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March 23 2013

If we had two people, one with a history of multipul relationships and the other with very few, who would be cocidered the more stable? The one who tries and tries or the one who has tried and is too cautious?

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RHP User

13 years ago

Until they meet the right person..- Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

13 years ago

Who is more stable? Are you suggesting that if a person is promiscious that they are unstable? Or are you suggesting a person that is inexperienced and sex shy is unstable? I''m confused as obviously you think one of them is unstable.... xFunlovingx

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RHP User

13 years ago

My first reaction is what does it matter ? We all have baggage..but when you enter into a new relationship - hopefully you check that at the door Yes we are products of our past no doubt however our past should be irrelevant within any new relaitonship There are 7 billion people in the world - When two worlds collide and two people find each other - in this crazy mixed up world and you connect so intensely - their past should be of little consequence...its how you are with each other now that matters Define stability ? And do you kick something good to the kerb because it does not fit in neatly with your preconceived ideas ?? Life is random....and short - we as humans over think things and over complicate things..why cant we just accept that sometimes, good things do simply happen and at times are meant to be Grab every bit of happiness, when you can., while you can.......... Kismet

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RHP User

13 years ago

It depends what you are applying this word to in terms of the person.An unstable person is obviously someone who has ''issues''.Whether or not they are a serial monogamist, socially sexual, or have been in a monogamous relationship for gazzillions of years does not in my opinion reflect their emotional or mental state. We are all individauls,we all make individual choices,some people drink coffee,some people drink tea,some people drink anything and everythng,what does that say about a person?It merely says that some people are very narrow in their choice of beverage.How people approach relationships is similar.Some people thrive on variety,some people need only one,so what.

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13 years ago

Quoting 'Shinas' My first reaction is what does it matter ? We all have baggage..but when you enter into a new relationship - hopefully you check that at the door Yes we are products of our past no doubt however our past should be irrelevant within any new relaitonship There are 7 billion people in the world - When two worlds collide and two people find each other - in this crazy mixed up world and you connect so intensely - their past should be of little consequence...its how you are with each other now that matters Define stability ? And do you kick something good to the kerb because it does not fit in neatly with your preconceived ideas ?? Life is random....and short - we as humans over think things and over complicate things..why cant we just accept that sometimes, good things do simply happen and at times are meant to be Grab every bit of happiness, when you can., while you can.......... Kismet I actually believe our pasts are what shape us. Those people that judge us for this (and don't we all have a past) are cheating themselves out of our wealth, complexities and beauty. So I do agree, live and let live as our time here is very short, very.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Could be wrong, but...For example, if I wanted to find a long term partner & I came up against two, one that had been in & out of relationships his entire life & wasn't too long out of the last one & there was another potential who had had them few & far between, I think the history can't be ignored.I don't think the word "stable" was meant in literal terms here...

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RHP User

13 years ago

Some people just aren't good at relationships ..but the same people can't function without them.

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RHP User

13 years ago

I prefer my partners to have had at least one long term relationship. In my mind it shows they know how to do a relationship.They know a bit about give and take and how to treat a person they're intimate with. Often those who have been in and out of short term flings have intimacy issues (just my opinion, based on people I know), it seems they often make the same mistakes.

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RHP User

13 years ago

One is my husband, the other a married man we fell in love but I left him. I was single and did not want to fuck up another womans life. I have made love to a lot of men, I have had sex with even more I am not stable at all, I am as crazy as a loon but passion does that to a person. risk everything to love , be it once or a hundred times

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RHP User

13 years ago

Hmmm I can only answer about me. It is a very delicate issue. I as married for 18 years knew him for 20. He died fourteen years ago. I haven’t had a relationship since this time. So does this make me unstable or does this make me mature and clever, because I had to first lick my wounds, cater for my little family, make a living in Australia without Centrelink, and at last find the ME, Which took time. Hmm When I read just what I have put on here. I think it made me a very, clever intelligent woman, who doesn't think I can only survive with a male on my side, and a very considered mother, my children came first in that time, ok, maybe without love in my life, but this couldn't be helped. And now I am free have very great boys who know I am on RHP and I am ME. Free to live my life how I see fit.I think I AM ONE OF THE STABLEST WOMAN AROUND. Up myself, OHH YES.

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RHP User

13 years ago

In my youth getting caught up with the 'serial guy' made me unstable. I avoid him like the plague now. *tweaks frequency on her antennae and checks holstered firearm*

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RHP User

13 years ago

An interesting question to put, and I will answer it by comparing two people - myself and a girlfriend. One of my girlfriends was burned in her first relationship, and from then she's yo-yoed from one short-term relationship to another, with a maximum of two weeks in-between each new guy. She can't cope with being single, needing that constant attention and reassurance. While she's now in a relationship for a couple of years, she's still heavily emotionally and psychologically dependant on him, and so I would call her unstable.As for me, I've had one relationship and was burned, was out of the dating world for about a year before I got up and started to get myself out there again, and I probably meet and date a new person every couple of months on average. What I've learned is not to measure my worth in another person's eyes and become completely emotionally independent. Would you call me unstable?

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13 years ago

I'd say both were stable and I was the unstable one for considering the point. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present... if presented with the present of someone's presence then seize the day for the opportunity may be gone tomorrow. (it must be a Monday... could never get the hang of Mondays)

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