Phone number on first contact or MSN/email?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  We too like to give out our "naughty" number (our swinging mobile number) to couples we are planning to meet, as its a good way to firstly break the ice, and secondly to ensure they are couple. If people aren't forward in making contact, to us they're not that interested..

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  other posts that I have read,I know that many women in particular wont give out their number until they have met someone.I always want to talk to people before I meet them,it is part of my screening process,profiles,texting,emailing,and messaging aren't enough. Some men wont give out a number because they are attached and their partners have no idea they are here.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  For me when someone gives me their number first up or email...I won't go there simply because it appears very very eager and of course married. (like Freya said) Some people do that and that's ok if they think it will make them stand out more. For a single woman that's daunting and overwhelming..we attract sonera weird dudes. However in saying that I like to chat for a bit (no longer than two weeks) get a feel of them...I don't hand out my number unless they ask for it...By the end of that two weeks if they haven't asked then it says to me..they just want to chat or not who they say they are.. A genuine person interested in me will understand that and get why I hold off. That's my screening process for me and it works. I have read heaps of Forums and there tends to be a lot of couples who get the run around... Can I suggest maybe hold off a little with your number until you get more if a feel of that person or couple..it may be too much straight up attracting wrong dudes.. Keep your chin up... :-) Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I agree with Energizer...once you have bounced a few messages back and forth with pg's, likes and dislikes etc, I have no qualms with giving my number and email out if things are looking good. A lot easier than weeks or months of messages. I think this sorts out the serious and not so serious players who are keen to meet. I would always rather meet in person for a drink or coffee and go from there. And I definitely understand Superfox's point on single women...best for single girls to get a naughty number to avoid any unwanted harassment of potential weirdos.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  we wont give out our number straight away because in the past we have been harassed by people who we have given it to. However after a good online chat and face photos swapped we will give out our number. I get really pissed off when people will only show us photos by sms. We have photos on here and live in a small town and there is always an option of email. And in this age the old excuse I/we only have photos on the phone just doesn't cut it. its not hard to put photos from a phone onto your computer. This is why we may so no to giving you our number not because we are fake or because we a re a male hiding behind a couples profile. Mrs B

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  i get numbers and emails on the first message or come do insert something naughty or crude" messages from a variety including some couples, i prefer to chat and talk and see how it goes with the person, as every one is different. once its out there unless u change or something happens u cant take it back. with the amount of people that are fake and not who they are i can understand the reluctance. in saying that i agree with Aussie beef, coffees defiantly the way to go. then there no confusing, if there not who they are u simply turn and walk away no harm done.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  We will not give out our number on the first message, or the second message. We want to chat a little first before deciding if we want to meet up or not. We don't really use the skype/msn thing because you can never get hold of anyone ever again. We prefer to send a few messages PG, likes/dislikes, what you're looking for on RHP etc, then offer a meet if we think we'd get along well. Once that's done, we're more than happy to exchange numbers to sort out the arrangements of where and when to meet. We just don't like giving out our numbers to complete randoms.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  we have ours on our profile...and generally it gets treated pretty respectfully... having said that tho, we'll always call people before deciding if a meets even on the cards....

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Actually mine is shown on my profile as well...never once received a call of text from anyone viewing it from the site

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Well I in the past have given my number out pretty quickly,not because of desperation because I wanted to meet that person,it's so much easier to meet for coffee or a drink than play message ping pong for weeks and weeks or months even. I felt giving out my number showed I was genuine and straight up but now I realize it may come across too forward and desperate. You could A: listen to the few that have said hold of or B: do as you have been,I have had meets from early number messaging just depends on the person. You get a real good quick feel for some one meeting them out other than over messages and feel if there is chemistry. Just don't go inviting them straight to yours meet them out first ha ha ha.That being said there is a time for everything and having them come straight to yours has its advantages.- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Dating was much better in the 60's because the only way to meet people then was face to face. You got to actually see the person and appraise their appearance and personality and if you were attracted to each other, the rest was history. With computers all you get is a profile and pics which may or not be fake. No way of telling who the person really is and what they are looking for. As far as giving someone your phone number on the first contact really depends on how comfortable you feel about them and if you feel you can trust them. I was sent a message a few months back by an allegedly 28 year old woman who said that it would be worth my while if I decided to meet her. She gave me her email address and asked me to contact her. The addtress of course turned out to be fake.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I work in front of a computer all day so im not a huge fan of sitting in front of my pc chatting all night too, its just easier to text. Plus, I kinda fail to see how someone having your mobile number is really too different from email? Its all a way to contact you, if they harrass or are too full on, just ignore or block them....

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  If a guy gives out his phone number straight away...it rattles me.I wait until I've got a feel for someone before I do that. Then yes, of course I will. But not until I think I am 'safe'

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  We certainly pass a phone number over and try to speak.a) we barely have time for bouncing messages back and forthb) there are more than a few people who are so not serious out therec) easier to get a feel for people on the phonewe do make sure we are happy with appearance and profile etc.

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