sex site. Take some panadol for that throbbing head and get over it.
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sweetgem
9 years ago
I meant to say, I am not naive, but fingers skipped a word 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Would be.. why the hell are they online looking for dates at that age? Ive had the sex talk with my 17 year old. I wouldn't like to see him on here next year. Id rather he was out enjoying himself with girls, going to music festivals, the beach, movies etc instead of focusing on hook ups. Be young and have fun instead of sitting on your laptop or phone looking for sex. It will come naturally. And yes, he knows Im on here but Im 53 and never thought about hooking up just for sex or swinging at 18.
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Thanks for asking the question :) If I had a child and saw him/her on RHP, I would be worried, I'm not gonna lie! But that doesn't mean that I would go and slap him/her in the face and told them off! No, I would not, even if I would be worried as hell on the inside. I would find a suitable time to raise the question and give them confidence to be honest with me, and that type of trust must be built from when they were just a bub 😊 I am not a parent, so I won't really know how would a parent feel if they discovered their children on a site like this. Hence, I asked the questions, as I could only imagine how not easy it is for a parent to discover such discovery. But that is just my imagination, doesn't mean all parents would be shocked 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
9 years ago
No, this is not a cultural view on sex :) its more about an individual's (my) view on the things to focus on, in life :) I admit that my last question about "whether or not young people in this day and age know what to focus first" formed with the influence of my own growing up background, which I apologise for raising such question so bluntly. When I was 18-23, my first focus, or shall I say priority, was to learn English, to find jobs, to make a living and to improve on the quality of life for me and for my family, as we came here with almost nothing, except our own hands and determination to make this beautiful country a home. This is a paradise compared to where we came from, and so my mind was occupied with different views and priorities at that age. So, all I knew was "we are settling in in a new country, but I don't know how to speak the national language. So, I must work hard to study English and get jobs in order to make a better life and change things around for my mother and younger siblings". Therefore, my worldview nowadays about priorities, at that age, is being set like that from my own life experiences. However, I do accept that things aren't the same anymore and it's been a long time since I was 18 😛 so I will continue to learn to keep a better open mind about how young people would live their own lives in this new century 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
The first time I signed up, many years ago of course, I was still trying later than everyone else to lose my virginity. As far as I was concerned, experimentation with sex was something that most people had done, from the average age of virginity loss which I assume to be still somewhere in the teens. As far as I'm aware, sexual maturity and maturity in general comes from what you experience, you can only learn so much from books etc. It's not young couple's presence here that is any issue, it's their attitude. I've come across very young but legal couple's profiles, and they have sometimes written their profiles in a more mature way than many much older adults. Perhaps they know that the odds are against them and so have to redouble their efforts. What is the right age before someone can consider group sex, bdsm, etc? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You realise you can have an experimental sex life WHILE focusing on a career, saving money, study etc etc? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Like Bazingal, I had a strict upbringing. Not a religious background (though my parents hid behind it) but I have an ethnic heritage. I'm not speaking for Baz here but for me whilst I was growing up sex was taboo, not something you did before marriage and was for the enjoyment of your husband or procreation - nothing more. I never saw my parents flirt with each other , be affection or anything of the sort with each other. Sex was often a hushed conversation and I did hear some conversations and sex sounded awful! I fought hard to be 'allowed' to go to uni because it would be worthless once I married and had kids. I met my husband at 22, was a virgin and premarital sex was fucking awesome and sex still is ;) I'm the parent of teenage children and I wouldn't mind it if my kids were on here. I've always promoted choices, healthy choices for them, not me! I'm open in my discussions (too open according to my son) but I will never promote sex as anything but wonderful in a consensual situation. I have the difficult discussions with my kids and what I've noticed is they both have a healthy approach to all aspects of sex and sexuality. I wish I was as open, diverse and as knowledgeable as my children are when I was their age. I completely understand where Miss Little is coming from. Its all about choice for me, their choice :) Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
And.... I would never judge them on exploring every aspect of their lives- including sexual... so long as it's legal and nobody is getting hurt. I am the only one if my couple who posts here as Mr LAL prefers the chat rooms. Dies that raise suspicion that we are not a couple? Or is this only for younger couple profiles? The reason we don't have face pics up is just in case our kids do join and come across us.... we could handle seeing them on here but don't think any of them are ready to see their parents :) Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Age is irrelevant. The older generations have been brought up handicapped by our parents values and beliefs which may or not have been correct. We were brought up in an isolated world without the internet. If we, the older generations had the internet and sites like rhp we may avoided many of our life problems. Many of us have joined pie and our world has opened and changed us for the better. Made it clearer of where we want to go and do, who to be with and defined ourselves to the people we want to be. Speaking for myself, if l was 21 and joining pie, my life would be very different. Not saying it would be perfect or there would not have been mistakes made. Just saying age does not always make us right.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I feel like I've learned much about myself, my sexual interests and identity since joining RHP. I wish I'd come to this understanding earlier - I spent far too long in my life thinking I was incapable of orgasm, and thinking that passion, lust and love were things that happen to other people. I want my children to know themselves much better than I did when I was younger. If a site like RHP is a key to help them unlock that, I'd be ok with it. I would, of course, offer them the same advice as I would about hitting up festivals, clubs, parties and wherever else they might come across people they may want to share their body and soul with. Take care of yourself. Measure the trust you place in others, and make sure they are worthy of it. And give yourself permission to feel pleasure, and to learn from pain. You are worth it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...in previous posts I have railed against State interference in individuals' quiet enjoyment of a life of their choosing. The context was rockfishing but the argument applies equally to parenting. Let me illustrate. When married I was a stepfather initially to 3 kids and by the time I ended the marriage, 8 grandkids ( 1 a step-)...there's now 13. My ex was a bit of a free spirit, including in her attitudes to parenting. So, when we raised the youngest, a girl, we thought it a good idea to put her on the pill when she was 15...and then we allowed her BF to live with us when she turned 16....all seemed fine until 3 am one morning when my step-daughter roused us bleeding and in agony. I raced her to emergency where she had a miscarriage. With hindsight, we were particularly remiss in our thinking; NO 16 year old is responsible enough to be left with the burden of remembering to take the pill every day. In addition, she and her BF had quite a penchant for smoking Pot. As a youngster I did the same, as well as my share of hash, opium and acid. So, we thought it wise to have her smoke pot at home rule...and we also bought alcohol for her and her friends so that they could party safely in our home. All went well while she was still at school; she worked on week-ends and matriculated to university. When I scored my first post-doctoral posting that took us, not the kids, away from home. When my ex and I left they promised to pay rent and keep the house in good order. Rent stopped after about 3 months...the house was a tip within 9, and when i said to to the two of them "it's simple...give up pot and straighten out, or find somewhere else to live"...that was interpreted to mean I was throwing them out... I could go on...it' quite a saga...the middle steppie whose marriage and divorce I paid for, for example,...but my point is this... My ex and I set up the preconditions for my step-daughter's and her BF's behaviour by the way we parented her and by dint, him when he moved in with us. However, our poor parenting and the poor parenting of many in no way endorses the need for marriage education or marriage licences or any other draconian response to basic, human stupidity. What matters more is the importance of parents and their offspring suffering and/or enjoying the effects of their endeavours. My step-daughter never made anything of her B Business, except perhaps to determine that there is a fair return from the State for having kids...She had 5 by age 28. She continues to live unmarried to the same BF, who later knocked out half her teeth and broke her jaw...an event which assisted me to decide my marriage was a farce when I was ostracised by his parents and my wife for taking it to the Police who could do nothing. I no longer involve myself with women who have children...including grown up children...who are not confident parents. NB...none of the above is aimed at gaining supportive or condemnatory comments. I am simply illustrating the point that we are fortunate to live in a comparatively 'free' society and one consequence of this freedom is that people must be free to (within the law) say and do things with which we do not agree and which may very well be stupid. The alternative points toward eventual totalitarianism, of which Political Correctness is currently the best indicator. Kisses to all.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Angry fucker ain't ya? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PatchworkGirl'I spent far too long in my life... ... thinking that passion, lust and love were things that happen to other people. I'm well onto your train of thought there. I would promote the idea of young people joining, provided they are doing it for the right reasons for both themselves and for their prospective partner/s. Not having a certain level of sexual/dating experience after a certain age is often a large barrier to overcome. When I have explained my previous situation, I have been asked on more than one occasion if I have been in jail!
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Like I admitted, I did forget for a moment that this is Australia, and so life isn't the same as how it was for me in my early settlement :) I did apologise for that :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Maybe you need some panadols, after your angry comment 😁 Whether I'm being prudish or not, it is not for you to point a finger! 😊 At least I am willing to learn from parents about this topic and I did dare to apologise, too, for brining out different message to some readers. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
They're not children. They're grown adults with hormones going crazy, from a much younger age in fact, and am I shocked? No. I have sex with them. Young lovers are amazing, fresh, enthusiastic. I'd be proud if I saw my kids on here lol my kids know what I do. I wanted them to know and know that no matter what they did with their private or not private side, there would be no judgment from me. I love seeing young people open up sexually. I wish I had when I was young, there was no internet then though. I understand it's most likely a cultural difference, or partly, and I'm just a naughty girl 😀😉 so I also appreciate how you feel and others also. The taboo however, is part of it, for me and them. But in my opinion, they are setting the foundation early in life to be great lovers. Practice makes perfect as they say 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
You don't have to apologise. Your topic is fine. It's just asking the question, how people feel about it 👍
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, nicely put, and I agree the internet has changed our culture. Not just for young people though, old tarts like me get a bit of action 💃
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RHP User
9 years ago
Handicapped by our parents beliefs, yes, I've never heard it put that way before. So true and when you look back through your life and all that lost time, it seems such a waste
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
My daughter would never currently be on here, as it's haram and not currently her believe. Circumstances could change. Who knows what the future holds? IF she were here as a couples profile, I would never question, and would respect her privacy. Who am I to judge or influence her choice? As a parent if I say, "No, don't be on here", I am denying her/partner a lifestyle choice and her freedom. I also believe it would also be a bit hypocritical, especially, if I am here too. I know a few people, who have their parents/children on here. They have the best open relationship. I am happy for them. Anyone over 18, has just as much right and freedom, to be here as anyone else. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Them being on here honestly wouldn't bother me. I'm lucky enough to have a great relationship where I can talk to my children about anything, including sex. But if I saw their profiles on here with their face picture out for the public to see (obviously, that's how I'd see them in here unless they told me), I'd have a chat to them about maybe making their face pic private (living in a small town and my daughter works for a company where social media policies apply). I'd also touch base on safety with them.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Phone call before I finished posting and accidentally hit send. 😐 I'd also touch base on them about safety and scammers.
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RHP User
9 years ago
have already stated, the key to this issue (as is the case for most all issues) is open, clear and honest communication. Young people of all backgrounds (race, culture and location) explore sex and relationships, and have done for time immemorial. I think the 'cultural differences' usually cited pertain more to the openness of communication, including more broadly the reporting and discussion of what actually takes place in society. For a host of reasons, some cultures are not very open to discussion of things that actually take place (or which are done by individuals) within their sphere of influence. The incidence of teen pregnancy (and unplanned pregnancy more generally) and the different steps taken to manage the situation is just one example. This has occurred throughout time among all races, cultures and locations, but there is a reluctance in some cultures to openly acknowledge and discuss the phenomenon (taboo). When you consider the world's population passed 7,300,000,000 people some time ago now, wouldn't you think it's kind of goofy that people would either seek to suppress and deny sex takes place, or even to treat it in a salacious, gossipy manner? (Any time someone asks, "Who gives a f@ck?", perhaps the retort should be, "Who doesn't ?") As others have suggested, I would agree so long as people (young and old alike) are appropriately educated to act with respect, and to take account of relevant legal and safety considerations (primarily for both physical and emotional health), I don't see that it should matter too much to anyone what consenting individuals get up to in their private lives. The use of internet dating sites and other social media is merely another means of achieving what people have been doing for generation after generation to arrive at our 7.3b population. The greatest difference here is that people are able to cast their net much further, and are afforded opportunity to more rapidly find the specific individuals they may be looking for. I think the use of dating sites also is part of a broader trend whereby people feel they are time poor, and/or seek instant gratification. (That may be fodder for another thread topic).
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'Champagnesunsets' Would be.. why the hell are they online looking for dates at that age? Ive had the sex talk with my 17 year old. I wouldn't like to see him on here next year. Id rather he was out enjoying himself with girls, going to music festivals, the beach, movies etc instead of focusing on hook ups. Be young and have fun instead of sitting on your laptop or phone looking for sex. It will come naturally. And yes, he knows Im on here but Im 53 and never thought about hooking up just for sex or swinging at 18. The very younger generation would more than likely be on a site like this rather than being proactively looking 'outside', because they have been raised in the technological age. They have been fed on playstations, ipads, smartphones and the like. Technology is what they know and feel comfortable with. How often do you see two younger people who may even be sitting side by side, texting one another rather than simply talking to each other ? The art of verbal communication is largely lost to them. Therefore by extension they would be more inclined to follow this pattern and meet through a site rather than actually going to the effort of finding a real person and speaking to them. Tall
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
The technological age we currently live in has merely made it easier for people of all ages to get in contact for any and all sorts of reasons. But it is not really very different from the times of yesteryear. Younger adults could always still experiment and hook up regardless if that was their wish - it was just done in a different fashion. Many of the 'older' generations would (fondly?) remember the days of secretly meeting up away from the parents at movie theatres, milk bars, pubs, the races, or any other variety of places. Nothing has really changed, apart from the speed at which we can now accomplish the same outcomes. As many have mentioned, a lot of the consequences still have to do with parental guidance and concern in the initial upbringing of their children, and that will always be the case. What the 'children' then do when they attain legal age is up to them, but hopefully they will have taken into account all of the wisdom and experience that has been offered to them. Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Champagnesunsets' Id rather he was out enjoying himself with girls, going to music festivals, the beach, movies etc instead of focusing on hook ups. they tinder, thrinder (now feeld), grindr, flickr, whatevr from their phone in between sessions in the surf, while they're waiting in line for the movies, etc. I'd say it also depends on what they're doing - a young person at uni is going to have people constantly coming in and out of their social circle, whereas if they were working their social circle won't be as likely to introduce new people to them, especially if their highschool social circle is small or not in flux.
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RHP User
9 years ago
sitting on our laptops, and texting, looking for hookups instead of being out having fun? lol I thought we were having fun 😎 When did sex become not fun 😇 and sober fun without hardly any cost. It's convenience for most people and a much healthier way to find a root than getting plastered at a pub or whatever, I don't have nearly enough leapard print for that 😀 Why on earth can't they pencil in sex around their busy lives, as country touch said, how much time does it take, and so allowing them more time and money to succeed in other areas of life. They can still go to the beach and do normal things, but sex is a normal activity for young and old. Sounds to me like there is fear of the offspring, I won't call them children because they're not, but fear of who they might hook up with? Very happy I don't share that opinion. Feel sorry for the child actually, it's like going back a generation or two, very old fashioned IMHO 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
Guaranteed on the fun scale, sex for an 18 yr old would trump everything else. Come to think of it, it does for a 53 yr old too 😊
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RHP User
9 years ago
Has changed.Ten years ago Internet dating was not seen in a good way.Now there is no stigma attached and there are so very many and various options to choose from.It has become the norm. As others have said,if someone is an adult who are we to judge . I am a parent,my daughter is now thirty- two.But when she was seventeen I allowed her then boyfriend to sleepover.I have always been open with her about sexuality and we have some interesting and frank discussions. She is not here but is on another site. She does know that I am here though,it certainly wouldn't worry me if she was here. So to answer your question OP if its RHP or tinder etc if someone is over eighteen its their choice Q
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Sawadee
9 years ago
With all due respect and I know perfectly well where you're coming from. Your way of thinking is dated . How do I know ? Well ' it's because I'm still struggling with this belief myself because it's the way we were bought up.. We were taught there are young , teen, twenty's , middle age , old and then ancient, each with a category of their own and where you were expected to remain and behave. These days , with the internet etc, people of all ages indulge and so the barriers have become less important. This is why you will see in my past posts that I say I look at the person first ,not the number they carry. Meaning I am gradually catching up with the way of the world. But in saying that , I still maintain too young and immature don't count, meaning they need to be at least in thier mid 20s and know themself. Even that age group at one time a no go zone , but if we like it or not , things have changed. PS... No , if my kids showed up on here , I know they would have made their own conscious decision . The only advice I'd give to them is to be aware of wanker's . I think the majority of forum regulars are pretty decent people ...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Im very open with my son. We talk about things I didnt talk about with my parents. All Im saying is Id rather he met girls outside of an adult dating site than relying on one for having fun. And yes Ill just say it. Id rather his first encounters were with girls his own age or around as they have more in common. Thats how I feel as his parent. We all have our own ideas when it comes to parenting our children as this thread has shown and people should respect that. If he has a girlfriend then yes she will be allowed to stay over if her parents are fine with that. But he wont get to take one offs home to stay over. He will still have to respect his mum as long as he is living here.
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Thank you peeps for your times, thoughts, and advices given on this topic ☺️ there are many constructive tips shared and I am learning a lot about parenting from those who could look pass the negative side of the topic. Thank you kindly for your respectful and constructive responses 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Maybe it's the way I express my feelings (about seeing very young aged couples coming online) that gives some commenters the wrong idea of me passing judgment onto those young couples. In the actual fact, I am not! The first two paragraphs in my original post were merely an expression of my discovery, or realisation, and I am not going to lie that it's ok to realise how much the world has changed! Thus, my expression 😊 I am a person with learning interest and I won't stop learning about new things/knowledge regardless of my age. Hence, when I want to learn of something that I have not yet experienced, I will ask for advice from those who have already been there and done that, and so the main aim of this topic is exactly that! Like I said before, I am not yet a parent, so I have zero parenting skills and experiences, even though I have certain level of life experiences. It is just not the same type of experience. I won't know how would a parent feel if they see their young children, especially daughters, coming online like RHP. I can use my imagination to imagine what it would feel like, but is imagination real? I say not! So, apart from having a child and experience parenting myself, I can only turn to people who are parents, for advices, can't I? 😊 Besides, being a woman myself, I see accidental pregnancy as worrying and scary as catching a STI because, unplanned pregnancy brings complications, regardless of ones' decision in such situation in the end, which could be scarred for life physically and mentally if not handled properly! Hence, my concern about young women coming online with their partners, and that concern is very generic, not aiming at anyone in particular. I admit, my way of thinking in this instance is outdated, as well as being influenced by my own growing up experiences. Am I wrong to hold that thinking? I don't think so! Just not as updated as people who have children, that's all 😊 However, I will change my thinking from now on and will do so with the embracing of the knowledge I have learned from this topic 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
9 years ago
Hopefully some principals are understood by the kids and help as a foundation for the times decisions are made, choice by the meanings of principal indeed and for the actions taken, become the person with a passion for the destiny of best intensions and chasing the most favourite dreams..... whatever they may be. The one thing as parents, is that we love them unconditionally. Being parents, then by principal there is one other thing, the person each their own, we learn so too, from them. Us old farts sharing the love and the love to fuck and fuck'n love'n it in RHP, old farts fucking paradise, do you not agree ? Old school geriatrics from the hippies to the swinging naughty forties, shagging and what about them orgies, fuck fest's, kinky sex and bondage, discipline, no not enough, "Bring out the Gimp", Steel rods we stretch the eye of our penis increasing the nerve's sensations, because sex became a science and science at it's best, chicks and their clitoris get twice as much pleasure than us men with our dicks, women want that connection, men developed for true satisfaction, a dirty mind and that'll do, because 'The best things in life don't come easy' I suppose. There is another thing A new culture has evolved in the lifetime of our kids, Multi media extravaganza and the digital device, the instant hit of dopamine's by text talk and the 'likes', dating just a swipe and login and tap that ass, easy as, lol bb, brb, uraqt, hi speed, after the quick and easiest satisfactions, bam bam bam. Best things in life, don't come easy, so something has to give. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hey Mado !👋
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madotara69
9 years ago
50z Still been about, just had our hands tied for a while, had a crash course getting a grip on how this younger generation tick. Things have changed from the old school ways, there is a new culture, teenagers seem to have either suppressed, maybe surpassed, or just don't have some of the emotions, come second nature with us, suppose ours may be the shift from everyone going to church on Sundays, to hardly fuck'n anyone going these days, which I can only guess would make me as an undesirable type of person, because I don't know anyone that go to church and pray for pearly white gates and a picket fence, and on the other hand, don't have any time for the likes of the devil either, fuck him, I think he's entirely overrated, just a puff, lucky if he could start a bush fire, let alone anything outstanding. Anyway, love and trust, a man's word his bond, measure of deeds and by actions taken, respect and the principle for "if you want a woman to really enjoy fucking you, passionately, do things to your cock that feels so good it hardly even hurts, does things that give a whole new perception of how truly wonderful a pussy is and can do....She's gotta be your friend and like you, or you don't stand a fucking chance for the real dirty shit to truly blossom and become from head to toe drenched in cum. thing of the past, it frightens me to Betsy, 50z
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