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People who can't take rejection!
September 22 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
We started on RHP wanting to answer all messages sent to us but understanding that nobody really likes to be rejected which is what we kept in mind when setting up our template reply below... looks like it's time to, update it and jazz it up a little with some colour and an emoticon or two Hi, it was lovely to receive your mail, thank you. But some of the details on your profile are not quite what we were looking for. Again, thank you & all the best with your search ;-) Peachypear We've been using the template above or similar for a cpl of years and have only had one very nasty response from a fella that refused to take no for an answer when we made the mistake of getting into it with him. There were a couple of other dickheads very early on, but again our fault for getting into it with them We do not offer any explanations these days and make that very clear in our profile.Most of the responses, about 10%, to our template reply are awe-inspiring moments, where after opening messages wondering what we're gonna find, we find someone thanking us for actually replying and for being honest!CheersMrs P
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
What exactly do you mean by " I'm not what your looking for ?" And I'm fine with dealing with rejection......Well fuck you !!!.....lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
Awwwh. They just need to focus there attention outwards rather than feeling rejected. Take me for example... Please take me hehe.... Everytime I get rejected I answer a question in the forum. *sniff* Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sry Peachy... your generic one is good butt not applicable... cds has already met them, and I reckon they think if it's gone that far, it's on... Maybe you need to explain the fact that a meet is a meet and not an encounter... If it's not clear, they will probably get the wrong message... Other than that... choose wisely and filter out what you want first? All else failing... sometimes you make friends, and sometimes not... you're cool with yourselves, right?
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RHP User
16 years ago
If you cant handle the abuse you shouldnt be on here.I love abuse conversations they make me laugh and also it gives me the green light to dish out some myself
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RHP User
16 years ago
we also have a standard template that says something along the lines of "thanks for your last message (and pics - if they've sent). Unfortunately one of us didn't feel that initial level of attraction that we need in order to move forward, so we'd rather not waste any of your time. Sorry about that. Have fun". We've never received a poor response, and like Peachy, have had people thank us for our honesty. Likewise, we know that we're not everyone's cup of tea, so we also respond with a thankyou for being honest note if we ever get a "rejection". Cheers, mrs mc
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RHP User
16 years ago
It sounds a lot more human than ours hehehe Cheers n hugs Mrs P PS Imup... cheeky bum hehe... methinks cds is talking about arranging to meet...
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RHP User
16 years ago
hmmmmm..I have not made a template. but if the guys message to me is polite then I am happy to type out..Thankyou for your message.But will decline. All the best and be safe.xxxxx Naturally I did not type that to the jerk who sent me a message asking if I wanted him to rip me another hole..OMG!! Lmao @ gaz and tam ..funny guys!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I get that a lot too, like a younger guy approaching me when my profile specifically asks for over 45's. Then when i used to say thanks but no thanks then often i would get, "Well you are too old for me anyway!!' so i have set up a template which basically says if you are under 45 and you dont live in Sydney etc etc then sorry but i will not be answering your message. This doesn't solve the problem of already corresponding with someone and then seeing their pics and not liking what you see, so you could either say thanks but not thanks and then block or Sorry but i dont think that we would meet your needs. Either way whatever the response just remember that if they give you anegative reply, it is only them showing their insecurities cheers
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RHP User
16 years ago
I actually feel pretty pleased with myself if I get nasty messages back after a polite rejection.... Just means my intial reasoning was SPOT ON.... phew! big.. huge.. bullet.. dodged.. there! :P
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sophie_74, I've never thought of it that way. But you are completely correct. We too have had some rejections and our reply is 'thanks for your response and good luck with your search'. When we first joined these sites we found it hard to get rid of people whom we didn't find attractive but we quickly realised that by continually talking to them it was just leading them on. Better to be upfront and honest so you can sort through all the couples, females, etc and find those that you connect with. Thanks for all your responses. I just had to vent as I rejected someone this morning who didn't take it very well.
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RHP User
16 years ago
> Why be so nasty. If you can't handle rejection why are you on here. I'm here for the rejection training. Ha Ha To be serious for a second I prefer a reply even it its a no. Unfortunately i've only been approached by one user who I had to reject. > You are not going to be attractive to everyone. Be mature and thank the couple for being honest. Well I must admit that if they say they aren't interested then I don't bother sending another message. > Maybe you need to explain the fact that a meet is a meet and not an encounter... Unfortunately had a couple of meets that didn't become encounters. Men can be fussy too sometimes. LOL
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Almost_Ready
16 years ago
Its easy take out the J & move the r one space to the right there it is all ready to handle
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sorry Peachy... I did read it the wrong way... Your right and so is sophie_74... Bullet dodged alright :) And oldog... took me abit to work it out, but I got there eventually... lol Cheers... Imup xo
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