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People who don't reply to messages
January 15 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Could not agree more. At very least a simply thanks but no thanks is just polite.
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RHP User
13 years ago
We actually wrote the same forum about 6 months ago. We too find it rude that people can't be bothered replying (even though its not using their messages) one way or the other...they say its their prerogative not to...Try not let it bother you......Each to their own!
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RHP User
13 years ago
... in our experience are .... wait for it ... yes, the single ladies! Ok ok, we understand that you sexy girls are inundated and sure, a lot of the messages wouldn't merit a response but for those of us who take the time to carefully and thoughtfully write a message and not just send some templated dribble ... the non response woud be perceived as just plain rude ... We don't let it get us down though ... hubby still bangs away at the keyboard, composing messages in hopeful anticipation that one day, before his day of reckoning, a sexy (did we mention young lol) single lady will materialise in our bedroom! To the boys, we say thankyou Stay sexy, horny and naughty! causewelikeit xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
to messages,once.If the same question is asked again then I ignore it.I think it depends who you message.Some people are inundated and are very selective with their replies. As Luvynya says,a non reply is a reply of sorts,rude yes,annoying yes,but that is how it is.
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RHP User
13 years ago
We have always done our best to reply although we try and make sure we have both seen the persons/people's profile before replying. We have been abused on a few occasions for not replying straight away! We have also been abused for saying sending a "thank you but no thank you" type reply. Kind makes you hesitant to reply if your not interested sometimes.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I love to be replied too whether a yes or no...as soon as i get a no then i never bother that couple/lady again and thank them for replying as so few do reply. I think most people are happy to move on knowing there are different flavours here for everyone and not to take it personally. I also wonder why couples who are only looking for couples or ladies put looking for men up on their profile as well and when men do a search they show up and then the couple are offended when they get a flirt or message from a male. Please reply to me !!!! I know there are more males on here than others so i guess a lot of couples and ladies do get over it.....but hey .....we live in hope.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm a victim to that. Not many of my messages gets replied to its a bit annoying and frustrating sometimes. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
They're ogres. They should all be shot.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'muzza_83'I'm a victim to that. Not many of my messages gets replied to its a bit annoying and frustrating sometimes. - Posted from rhpmobile I'm one of those girls you mentioned and I'm sorry I didn't reply! Yes we are inundated with flirts and emails but I'm also only after a woman and I'm also attached so it gets a little much when I constantly have men sending me flirts and emails. I didn't mean to hurt anyone's feeling though!
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RHP User
13 years ago
As a paying member, I do believe that when you do go to the effort of shoveling out your hard earned dollars to just have the right to send a message, the least that could be done is to send a templated short message in reply. Considering that 95% of the females on this site are NON paying members. I tend to send out a flirt first to see if there is any interest from the other party. BUT after just looking at my profile statistics even this is a dismal failure. here are my statistics for my winks sent and received. I have sent 503 flirts I have received 74 flirts Reply Rate: 15%To think that replying to messages is too hard MAY be "somewhat" understandable.BUT to click the mouse 2 or 3 times in the reply to a wink, surely cant be that hard can it??Strangely ... the percentage for messages sent and received is extremely higher than the winks. 67%May I also propose the train of thought that I have messaged females that I have previously messaged, and found that they had received my message but over looked it and they were actually grateful that I sent the 2nd message and we have hooked up. *Thankfully I sent that second message !!!On the other hand, a lot of times even the 2nd message has fallen on deaf ears/eyes :o(PS to the ladies and couples that do take the time to reply THANK YOU
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've been trying pretty hard by to bite at this (frequently repeated!) topic, bit alas, my resolve is weak. Firstly, there are no rules. How is a wink on here different than a cat call at a pub, which are often ignored? How does sending a message give you any 'right' to a reply. And how does not replying make a person ? I've been a guest and a paying member on and off for years. I reserve the right I choose if and when I reply to a message or wink. I've had an auto-template reply in the past - very polite - and been slammed for it. I don't take any of that personally, I just do what feels right to me and leave others be to do the same. Choose your battles peeps ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Awwww honey you're a woman after my own heart....ok gentleman and ladies...if you're going to write a "hi, you're cute lets fuck" you're going to end up joining the other 500 dumbarses that sent the same......COMPEL your reader to reply by writing that person a message that YOU would read or dare I say it WANT TO READ....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Sweet__Dreams'I've been trying pretty hard by to bite at this (frequently repeated!) topic, bit alas, my resolve is weak. Firstly, there are no rules. How is a wink on here different than a cat call at a pub, which are often ignored? How does sending a message give you any 'right' to a reply. And how does not replying make a person ? I've been a guest and a paying member on and off for years. I reserve the right I choose if and when I reply to a message or wink. I've had an auto-template reply in the past - very polite - and been slammed for it. I don't take any of that personally, I just do what feels right to me and leave others be to do the same. Choose your battles peeps ;) Someone really must talk to Apple about their bloody iPhones! Meanwhile, let me repeat my post, sans auto-correct, block paragraphing and random deleting of text: I've been trying pretty hard not to bite at this (frequently repeated!) topic, bit alas, my resolve is weak. Firstly, there are no rules. How is a wink on here different than a cat call at a pub, which are often ignored? How does sending a message give you any 'right' to a reply. And how does not replying make a person ? I've been a guest and a paying member on and off for years. I reserve the right I choose if and when I reply to a message or wink. I've had an auto-template reply in the past - very polite - and been slammed for it. I don't take any of that personally, I just do what feels right to me and leave others be to do the same. Choose your battles peeps ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I like to reply to all messages because ...well dont know i just do... whether immediately or eventually, whether a template (no thankyou) or a written response because i may be interested. Those that continue to message me AFTER RECEIVING no thankyou... will get no reply Those who as GB said write 'hi, your cute wanna fuck' .... absolutely get no reply (unless im in the mood to fuck with them, then they get an ear full). And the flirts, well they're just annoying.... most of them cant be answered with the 'reply' flirst listed anyway... and some that i reply with the 'sorry dont see our planets colliding'... well they dont listen etiher and becoming annoying little pests!
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RHP User
13 years ago
"make a person {insert insult of choice here}? And now after that needless frustration, I really must go and let off some steam ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
May I suggest my tux needs ironing.... ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is my my I phone 4s won't allow me for whatever reason it takes forever to try to send, so there is always a reason why, don't always assume.... Because you know what assume stands for....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree it's really annoying to write a message and get no reply whatsoever. We reply to all messages, unless they're vulgar or if they're three words long from someone interstate. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Its so simple to send a quick reply. It seems to be a dying art along with people who's profile pictures are what they really look like!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm sorry all, I am one of those rude non paying member females who isn't replying to messages - mainly cause I can only send 1 message a week until I become a paying member.Flirts, I have been trying to reply too, but I've only been on here for 2 days & have been sent a lot. Will set up standard template like ChiefGazza & a few others here suggested.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'funboysclub'Its so simple to send a quick reply. It seems to be a dying art along with people who's profile pictures are what they really look like!! I agree about the profile pictures but not about the it's so simple part. When you receive 20 plus emails and flirts a day from people who's profile does not match you in any way, shape or form it seems to me that people arn't respecting what people actually want or are deliberately wasting what little time I do have. I do feel bad that I can't respond to all but that's life. I've sent flirts to people and gotten no response and I can understand they either don't have time and/or I'm not their cup of tea. I'm ok with that :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'funboysclub'Its so simple to send a quick reply. It seems to be a dying art along with people who's profile pictures are what they really look like!! It's actually not so simple. Most women on here get a LOT of flirts and messages, especially newer members. As an example, when I was more active on here, and newer, I'd frequently get 30-50 messages a day, and 80+ flirts a day. I have a hunch there are some women who get a lot more! So do the math. For each message we need to read it, check out the profile, decide if we're interested and then either choose a template reply or craft a personal one. For flirts, much the same except then we have to try and find a flirt worth replying with, from a fairly dismal list. So that's what ... let's say conservatively speaking, 80 responses a day?. At about 30 seconds a response, on average (given the need to check out profiles etc), that would mean 40 minutes a day just to meet someone else's definition of polite?! I don't think so :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
its so easy to read a profile and understand whether or not you might realistically fit in with what the profile outlined? we dont respond to......married or attached guys.....or teen/20 something 'boys'....... or men whose only profile photos....are of their genitals. why? because we've said over and over.....that we dont want these things.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nope I don't reply to all messages, as quite frankly, I don't have the desire or the inclination to meet just anyone. Therefore, only those messages that COMPEL me to reply get given the grace of a reply. So here's a tip.....STAND OUT or fade off into the abyss like the rest!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
No reply is an answer.
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jenniecruising
13 years ago
This topic has been raised so many times over the years. The good thing about that is it shows a definite pattern of frustration, annoyance, politeness and rudeness.When do we reply? When we know the sender has taken the time to read our profile. Ours clearly states "SINGLE guys, if we need you we will find you. Any unsolicited flirts or messages will be immediately blocked". Yet they still arrive in the mailbox each day. So why should we reply?? We are paying members we have rights too!!After eight (could be longer) odd years on RHP we are able to pick with pretty good certainty fake profiles. There are plenty of verified, validated and genuine profiles to choose from without wasting time on those who don't take the time to put up a decent photo, yet have 100 plus friends. Have "Ask Me" for a profile and yet still want a reply to a message that often reads like it was written by four year old nymphomaniac. J&C
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RHP User
13 years ago
yes... we just figure they are just either.. A. Rude...or B. Arnt really serious about meeting and since we dont want to meet A or B.. we just ignore them and move on to cool others :) Bernie
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RHP User
13 years ago
We used to reply, even if it was in the negative. So many others don't bother so we stopped bothering. They say no reply is a type of reply or something. I guess. We just remove access to our pg after a few hours of knowing its been seen and no reply. We give people a reasonable chance to respond in any way, we might even message them again, if they ignore us again we block them, mostly because we don't want people "crawling back" if you're too good the. You're too good now after you've seen everything else on offer. We don't mind if people do the same to us anymore. Gone are the days we expected general courtesy from this site. 2 things tht will however guarantee we will never respond is a PG without face pics or people being difficult with their face pics as it shows they aren't serious at all and we're not going to chase you and play your games, the other is contacting us when you are outside of our criteria. Both pet hates, more than the non-responders.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is te people that moan in their profile that everyone is a time waster and no one meets. We've been meeting people for a decade, we aren't shy, and I'll send them a message and you'll get no face pics back and a "lets meet up this weekend" type of response. You try and pry a face pic out of them, you already have yours.... And they moan and wonder why no one meets them... LOL. Sorry to detract, I wish people like that were non-responders instead of charity case picture collectors
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have waited for replies to a few of my messages... it is simple manners. How do you know whether someone isn't interested in meeting? Sometime I have found people are just busy and it all works out in the end... patience is a virtue.
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RHP User
13 years ago
So your saying that if someone in the street, the checkout chick, the person that you pay your fuel to when you fill the car up says " hi how's your day?" you just ignore them?? It's the same thing on here, have some manners it's costs you noting and people will think better of you. Oh and I hope you have great day too.
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jenniecruising
13 years ago
Jennie's single profile get's on average 30 messages day, twice that if she is showing online for more than an hour. Last time I took any notice there were 600 plus flirts unread (she cannot keep up). When she first created her profile she tried replying to all but it was just too much, 100 plus message in a couple of days and then the ones she knocked back would send another and another until blocked. I suggest those who complain about not getting a reply try this:1. Create a female profile with some sexy and tasteful photos 2. Age 25-454. C or D cup5. Athletic to Average6. Attractive to Very Attractive7. Put 10 photos in PG8. Bi-Curious, Bisexual 9. FF,FFM, MFF, MMF, Group10. Verify the profile11. Write a few paragraphs about yourself and what you want.Come back here next week and tell us if you still feel the same way about the politeness of replying. :)
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ocean_man
13 years ago
" woof woof... hot body man!!! I will do anything to suck your cock" The word ' Men" doesn't appear next to 'Seeking' in my profile. But I will reply to anyone that sends me a polite message. The clown that sent the message above didn't get a reply. Unfortunately, there are quite a few clowns that I ignore! hmmmm woof woof... do people really think and talk like that???
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RHP User
13 years ago
I seem to get few responses, I never send crude messages, usually polite messages outlining who I want to meet and who I am...but I would say 90% of my messages are not replied to. But when someone does actually reply even if its to say no I always respond back to them and tell them its nice to know people are polite enough to respond.I guess nice guys finish last.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'usandu73'So your saying that if someone in the street, the checkout chick, the person that you pay your fuel to when you fill the car up says " hi how's your day?" you just ignore them?? It's the same thing on here, have some manners it's costs you noting and people will think better of you. Oh and I hope you have great day too. Actually it's not the same thing at all Sorry to argue the point here but I'm guessing the majority of people who are on rhp do this from their computers at home or work? Those things like the checkout chick example happen during the course of your day of course you would reply to them, your there and they've taken the time to ask politely. When I get home from one of my three jobs and relax in front of the computer for maybe a half hour if I'm lucky I get disheartened when I see so many emails from single men and 90 % of them are disgusting emails that are not worthy of a response. Not to mention the fact that I clearly state that I am only looking for a WOMAN. I have responded to some guys however because they were nice emails and either we have remained in contact or alas after that first email it disintegrated into what they were really after As I stated before if you can't respect what the other person clearly wants on their profile or you send them something that's blatantly rude than don't expect anything from the recipient. Ddon't assume that your the only one who has sent this person an email or flirt. You could be one of many. Also not everyone is on here every second of every day so give them a couple of days grace before getting upset. People have lives outside of rhp.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'MsElla'I'm sorry all, I am one of those rude non paying member females who isn't replying to messages - mainly cause I can only send 1 message a week until I become a paying member. Flirts, I have been trying to reply too, but I've only been on here for 2 days & have been sent a lot. Will set up standard template like ChiefGazza & a few others here suggested. You can reply to any message that is sent to you, free, without it coming out of your quota.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'usandu73'So your saying that if someone in the street, the checkout chick, the person that you pay your fuel to when you fill the car up says " hi how's your day?" you just ignore them?? It's the same thing on here, have some manners it's costs you noting and people will think better of you. Oh and I hope you have great day too. no...its not even remotely the same thing...the 'checkout chick' is doing what shes trained to do...like a performing seal, so it means nothing other than being a 'nicety'....we dont 'engage' with her thinking theres even an outside chance she'll end up in our bed...or us hers.... but people here are here for much more personal, intimate reasons...they want to get naked with or for us, and 'get it on'...........so theres no comparison at all.... maybe if she said something like 'hey baby, I'd love to suck your cock/pussy' there'd be a similarity...but that doesnt happen...........at least not that we've heard out loud...lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
We used to respond to every message and flirt, but honestly, after the dozens of messages and winks from guys who don't even come close to our very clearly expressed interests we gave up. The straw that broke the camel's back was an extremely rude message from a straight guy who wanted to meet but was very homophobic....REALLY?! And his response to our polite "Thanks, but we're not for you" left me speachless. So now we don't bother replying to certain profiles: straight guys(even if they claim to be secretly bi) Profiles with only junk photos and angry profiles (you know the ones I'm talking about) sure, it might sound like we're being rude, but honestly is it asking too much for people to read profiles and be selective? Couples and singles outside our age bracket almost always receive a reply if they follow the simple guidelines, be polite, what we are looking for and include a clear face photo with their message either in their private gallery or on their public gallery. Xx Ant
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RHP User
13 years ago
Usandu73...Very well said...and so true!
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RHP User
13 years ago
are people whoa) haven't replied to your message.That's it. You don't know anything about that person to make any judgement calls about them.The sense of entitlement people have is astounding. You pay your money to redhotpie, the other people on RHP do not receiving anything, yet people seem to think that because they've paid their money, that entitles them to actually communicate with a living breathing person/couple.Think of your RHP membership as a club cover charge. So, you've paid to get on the premises, there are all these sexy people around. An email is your initial approach to a person in that club.Now, in a club environment, if someone isn't interested and they see you coming, they'll avoid contact, turn around and walk away before you get there, pretend they don't hear you if you actually make it to them.This is what your initial email is. It's that approach. It isn't after the approach when interest has already been shown and the person has decided to respond to you.Also in a club, if that person is interested, they'll turn towards you, maybe smile, be receptive to your opening gambit.So, remember that. No-one on here has a choice with who messages them, just as in a club situation they have no choice in who decides they want to try their luck. Everyone here gets to chose whether to duck off to the toilet when being approached, or swing around and make eye contact and give a big smile.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Point taken, I understand all that for sure. I understand also that's been said that people responding to profiles that their not even remotely compatible for. But I would still like to think we can be polite if at all possible. Even if some idiot messages you, I guess we are not one of those hots couples that get 1000's of messages a day lol. It's easy to reply to when you only get a couple so I guess we will continue to try and do the right thing.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I will generally reply to the messages I receive. If they are tasteless and vulgar I won't but the way I see it, people have taken the time to write the polite thing to do is reply. Like mentioned previously, it's just good manners.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I used to reply to all messages coming into my inbox, whether it was a polite "no" or a fervent "yes, let's meet"...but now I do not. Why? Because it is overwhelming for a start, and yes, half of the messages are a waste of time. Then you get some men that get very persistent as to why you do not want to meet them....it just gets very frustrating and time-consuming. My advice is that if you do not receive a reply to a flirt, do NOT send a message.
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RHP User
13 years ago
we get the same with no replies. common manors would be nice. we think that a lot of people on here are really full of shit, with the single women the worst and verified couples a close second
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RHP User
13 years ago
Exactly as StudyingHard told it. I try and reply to people and am always polite but have limited time and energy for people who either haven't read a profile or read it are trying their luck anyway.
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RHP User
13 years ago
The vulgar messages that are sent, we've all had them, what interest does it spark?? As for the excessive polite "hi how are you?" Well.....what does that suggest?? To me it suggests they lack the confidence to make any real effort. Be bold....be funny....and escalate to a sexual level....lets be honest, we're all sexual beings, but if your messages aren't going to generate attraction and intrigue in the minds of the recipient, exactly what is it are they going to do for you face to face?? Probably put you to sleep I'd be betting....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I always reply unless the email is just rediculas. Have been abused and insulted, but i figure they have small minds. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'usandu73'Point taken, I understand all that for sure. I understand also that's been said that people responding to profiles that their not even remotely compatible for. But I would still like to think we can be polite if at all possible. Even if some idiot messages you, I guess we are not one of those hots couples that get 1000's of messages a day lol. It's easy to reply to when you only get a couple so I guess we will continue to try and do the right thing. i'd suggest that things like geography come into play...if you guys were in Sydney for example...you'd likely receive many more messages...and many from people you dont want....perhaps even many not so nice or polite ones as well... we'd respond if you messaged us....thats a given, but dont feel the same way when married guys, or 20 somethings, or people we dont want, message us, these we respond to on merit and message content... and for some....'no reply' is all they warrant............
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RHP User
13 years ago
well, i must ay i do get returns but not what i want to hear , i return even its what they dont want to hear . hey dateing is fast paced and there alot of women out there that hey need company my gueesss is not mine , doesnt bother me though life goes on
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RHP User
13 years ago
This is why....First Message from ( 44 year old Man) "You are a complete nutter............an oxygen thief."Hmm..ok... My Reply " I am...? Mr you certainly have the wrong end of the stick...and what would posses someone to email abuse to somebody over what has been written in a profile"44 year old Man replies with........ "So, you want to know what would posses someone to email (abuse in your language.... pointing out the obvious is how I regard it, but anyway, as you wish...). It seems it is not just me that has the opinion I stated to you......I showed a copy of your profile to all 120 colleagues at work and the over riding reaction to it was exactly the same as I put it to you!! (bar about 4,and they are complete nutters and imbosiles too!!). I know what you must be thinking.........."but I'm a woman.....every man must want me.......I have a vagina and any man would do anything to get access to it"...........WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!!!!! You are a complete idiot, I and 116 work colleagues want NOTHING AT ALL TO DO WITH YOU................are you starting to get the picture??? My guess is.......probably not!!! But anyway princess, you carry on in your own little "vagina" world" and I'm sure there will be some bloke just absolutely desperate enough to give you a go...........if you're lucky!!My Reply... "Its Abuse in anyone's language, to accuse someone of being a " Nutter and Oxygen Thief" As for your quite bizarre reply about how you have shown "120 colleagues at work " etc etc... I would like to take you seriously, but to do so would be an affront to your intelligence"Oh...and please Cancel My subscription to YOUR Issues.....Like Sweet_Dreams I have also been a guest and a paying member on and off for years. I do not just reserve the right I choose I exercise it,doing what feels right to me.Whatever shakes your tree...Just don't get no leaves on Me
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RHP User
13 years ago
Have to say I will always try to reply, even ifs a polite thanks but no thanks....there's still room for manners!
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ma2518
13 years ago
there is nothing worse then when you send a message or flirt and the person receives it then looks at your profile and doesnt have the decency to reply. a simple no thanks would be better than nothing at all.
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RHP User
13 years ago
This topic just keeps coming up..WHY? because people on here (usually newbies) are genuine and believe than all mankind are polite.I wish. There are people on here who just ruin it for the minority few, but I have always agreed in sending a message or replying with respect and laughter to my deliciously tasty ;) opposite sex.Life is too short to have a chip on the shoulder and to be a C_*!. A reply or even a template with "no thanks" would not go astray... if they abuse back???Then the gloves are off!!!! just to that person.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Worst offenders are women. I have sent women a message to then find out that they have blocked me. Go figure! for just saying "Hi", nothing rude or disrespectful.If you are getting too many messages, then narrow down your profile for what you are looking for. 101! there isn't.I guess people just want to have their cake and eat it too..Saying that, I received a reply from a message where the female apologised and stated that she may be shallow??? I replied back stating there is no need to apologise and etc and wished her the best...NOW!!!!! thats not so hard is it now???Quoting 'causewelikeit' ... in our experience are .... wait for it ... yes, the single ladies! Ok ok, we understand that you sexy girls are inundated and sure, a lot of the messages wouldn't merit a response but for those of us who take the time to carefully and thoughtfully write a message and not just send some templated dribble ... the non response woud be perceived as just plain rude ... We don't let it get us down though ... hubby still bangs away at the keyboard, composing messages in hopeful anticipation that one day, before his day of reckoning, a sexy (did we mention young lol) single lady will materialise in our bedroom! To the boys, we say thankyou Stay sexy, horny and naughty! causewelikeit xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I see it as more their loss then mine, its also a good screening tool in that if their too ignorant to reply to a message their most likely to be too ignorant in person.
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rustler
13 years ago
In the past I would get a bit angry with the non reply, people had taken the time to read the message and look at the profile, surely it is not too had to sent a template reply. However, with the passing of time, I no longer let it bother me. As others have said no reply is a reply. Also I have been guilty of reading a message and putting it aside to reply later only to forget. What I still find annoying though are those who accept a friend request and then never reply to subsequent messages. WTF is happening here?
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RHP User
13 years ago
A lot of profiles say no men but they persist ! Does that require a respone ? We have noticed single women send messages jus to say reply through msn and want to swap pics ! Are they male or just a problem chatting through system first ? Also couples can be frustrating as some don't read your profile or in the end it's only the male that wants to play ! Think we all maybe somewhat guilty for this not to respond to some - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well an interesting topic...........I am like most of the guys on this thread in that my ratio of hits in regards to replies is fairly consistent to the numbers of women and men using the site. But if you take into account the follow then is it really not unlike the "real world";> The ratio of women to men is on average in most states around 7.5 : 1 ( Not in the real world I know)>If you are in a bar and you give the eye to 8 ladies how many will respond with a smile or a "wink"? if you have a high success rate in real life than you will probably experience similar on RHP..... You are eye candy!> I will wink at only people who are seeking me and still only run at around 14%> I only message people who are seeking me with my parameters, what is the point of contacting someone if you are not what they are seeking? You may obviously do this but when you don't get a reply don't complain or be surprised.> When writing a message I am always courteous, polite, and introduce myself without mentioning how where or when I may wish to fuck someone. People are aware that this is a sex site and that your contact is about that, so why highlight it. I believe that they want to know about you as a person a little as well (Well most of the time).> Through my messages and the way that they are composed, I have a return rate of 40% which i consider to be not bad. I am obviously not always successful but that is not the point here. There is a way in which you can ensure that you receive replies. Also remember to each their own.> In regards to receiving replies that are not in your favour, get over it and move on. At least if you are told that you are not what somebody is seeking then you know and you can continue your journey.> If you don't receive a reply at all as some of the "single ladies" have refuted on here, remember they are inundated so you have obviously not been intelligent enough with your email heading. Boys you only get one crack.> Be imaginative, original and have some depth in what you convey and you never never know! I find that if you put in an effort than most people can see that and will reply.And if they don't their loss I say :-)Anyway people my two cents for what it is worth.Have a great day!
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rupamohan
13 years ago
****Why PPL don't reply? Just moved on?Protocol of courtesy in some culture can be not to explicitly say NO. If someone is ignoring you it may simply means NO. ppl who don't make themself clear do risk of being reapproached but reapproach is uncommon. ****What it means to us? There are times when we like a profile very much and feel they will like us too..or simply we have run out of choices....this raises expectations for some kind of reply. When expectations are not met it can be disappointing...but is it impolite? may be but equally impolite is to demand politeness. Other times after we have messaged someone we have already moved on to looking for others. In this situation we prefer not to go back just to ready a reply -"not interested". But if we do get a unwanted negative reply..as a courtesy we do acknowledge it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
u agree advent.....i always reply even i its a no thanks.....unless its a crude comment
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes ladies we see that you read them so the line that your "inundated" is just a cop out..and don't even get me started on fem profiles that are attached,..cough up the membership!!, we do..yes it's a sex site but are manners really dead ?..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well people, this is my view on that topic....people who don't reply to messages just don't give a fuck. And that's their prerogative! Get over it!
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abcplus1
13 years ago
but it seems to be the way for this site........... have had an opposite though, had one lady who replied by saying that she would add us to her list, when we replied that we were not interested in being on a 'list' or a notch on her things done she blocked us lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
We've only just joined up, have booked the next few weeks solid, and get inundated with flirts and messages.. I understood we get to keep our mail for 6 months, and have paid platinum membership for a year.. sooo figure there's plenty of time to get back to the ones we like, right? Sorting through is also hard because you correspond back and forth trying to see more than boobs, fanny and doodles (hehe) to actual FACE shots and then sometimes the attraction isn't there.. I do plan to respond ANNND play with some.. But it won't be straight away!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I NEVER reply to the stock standard message "i want to slide my throbbing cock into your wet pussy" as a first point of contact. I could not begin to count how many times i have heard that, so much so that even if i had been entertainingthe idea, that line puts me off....its SOOOO used up its thoroughly boring. I know guys think they are being sexy and original, but it bores me to tears now. I never reply to the "heres my number, message me?"......aaahh, no thanks, i dont hand out my number willy nilly to desperados. I will try to reply to messages that indicate the man has a brain, and not just a cock, or that reveal something of intrrest to me. But you guys need to understand that a lot of us women get totally swamped by messages.....and often when i do reply with the polite "thanks for the comiment but im not interested", we then get bombarded with the but why and oh please. Often just ignoring sends a stronger message of disinterest.
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RHP User
13 years ago
People who don't reply to messages are basically just rude and annoying people. It's not hard to just say thanks but no because there's a template already set up for it. It really frustrates me when you take the time to send a message through and you get nothing back even when you know your message has been read. The other most annoying thing is the idiots who list that they are seeking single men and then in their "about us" section state that they are not interested in single men.......damn fools. Rant over now, thanks for reading!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I always respond to all messages but you do find some ppl just dont take no for an answer and msg u again and again. I'm not going to lie, this tactic has worked on me before but it is extremely rare, i'd prefer my response was the end of it but some ppl can tend to get abusive or demand to know why ect, i say, b happy u got a response and move on!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I do understand that people have busy lives and that women have many messages to go through. It seem to me that people who do not dignify my messages are not intrested. That is cool. It also tells me that they do lack respect for others and I do not need those types in my life. None of knows what goes through other peoples minds or there situations, so I cannot be too judgementle. I am as happy to get a "NO" as a "YES". I will keep on trying. Never never never give up.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi, I try and reply to all my messages. Wether it be a thanks but no thanks. But instead of that being the end if it. I get replys saying if you are not interested then why reply....I have found that yes some I ignore or block. The single males are often the worst offenders.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm philosophical (now, after a few weeks). If it's marked 'read' in the sent items and its been a week, then it's a no. Not the ideal mechanism for conveying it, but it's clear.Of course, it'd be nice to know why, or just to know for sure, even. But this isn't a bar, or a coffee shop, or some other environment bound by social norms (hell, that's *why* we're here!!), so rules of engagement don't apply....to steal a phrase from the chased (rather than chaser), I think to myself, next!
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RHP User
13 years ago
If my profile states that I MAY OR MAY NOT get back to you, then why should I respond to any of the 92 unread messages I have, especially seeing as I have no intention of opening any of them at this point in time? Wait.. let me just open these all up and respond to each and every one, just to be polite. Ah sorry, no. And why would I respond to any of the 196 unopened flirts when my profile states that I NEVER look at them and that they are a waste of your time? Next, people will be saying you should OPEN a message at the very least. Why should I? Because you paid a membership? Because you think it's manners? Because you deserve it? It's my profile, I do what I like with it... open messages, not open messages, respond, not respond, delete, block, whatever, and at no point have I ever felt it was my responsibility to do otherwise. It is not someone's 'right' to have a response. You can argue manners, yes, but frankly, I couldn't really be bothered in this instance. It's the same in the chatroom, I don't answer every single hello, whisper, demand, question I get, because I don't have to. I go in there to have MY experience, not anyone elses. I don't answer my phone if it's inconvenient to me, and I don't send a little message to the caller out of manners to say I'll ring back later. Again, with Facebook, I don't feel it all necessary to send a response to someone saying I don't want to add them as a friend etc etc etc etc etc on and on it goes. There ya go, rant over :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
We get it all the time. Single females are the worst, but we've found couples to be pretty bad over the years. Maybe one reply out of ten, sometimes if that. We always reply and if we don't it's a genuine mistake. There are loads of reasons why people don't reply; think they have superiority in the looks department, one or the other is intimidated by the couple and the list goes on but a simple generic thanks but no thanks should always be given.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I JUST REPLY WITH A SHORT MESSAGE TO ALL :) THEN NO ONE GETS UPSET :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
We always reply to any message or flirt but our membership only allows 5 messages a day. We also don't reply until we have both read the message and viewed the profile with appropriate discussion. Due to shiftwork etc this can take a day or 2, sometimes even longer. What i don't like are snarky or abusive followups to either taking a while to reply or the reply being a thanks but no thanks. Yep that's a positive indicator that we really want to meet them... Not! I think there's a bug with the mobile app where the free message reply get's taken as one of our 5 messages which has led to a bit of frustration as you go to reply and find that your out of messages for 24 hours. M&V- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I actually can see with lil bit angelics point of view .. we men do tend to be a little over zealous sometimes with our flirts and comments .. and I suspect the ladies do get a lot more flirts and messages than we do. That being said, I do so very much appreciate a response, but understand why sometimes i dont and that i yake as being a no thanks. Enough said!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not singling anyone out but just a general comment and naturally there will be exceptions. A lot of women post naked/ semi naked photo's (no great suprise there as it is a dating site) but the photo's are presumably to attract attention but then complain that they get inundated with so many messages that they cant keep up. So how do we win?...... seems were damn'd if we do & damn'd if we dont.
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sweetgem
13 years ago
I have only signed up to RHP for 2 months, but have been receiving countless flirts messages and emails everyday! When I first joined, I seemed to get quality flirt messages and emails from well mannered and educated people, so I put in efforts to reply to all flirts and emails received. But then things collapsed and I began to get flooded with more and more flirts from all sorts of people, whom are only a Guest member and have totally ignored my sexual interests to send me flirts with pre-written messages like these, e.g: "You're exactly what I'm looking. Please message me I'm keen." Or "I have some free time, please message me if you want to meet." Or "Nudge nudge wink wink." Or "I'm looking for some new friends. Let's exchange messages." etc. etc. etc. I was very annoyed by those flirt messages to be honest! Because I don't like being taken advantage of, but sadly I was simply because I was a paying member! Hence, I stopped renewing my membership and chose to only reply to emails. I find people who send emails show sincerity. However, not all emails that I receive are polite and genuine ones I must say! There's been times when I received nice and long emails from members whom seemed genuine, I wrote back with a nice and detailed reply too, but never heard back from them ever again after I replied! So I don't know what to say about people like that really, except to let it be. Members who have communicated, interacted and involved with me (both physically and verbally) in the last 2 months can prove that I am a well mannered and intellectual person. Therefore, I can say that nothing I have written are rude or offensive! Thus, I don't understand why the disappearing without a trace?! But never mind, I don't let things like that get to me as I still reply to emails. Each to their own perhaps and it's certainly their big loss to pass me up lol Anyways, I wish everyone on here well and hope 2013 would bring you more genuine people and real fun times :-)
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WoodyWoodcock
13 years ago
I say F*#k 'em. The height of rudeness, to not respond to messages, that for me have taken a bit of thought. I guess for the one liner booty call, maybe they're forgiven.
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RHP User
13 years ago
This forum has been back and forth for some time now and I remember saying the same thing then. I was a paying member but got sick of sending messages/flirts to both ladies and couples without getting as many replies back as messages / flirts sent. It is annoying when you take the time to reply to someone and they cannot be bothered to even say thanks but no thanks.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's simply rude! SandG2420
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RHP User
13 years ago
I try to reply to all....just the right thing to do....takes no time to say. Thanks but no thanks...or not atm etc...The excuse..i don't have time...Bullshit...just a lack of manners... don't mean flirts...just messages To those that haven't got the decency to reply......GFYSSimple as
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RHP User
13 years ago
It don't hurt to be polite! In my expirance quite the oposite, when I was a kid I'd get a clip around the ear hole for being Impolite! I can imagine there are a lot of "dodgy" profiles on here and for the lucky people that have to many messages to reply to, Why not just put a note on your profile? If someone messages you and they haven't read your profile then, hay they probably don't desserve a reply for, not being polite enough to read it! after all there hard enough to wright!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well not everyone has time or gets to their RHP to reply promptly, - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
This topic is still going on? WOW! yes not everyone is on 24/7, they have a life, and etc...That said politeness is second to none - and if you dont understand the answer of no the first time, then you really should go back to school ...
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